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my mom hardly loves me anymore
my mom tends to focus her attention on my brother
who is a 2nd year univ student but still acts like a kid
its always been like that, and its bothering me more and more.
my mom and ive always been really close
and ive done whatever i could to try to make her as happy as possible because she's just been through so much
im always looking out for her needs;
simply cus i love her to death
its just that she seems to not notice any of the things i do for her but instead lets her anger out on me all the time.
if she's in a bad mood, she would let it out on me
and never my brother who doesn't even acknowledges us as his family anymore
if my brother were to do one hundredth of what I do for her, she'd be beaming
but no matter how much I do, it just doens't seem to matter to her at all.
i know im coming off very dramatic, stupid, and desperate for attention. but i'm not trying to be the model daughter for things in return; i'm trying to be the model daughter for my mom to be a little more happy and not be yelled at for it.
i dont know how to act anymore around mom, i love doing things for her but lately i just don't see the point anymore if she's gonna yell at me all the time.
i've experienced this for my entire life and lately i'm growing sick of it.
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My daughter feels that she gets the short end of the stick too, her brother is babied while she gets the bitching and yelling, well it's because she is stronger, she can manage without mommy she is yelled at because mom needs to vent to someone who is tough enough to hear her screams when she is about to lose her mind. believe me your mom appreciates the heck out of you and loves you with all her heart she may be leaning a little to much, let her know how you feel and feel sorry for your brother, he is a very needy person who doesn't know how to give back. stay strong
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I don't think you're seeing this the right way.
What immediately popped out at me when reading your question was this:
"if my brother were to do one hundredth of what I do for her, she'd be beaming"
That's the problem. Your mother loves you, and she still feels very close with you (despite how she's been showing it). BUT, what she really wants isn't from you. She wants your brother to grow up, and to do something nice for someone other than himself. From what you've described, he seems a little selfish. And I'm sure your mother would love it if his behavior changed.
I'm certain she appreciates all that you do for her, but she probably would just love it if your brother were a little more like you. I say keep doing what you're doing, but maybe have a talk with your brother & see if he can do at least one thing for your mom.
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Like you said you and your mom are really close;
so to say like best friends,a very strong mother and daughter relationship.
With the stress that your brother puts on your mother, your mother lets it out on the person she can trust, rely on and won't think different of her which is you.
Why don't you sit down with her an express how you feel. It won't hurt but to try. It will open a door and she will see.
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Well, this happens to others, including me. When anyone close to you neglects you for someone else, it can make you feel unwanted and depressed.I'm sure. But even though she doesn't show how much she means to you, she still loves you. Well think like this, why would she give birth to you if she wouldn't love you?
And try talking to her about how you feel about your situation. It may help.
Even though your getting aggravated, be patient, your family is the most important ppl in your life and they are they ppl that are your shoulders to cry on.
I hope I helped alittle. Good Luck
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