Whatever your problem is, chances are I have dealt with it- either directly of indirectly- at some point in my life. I've worked as a Social Worker (with issues like mental illness, addiction, disabilities, eating disorders, etc.)
I've also taught school (to teens!)and have experience mentoring them.
In addition to that, I've lived in 4 different countries, many different cities, and worked jobs in all different fields from Software Sales to Fashion Designer.
This diverse life experience has given me knowledge on a wide variety of topics- which I hope I can put to good use here. :-)
So go ahead- ask away!
PS- I do not judge people or speak to them in a condescending way. However, I will be honest and tell you what you NEED to hear, not what you WANT to hear.
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Okay, so basically I want to learn Japanese. I already have alot of basic knowledge. I can ask where the bathroom is, I can introduce myself, I can ask if someone's okay, tell them how I'm feeling, ask someone's name, identify some some colors, some animals, some buildings, some foods, some body parts etc.
But I'm sure I don't know all the basics, so I'm looking for some stuff good for beginners.
I've heard of Rocket Japanese, which looks pretty good, but I don't have the money for that.. Soo that's out the window.
So, I was wondering if anyone could give me some good kanji dictionaries and other books I'll need?
I'm trying to keep this in the 100-150 dollar range...
All help appreciated!
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Ohayou gozaimasu!
Glad to hear you want to learn. I love languages too! But you have sooo many more options today then I did when I was younger.
Here are some things you can do that don't cost a lot of money:
1. Amazon.com has tons of books of all kinds (with cd's to listen to too) - many used for under $10 or so.
2. Go to your local library and get some books for free!
3. If you have a college near you- even better, you may or may not be able to use their library but you will be able to at least buy the Jap. 101 textbook and CD (can probably get these online too if you don't have a college near you). They are more expensive but worth it. One college textbook is better than a dozen cheapo's.
4. Rent any Japanese CD you can and watch them with English subtitles. You won't understand a lot but you will pick up a thing or two here and there, and most importantly pick up on the right intonation, pronounciation, etc.
5. Japanese music (there is some on itunes). Bonnie Pink is one of my fave's.
6. Check out to see what you find on the net- youtube for example.
7. Try this site: http://japanese.about.com/od/simplejapanesephrases/p/sjp14-1.htm
I just went there to check my spelling of good morning and noticed they have the japanese writing on there as well as audio to hear it spoken properly!
8. There are lots of free dictionaries online. Check them out.
9. If you want to learn to write as well check out some BILINGUAL books. For example, there are haiku books that have the Japanese on one side and English on the other. (And haiku is short so that makes it a little easier)
10. Essential Japanese Grammar is a good, quick, cheap book if you just want the basic run-down and don't need a lot of fluff or explanation.
Gamabate! (I think that means go for it if I remember correctly). :-)
That should give you enough ideas to start with!
RT
PS- A secret tip- try writing to do lists, grocery lists, etc. in Japanese. That way you learn things that have to do with YOUR life (what YOU do what YOU eat...) This works way better than vocabulary from a book!
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How can I lighten the darks under my eyes aside from sleeping better? They're really bad to the point that I've been asked if I had a black eye! It's downright embarrassing!
Vitamins? Creams? Massages? (link)
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I can't tell you how to prevent / lighten them since I don't know the cause of them. It could just be sleep but some people also just get this naturally. You may have to ask a dr. or skin specialist to determine that.
I CAN tell you how to cover it up though.
You need a YELLOW coverup. Just like a regular coverup stick but instead of skin tone color it is yellow. You can find them almost anywhere. They have cheap ones that work fine at any beauty place and they also sell them at the fancy dept. store makeup counters.
Anyway- you put the yellow on first, then apply your regular foundation on top of it.
It will mask the purpl-y circles under your eyes since yellow and purple are opposite colors on the color wheel. When opposites are on top of each other they cancel each other out- like a positive and a negative.
Hope that helps. :-)
RT
PS- The GREEN coverup works the same way, only you use that to cover something red- like a pimple- because green and red are opposites.
