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Hello Alright so this may be quiet long so I'm sorry if it is. Alright so I live in Colorado and the guy I have been chattting with for like the last month lives back home in Germany. I am going to Germany in December and me and him have been talking about finally meeting. Please dont lecture me about internet dating please. Past that..anyways everything has been going good. We talked every night and we have been having fun. Recently we have been getitng intimate and I told him my rule about like sex..I have to be in a relationship..anwyays it seemed fine with him and we kept talking becuase he had told me already he liked me. We are only able to talk when he is at work becuase that is the only place he is able to get internet connection. So on Sunday I figured he was busy becuase he wasn't talking much, but we did talk and it was just pretty intimate and fun as usual. Usually I do see him but I guess like I said that night he was busy...but when he left he didn't even say goodbye. It has been a week now since I've talked to him, he said he was off for a few days but now Im just worried. I'm scared that he's lost interest in me or something ebcause I thought I heard he would only be gone for a couple of days...but I'm just scared theres no way I can contac him..what do I do?? I'm just scared he lost interest in me...please help Thank you (link)
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Hey calm down and take a deep breath, things were going fine with you guy's, there is no reason for him to walk away. he had a few day's off and maybe took a cold and hasn't been able to come to work, give him a little time and i'm sure he will contact you. And you sound so afraid it worries me take a step back and go do something fun with a friend you need to get your mind on something else.
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Okay so a year and a half ago I was raped by someone I have known since I was 9 I am now 20. Anyways when people start talking about rape or say rapist or anything sometimes the subject doesnt even have to come up, I start thinking about it and then get in this horrible depression. I am also diagnosed with bi-polar and attending college so it gets really stressful, to the point where I start feeling sucidal and thats not normal. I can't afford my medication i have talked to many counselours but this rape thing really bugs me sometimes, I thought I would be over it by now? Whats going on? (link)
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You will never get over being raped, you will learn how to deal with it. there has to be a free clinic or health care facility in your area,try group therapy. i was also raped and i cant get over it, never will! try to let any feelings of guilt go, it is not your fault you didn't want it and thats how it should have been. you have a right to be sad because something personal was taken from you it was your rights,that little innerglow,trust and a whole lot more. your life is precious and you were put on this earth for a reason so stick around with the best of us and find some help, maybe one day you can help someone the same way. my heart goes out to you as well as my prayers.
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Hi, I'm a 22 year old girl.
I just broke up with my emotionally abusive (now ex) boyfriend of about four years...over four years? Literally, about an hour ago. Right now, I'm feeling pretty free and good about it, but I know it's been an addictive relationship, and I'm worried that I'll second-guess myself and talk to him if he tries to contact me, and wind up stuck again.
I got my key back to my car and apartment, so he can't get in. I don't think he has any malicious intent...but I also don't think he believes that I'm serious about the breakup.
So...
When it sets in for both of us, I'm pretty sure we'll both be really upset, and I know I'll miss him and want him back at some point.
You guys have any suggestions to avoid that?
I appreciate any ideas you can give me. =) (link)
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i'm currently trying to get rid of my ex mental current abusive boyfriend of eight years.please stay away from him, go out with friends if he has run them off go find them, dont go back it wont get better. make a monthly plan day to day to keep yourself occupied, go out and live have fun and find true happiness with someone who lifts you up not puts you down. go 4 it
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my mom tends to focus her attention on my brother
who is a 2nd year univ student but still acts like a kid
its always been like that, and its bothering me more and more.
my mom and ive always been really close
and ive done whatever i could to try to make her as happy as possible because she's just been through so much
im always looking out for her needs;
simply cus i love her to death
its just that she seems to not notice any of the things i do for her but instead lets her anger out on me all the time.
if she's in a bad mood, she would let it out on me
and never my brother who doesn't even acknowledges us as his family anymore
if my brother were to do one hundredth of what I do for her, she'd be beaming
but no matter how much I do, it just doens't seem to matter to her at all.
i know im coming off very dramatic, stupid, and desperate for attention. but i'm not trying to be the model daughter for things in return; i'm trying to be the model daughter for my mom to be a little more happy and not be yelled at for it.
i dont know how to act anymore around mom, i love doing things for her but lately i just don't see the point anymore if she's gonna yell at me all the time.
i've experienced this for my entire life and lately i'm growing sick of it.
