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okay so basically it's always been me and my 2 best friends Melissa and David. But now Melissa and David are going out, and when we hangout i just cant help but feel like the third wheel. there all lovey dovey and it's weird because it's never been that way! I feel like he's her property and that me and David cant even hang out anymore and that every time he hugs me or says he loves me or anything that She'll get mad. They always say there gonna include me when we hang out but they never end up actually doing it! So it's just awkward for me and they know it. I just don't know what to do! And when they get in fights (which is alot) they both come running to me and i don't know what to say and they get mad that i dont side with them. it's basically just an overall horrible position to be in and I don't even know what to do anymore! (link)
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Im sorry youhave to go through this, but it's just a phase. Since they like each other soo much, they hardly would look at anyone in the world but into eachothers eyes. Give them some time, and they will run back to you and the third wheel would be hooked back on.
oh yaa. when they get into fights, tell them you can not side with anyine of them, becuse you weren't in the fightin the begining, and that if they fix it themselves, they would understand what both of them did wrong. Hope I helped Good Luck.
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18/female. senior in high school. this may be long but i'll return the favor to anyone who helps!!:)
i've liked this guy joe for a while now .. i use to give him all the attention and do whatever he wanted me to (not sexually) but everything else because i was basically so in love with him but he never knew. i've probably liked him for 4 years now but couldn't do anything about it because he had a girlfriend of 3 years. Now there broken up. Anyways, i just cant tell if he likes me or not. We're actually really good friends, i'm comfortable around him. now, i dont give him all the attention, i try to not show much interest and look like an annoying attached girl. well tonight me and my friend hung out with like 7 of the hockey guys, including joe. we were all hanging out at this kids house and i was wearing a sweatshirt and tshirt but still looked really cute:) i had my hair curled and everything .. i didnt even know i was going to be seeing joe! but one of the guys like slapped me with his belt and it hurt really bad and then joe came with his friend and i was like JOE!! i need you to protect me. okay that might sound like im giving him attention haha but i hadnt seen him for like a month. so he came and sat by me and then i asked his friend if i could talk to him in private because my friend liked joes friend and i wanted to see what he thought about her. well so then me and joes friend went into a different room and all the dumb guys (but not joe) were like use protection bla bla. so i was talking to him for like 5 min and then joe comes walking in. i have a feeling he may have been jealous that i was alone with his friend .. i dont know why he would have walked in??? And then joe was like behind me like humping me haha and i was like joe stop (even though i liked it;) haha!! and then he was trying to pull down my pants. i had my period so i deff was not going to let him lol and then we all went back out and i ended up playing fooseball with 3 of the guys and i was cheering and being goofy and joe kept looking over, i could see in the corner of my eye. well then joe had to go, and he was saying bye to people but he never said anything to me :( i was playing fooseball so i dont know if thats why or what?? and i havent talked to him since, i was hoping maybe he would text me or something but nope!! just some signs makes me feel like he likes me, but i cant ask because if he doesnt then that would make our friendship awkward. i wish he would just make a move if he did. i hope i'm not giving off the wrong signals either, like saying stop when hes flirting with me, but i dont want to just sit there and be obvious that i like it? what do you guys think?? (link)
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This was an interesting story.lol I think he likes you, but he's scared that you only like him as a friend, and he might not want to break a friendship if he wants to go any further. I can tell he ws jealous of his friend, becuase you spended a 5 minute alone time,so Joe came waltzing in. I think he made you his territory lol. Soo back to my advice...If he doesnt make a move, you try telling him about how you feel.Since he is your friend, he would tell you how he feels and you wouldn't have to keep wondering what he will or will not say. Hope I helped.
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This may be alittle long so sorry....
So as some of you know I am moving back to germany in dec and I met a guy that is from there online. We met on a Germany myspace sight and than we started talking on ICQ. We aren't able to call becasue I got my phone bill in thi smonth just from calling my brother who lives in germany..that would be a hell no! haha but he only has internet access at work ebcause its actually really expensive to have internet access at home.
Anyways things were going great for the last couple of weeks than he had some days off from work and I wasn't able to talk to him so I was alright with that, but than I got worried after a week of not talking to him and thats when I posted a thread about him not being interested anymore...I talked to my mother about it and she said if a guy likes you he will contact you and than the funny thing is that night he actuallly did ....
he left a note saying that he wouldn't be on icq this week becuase he had to work early in the morning and that he might be on wkw(german myspace)...and than he said dont be mad I make party?? I have no idea why he thinks I should be mad?
