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Hello Ladiesss!! I'm here to answer any of your questions and help you out as best as I can!! Although my advice leans more towards females I'm up to answer any males advice! Just ask awayyy!! :):)
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Do you get your period if you get pregnant the day before you are due to get your period?
Absolutely! It's very scary, but most women actually get pregnant while on their period. Usually when you have an accident, the sperm can live inside you for up to 72 hours! Which means you can get pregant 72 hours AFTER the accident! There have actually been cases where a woman got pregnant weeks before her period, but still had a period. Don't rely on your period as a sign that you're not pregnant, definately take a pregnancy test! Hope i helped!
I've been hanging out with this guy that i like a lot we arent dating but its a possibility in the future. I've done nothing with a guy besides makeout and he knows all of this. Lately when we have been hanging out stuff has been happening but all over the clothes. I'm ok with all of this because hes really respectful and sweet about it. When he touching me over my clothes he does it really rough and it hurts sometimes but I don't know how to tell him or if i just deal with it and hope it gets better. It upsets me because i feel stupid that the littlest things are painful for me. If it werent for the pain i would be ok with it so do i just deal? Another problem ive been having is that i never know what to do how to touch him or anything. I feel bad because im so hesitate about it and i feel like hes doing all the work. I know this is proably dumb but i feel like something is wrong. thanks in advance for your help.
It's totally not dumb. You have never had experience, it's extremely rare to find someone who is a natural. Now you really should tell him how you feel, because he is not just going to guess it. When he touches you roughly, you don't say anything so he assumes what he is doing is fine. Next time he is a little too rough just tell him to touch you a little more lightly, that it kind of hurts. He is not going to flip out, if anything he will probably apologize and keep going, but more lightly. Communication is key! If you don't know what to do, just simply ask him what he likes done to him. He will probably get a kick out of it, because you'll be pleasing him the way he WANTS to be please. The guessing game is no fun if you aren't getting pleasured by it! And speaking about what ya'll want will also help ya'll loosen up! He already knows you haven't had experience so he will totally understand! Good luck!
I am 16, I turn 17 this summer(August) and my boyfriend is 19, he turns 20 in october. We live in New York, is it legal for us to have sex?
Not saying i'm going to, just would like to know.
Techniqually, it is illegal to have sex with anyone 18+ if you're 16. You should be fine as soon as you're 17, as long as he is no more than 2 years older. Breaking the law can come with serious punishments, especially for your guy. It's a pretty big charge if he gets caught having sex with a minor. But honestly, many minors have illegal sex with older guys and nothing is wrong with that as long as it's someone you really like and you don't get caught! I suggest you keep it in your home and don't do it in public. Atleast not until your 17! Everything comes with risks, and if you do decide to have sex with him just be ready for that, and be very responsible and safe!
Ok, here goes... I guess I should tell you a bit about myself, at least the basics: 17, female, and a virgin. Great, right? Now, onto the question.
Last year there was a guy in a couple of my classes that we're going to call "Aaron." He was a year older than me but I was in his classes because I am on a more advanced track. Well, Aaron sat in my little group during math class along with his other friend, "John." I had known John from before so we all got along really well. It wasn't soon before I started to really like Aaron. Besides celebrities, he was the only guy I had ever felt sexually attracted to. It was apparent he liked me too. As the months progressed, we started being more open with each other and joking about sex. One day when we were sitting in Spanish (our table was WAY in the back), we got on the topic of boobs somehow. I made a comment like "I don't get why guys like boobs, they're just big bags of fat!" to which he retorted, "Well, if you were a guy and saw your chest, you'd be attracted to them too." With that, he cupped my boob. I was kinda shocked! I mean, we were in the middle of the classroom! Part of me thought it was strange and the other part was in heaven! It felt really good and I completely trusted him. This continued on and we made out a few times. One day, we were eating lunch and he told me to meet him up at his locker in ten minutes. We each got locker passes and I follwed him up shortly after he left. I was really happy. His locker was located by a guy's bathroom. He told me to follow him inside. I was REALLY scared to go in. The big taboo, you know? But I was so enamored that I followed him in. He asked if I would give him a blowjob. He did not pressure me and asked very sweetly, making sure I was ok. Let me tell you, I've never wanted to do anything more in my life. I was so ready for it, but in a bathroom? No. It felt so wrong. It was then that our male science teacher walked in. We were shouted at but in the end we didn't get into too much trouble. After that Aaron became a recluse. I don't know if it was because he was embarrassed, angry, or scared, but he stopped talking to me. It really hurt me and I gave up the hopes of ever being with him.