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My daughter feels that she gets the short end of the stick too, her brother is babied while she gets the bitching and yelling, well it's because she is stronger, she can manage without mommy she is yelled at because mom needs to vent to someone who is tough enough to hear her screams when she is about to lose her mind. believe me your mom appreciates the heck out of you and loves you with all her heart she may be leaning a little to much, let her know how you feel and feel sorry for your brother, he is a very needy person who doesn't know how to give back. stay strong
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why do i find it so hard to talk to my parents about problems going on in my life as far as friends and relationships go? im really close to them and tell them alot! but for some reason i just dont like to tell them anytihng about my social life. i want to but for some reason i feel ashamed to talk to them about this.
also my mood has been changing alot latley. im tired, less motivated in school, and im fighting with friends a lot more often. and now im growing apart from one of my best friends, i feel abandoned. help i really dont know whats going on with me! this isnt like me at all!! im changing into some one i dont even know or like!! (link)
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honey you are 16 and the hormones are putting you in a bind of emotional twists, it is a little harder to talk to your parents now because the problems are a little more personal and a whole lot more emotional then when you were a child, just get the courage and talk to your parents or parent whoever makes you more comfortable, remember they love you and you can trust them to help you through this.
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I just have to know. I have had nothing but pain with guys who have big dicks so why are all the other girls making such a big deal out of this? (link)
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MOST OF MY WORN OUT FRIENDS SAY BIGGER IS BETTER, i say its how they use it, and i will not allow a big man to penetrate me, i dont see how any normal man could do a woman any good if she has a saggy old puss.
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So I went in the living room after school and my mom was looking at PORN on her laptop. I totally don't know what to do about this. She is old and I don't understand why she would want to see porn. I just feel really wierd and I can hardly look at her. Can you help me get past this? (link)
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yeah kinda funny, wait until your married and find out your mom gets more then you do! by the way, how did you get here? sick aint it. THERAPY THERAPY THERAPY
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OK so I have to ask. My girlfriend has been crazy for me to cum inside her but I am afraid of making her pregnant. She is on birth control and everything but still I feel like she is trying to trap me with a baby. Why? Because this is what she told me: She said that having cum inside her is a feeling of completeness and is 1000x better than orgasms.
Have any of you ever heard this? Is this for real? Do you really feel like that?
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Fake it and get her reaction! TRAP TRAP TRAP. If anything i would rather my old man didn't
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my sister went to the hospital last night becouse her back and her stomack was hurting her really badly and the doctor at the hospital said that she had cists on both of her overies and that they could be cancer and I don't know what to do iam really worried some thoughts of encourgement or advice would be helpful if you have any it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you I greatly appreciate it. (link)
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there are many types of cysts, and very few times are they cancerous i currently have an ovarian cyst and my doctor says when it gets bigger they will remove it and my niece was the same way. my x mother in law had a cancerous cyst on her ovary and they just took out the ovary and she has been fine for over 20 years so worst case she may lose an ovary best case for you, you will still have your sister who by the way is lucky to have someone who loves her so much. Everything will be fine.
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ok i have a friend and she is my friend somedays but other days shes a really big b***h. i talk bad about her behind her back with another one of my really close friends.
well this friend of mine ahs a boyfriend and he is the one i liked last year, but my friend hated him (last year) and now they're going out. she is so obbsesed with him. and plus before she was dating this guy she was really good friends with this other guy but now shes says tons of crap about him for no reason. i dont understand her. and plus she talks bad about my other friends and me sometimes. but she can be a really good friend. what can i do with her? ignore her or be the best friend i can be?? idk (link)
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Sounds to me like none of you are friends, you say you dont know what to do with her, i dont understand, your two peas in a pod, you both are talking behind each others backs, take a good look at your own house before you start working on someone elses. BRIE
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ok so after i have sex with my boyfriend it burns hella bad like excruciating pain i d k but like sometimes if he doesnt cum in me it doesnt burn at all lol i used to think i was allergic to his cum but im sure thats not what it is cus usually it happens either way and it seems like every time he rips me open too and that happens as soon as he goes in and its not like im dry well usually im wet but either way i rip and end up bleading so i d k w t f is going on and i was wondering if anyone can help if you know whats going on with the burning thing and the ripping too and if you know what might help if you need anymore details let me know and i can tell you everything
much thanks (link)
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You should go to a DR. womens health centers are all over, it sounds like you have an infection, and when you start healing, your ripping it back just to start all over again, many times women dont go and it turns out very serious if left untreated. your local health department will see you for free, and they won't notify your parents if you are under age. Good Luc BRIE
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okay, so i have acne on my back, and its pretty embarrassing. is there anything that actually works in getting rid of it? I use proactiv everyday, but it doesn't work on my back. HELP!! (link)
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Lay off of dark pop, chocolate, and fried food's,try sleeping in a cotton t, and cotton sheets. hope this helps BRIE
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okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him. (link)
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Sounds to me like you want him to be jealous, and that you are testing your bounderies, people will not always come running back to you if you keep hurting them, everyone has limits, stop trying to make people prove their loyalty to you it never works, there is no endless love. and about your cutting, you need to get better control of yourself, that is a sign of weakness on your part saying that you cant handle anything, get upset, get pissed, punch a pillow, write it all down and burn it, but dont cut, you can get skin infections, hepatitis and weaken your immune system, and tell him your sorry that you tried to drive him away, because everyone else has left and you just wanted to see if he would also. deal with your problems before taking on a relationship, you need to love yourself before someone else. BRIE
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I wrote earlier that my boyfriend and I recently broke up and that we were still good friends but I couldn't handle it very well.