Well that was the last I've heard of him and its already been a week again and I'm freaking out...I'm really starting to lose hope becuas eI really liked this guy but it seems that ever since last week things have jsut been going downhill. I havne't talked to him in almost 2 weeks and I'm just wondeirng if he doesn't care anymore...I just I dont know what to think......
Any opinions or advice would be appreciated please and thank you (link)
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Remember, dont get upset over 1 guy. And maybe he's been busy and couldnt contact you. Work is a pain. She be patient, however if things are still the way the are going downhill, go out have fun and met new guys. They might become Mr.Right.
Good Luck.
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Right.
Ill make this SUPER short.
I just want a straight up answer.
My 2 friends ashly and marianne have been really distant.
me and my friend jess are fully sick of it. we have all been best friends this year. but we have all kind of parted.
should i just gradly stop talking to them and let them be. i dont like talk to them bout this stuff because i have once before and they angus.
so shuld i just stop talking to them.. (link)
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Well its true that close friends will soon seperate, and you will find your true friends. If you think that your so distant with them then dont talk to them. However if things calm down you could say hi once in awhile, be the better person.
Hope I helped.
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18 f
Okay so i met this boy... Lets call him J. He is an awesome guy we talked for a few weeks and hung out and stuff until one night I stood the night at the house. Now let me make it clear that he did say he liked me and I told him the same but I cant start anything because Im leaving in january for 5 months.... Okay So anyways I stayed the night at his house one night and things got heated lets just put it that way. But ever since then he hasnt texted me or anything he'll answer back if I text him but it's only one word answers. SO I was just wondering if I should text him and bluntly ask if Ill be wasting my time trying to continue talking to him or just keep trying to see whats up... Im not gonna cry over it or anything ill get over it but I dont know, it just bugs me when people start ignoring me.... Now now, what should I do? (link)
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No offense but i think you should get over this guy and fast. I only think he said that he liked you for a booty call that 2 time. When he got what he wanted, he find someone else.
For this reason, get over that guy. Dont waste your time on someone like that. There are other BETTER guys out there. Take your time and Mr.Right will soon appear. Hope i helped.
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I am 15f. there is a guy 16 who told me he liked me. We have been 'talking' and when i mean talking its only through texts. We will see eachother at school and he doesnt say anything to me and i think it is because he is shy about it. well, just yesterday he asked me to be his girlfriend. i said tha i need to think about it beccause we barely even talk to eachother when i do see him and i just need to get more used to hime. well i hear all of this stuff about him and i guess our school slut. my friend saw him sitting on her lap (they are in the same grade) and idk if they r friends or not but i knoew they r not that close. then another day, we were all in the library and my other friend got his phone and looked through it seeing messages form the s-slut saying stuff like good night and sweet dreams (think she likes him because he told me the s-slut was talking about me to him saying why do you like her? shes weird, you should like me. and ohhhh, did that piss me off. we used to be friends but then she talks about me behind my back and its over lol). but even though i hear all of this stuff, i am not jelous at all. do you think maybe its because i dont know him well enough or brcause i dont like him in that way? usually i would be a lil bit jelous of this but not this time. im just wondering if it is a feeling that i would turn out to like him or if i just really dont care. please help with these confusing thoughts!
and by the way...my friend ends upp texting him and says sumthin like y arent you texting her back, unless you like 's-sluts name' now. then he texts me no, i dont like her, i like you. and i was like, yeah right. . . . and this would be my first bf by the way. i've been asked out before but im not desperate to go out with anyone i dont really like so i turned them all down. (link)
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Actually ive been thru a texting situation like you.. and im confused like you are. He says he likes me but than he dont. And he never talks to me in school evan though we sit next 2 eachother.
For your advice...Instead of texting him, talk to him on the phone so u will know eachother better. its better than texting because a guy or girl have time to think of a witty comment to tell you.
Take it slow be friends and atleast try talking abit in school.
and if u want to be with him, think of what your heart and mind wants. Then you will find and achieve your answer. Hope I helped.
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13 almost 14f
wow i have too many guys on my mind!! i still like my 2nd most recent ex, im in love with another ex, i REALLY REALLY like my boyfriend, and i have feelings for this other dude at my school!!! ughh i just don't know what i can do to get them off my mind. it seems like more guys just keep getting added to my confusion... any ideas??
thanks,
utterly confused chick (link)
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Sorry to tell you.. But you could should sweep your mind away of guys for alittle bit. Your mind is over worked with boy drama thn ever. You should take a break and relax and have fun with friends. Besides..maybe ther is a better man out there.
Im 14f and you dont have to be in a rush looking for guys. we're young and we have plenty of time. Hope I helpeed alittle.