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I'm 17 years old currently going into my Senior year in High School. I come from a low income family and I was thinking of joining the army for college scholarships. I love math and science, especially chemistry. I'm scared for student loans and was planning on going on the path to becoming a doctor because I love helping people, but the cost of medical school is too costly. I don't like English much, but reading is fun when it has to do with learning anything I'm focused on. I'm really considering the Air Force or Army at this point due to our economic crisis right now. Please any tips or sources of scholarships will help. Thank you all.
PS: My classes next year will be English 4, Economy/Government, Calculus AB, Physics, French 3, and probably ROTC.
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You sound like you are very bright and you have a good GPA. I would suggest applying for every scholarship out there- there are lots of them, and I'm sure you could qualify for something.
Choosing the military strictly for economic reasons is not the best thing to do (my opinion). If you feel a need to serve your country and you really believe in the cause or something, that would be different. But don't risk losing a limb or your life just because of money.
We NEED people in this country that are good with math and science. There's a shortage. We import so many scientists and the like from overseas because so few people here focus on that or have the skills.
My advice is go for the scholarships, get a part time job on the side, and if you have to take out some loans too to suplement that then so be it. It will be worth it in the long run. Anything is possible if you're determined enough and a little bit creative! Scientists and doctors can make big money and you'll be able to pay it off.
Think LONG TERM not just short term. :-)
Now- as for exactly what kind of career you want, that's the hard part. You need to do a lot of reasearch- ideally you should talk to people in professions you are interested in. They can tell you the pros and cons of each job and what type of skills are required, etc. Most people would be happy to spend a few minutes talking with you if you ask them.
There's a book that's pretty good too called "what color is my parachute". It's a little older and some things may be out of date but the gist of it is still the same. If you don't have money to buy it, they should have it at your local library (another good place to talk to people, by the way. Librarians are very knowledgable about all sorts of things and always eager to help).
When thinking about jobs that might suit you- always keep two things in mind: the best fit will match both your SKILLS and your INTERESTS.
Start off by making a lists of all of your skills, then all of your interests....if a job has both then chances are you will not only be good at it but also enjoy it!
Ex: if you like working outside vs. an office or lab and working with your hands and you have good science and math skills, then maybe some kind of FIELD scientist position would be the best fit where you can use your science skills in the field taking soil samples or something.
I hope that helps and good luck to you!
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i am from india.Is waxing better than threading?and does d hair on upper lips go off permenantly,how many times it has to be done?wil it be seen if i go outside that i m getting waxing done?wil the hair become thick?thanks in advance.
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You asked a few different questions- I'll answer them all as best I can.
Waxing- I suggested this before because it's easy, quick and affordable. It can also be done either at your home by yourself (they should sell the wax and strips- home kits- all over) or you can have it done for you at salons.
Threading is kind of like plucking, it's just a different way to pull the hairs out.
It really depends on what your preference is. For me personally, I'd rather just put one strip of wax on and have it all over and done with in one go like you can with waxing. It also allows you the benefit of doing it in the privacy of your home since that seems to be a concern. I've never heard of someone threading themselves- I think this is something you usually get done.
As far as people seeing you- I'm not quite sure what you mean here. Do you mean someone seeing you going to get hair removed at a salon?
If so, that depends on what kind of place you go to. If you go to a salon that does hair, nails and a lot of other things too then no one knows what service you went in for. So don't go to a place that JUST does hair removal.
Next question- is it permanent? NO. You have to keep doing it as it grows back. The only thing that *can* be permanent that I know of is lasar hair removal. This is pretty expensive, you have to go several times and then it *might* not grow back. So unless you have plenty of money to spend I wouldn't waste it on something that MIGHT work.
As for hair growing back thicker- the only thing you really need to worry about with that is if you try to shave it. Then it will get all prickly and stubbly and will seem thicker. So don't shave it.
I think something you can do at home by yourself is best. That way if you notice something and need a quick touch-up before you go out you can do it on your own. That's why I suggesting waxing. But it's really a matter of personal choice. You can try different things and see what works best for you.
PS- If you do go with waxing try to look for some of the new kinds that don't leave a sticky residue afterwards. The better wax will wipe right off. I don't know what brands they have in India but someone at the beauty store can tell you which ones are the best.
I hope I answered some questions for you. Good luck. And don't feel bad about this. You seem to be a little insecure about it, which is understandable. But believe me, EVERY woman in the world has hair in some places that they don't want!
