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Can't talk to guys?
So I'm a girl and don't talk to any guys.
Recently I was in a group interview and noticed how the other girls spoke to the guys with ease. I thought it was because they knew each other-but they didn't!
Its just idk i just think whenever I talk to a guy they'll just presume I like them like that. How do you talk to guys because this isn't healthy!
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Try talking to a guy that is a friend of one of your friends and just start with small talk . Maybe about the friend or school/ work or even a shared interest . Slowly he will introduce you to his friends and then you will have lots of male friends . If you don't want to be flirtly Judt talk how you would to a girl friend. Good luck!
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you breath in deeply and relax then breath out say a simple " hi, how are you" don't use a flirty smile use a ' my friend jest made a joke' then let them talk ' wish that you know about some sports maybe resling and NASCAR jest like do a quick look at TV and go talk to him lol' talk and talk and say " hey lets be friends" make it seem like you jest getting a friend don't look at him to romantically
hope it helps
love ya friends
sweetgirl12free
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Sometimes listening before saying anything is a good way for you to engage conversation. Let guys around you talk and then chime in on the conversation. Doesn't mean you like someone if they bring up a topic first and then gets you in there to talk about it. Sometimes a great listener will have a better chance of keeping the conversation going rather than talking someone's head off. Remember it's a conversation, not an interview!
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Do you always flirt with them or something?
Just talking to guys does not mean you like them, i have lots of guy friends.
If you don't want to come across as flirty then don't flirt! Just be careful not to touch them or stare into their eyes or anything flirty like that. Guys are terrible and picking up hints anyway so they most likely wont think your flirting with them even if you actually are. Don't worry, guys don't look into stuff like that! They will not think you are flirting.
Just talk to them like you would talk with anybody! They aren't a different species they are just a different gender! Relax!
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You think they'll presume something... Keep in mind it isn't your responsibility to keep them from presuming things. If they think you like them in that way and you never said you did and they bring it up, they are to blame, not you.
Just try to place less emphasis on the fact that they're guys. If you think of them as individuals instead of part of a group, in this case the group would be "guys", you might be more comfortable.
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Hey honey! I remember when I was in middle school, and I was very outgoing, but it was pretty hard for me to talk to guys, that is until I got to 7th grade and 8th grade, I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming you are no older than 16, and no younger than 12. Talking to men can be very easy, it's just about how you think of it. Next time you're at a social gathering with guys, or at school, try talking to them in a group first, like with some of your girlfriends, and a couple other guys, and just try to say little things directed towards him, after he says something, and pay extra attention to him, and it could start a conversation just the two of you.
Hope all goes well sweetie. xx
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