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im sorry if this is too long but thanks for reading if you do :-)
to start with i met a guy back in may, we met through friends and we got along really well. we were friends for the first few weeks but then we started flirting and kissing. i really started to develop feelings for this guy, i wasnt in love but i really liked him. his friends told me that he really liked me, but he hardly told me. he was really confusing at times, sometimes he would be in a mood with me (and his friends) for no reason.
we fell out a few times but we usually made up a few days later. but not this time, we havent spoke in over a month. we fell out because he said i only speak to him when im bored. this really isnt true, maybe it comes across that way but ive tried to explain to him that i do really like him, but i dont want to call/email him all of the time because i dont want to seem desperate/needy. thats just who i am. but he really doesnt believe me. i saw him 3 weeks ago in a shop and i said hi and he said hi back but thats been it, i know he doesnt want to speak to me else he would of called me, right?
he has told me before that he really liked me but i annoyed him when i just ignored him for 2 weeks, but its not just down to me to make the effort and call, its up to him too! i dont really want to contact him but i know i will see him again, we live in a pretty small town and our friends are friends with eachother so we always happen to see eachother, what should i say to him? or should i just give up? do you think hes just using this as a way to stop seeing me?
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I have to tell you that your situation is very awkward. I been through this even now. I really wish I could give you the very best advice..So here it goes.
Try talking to him like a good friend. treat him like you treat your gal pals. I know it would feel awkward...but you could have a steady friendship and it would be less awkward 2 call/txt/talk to him or vice versa.
If everything goes will, maybe there could be a chance that you could be together.
Hope I helped alittle.
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Well me and my mom had a talk about boys the other day and she knows the boy that I liked , and I told her that we have bee dating for 11 months , she wasn't mad she just told me not to have sex and she to me to try and stay focus on my school work. Which I have been doing , I just got my report card and I got good grade . But I was wondering if I should tell my father or should I not tell him ? I mean I talk 2 my dad nut we don't have that close realtionship like me and my mother do . So what do you think . Should I wait a little bite to tell him or should I just tell him now .
And please can you explain why or why not I should or shouldn't tell him thanks (link)
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I think you should tell him now, so you could get it off your chest, and you dont have to worry about it while you are dating. And when you tell him, you will have a closer relationship with your dad, becuase you opened up to him.
Hope I helped alittle. Good Luck.
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i guess you cold think of myself as plain. what are some ways to change that. (link)
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Maybe you could go shopping for new clothes, a fresh new haircut (try getting highlights it enhances you facial features), and maybe try wearing makeup a little bit make sure it looks natural on you.
Hope I helped alittle. Good Luck.
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idk if i am in love how do you know if you are??? helpp (link)
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Well I can't really tell you when your in love. You will just feel t. Your yourself will find out if that one guy is special for you. For example: the way he treats you,cares, kind,smart, loving..etc. However, if love doesn't happen to you riht away, there are other fishes in the sea. Just catch another one and don't get upset ver one guy!
Hope I helped alittle. Good Luck!
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Okay.. im 16/m.
So I've known this girl for about 2 years, but I almost never talked to her at all. Recently though(in the last two months), she started talking to a lot. Shes my age too. I knew that she might of liked me, because she would always be excited when I was there and would go out of her way to talk to me, she wanted my email, my friends told me that it was so obvious that she liked me. Hell, she even told me straight up that she loved talking to me. But it also felt like it was going way too fast.. because just out of no where this year she started talking to me and I wanted to get to know her a bitt more.
Anyways.. I started to like her more than just a friend after a while, but this is where it started going downhill. I asked her to see a movie with me, and she said yes. but on the day we were supposed to see the movie, she thought I would bring along a few friends. I didn't bring them since my friends already saw the movie (I didn't get to go when they did.) that I planned to watch with her.
So at the last minute we just cancelled it. Ever since that day, she seems way more distant when I try to talk to her, and its really hard for me to even initiate a conversation...because I can't ever find the right words to keep her entertained and what not..even on msn its so hard to say something. She always looks bored when I talk to her now... =/
When I try to loosen up and be funny, I end up being less funny. This never used to be a problem for me...
I actually feel like im annoying her than making her happy.
What should I do?
If it helps at all, she IS a busy girl.. and it is difficult to contact her (due to her private life).
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Well if you like her that much, try giving her some space. I've been in this situation before, but its the exact opposite since I am a girl. So maybe i could explain why she is being distent.
Maybe when you first started talking, it was really fantastic, and you knew alot about eachother. But did she ever felt distent from you before u asked her to the movies? Or maybe she felt uncomfortable becuase it was just the two of you at the movies, and it would have felt awkward. So, the cancelled.