Skip to the end of this year:
We eventually made up, but he still didn't really talk to me. It wasn't until a week ago I actually spoke to him for more than two minutes. We were confined to the auditorium, setting up amps for an assembly later that day. We talked, but we didn't mention the year before or anything sexual.
Later that day, Aaron sent me a message on facebook asking if I would give him a blowjob.
I really didn't know what to say. This was really unexpected and I wasn't prepared at all. I decided in my mind that I still really wanted to do it. I liked him a lot, and this was basically for my pleasure as much as his. He wants me to do it behind our stage, in a loft that holds all the costumes after school. It's hard to find the time, but I really want to!
So here are my questions:
1) Am I really wrong to do this?
2) Should I lie to my parents so I can do this?
3) At school?!
4) How can we find the time?
Thanks for everything and I'm sorry this thing is so LONG! I'm hyped on Caribou right now and my fingers just keep going!
Okay i'm going to answer each question as best as i can! Now for the first question.. you are not wrong for doing it, don't let anyone tell you you're wrong for doing something you WANT to do. What would make it wrong is if you truly didn't want to but felt obligated to do it. Don't ever let a guy pressure you to do something sexually you don't feel comfortable with! Now the second question.. You don't have to lie to your parents, in fact, you don't have to tell them at all. This is your sexual business, but if youre looking for advice then go ahead! But i'm going to tell you now, they are probably not going to be happy about it. The third question.. it's your decision if you want to do it in school, it might actually make it a little more exciting, but it's probably best if you kept it outside school. If you get caught in school you could get in serious trouble, and will eventually get around to your parents without your permission. Now for the last question.. ya'll should probably make time to hang out and maybe fit the blow job in there, but don't ever schedule a set time to give him head. To be honest, i feel like he is using you. He has not asked you to hang out, and he was very blunt and just straight up asked you for head. He stopped talking to you after you didn't. Those are signs that a guy is using you. Nothing is wrong with giving a guy head, and if you're okay with him not wanting anything more, then it's totally your decision. Like i said it's only wrong if you truly don't want to do it. I promise you though, you'll enjoy it a million times better if you wait for someone that doesn't just use you for blow jobs. It could really hurt your confidence especially if you actually start really liking the guy.
20/f
so my girlfriend and i used to always be all over eachother, but now we havent had sex in almost 3 weeks, what can i do to turn her on? she almost never seems to be in the mood anymore.
Sometimes when you are with someone for a while, you get comfortable and used to doing the same routine over and over again. That can be "boring". Doesn't mean that she is not attracted to you anymore, it's just time to switch things up! Try watching porn together or asking her what she would love done to her. Maybe even use toys!! The best way to fix this situation is by simply asking her what would turn her on. It's hard to guess around especially when you are used to doing what turned her on a few weeks ago. Just remember not to be stuck with the same ol' routine always try something new! :)
Can you still get tested for gonhorrea and chlamydia after five years? Would it still show up in a test, if positive? I have only had one sex partner (several years ago)...
Yes it would still show up! You usually have to worry about it showing up a couple of months after unprotected sex, because it usually takes a while for a person to get infected with gonhorrea and chlamydia.. but five years. Definately. You should see the gyno every 6 months for a pap smear and std check. Usually when someone is infected with either std, the pap smear comes out irregular. I suggest planned parenthood they are very good about making you feel comfortable, letting you know about your health and the price is pretty affordable! :)
15/f
So theres this boy i've been off and on with having a crush this whole year. We went to one school dance together and it was amazing and we'd both probably agree it was the best dance together of the year. He's been through alot this year and i've always been there for him and he appreciates it alot. He feels as if i'm the only one he can talk to about anything and were just really close in some aspects. We text just about everyday about anything and everything and we talk at our lockers every hour.
He told one of my friends he really wanted to "get to know me more" after the dance. and now that were getting closer and all where does this lead to?
Anyways i've really fallen for him and i'm really starting to like him, what can I do? To find out, to get him to like me, to get closer to him i've never wanted a relationship more than this one.
