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i've had sex a fair amount of times, and i never have orgasmed ! it sucks, and i really want to.
also, my pussys been kinda loose ever since before i had sex, could this be a sign of sexual abuse as a child ? when i lost my virginity the guy was like 'are you sure youre a virgin because you dont feel like it !'
i dont know , could that be the reason i dont orgasm ?
any answers and advice are welcome :)
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Okay the guy that made a comment about your vagina is clearly rude and you shouldn't listen. Every woman's vagina is different in size and length.. its natural to be SLIGHTLY bigger than others even if you haven't had sex. If you had sexual abuse as a child I gaurantee you would remember, because everyone remembers intense memories like that. Even 2 year olds so don't worry about that sweetie!! Now for not ever orgasming is completely natural! Nothing is wrong with you, I had the same exact problem till this past year! Orgasming is very mental! Some things that may be making it harder to orgasm could be: stress, concentration, or not enough foreplay. Some things I think you should try is to have more foreplay and just simply relax! Orgasms are waay more intense and easier to come by if you relax. Hold your hand right below your stomach to help relax and breath in and out. Another reason why you may not be orgasming is because your mind is wandering like crazy. Focus on your pleasure and think about anything that will turn you on. You maybe focusing too much on how tight or loose you are or anything else you may be self conscious about. Just relax and enjoy the pleasure! If none of this works, experiment with yourself. Maybe even try getting a vibrator, its very difficult to NOT orgasm using one! It might seem weird to you if you've never done it before but I swear it helps a ton! You'll learn what feels good and what works best for you. Then let your partner know and you'll be orgasming in no time!! :)
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everyone is different. theres nothing wrong with you and theres no real way to tell if someone is a virgin or not. he may have just had sex with girls that were tighter, but that doesnt really matter and hes an asshole for making that comment. i dont think you couldve been sexually abused as a child because that is a very traumatic event and you would most likely remember it. being sexually abused as a child probably wouldnt be the reason you dont orgasm anyways. maybe you just arent that into it? has it been with the same guy every time? because if it has maybe hes the reason youve never orgasmed.
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a) most women do not orgasm through penetration, they need some other kind of stimulation (ie: oral).
b) there is no way to tell if someone is a virgin or not. The idea of looseness is figurative (loose morals), not literal (loose vagina). Your vagina could only be loose if you had something huge going inside of you on a regular, constant basis. Remember, the vagina is designed to give birth to a baby and STILL go back to normal.
c) you should break up with that asshole. If you're not together, well, that speaks for itself.
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