The thing that is upseting me the most is that I know what I need to change in order to make this better but I don't know how to change it.
I know he misses me but I always have this feeling in the back of my head that he doesn't just because he isn't at home all the time mopping like me.
I feel like I want him to be miserable and that would make me feel better. i feel so bad for thinking this though because it is so selfish.
I think I think he is not upset about this because I have such a low self esteem that I think he can't be missing a b*tch like me.
I need help raising my self esteem and I don't know how. I know that if I do that this will go much easier and we will be a much better couple. (link)
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It's time to get all dressed up, and go flirting hold your head up high, and know you are worth a million buck's,even if your just going to the store, flirt, flirt, flirt. it's innocent, it's fun, and man does it ever raise your self esteem! Hope this help's. BRIE
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So this is weird but like i give my boyfriend head.. and he says i'm really good at it. but last time when i tried its like i was soo bad and he didn't like it at all. i tried like so many times but it just didn'er work. Its never happened before. Its like i forget what to do in a way.. has this ever happened to anyone?
What do i do lol
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most guys say they dont like it anymore and its all you! heads up{no pun intended} it's the best way for them to get in your pants , you know so you can finally do something right, dont let him talk you down to that level, whats wrong with him and what is he doing to please you? he should be happy that you are putting up with him! you come first. brie
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Okay well for a while I've had a group of friends and we've been hanging out.
Then a little while later, I made friends with another girl and introduced her to this group.
We then hung out together a few times and spoke online. For a while we were planning this sleepover and then they had it without me :S At the new girl's house. I just shrugged and let it go. They didn't let me know about it, they hid it from me. I found out though...they still don't know I did though. This was a while ago.
Also one day a few days after that me, new girl and another girl were supposed to hang out. Other girl couldn't come so new girl was like to me 'Oh since she isn't coming I'll hang out with my sister instead'
For a while everything was okay, until I started noticing my best friend and new girl were hanging out heaps. I have no problem with that, they can hang out whenever because they're friends too. But they're always really secretitive about it... and really jumpy when I find out about it.
And they organised another sleepover, it was supposed to be on Friday. One girl told us the next day she couldn't make it so it would be on Saturday. I then couldn't go on Saturday, but they decided to have it and I just couldn't go. It hurts because they resceduled for the other girl and not me.
Anyway, I think new girl is trying/is succeeding in filling my spot. I don't really believe we have 'spots' but it feels as if she's trying to steal my best friend from me, and hang out with my friends. She always makes plans with everyone in secret, and excludes me as much as she can.
Anyway my question is, what am I supposed to do? If I asked my friends this, they'd tell me to stop being paranoid and laugh at me.
And it's not that new girl is awkward around me or anything. She's really nice to me online and on the phone (Which makes it hard to say things, because they'll be random and out of place) She's doing it very sneakily, and it's really hurting because these are the only friends I have, and what's keeping me together in my life at the moment. (link)
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Find a day new girl is busy,and invite friends over for popcorn and a movie they can't say no to! then do the same one by one with friends and maybe without any bad word's spoken they will get how it feels and be better friends, and as for you saying they are keeping you going, honey you are keeping you going, you are the sweetest for putting up with them, i would love to have a friend like you and if they dont come around it's their loss, maybe you could find a school club, and make new friends. lots of luck brie
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I've seen this cat around my yard. I can garentee that it's not owned because I live in a small neighborhood, and everyone in it has atleast 2 dogs. The cat lives in a trash pile basicly that me and my family has colected over the year, and it's gotten bigger. Well I want to save this cat before winter comes, it will freze to death! My dogs, one I got was from a family that was broken up and the little dog had no where to go and my family took her in and we now call her Keylii. The other one is a lot bigger then Keylii who is a Tea-cup Pamerian, and his names Bear. Well they've bothc ome from familys that has had cats in the house so my dogs will get along with the cat, but how am I going to get it to come to me? I wana feed it, it's been getting into out garbadge and that can't be filling, But ive never had a cat before. I was thinking about louring it out by like canned tuna, I also have babyfood.. if cats eat that and dog food for little dogs if cats eat that too. But i need to think of the good of the animal. I dont wanna call Animal Services so don't give me that option because what if they put it down??? Then there'd be no point in saving it.. but what if it has a deseice and it bites me? I know im up-dated in my shots so Im not worried about that but if it bites me, and my Mom finds out she wont let if around the baby. I wanna save this cat. I know its homeless and letting it live where it is isnt an option. Neither is calling animal services. Im willing to take the chance of being biten out scratched, I just need some help on how to get the cat out of the pile of nothing.. please anyting is helpful and im sorry for giving u resrtictions but im not going to happy knowing its out there, or that its in the hands of other people who might hurt it.
