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need help...be real
i stay with my babydaddy but we not together.he broke up with me on my birthday last year cause he though i was mad cause he work that day.which was sad cause that was not true.nut he was my first or everything including virginity.but i feel like he using me.lik if i say i won't give him money he would kick me out.and othe girls he talk to they don't give him money and he respect them more then me and im the mother of his chilld.he call me stupid slow.one day he love me the next he say he can't wait till i get out his life.then i found out he guve girls money.and im working hard giving him money and he don't help me out.he not even working.and when he go out of town i let him stay at my mom place.and he let gurls pick him up over there.and he tell me oh we ain;t together.i no we not together but y u doing that.and we have sex i give him a blow job.and i found out he having unprotected sex and he laugh and says we not togetther why u geeting mad for.i mean you my first that took my virginity why he doing this to me.its lik every time i stand up 4 myself he want to kick me out or something.ploease help me
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I don't know if you love him or not and i am sorry but i would cut the connection...it seems that he is using you and you are too nice of a gurl you don't deserve that... he calls you stupid and slow and ASKS YOU FOR MONEY OR HE KICKS YOU OUT!!!!! that is soooo disrespectful he doesn't care how you feel thats what i am getting outta this......i mean that just makes me sad because you deserve someone who will take care of you and your child....make him suffer and go put on cute outfits and make him want you but show him that you are too good for him tell him you need a man that can be there for you and most importantly your child.......you really deserve better.....=/
i hope this helps and if you need help or you have questions i'm here for you and i wish you the best of luck!! take care of your baby :)
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Why are you staying with him?
I mean, that really is the problem here isn't it?
A guy who threatens to kick you out (and I'm assuming your young child as well) is a monster.
It's unjustifiable to uproot a child that, even to threaten it. He shouldn't do it, and you shouldn't let it happen.
Find someplace to live where this doesn't happen. Go home to your mother's if that is an option. Even if it's a group home for young mothers. Sure, you deserve better and you behaving like an idiot to let this guy expose you to STDs, use you for sex, and threaten you and your child, but you are an adult and you can choose to hover around a guy who treats you like shit if you want too, but your child doesn't have a choice and shouldn't suffer just because you are making a bad one. Be smarter then that for their sake.
Until you get yourself and your child safe, you are being a lousy mom. I'm sorry to be so judgmental about it, but it's true: A mother who doesn't protect herself isn't protecting her baby
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he doesnt deserve you really. you give him so much and get nothing in return. I know you have a child with him but you need to leave. even tho you 2 are not together you have bigger things to worry about then other women. he brought a child into this world with you. he needs to show respect for the mother of his child. im just angered by this. sorry if this doesnt help. if you want someone to talk to just let me know.
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I have to be honest with you. It pains me to even read this question. My heart aches for you.
This guy is NO GOOD!!! Period. And you need to get him out of your life.
I understand that he was your first and he's also your baby's dad but there's no reason why anyone should put up with that kind of treatment.
If you keep this guy around he's just going to keep up the same crap he's doing now. You can't change people like that.
He's eating away at your self-esteem by calling you names, playing psychological games, using you for money and sex....he is a no good bum!
Be honest with yourself- what is he doing for you? From what it sounds like- nothing. Seems like you're fulfilling all of HIS needs and he could care less about yours.
Every relationship should be a two-way street. And I don't see him doing his part. He's selfish, hurtful and immature.
You are way better than this. You need to believe that!!
I'm sure I'm not telling you anything you don't already know. In your heart of hearts you know this guy is no good. Maybe you just don't want to be alone? Or because he was your first & your child's dad you think you should stay with him?
I don't know because I can't read your mind. But whatever reason you're telling yourself that you should try to make this work out- you need to wake up and look at things as they REALLY ARE not what you hope they COULD BE.
Go back and read your post but read it as if someone ELSE wrote it. Imagine that a friend asked you this question. What would you tell HER? I bet you'd tell her the same thing I'm telling you now.
So my advice to you is BE A FRIEND TO YOURSELF.
Why would it NOT be ok for a friend to go through this but ok for you?
Last but not least- remember that you are a role model for your child too. Do you want your child growing up thinking this is the way women should be treated?
You are way, way better than this. Please try to believe that.
I wish you all the best.
RT
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