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i stay with my babydaddy but we not together.he broke up with me on my birthday last year cause he though i was mad cause he work that day.which was sad cause that was not true.nut he was my first or everything including virginity.but i feel like he using me.lik if i say i won't give him money he would kick me out.and othe girls he talk to they don't give him money and he respect them more then me and im the mother of his chilld.he call me stupid slow.one day he love me the next he say he can't wait till i get out his life.then i found out he guve girls money.and im working hard giving him money and he don't help me out.he not even working.and when he go out of town i let him stay at my mom place.and he let gurls pick him up over there.and he tell me oh we ain;t together.i no we not together but y u doing that.and we have sex i give him a blow job.and i found out he having unprotected sex and he laugh and says we not togetther why u geeting mad for.i mean you my first that took my virginity why he doing this to me.its lik every time i stand up 4 myself he want to kick me out or something.ploease help me (link)
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I have to be honest with you. It pains me to even read this question. My heart aches for you.
This guy is NO GOOD!!! Period. And you need to get him out of your life.
I understand that he was your first and he's also your baby's dad but there's no reason why anyone should put up with that kind of treatment.
If you keep this guy around he's just going to keep up the same crap he's doing now. You can't change people like that.
He's eating away at your self-esteem by calling you names, playing psychological games, using you for money and sex....he is a no good bum!
Be honest with yourself- what is he doing for you? From what it sounds like- nothing. Seems like you're fulfilling all of HIS needs and he could care less about yours.
Every relationship should be a two-way street. And I don't see him doing his part. He's selfish, hurtful and immature.
You are way better than this. You need to believe that!!
I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. In your heart of hearts you know this guy is no good. Maybe you just don't want to be alone? Or because he was your first & your child's dad you think you should stay with him?
I don't know because I can't read your mind. But whatever reason you're telling yourself that you should try to make this work out- you need to wake up and look at things as they REALLY ARE not what you hope they COULD BE.
Go back and read your post but read it as if someone ELSE wrote it. Imagine that a friend asked you this question. What would you tell HER? I bet you'd tell her the same thing I'm telling you now.
So my advice to you is BE A FRIEND TO YOURSELF.
Why would it NOT be ok for a friend to go through this but ok for you?
Last but not least- remember that you are a role model for your child too. Do you want your child growing up thinking this is the way women should be treated?
You are way, way better than this. Please try to believe that.
I wish you all the best.
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Ok, here goes... I guess I should tell you a bit about myself, at least the basics: 17, female, and a virgin. Great, right? Now, onto the question.
Last year there was a guy in a couple of my classes that we're going to call "Aaron." He was a year older than me but I was in his classes because I am on a more advanced track. Well, Aaron sat in my little group during math class along with his other friend, "John." I had known John from before so we all got along really well. It wasn't soon before I started to really like Aaron. Besides celebrities, he was the only guy I had ever felt sexually attracted to. It was apparent he liked me too. As the months progressed, we started being more open with each other and joking about sex. One day when we were sitting in Spanish (our table was WAY in the back), we got on the topic of boobs somehow. I made a comment like "I don't get why guys like boobs, they're just big bags of fat!" to which he retorted, "Well, if you were a guy and saw your chest, you'd be attracted to them too." With that, he cupped my boob. I was kinda shocked! I mean, we were in the middle of the classroom! Part of me thought it was strange and the other part was in heaven! It felt really good and I completely trusted him. This continued on and we made out a few times. One day, we were eating lunch and he told me to meet him up at his locker in ten minutes. We each got locker passes and I follwed him up shortly after he left. I was really happy. His locker was located by a guy's bathroom. He told me to follow him inside. I was REALLY scared to go in. The big taboo, you know? But I was so enamored that I followed him in. He asked if I would give him a blowjob. He did not pressure me and asked very sweetly, making sure I was ok. Let me tell you, I've never wanted to do anything more in my life. I was so ready for it, but in a bathroom? No. It felt so wrong. It was then that our male science teacher walked in. We were shouted at but in the end we didn't get into too much trouble. After that Aaron became a recluse. I don't know if it was because he was embarrassed, angry, or scared, but he stopped talking to me. It really hurt me and I gave up the hopes of ever being with him.
