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Hi there,
I am sending this to help you understand why the other mod issued a warning on your account.
"Leaving in a tampon for over 8 hours can cause TSS (toxic shock syndrome) but that is in very rare cases. I've honestly left my tampon in for a whole 24 hours before...and I'm fine. Even if TSS were to happen, it's easily treatable. So don't worry about any of that."
TSS isn't rare at all. The fact that you left a tampon in for 24 hours, and are ok is kind of a miracle.
The other thing is that TSS isn't easily treatable. Not at all.
Usually, by the time the symptoms become critical it is too late to do much.
There can be as little as a few hours between being diagnosed with TSS, and being dead.
Please understand that nobody here has it out for you or anything like that, but something had to be done. You don't really want to tell people something that could cost people their lives, do you?
By the time your warning ends, you won't be able to edit your answer, so I am going to delete that answer. If you wish to re-answer it without the part that endangers her life, and the lives of the thousands of women who will eventually see your answer, please feel free.
Please, PLEASE be more careful about repeating things you are unsure of.
Thank you,
DangerNerd. (link)
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I'm sorry, I didn't think TSS can happen that easily...I usually leave my tampons in all day, and sometimes all night after that if they aren't leaking, I had no idea that it was that serious. I won't give any advice unless I am 100% certain I know what I am talking about, I apologize.
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Me and my Boyfriend have been using condoms for the passed 4 months since he took my virginity. None has ever broke or had holes in them and no sperm has got on me. My period is due in about 5 days and I usually will feel me starting to cramp. I'm feeling it off and on now but I don't know if I'm imagining it? I'm really paranoid about this and I need advice from someone who knows and can help, please. I'm seriously freaking out. My period isn't late or anything. Its due in about a weel or less. It switches around sometimes so should I be worried? Your advice would be very helpful. Thanks! (link)
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Hey darling, despite what the other person said, there are misconceptions about ways you can get pregnant. Even if you say the condom didn't break, sperm did not get on you, blah blah, there are still ways you can get pregnant. Sperm can always seep out of the condom. If you are not on birth control, I suggest you get on it. Another good thing to have around is the "Plan B" or "Day after pill" you can get this from the pharmacy counter at CVS, or most drugstores with a pharmacy counter.
Always keep in mind, nothing is 100%, condoms are only 85-97% effective depending on if you use them every time, and use them correctly. Same with birth control, it is only 95% effective, but if taken correctly, meaning every day at the same time it increases to 99%. This is why I suggest both, including the Plan B pill, if taken quickly after sex, the Plan B pill is nearly 89% effective. (Plan B pill is for if the condom broke, or for some reason you had sex without protection)
Combining all these contraception's, you can get very close to 100% but remember, it is never going to be 100% the only way you can get 100% is from abstinence.
Anyways, try not to worry, and if you do end up being pregnant, I hope all goes well. xx
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ihave been told i am bipolar does that mean i have two personalities (link)
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Hi sweetie, bipolar does not mean you have multiple personalities, having multiple personalities would mean you have a Dissociative Identity Disorder. Being bipolar can sometimes go hand in hand with this, but are two very different things.
Being bipolar means you have mood swings, you can be happy and fine for a while, then you can be aggravated and mad in a blink of an eye.
Being bipolar does not mean you have two, or more personalities.
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i had unprotected sex 4 days after my period ended can i be pregnet ? (link)
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Hi darling! It does not matter what time of the month it is, whether it's before, after, or during your period, it is very possible for you to get pregnant.
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if you finished your period on thursday and i have unprotected sex on monday can i be pregnet ? (link)
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Hey honey, it doesn't matter if you're on your period, after your period, or before your period, at any time it is possible for you to get pregnant.
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Can I pregnant by using my brother toilet seat.Im 13 and really worried. (link)
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Honey, sperm can't live very long in dry areas, you're completely fine.
The only way you can get pregnant, is by engaging in sexual intercourse, or you were directly in contact with the sperm, when a guy ejaculated.
You're not going to get pregnant, unless you did anything I listed.
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I'm a 14 year old girl and my parents are very over-protective and they practically control my life. (My Mum especially) I don't hate them, I just wish they would let me do what I want to do. I don't want to do drugs or smoke or have sex or anything, I'm a good girl, I just don't want to be singled out by society. I know people say 'be yourself' and 'don't be afraid to be different' but at school I just want to blend in and get through the week.