Anything will be helpful tho. (link)
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that heart of gold your carrying sounds pretty heavy. lets see now the cat that lives under a shed near my house, we got her and her wild kittens to come to us and believe me you would have thought they were the meanest things god ever covered with fur. we started by taking out leftovers from dinner mixed with a little dry food dog food is fine.even chicken bones because they like the inside, when you take it out start calling kitty kitty and sat it down, move away a couple of feet and sit down and talk softly to it. dont reach out and grab the cat you have to build up trust.if it comes to you pet it dont pick it up yet its testing you, after a few days it will be on your lap hold it for short periods of time so it knows it can leave when it wants, it may not come out the first few times be patient go slow remember this cat wants to trust and be loved all animals do, but you dont know what it has gone through so take your time.if its hair is missing in patches, or things like that it would be a good idea to take it to a vet or unfortunatly call the shelter, i know you wouldnt like that but in the long run you will save it from alot of pain. good luck brie
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Ok! So, I have this best friend called Lucy. We've been best friends since third grade.
Lucy met another best friend in 7th grade, named Kelly. I never really hung out with Kelly except when Lucy was around and even when Lucy was around we usually didn't.
We all went to the same high school which was a big deal because Lucy was supposed to go to Granite Springs and me and Kelly were supposed to go to Newland Heights, where all our friends were going. Well, Lucy was really upset and freaking out and she was going through a bad time with her parents so me and Kelly, being REALLY good friends transfered to Granite, even though Lucy was, like, our only friend there.
So then me and Kelly start to hang out, which I guess makes LUCY really mad, I guess. Lucy starts yelling at us that she never wanted to be our friend, lying that she's fine, trying to TRANSFER SCHOOLS, acting really awkward, stuff like that. NOw I guess lucy and me are ok, but kelly and lucy are still on weird terms. It's really awkward now, like this huge elephant in the room. We've tried talking about it which makes everything SO MUCH WORSE, and we've ignored it forever and ou can still feel the awkwardness. There is a lot of things that Lucy and Kelly are mad at eachother for, but Lucy would never straight out say anything. Also, she's mad at me for hanging out with Kelly WAY more, but I value both of their friendships so much.Please, tell me how to heal this fractured friendship!
Caught in the Middle (link)
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dont give your advice to either of them about the other it will blow up in your face, i think you are both very good friends to her i wouldnt have gone through transferring schools for anyone. if she didnt have any problems with you guys being friends before maybe she doesnt right now either maybe its something else bothering her like some kind of recent change? and she sees the change that your friendship has made which she is having trouble with. sounds like shes not feeling to stable right now. keep reminding her that she has good taste in friends and the three of you are stronger then just two of you.stay strong it sounds like rocky roads. brie
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im really not sure if this guy likes me.
i kinda like him, but like really really really like him because we dont know each other verrryyy well, but i do. and i think he kinda likes me because some of my friends are telling me that hell talk about me and stuff
but what im not sure about is whether he maybe likes me, or just thinks im hott? i dont knoww (link)
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well ask your friends what he says, if it is something like shes ok or i saw your friend then it sounds casual, if hes noticing you as in have you seen her or i like her then you got something to go on, either way he knows you exist so thats a start now get some guts and go say hi, take it from there. brie
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Where can I find color contacts for sale that do NOT require an eye exam? I looked it up online and it says that by law, you must have an eye exam to get them, but a lot of people I know have color contacts that they got from friends.
Any help is appreciated. =] (link)
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alot of eye doctors have samples to try, i dont think you have to have an exam, but an exam is not so bad. if youve never had one then maybe you should get one. and tell your friends they can get infections from other peoples contacts, or damage their eyes if they are prescribed for someone else. good luck brie
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