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Blowjobs Behind Stage (This is going to be REALLY long guys, so hang on!)
Ok, here goes... I guess I should tell you a bit about myself, at least the basics: 17, female, and a virgin. Great, right? Now, onto the question.
Last year there was a guy in a couple of my classes that we're going to call "Aaron." He was a year older than me but I was in his classes because I am on a more advanced track. Well, Aaron sat in my little group during math class along with his other friend, "John." I had known John from before so we all got along really well. It wasn't soon before I started to really like Aaron. Besides celebrities, he was the only guy I had ever felt sexually attracted to. It was apparent he liked me too. As the months progressed, we started being more open with each other and joking about sex. One day when we were sitting in Spanish (our table was WAY in the back), we got on the topic of boobs somehow. I made a comment like "I don't get why guys like boobs, they're just big bags of fat!" to which he retorted, "Well, if you were a guy and saw your chest, you'd be attracted to them too." With that, he cupped my boob. I was kinda shocked! I mean, we were in the middle of the classroom! Part of me thought it was strange and the other part was in heaven! It felt really good and I completely trusted him. This continued on and we made out a few times. One day, we were eating lunch and he told me to meet him up at his locker in ten minutes. We each got locker passes and I follwed him up shortly after he left. I was really happy. His locker was located by a guy's bathroom. He told me to follow him inside. I was REALLY scared to go in. The big taboo, you know? But I was so enamored that I followed him in. He asked if I would give him a blowjob. He did not pressure me and asked very sweetly, making sure I was ok. Let me tell you, I've never wanted to do anything more in my life. I was so ready for it, but in a bathroom? No. It felt so wrong. It was then that our male science teacher walked in. We were shouted at but in the end we didn't get into too much trouble. After that Aaron became a recluse. I don't know if it was because he was embarrassed, angry, or scared, but he stopped talking to me. It really hurt me and I gave up the hopes of ever being with him.
Skip to the end of this year:
We eventually made up, but he still didn't really talk to me. It wasn't until a week ago I actually spoke to him for more than two minutes. We were confined to the auditorium, setting up amps for an assembly later that day. We talked, but we didn't mention the year before or anything sexual.
Later that day, Aaron sent me a message on facebook asking if I would give him a blowjob.
I really didn't know what to say. This was really unexpected and I wasn't prepared at all. I decided in my mind that I still really wanted to do it. I liked him a lot, and this was basically for my pleasure as much as his. He wants me to do it behind our stage, in a loft that holds all the costumes after school. It's hard to find the time, but I really want to!
So here are my questions:
1) Am I really wrong to do this?
2) Should I lie to my parents so I can do this?
3) At school?!
4) How can we find the time?
Thanks for everything and I'm sorry this thing is so LONG! I'm hyped on Caribou right now and my fingers just keep going!
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i agree with pretty much everyone that answered before me... the only thing i can add is... if you do it, make sure he eats you out. better yet, have him do that first. I'm not into the whole guy-only pleasure. <3
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I really don't know what to think here.
I can't say yes to this. Bottom line, he sent you a message on facebook after avoiding you a ton asking for a blowjob. I'm a guy, and I know that if I did that, sex is more important than anything else. He's blatantly telling you (probably without meaning to) that sex is more important to him than you are.
I don't think he likes you nearly as much as you like him. I think hes just as turned on by you as you are turned on by him, but for him I don't think it goes much further.
Blowjob in a bathroom? A stage at school? I mean, I guess I get being teens and not having anywhere else to go, but it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth (excuse the expression)
I don't think you should. I think you should require more of him, more interest in you, than he's shown. Maybe he's just not mature enough, your description came off as an oblivious completely normal stupid teen guy rather than an asshole of some kind.
But you need more than an oblivious completely normal teen guy. You're 17. Go find someone who's 19 or 20. You're mature enough to date a few years ahead, and you aren't going to find what you want in high school guys, not if you're letting things happen this easily.
Don't put so much stock in lust, sweetheart. Lust is great, but its not to be mistaken for a relationship.