Skip to the end of this year:
We eventually made up, but he still didn't really talk to me. It wasn't until a week ago I actually spoke to him for more than two minutes. We were confined to the auditorium, setting up amps for an assembly later that day. We talked, but we didn't mention the year before or anything sexual.
Later that day, Aaron sent me a message on facebook asking if I would give him a blowjob.
I really didn't know what to say. This was really unexpected and I wasn't prepared at all. I decided in my mind that I still really wanted to do it. I liked him a lot, and this was basically for my pleasure as much as his. He wants me to do it behind our stage, in a loft that holds all the costumes after school. It's hard to find the time, but I really want to!
So here are my questions:
1) Am I really wrong to do this?
2) Should I lie to my parents so I can do this?
3) At school?!
4) How can we find the time?
Thanks for everything and I'm sorry this thing is so LONG! I'm hyped on Caribou right now and my fingers just keep going!
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This guy obviously gets turned on by sexual acts in public places. This is a kind of fetish for some people- you know like some men like feet or whatever? Well- he likes the RISK of doing it in public.
But that he's trying to drag you into his fantasies in SCHOOL nonetheless is probably not a good idea.
There's a good chance you can get caught (which for him is the turn-on) but still, can you imagine what would happen then?
Not only would your parents freak- you'd be embarassed- but then I'm sure word would get out at school too and you'd be the butt of many jokes because you let yourself be taken in by him.
So save yourself all that and just you don't think messing around at school is a good idea. If he doesn't understand then he's being a selfish jerk and you deserve better.
HTH.
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hi, a few years ago i dyed my hair black and it fell out.
it thinned out a lot because i waited a while. you could see my scalp, then i got protein treatments and my hair started falling out,.
well i dyed my hair red again and my hair is falling out again and its been like, two weeks.
every day i am tortured of the sight of my hair falling out, and i have hardly any way to get to town to buy protein treatments. i now have enough money to buy protein treatments..
i feel so bad because my family is so old fashioned they dont understand me..
i cant tell my dad my hair is falling out because hell kill me.
the last time my hair fell out, it costed about two hundred dollars to fix.
i only have 45 dollars.
i think i have enough for some redken protein treatment shampoo, i just need to know what i really need.
my hair is falling out and i need a solution fast on how to emotionally deal with this.
and what to buy.
please help me.
ive tried egg whites in my hair, and i cant try beer because im not old enough to buy it and my family wont believe me when i say what it's for.
my hair just keeps falling out
and ive cried a lot..
and i feel so much pain because hair loss to me seems very emotional, i dont know why ..
i justt need to fix it.
please help me.
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So sorry to hear about your hair. I've had so many hair catastrophes you don't even want to know!
You can try eating lots of jello. They even have gelatin tabs for this too and it helps your hair grow back faster. I took it before my wedding when they cut my hair way too short.
Meanwhile, get a good reconstructor from a beauty supply store. They are cheap, like a buck a package but they really help repair damaged hair from coloring.
Multi-vitamins will help too. But mostly it seems like your hair can't take all the coloring. So ease off!
BTW- you aren't taking any meds are you? Because some meds like antidepresants and such can make your hair fall out like that.
That's all I can think of for now. Hang in there. It seems like the end of the world now but it'll grow back and you can try to come up with some creative hairstyles, hats, whatever in the meantime. :-) But try out the ideas above.
RT
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ok im a 13 year old persian guy with sometimes strict parents. my dad is okay with me sleeping over at peoples houses that we know, but my mom says its the " family rule " that we cant sleep over anywhere until i move out. I need help on how to convince my mom to let me go places. its like she cant accept the fact that im old enough to be staying at other friends houses overnight. I also have this good friend of mine who iv known for like 5 years and my mom wont let me sleepover there becuase she thinks his mom goes to sleep at 8 pm just becuase one time i was over there she did becuase she didnt go to sleep last night and went to work and was super tired. my mom also judges people before she meets them so thats another bad thing. i really need help!!
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If you haven't done anything to break your parents' trust then I don't see what the harm is in staying a friend's house- given of course that their parents are responsible.