Well I hope things will get better fo you. Good Luck. :)
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17/f who are your favorite authors? i want to get some good books about romance. i am seventeen and a girl and i would like to know anyones favorite authors who preferably write about romance.
i don't like any books about popularity and garbage like that.
oh & i've already read like the whole twilight saga a million billion times. haha. (link)
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Blue Bloods Series: Melissa De La Cruz
Vampire Academy Series: Richelle Mead
Mediator Series: Meg Cabot
Night World series:L.G. Smith
Vampire Diaries Series:L.G. Smith
Blue Moon Series: Alyson Noel
House of the Night Series:P.C. Cast & Kristin Cast
Jessica's Guide to Dating on the Dark Side: Beth Fantaskey
Hope I help alittle. Good Luck
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19/female. i've known this guy for like .. 5 years now. i've always had a crush on him and i think he's an absolute babe ;) we call each other "best friends" just because thats what we call each other hahaa. basically, we are though. when we're alone .. its kind of awkward. if we're not flirting it's basically silent because i don't know what to say. then i'll randomly say something and feel dumb. when we're hanging out with a group of people i'm so quiet. i'm usually a crazy girl .. the wild one of my group of friends but not around him .. noooo! i'm the shy, quiet, never know what to say girl. and i can't look at him in the eyes .. i feel like if i look at him he'll be looking at all my imperfections i'm so insecure about. how can i just be myself around him? i always freeze up and never know what to say! :( (link)
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Well I used to do the samething. But try making it no big deal, and talk to him like your talking to your female friends. And if all you do is flirtt with him, try asking about what he likes or does for example: sports, songs, classes, etc. When you find out the things he likes, you might have somethings in common, so youwont freeze up and you know what to talk about.
hope i helped. Good luck.
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Can someone tell me why i am so gassy? I don't get it! i didn't change anything that i eat i am just gassier than I have ever been in my entire life. Could this be something serious? (link)
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I dont know if there is something serious about that, but maybe you are nervous or shocked about something that happened. If not try going to the doctor if it still countines.
Hope I helped alittle. Good Luck.
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im 17
and i haven't had sex
i'm wondering how i will know whether i'm ready for it or not.. (link)
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Well its up to your decision. I hardly think the advice column decides where or when you ready for anything. Howver, the choices you will make will decide the future you decide. Just remember to follow what your mind and heart want. make sure its a person that you truley care about when you do this.
Be careful and i hope i helped alittle. Good Luck.
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i have just come back from a leadership conference
and realized just how much our school lacked of spirit.
our school is famous to be known as the academic school; everyone is so determined to get into an ivy league and be the next bill gates. so school basically means just homework, tests and quizzes.
i want our school to be something more than that, a place people are happy to come to ever morning and i think the biggest thing we need is spirit.
at the leadership conference, we have done many cheers and people went absolutely nuts. i loved it. how should i bring about that spirit into our school?
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How about having a spirit week?
Like: hat day, your school colors day, mismatch day, pajama day, dress like a famous person day..etc...Have fun with it
If you did spirit week, at the end of the week, you could give the winners a prize for each grade level.
Or maybe haveing a pep rally for everyone? maybe a bonfire?
Hope I help alittle. Good Luck
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my mom tends to focus her attention on my brother
who is a 2nd year univ student but still acts like a kid
its always been like that, and its bothering me more and more.
my mom and ive always been really close
and ive done whatever i could to try to make her as happy as possible because she's just been through so much
im always looking out for her needs;
simply cus i love her to death
its just that she seems to not notice any of the things i do for her but instead lets her anger out on me all the time.
if she's in a bad mood, she would let it out on me
and never my brother who doesn't even acknowledges us as his family anymore
if my brother were to do one hundredth of what I do for her, she'd be beaming
but no matter how much I do, it just doens't seem to matter to her at all.
i know im coming off very dramatic, stupid, and desperate for attention. but i'm not trying to be the model daughter for things in return; i'm trying to be the model daughter for my mom to be a little more happy and not be yelled at for it.
i dont know how to act anymore around mom, i love doing things for her but lately i just don't see the point anymore if she's gonna yell at me all the time.
i've experienced this for my entire life and lately i'm growing sick of it.
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Well, this happens to others, including me. When anyone close to you neglects you for someone else, it can make you feel unwanted and depressed.I'm sure. But even though she doesn't show how much she means to you, she still loves you. Well think like this, why would she give birth to you if she wouldn't love you?
And try talking to her about how you feel about your situation. It may help.
Even though your getting aggravated, be patient, your family is the most important ppl in your life and they are they ppl that are your shoulders to cry on.
I hope I helped alittle. Good Luck
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