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Exclusion.
Okay well for a while I've had a group of friends and we've been hanging out.
Then a little while later, I made friends with another girl and introduced her to this group.
We then hung out together a few times and spoke online. For a while we were planning this sleepover and then they had it without me :S At the new girl's house. I just shrugged and let it go. They didn't let me know about it, they hid it from me. I found out though...they still don't know I did though. This was a while ago.
Also one day a few days after that me, new girl and another girl were supposed to hang out. Other girl couldn't come so new girl was like to me 'Oh since she isn't coming I'll hang out with my sister instead'
For a while everything was okay, until I started noticing my best friend and new girl were hanging out heaps. I have no problem with that, they can hang out whenever because they're friends too. But they're always really secretitive about it... and really jumpy when I find out about it.
And they organised another sleepover, it was supposed to be on Friday. One girl told us the next day she couldn't make it so it would be on Saturday. I then couldn't go on Saturday, but they decided to have it and I just couldn't go. It hurts because they resceduled for the other girl and not me.
Anyway, I think new girl is trying/is succeeding in filling my spot. I don't really believe we have 'spots' but it feels as if she's trying to steal my best friend from me, and hang out with my friends. She always makes plans with everyone in secret, and excludes me as much as she can.
Anyway my question is, what am I supposed to do? If I asked my friends this, they'd tell me to stop being paranoid and laugh at me.
And it's not that new girl is awkward around me or anything. She's really nice to me online and on the phone (Which makes it hard to say things, because they'll be random and out of place) She's doing it very sneakily, and it's really hurting because these are the only friends I have, and what's keeping me together in my life at the moment.
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Find a day new girl is busy,and invite friends over for popcorn and a movie they can't say no to! then do the same one by one with friends and maybe without any bad word's spoken they will get how it feels and be better friends, and as for you saying they are keeping you going, honey you are keeping you going, you are the sweetest for putting up with them, i would love to have a friend like you and if they dont come around it's their loss, maybe you could find a school club, and make new friends. lots of luck brie
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wow i went through this exact same thing... i was in a group of three and we were best friends inseperable...and then those two got very very close and would ALWAYS exclude me and basically because of that, highschool was some of the worst years of my life...
ANYWAY... i dont want you to have to go through that...maybe its time to find new friends? is there anyone else you could maybe start hanging out with? also, it really wouldnt hurt to talk to your friends about how they are making you feel...even after you tell them, things might not change...at all..which should really make you wonder how good of friends they really are...
thats really low that they are keeping things secretive...actually its quite immature as well...i dont think anything is going to change until you talk to them about it...as hard as that may be but things are never going to change if you just keep letting them treat you the way they are treating you...and you know if things dont work out and things dont change then maybe they arent really your friends :(
whatever you do stay strong girl! good luck
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