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1.) First off, my motto is to always make sure you're with a guy, like in a relationship before you go that far. But, if you feel that it is right, than do it ;)
2.)How would you get caught? I mean really, all you have to say is that you'll be at school setting up for whatever you're doing? Plus, let's not pretend you've never lied to your parents... Haha.
3.)Well, being at school isn't exactly a fairytale setting... But, if you think it's okay. Than go for it, but if it doesn't feel right to you. I highly advice you not to do it.
4.)Well, trust me. For these type of things, you ALWAYS find time. Haha, but you can always bend the truth for certain things. You'll neeever get caught ;)
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Okay i'm going to answer each question as best as i can! Now for the first question.. you are not wrong for doing it, don't let anyone tell you you're wrong for doing something you WANT to do. What would make it wrong is if you truly didn't want to but felt obligated to do it. Don't ever let a guy pressure you to do something sexually you don't feel comfortable with! Now the second question.. You don't have to lie to your parents, in fact, you don't have to tell them at all. This is your sexual business, but if youre looking for advice then go ahead! But i'm going to tell you now, they are probably not going to be happy about it. The third question.. it's your decision if you want to do it in school, it might actually make it a little more exciting, but it's probably best if you kept it outside school. If you get caught in school you could get in serious trouble, and will eventually get around to your parents without your permission. Now for the last question.. ya'll should probably make time to hang out and maybe fit the blow job in there, but don't ever schedule a set time to give him head. To be honest, i feel like he is using you. He has not asked you to hang out, and he was very blunt and just straight up asked you for head. He stopped talking to you after you didn't. Those are signs that a guy is using you. Nothing is wrong with giving a guy head, and if you're okay with him not wanting anything more, then it's totally your decision. Like i said it's only wrong if you truly don't want to do it. I promise you though, you'll enjoy it a million times better if you wait for someone that doesn't just use you for blow jobs. It could really hurt your confidence especially if you actually start really liking the guy.
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The fact that he stopped talking to you then when he starts talking to you again and thats the first thing he asks, that just sounds a little messed up to me but its completely up to you.
1) i dont think its wrong to do this, but it almost sounds like he's using you so be careful.
2) Well your not going to tell your parents so you pretty much have to lie.
3) Maybe you could find somewhere more suitable than at school. Plus if you got caught that wouldnt be too much fun haha
4) Just whenever you feel the time is right its just up to you.
Good luck & hope i helped =]
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It sounds to me like this guy wants you for nothing but sex. He talks to you once & wants you to give him head. You have a rough spot, start talking again & the first thing he asks you is to give him head. I would strongly advise you to not do this unless you just want a fuck buddy. [which isn't so bad, ;)] If you're looking for romantic relations with him, I'd definitely say that's not the smart way to go.
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Honestly, this guy seems to just want you too do stuff. i mean really, you guys barely talk anymore and now he wants you to give him a blowjob. if i were you i wouldn't do this.
IF you do this, really at schoool? this guy likes doing this stuff in public places, its a turn on, like the person below me said. But do YOU wanna risk getting caught? i mean, really.
Hope I helped :]!
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This guy obviously gets turned on by sexual acts in public places. This is a kind of fetish for some people- you know like some men like feet or whatever? Well- he likes the RISK of doing it in public.
But that he's trying to drag you into his fantasies in SCHOOL nonetheless is probably not a good idea.
There's a good chance you can get caught (which for him is the turn-on) but still, can you imagine what would happen then?
Not only would your parents freak- you'd be embarassed- but then I'm sure word would get out at school too and you'd be the butt of many jokes because you let yourself be taken in by him.
So save yourself all that and just you don't think messing around at school is a good idea. If he doesn't understand then he's being a selfish jerk and you deserve better.
HTH.
RT
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I've been in the same boat as you, and even though you might have that urge to give him one, you're most likely going to regret it. He stopped talking to you, why? And all of a sudden wants one because..? He might just be using you, you know?
I'd find out about those questions before you give him anything.
I hope I helped, and strongly reccomend that you go against your want too.
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1) Yes
2) No
3) No
4) see above.
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