He clearly has strong feelings for you. What those feelings may be, we don't know. He could truly have feelings for you as more than a friend, or he could have feelings for you as just one of his truest friends. The only way to find out is to tell him how you feel. It's intimidating, I know, but he is obviously not going to make the move if he hasn't already. What's the worst that can happen> you're going to find out how he feels, and if he doesn't feel the same he obviously has enough respect for you to not make you feel like an idiot. Just remind him things between yall wont change unless he feels the same. In that case yall will possibly become an item! :)
im 18/f & my ex-boyfriend is 19. we dated for two years but have 3 years of history together. we're each others first loves, planned to get married, everything. well we broke up back in march because problems started to arise. he changed from making me feel like the most important person in the world, always showing & telling me how much he loved me, wanting to be around me all the time, everything, to not showing any emotion and just acting careless about everything because one of his former "good" friends came back in the picture and suddenly he was always with her. so, we fought, we yelled we cried, i threatened to leave several times if he didnt get his shit straight, he still acted indifferent, so we broke up. a week or two later he feels bad and asks for another chance and said he'd change and just wanted me back. i said fine prove to me you we can be like we used to and things should be fine. didn't happen. things continued as they were so i said forget it i'm done. fast forward to now. we've been in contact again. and after seeing me the other night he apparently had an epiphany of how much i mean to him. he texted me literally begging for another chance, saying he loves me more than anything & i'm the best thing in his life and and he'll do any & everything he can to make things right again.
i dont know what to do though. i've been talking to different guys since we broke up. nothing serious. just a little flirting, kissed a few of them and that's it. i dont want to be in a relationship with any of these guys, but i like the freedom and don't feel like i want to be all serious and tied down now. at the same time though i do love this guy, i know he loves me despite our troubles, but i also feel like we're at a dead end. we obviously didn't make things work before, so why should we know? he said its because we cant say we honestly tried, but i just feel like we would come to break up again and i dont want to feel that hurt so soon again.
another thing is i'm going to college 4 hours away in the fall, so we'd inevitably break up. if not when i left, then sooner or later. so i sort of feel like we should hold off, but then i'm afraid we'll never be the same and lose our chance for good.
i think the problem is i know i dont want to be in a relationship right now, but im so scared im going to lose him forever. we've never felt the way we feel about each other before, and i honestly could see myself with him for the rest of my life, but then again we've had such difficult problems recently i feel like it's just too much trouble.
i dont even know what my question is. i honestly love him, but after all we've gone through i feel like being with him and trying to work it out is a hassle. i want to be single for awhile, but then with college approaching and me leaving, it leads me to think we've come to the end of our line. any input here?
Girl I was in the same situation. I don't care what anyone says, people do deserve second chances but it doesn't mean it's going to change anything. Guys around this age are immature and don't truly know what they want. When he's around you, of course he's going to remember how much he cares about you, and how much you mean to him, but as soon as he goes back to his friends or his life away from you, he's going to naturally fall back to the way he used to be. Once you break up chances of things going back to the way they were is extremely slim. I've tried with many many guys, and I know many girls that have done the same. Now that you are happy and enjoying your single life don't throw it away to go back to how you felt before. You are only going to get more attached and its going to be harder to move on if things don't work out. Things didn't work out for a reason and sometimes you just have to stop looking back and start moving on. It's part of life it's going to be tough but you have learned alot and you are going to get stronger from it! Especially now that you're going away to college enjoy being single learn about yourself ENJOY yourself. When youre in a relationship you can't just think about yourself, you have someone else to think about. Being in college is about learning to be on your own. You will find someone you love, you will be in a great committed relationship later on in life. Don't rush it just move on and be as happy as you can be until then.
ok i'm 16/f and i just love gay guys? i mean i get turned on soo much when they make out and stuff.
and like it seems to be the only thing turning me on? i often wish i was a gay man myself so i could do it with guys? like i think thats so much more attractive.
its really disturbing and i dont know if this is normal? what should i do?
Ha don't think of it as disturbing. Everybody has their guilty pleasures and that just happens to be yours! Everyone is different and EVERYONE has weird little things that turn them on! You don't have to tell anyone but definately use it as a way to get aroused! You can't change who you are and how you think! I promise its okay! :)
ok so my partner and i had sex tonight for a longer time than usual. we did a ton of new positions to see which worked best. when we were done, i was examining my vagina and i noticed that my clit was humongous. like it's never happened that bad before. my clit was always covered by the two lips on the side. however, now it is very swollen and sticking out like crazy. it also hurts very badly. so i suppose i am asking, what is going on? is it normal? will it go back to being hidden? thanks in advance.