Saying you can't do that until you move out is pretty extreme. Find out what it is exactly that your mom is afraid of. I'm sure that it's more than a 'family rule' I think it's fear. Maybe that you'll sneak out and do bad stuff, hook up with girls, try alcohol...who knows what.
Be totally honest with her and say 'look mom, you have taught me well. (always helps to compliment them):-),I know what to stay away from and you can trust me to make the right decisions'
Also (gently) remind her (maybe with your dad's help?) that her job is NOT to keep you so sheltered that you never learn to make your own decisions and take care of yourself. It's to prepare you to be able to go out into the world and be successful on your OWN.
People that end of being so sheltered their whole lives are the ones that more often have bigger problems later on. If your dad can help convince her that despite what she may think she's not helping you by being so strict- maybe she'll change her tune.
Good luck. Your age is a tough time but everything will get better. HTH.
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I have a gut instinct I am pregnant. I am always regular, but now I never had my period.. two weeks late and I am waking up getting sick, and I cramp so bad I could cry. I've been so moody, and I have a big headache. A few random times I had sore breasts but not right now at the moment. Well, took online tests and said it's a 60%.. and won't know for sure til I test, I know. I am testing in the morning.
So to the point, what can I do if I am pregnant? I have no insurance; although if I am positive I may sign up for medicaid and welfare.. I just got laid off from my job, and no one is hiring. Same as my fiance. I reside with parents for financial reasons, and I know if they find out I am pregnant, they'll kick me out.
Money is entirely an issue. I can't see a Doctor, I can't even get money; although my fiance is trying.
What could I possibly do financially? I want a good (possibly best) life for my potential child. A few jobs I might have, just have to wait on a call monday. Any tips or past experiences with this may be helpful. I am just so scared. And I am 19; not 13. My fiance and I are getting married but plans changed obviously because of money, so it was delayed.
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I know this is a scary time, let's try to work out a primary action plan for you in the event that you are in fact pregnant.
1. You said you and your fiance were recently laid off. Do you qualify for unemployment? Check this out. If so, sign up for that right away. At least that will give you some income in the short term.
2. You not only need money, you need healthcare if you plan on starting a family (and it sounds like you do from your post. If you're not sure, making that decision should be a top priority).
There are some companies that are good with health insurance. Starbucks gives ALL their employees HI. I know they're having hard times now though- but see if any are hiring near you.
3. Go to planned parenthood. They can help give you some guidance on resources available to you.
If you don't like that organization I'm sure there are other social services available, you just need to do a lot of calling and hunting.
4. You need a support network. Whatever choices you end up making, it's not going to be easy. So you need to stay strong, positive and you need some supportive people around you.
I'm concerned that you think your parents won't be supportive. I hope you have some friends or other people you can count on for support. If not, look into free counseling services, support groups, etc.
Should you end up needing this advice, I hope it helps to give you a few places to start with.
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I applied for a Clerical/Secretarial Job for the Board of Education in a city by where I live.. and I was just wondering if any of you have had that type of job before.
Is it generally simple or complicated? I'm willing to learn but I guess I'm just a bit anxious about how much I need to learn, and trying to remember it all.
I'm sure I'll have to do filing, writing memos, and that type of stuff. Is that easy to learn? lol
If any of you have had this type of job, please tell me what it entailed. I have not been given details lol
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The mere fact that you are asking this question means you are willing to learn and that you care.
That's already a good start! Attitude is just as important as skills. Even if you don't know something if you're willing to work hard and learn and have a good attitude people will help you out and you will be just fine!
Anything is possible if you have the will and work hard. I'm sure you'll do just great.
Oh- and this stuff is not that complicated. You know how to do things on a computer right? So how hard can filing be? :-) It's only scary because it's new and you don't know what to expect. Once you get situated you'll be fine.
Good luck!
And always be confident in the interview! When you doubt yourself, others will doubt you too.
