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third wheel out :(
okay so basically it's always been me and my 2 best friends Melissa and David. But now Melissa and David are going out, and when we hangout i just cant help but feel like the third wheel. there all lovey dovey and it's weird because it's never been that way! I feel like he's her property and that me and David cant even hang out anymore and that every time he hugs me or says he loves me or anything that She'll get mad. They always say there gonna include me when we hang out but they never end up actually doing it! So it's just awkward for me and they know it. I just don't know what to do! And when they get in fights (which is alot) they both come running to me and i don't know what to say and they get mad that i dont side with them. it's basically just an overall horrible position to be in and I don't even know what to do anymore!
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Im sorry youhave to go through this, but it's just a phase. Since they like each other soo much, they hardly would look at anyone in the world but into eachothers eyes. Give them some time, and they will run back to you and the third wheel would be hooked back on.
oh yaa. when they get into fights, tell them you can not side with anyine of them, becuse you weren't in the fightin the begining, and that if they fix it themselves, they would understand what both of them did wrong. Hope I helped Good Luck.
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This is a very awkward situation to be in. I can understand how you feel. Everything has changed overnight with the two friends you care for the most in this world and you didn't even get a say in it. However, as unfair as it is, you can't really change it. Your friends are dating now, so of course things are changing. Even if one of them started dating an "outside" person, things would still change. The excitement of a new relationship always takes up a lot of time for the people involved, at least at first. Your friends aren't intentionally excluding you, they are just doing what new bf/gf's usually do. Unless Melissa has said something to you about hanging out with Doug or giving friendly hugs/affection, just keep on doing what you do. You're not the one at fault, so you shouldn't have to be walking on eggshells. However, one thing you should do, for your own sanity, is sit down with them and tell them you will NOT get in the middle of their fights. Its not fair to you. Be calm about it, just tell them in a time of peace, when you guys are just hanging out. You can't get in the middle of it and still be a good friend to both of them. You've had to accept that your 2 best friends are now a couple, so they have to accept that you can't be the one they turn to for relationship venting or advice anymore.
I know its hurtful right now, but you have to be willing to give them a little space for now. Just understand that they'll have some nights where they want to be alone, and its got nothing to do with not caring for you. Once they get past this first stage things will even out a bit and you'll all be able to hang out without things being awkward. Its weird right now, I know, but this is all part of life, growing up, and changing. I promise, in the end, it will all work out. In the meantime, when you can't hang out with them, try to find other things you're interested in doing, other people you enjoy hanging out with. You'll be okay, I know it. Try to be cool about it all and eventually it will all get better.
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