Yes it's completely natural! I know it's really weird and kind of freaks you out but it will NOT permantely stay that way. The reason your clit was enlarged could be because you were extremely aroused, or there was just a lot of friction against your clit. It hurts because there is a lot of blood floating to your clit which causes it too be inflamed! But like i said, TOTALLY NORMAL! :)
I gave my boyfriend a hand job in my bed and he cummed. Can I get pregnant from sleeping on my bed where he cummed?
No maam, as long as you didnt get any on your hand and touched yourself afterwards. Normally sperm dies as soon as it touches air. You should be good! :)
hey okay im just wondering what peoples opinions on this are; im 14 and my mom tells me to tell her when i have sex but she says that i have to wait till im 17. what if i were to have sex at 15 of something like before 17, should i tell her and she would get mad or should i not tell her and keep it from her? and like if i didnt tell her how would i get birth control?
This is one of the biggest issues everyone female has to deal with! Your mom may tell you to wait until youre 17 and she is just being cautious, but you have the will to have sex whenever you feel youre ready for that responsiblity and experience. Just make sure it's with someone you care about and just be sure it's something you won't regret because it'll stick with you FOREVER! Now when you decide it's the right time the best thing to do is tell your mom. Besides it's your mom you should be able to tell her and she is a more grown up version of you so she can give you advice! And that way, she can give you birth control. Just remind her that you have thought this through and this is what you want, and you want to be a more responsible adult by getting birth control. She cant disrespect that. I know it's really hard to tell your mom you lost your virginity and she may be angry at first, but I promise you, she will come around and realize it's part of growing up. Good luck!!
female
i've had sex a fair amount of times, and i never have orgasmed ! it sucks, and i really want to.
also, my pussys been kinda loose ever since before i had sex, could this be a sign of sexual abuse as a child ? when i lost my virginity the guy was like 'are you sure youre a virgin because you dont feel like it !'
i dont know , could that be the reason i dont orgasm ?
any answers and advice are welcome :)
Okay the guy that made a comment about your vagina is clearly rude and you shouldn't listen. Every woman's vagina is different in size and length.. its natural to be SLIGHTLY bigger than others even if you haven't had sex. If you had sexual abuse as a child I gaurantee you would remember, because everyone remembers intense memories like that. Even 2 year olds so don't worry about that sweetie!! Now for not ever orgasming is completely natural! Nothing is wrong with you, I had the same exact problem till this past year! Orgasming is very mental! Some things that may be making it harder to orgasm could be: stress, concentration, or not enough foreplay. Some things I think you should try is to have more foreplay and just simply relax! Orgasms are waay more intense and easier to come by if you relax. Hold your hand right below your stomach to help relax and breath in and out. Another reason why you may not be orgasming is because your mind is wandering like crazy. Focus on your pleasure and think about anything that will turn you on. You maybe focusing too much on how tight or loose you are or anything else you may be self conscious about. Just relax and enjoy the pleasure! If none of this works, experiment with yourself. Maybe even try getting a vibrator, its very difficult to NOT orgasm using one! It might seem weird to you if you've never done it before but I swear it helps a ton! You'll learn what feels good and what works best for you. Then let your partner know and you'll be orgasming in no time!! :)
I've just started taking TriNessa and I'm still getting used to taking it at exactly 9:00 every night. I've been on it for about 10 days now and a few of those nights I would forget to take it at exactly 9:00, but I would remember around 9:15 or 9:30. Will it still be effective if I take it just 15-30 minutes late. (I obviously will try to take it at exactly 9.)
Also, I was wondering when it will be safe for me to have sex without using a condom?
Thanks!
Okay to answer your first question, yes, it will still be effective!! 15-30 mins is no big deal!! Just make sure if you're later than that to take it at the exact time the next day or you're chances of getting pregnant will increase. Birth control is 99% effective if you take it at the same exact time everyday and it decreases the later you are. Now you are techniqually supposed to wait atleast a week for the birth control to go into effect although I reccommend you still use condoms because birth control is not 100%! Hope i helped! :)