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So basically, I've got 2 days to get tanner legs (never mind why). BUT my city isn't getting much sun for another week, so there goes that. And I'm not allowed to buy any fake tan spray or anything (and I wouldn't use it more than this one time, anyway). It wouldn't be so bad if my legs were pale like, an even white. But they're more like, a color you can tell is SUPPOSED to be like a beige color, but is just a sickly pale, uneven light yellowish/beigish color. The fact that I'm really clumsy and have bruises all over my legs, as well as darker (and slightly pinkish) knees only emphasizes this. ANYWAY, I know there are natural home-remedy-type ways to LIGHTEN skin (like using milk, lemon, things like that), so I'm wondering, any similar ways by which to TAN skin a little bit, WITHOUT sun or products? (link)
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I would not trust any kind of homemade tanning solution. It's hard enough to find a product that is good enough to not make you streaky, orange, etc. and this people spend millions of dollars researching! I don't think doing it yourself is a good idea. You'll probably regret it.
You can cover up the bruises though. They sell yellow and green concealers in any decent beauty supply. YELLOW covers purple-y colors and GREEN covers red like colors. Then just put a regular, skin-toned concealer on top.
This works great for other stuff too. Like if you have circles under your eyes- use the yellow. If you have a zit put the green on top.
In case you're wondering- that's because these colors are opposite colors of the color wheel so they cancel each other out- like a positive and a negative. :')
Good luck
RT
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Ok I met a girl about a month ago and she's really cool we talk everyday and we've hung out with each other I think I might like her but her last break up was really bad and she's pretty much like I'm done with guys but I'm willing to wait but how will I know when the time is right? (link)
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Just be her friend in the meantime. She probably could use one right now if she just had a bad breakup.
And most good relationships start out with being good friends first anyway.
So start there and then down the line if you both feel you want it to be something more (you'll know), then you'll already be halfway thee.
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Hi
I plan on taking summer school to raise my average (considering that it is too low right now) so that I do not have to doubt whether I get into university. Anyways, I was wondering, if I were to obtain the required average before summer, would I still have to take the summer school class?
Or could I just not go and have my name taken off the list, because the form stated that 'to secure a spot in the class, we must be present on the first day unless you call in saying you are going to be absent'?
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Different schools in different districts in different states all have different rules and requirements.
So this is really a question that only your school can answer.
RT
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How do I get a guy to get me praegnent? I really like this guy and I want his babys but we haven't really done anything like sexual or anything. Is there some way I can get him to have sex with me but make sure I get praegnet? (link)
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I have to be perfectly honest with you here and you may like what I have to say but I feel it must be said.
I don't know how old you are but you seem young. Having a child is a HUGE HUGE HUGE responsibility and you seem to be talking about it as if it were a casual thing.
Having a baby will change your life forever! You will be responsible for that child 24/7 for 18 long years of your life. (minimum). And you can forget about friends and a social life when you have a kid because that all disappears.
Babies costs 10's of thousands of dollars a year to raise too. Do you have a plan for that? Do you have that kind of money? How about child care? There are a lot of things to think about before even considering this.
Does "this guy" even know that you are thinking this way? Because it's not fair to involve him into something ife-changing like this either if he doesn't want to.
This is not the kind of decision that you just make at the drop of a hat. Are there any wise adults around you that you can trust to talk to?
If you're in school, go to the school counselor. Or a church mentor, planned parenthood if you must. But please talk to someone about this to figure out why you have this baby bug.
I could be wrong but from the way your post was written you seem very young and probably unprepared to have a child at this point.
I don't mean for that to hurt your feelings, but you need to know just how serious this is and take your time with a decision like this.
If you want someone to love and take care of- get a dog! And then go to college. THEN think about babies. You'll be in a much better position to take care of them with a good education, earning a good salary.
Hope that helps,
RT
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would anyone know about how much money a linguist would make and what the job would involve? i seem to have a knack for studying languages and i am interested in seeing if i can make a good career out of it. I am 17, and I already speak three languages fluently, working on a fourth... (link)
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Good for you! You should be working for the UN!
Yes, there are lots of jobs and ones that pay good money too. It really depends on what other interests you have. Language skills are used in law, the military, politics, international business- just about every field.
Once you decide on what college you're going to (hopefully one with a good linguistics program) you should definitely talk with your professors and academic counselors to see what options best fit your particular skills and interests.
And a piece of advice from experience- I had the same language skills that you did when I was younger and majored in languages. My academic counselor suggested that I also choose something else BESIDES languages, at least for a minor (like marketing, business, whatever...) so I'd have even more job possibilities. I didn't and now I wish I had listened to him!
It is good to combine languages with another skill, particularly because of globalization (we're now not just competing for jobs with people from the US but sometimes from all over the world). And in many other countries it is common to speak several languages fluently.
So the bottom line is yes, your skills can get you a good job but if you have another practical skill to go with it, even better.
Hope that helps and good luck.
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Alright, I'm 16 and not athletic at all. I hate sports with a burning passion. Not a big fan of getting all sweaty and I'm definitely not good at the whole "team player" thing. Lol, just not me.
But as of this year my school is requiring everyone to do some sort of physical something (like a sport or something) or else they have to take gym.
My question is do any of you have any suggestions about what I should do? The physical activity could be like swimming lessons or gymnastics or something.
My problem is that I'm 16 and have never actually played a sport. I took dance lessons like 6 years ago, but I doubt my parents would be keen on sending me back to dance. So I'd need something that's easy to pick up that I'd only really do for like two years until I graduate.
Thanks for the help in advance.
~16/f (link)
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If you really do not like sports or getting sweaty then bowling is probably the ticket.
(I know it's not considered 'cool' but it can actually be kinda fun) and requires very little actual physical exertion! I doubt that you will sweat bowling! :-)
See if your school will accept that. They should because technically it is a sport. I had to take a PE in college too and bowling was an accepted option.
So if they can accept it in a college I don't see why they can't at your school.
HTH
RT
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thankyou for ansawing my qustion.
although iam still finding it hard after all these years to come to terms with not being with this
lady.i do see her around from time to time where i try to be polite towards her. as i was walking away from her she was telling the person she was with what we used to get up to which they were both laughing at me. i didnt relise someone who i cared so much about could be so cruel. she was making fun about my weight so i turned round and tryed to point out that when she was slightly overweight when she was with me to which she was hevier than iam now at that point she just continued to laugh at me.all i was doing was trying to be sival towards her.how can i deal with these insults if i bump into her in the streets in the future. (link)
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Here's how you deal with it: be PROUD of the fact that you are a person of strong, upstanding character who has taken the high road while she has chosen to take the low road.
Have you ever seen that comedian Ron White's show "you can't fix stupid"? He talks about how if you're fat you can lose weight, if your nose is crooked you can fix it, etc.- but you can't fix stupid!! ha ha! (He was referring to an ex of his who was stupid and that there was no cure for that).
Anyway- my point in telling you that is that is that there are some things that are much more important than looks. Having a good heart is much more important. You just need someone who can see that in you and appreciate it.
If you bump into her in the future you just smile. Stand up straight, walk proud, and smile- because you have something to smile about.
PS- Here's a good quote for you too:
"No one can ever make you feel inferior without your consent"
- Eleanor Roosevelt
That means people can only hurt you if you give them that power. You decide to assign that kind of power to them or not.
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I recently posted a question about me mom, (link: http://www.advicenators.com/qview.php?q=563722) and recently, it has gotten worse. Today, I heard her talking to my dad about driving somewhere and leaving me there. I really don't like her. And she got my sister to go on her side, has my dad like a puppet, and is working on my brother. My brother is like my best friend, and she is trying SO hard to get him on her side, but he is on my side. He thinks shes over-reacting as well. Well, yesterday we got into a fight, and I said I wouldn't talk to her, and she say Fine, it's like a blessing on me. So I said, You know what, for once your wish is my command. And I havn't spoken to her since.
I'm not going to talk to her, I hate her, and I want nothing to do with her. So back to this question, if I wanted to run away, and I couldn't go to a friends or familys house, 1 would they find me? 2 Could I survive?
I understand that this is a weird question, and to be honest, I don't want to leave because I have no where to go, but I can't take it anymore, I'm going to go insane unless I get out of here. All I here 24/7 is whats wrong with me and how I have a poblem, and I'm sick of it. (link)
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I completely understand and feel for you.
My mom was / is, how can I say this delicately?
Menatally unbalanced?
And I know what you are going through. You mom says things that sounds pretty cruel- bordering on if not actual emotional / psychological abuse.
Saying she wants to drive somewhere and leave you there is incredibily wrong and painful. It sounds like she's got some serious issues she's going through herself- but that still does not excuse her behavior towards you.
You need some support. (Your mom probably does too but I don't know if she'd get it). There must be someone you can talk to- school or church counselor? There are free counseling clinics all over, you just have to search for them. I'm sure there must be SOMETHING in your area.
Please check it out, or have someone you trust help you find some local resources. But the other responder is right- running away won't help.
IF you mom is rational enough and not so self-absorbed you may try talking directly to her about this. If that's not an option, then at least find some guidance for yourself.
And- if things ever escalate to serious abuse you need to call 911.
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I've just started taking TriNessa and I'm still getting used to taking it at exactly 9:00 every night. I've been on it for about 10 days now and a few of those nights I would forget to take it at exactly 9:00, but I would remember around 9:15 or 9:30. Will it still be effective if I take it just 15-30 minutes late. (I obviously will try to take it at exactly 9.)
Also, I was wondering when it will be safe for me to have sex without using a condom?
Thanks! (link)
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I'm glad that your are smart enough to be on birth control and being so responsible about it.
No, 15 minutes or so won't make a difference.
But YES you still need to use a condom!!!!!!!!!!!!
The pill does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. And if you're not worried about that because you think you and your partner are 100% clean- think again.
STD's can be there without any symptoms present. So one of you could've have gotten something without even realizing it.
Also- partners aren't always 100% monogymous. I had a friend in college who had a serious boyfriend of 3 years so she thought she was safe with just the pill- but the guy cheated once and got an STD- and gave it to her!
That STD will stay with her for life now. Some can even make you sterile- ie- you won't be able to have kids.
So don't risk it. You're already being responsible, go the extra step and use a condom too. It won't hurt to have a backup birth control anyway.
RT
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hello. i am struggling very much with a big problem. it's almost like i've lost hope and i don't even know what to do anymore. let me first give you some background information. i use to be a little chubby, not like an obese person... but just a little chubby. about a year ago, i lost a lot of weight. but, to the point where i became anorexic and bullemic. i just became so obsessed. i just wanted to keep losing and losing.... and i just became super obsessed. i ended up weighing like 85 pounds. well, i have gained weight and now i have reached about 100 pounds. but, through my recovery i did a lot of binge eating... because of all the things my body was lacking. but, it's like, lately, i can't stop. and i don't want to get any fatter, because i'm really short. i'm like 5 feet. but, the thing is like, i have no self-control. i use to have so much self control and never ate anything i wanted. and now, it's like i have no self control. i really want to stop.... and i just can't. it's like when i feel like i've wasted my diet... i just want to eat a balanced meal every day. and i'ts just so hard, because i've lost conception of what is normal. and it's like one day i overeat and then the next day i don't eat at all, or at least barely. and its like when i binge, it's really hard to stop. and then, i feel so guilty after. i feel so bad and i'm so scared to talk to anyone about it because i'm afraid they will judge me. and the thing is that i work out... a lot. i work out really hard. but, then i feel like it goes to waste when something like this happens. if any of you have ever been through something like this, please please talk to me. i will even be willing to give you my phone number if you have anything that you want to tell me personally, or if you feel that i will benefit from having a conversation with you. if not, then just answer my question here, if you prefer. whatever you would like works for me. any help is appreciated. my prom is on saturday, and i really wanna look slim and nice. please give me some advice. thank you and God bless you. (link)
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Go back and read your full question again.
Notice how many times you use the word "control"?
You lost control, then you got it back, then you lost it again...
This is not uncommon. Eating disorders are often an attempt to make yourself feel IN control when you feel other things in your life are OUT of control.
If you think this fits with you then you need to figure out what those underlying problems are- THAT is what you really want to control.
The weight, the diet, the food is all just a way of tricking yourself into believing that you have the other problems under control. Get it? Like, if you LOOK good, then everything with you is OK.
Some reasons for needing this kind of control may be a history of abuse, low self-esteen, etc. Find out what it is that is really eating away at you (no pun intended) and then you can deal with your eating disorders.
PS- It's best to seek help from a professional on this. Especially if you feel your health is really in danger- don't play around, get help.
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