My friends would all go out to the movies or go shopping but I can never go because that's too grown up for me. I can't decide on anything to decorate my room so it ends up being furnished for a 5 year old. I can't wear 'provocative' or 'suggestive' clothing which means a long sleeved rash shirt and knee length board shorts when I go swimming. I can't wear dresses above the knees or strapless dresses. No short-shorts and no hanging out with people my parents don't know.
That's just the tip of the iceberg. I don't know what to do to change the situation without upsetting my parents. (link)
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Hi sweetie, I know this is hard now, but you have to realize that your parents just want to keep you safe. I know it's hard having your parents say no to you, when you're going to be EIGHTEEN in 4 years, that's a short amount of time, if you think about it. If you want your parents to let you do more of what you want, it's going to be very hard. Still keep in mind that your parents just want you to be safe.
You need to show your parents that you're grown up now. Whether you show this by doing chores without being asked around the house, or keeping up on your homework, or showing interest in what you want to be when you grow up. And when your parents say no to you, you need to show them that you are a responsible young lady.
I know it's hard now, but you'll get through it, promise.
Hope all goes well honey. xx
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So in one of my classes I sit by a girl who's very quiet. She never starts conversations, and other people know her as a mute.
I always start the conversations even when we're told to work in our pairs. So today I tested her just to see if she would actually initiate conversation instead of me. She didn't.
I'm shy myself, but I overcome this to get on with people. I mean she doesn't even TRY-including never answering class and having no friends in the class despite my best efforts to befriend her.
What should I do to get her to talk?! (link)
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Hi darling, for some people, starting a conversation to them is like jumping off of a plane. I, myself, am extremely shy, and it's hard to overcome that, I have very severe anxiety, and that's why it's hard for me to talk to people. I've overcome it for the most part, but you have to realize, this girl could have some deep emotional problems that you don't realize. I'm not saying she has full blown anxiety, or some sort of disorder, but you need to recognize that she may have some very personal reasons for being so shy. Whether it's that, or she's just plain shy!
The best way to get her to talk, is try being extra friendly, and in ways reassure her that it's okay to open up to you. By saying things like what do you think? Always include her. And eventually, maybe she will come out of her shell. I'm not saying that will happen in a week or month, it could never happen.
Just be considerate to her, and be welcoming to her.
Hope all goes well honey. xx
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So I'm a girl and don't talk to any guys.
Recently I was in a group interview and noticed how the other girls spoke to the guys with ease. I thought it was because they knew each other-but they didn't!
Its just idk i just think whenever I talk to a guy they'll just presume I like them like that. How do you talk to guys because this isn't healthy! (link)
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Hey honey! I remember when I was in middle school, and I was very outgoing, but it was pretty hard for me to talk to guys, that is until I got to 7th grade and 8th grade, I don't know how old you are, but I'm assuming you are no older than 16, and no younger than 12. Talking to men can be very easy, it's just about how you think of it. Next time you're at a social gathering with guys, or at school, try talking to them in a group first, like with some of your girlfriends, and a couple other guys, and just try to say little things directed towards him, after he says something, and pay extra attention to him, and it could start a conversation just the two of you.
Hope all goes well sweetie. xx
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I'm a 13 yet old girl, and I want to try flirting very subtly but still have it sound cute or something with another girl. Last night I sent her a pic of a really adorable seal and said "this seal is so cute!!! It reminds me of you! ;)" but I can't think of any other ones. Can somebody please give me some options? Thank you!! :) (link)
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Flirting is so much fun, and it's not really about having a bunch of cute things to say, it's better if you come up with it during a conversation, then she will appreciate whatever you said more, especially if it isn't something that has been said before.
But there are definitely things you can say, like talking to you is my favorite part of the day, stuff like that. Don't find something on the internet to say, find something about her that you genuinely think is amazing, and tell her about it in a kind, sweet way.
Have fun flirting, hope all goes well darling. xx
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hey guys so my boyfriend and I have sex and fool around. after sex and "fingering" is it normal for the "inner flaps" of the vagina to swell (not huge but definitely swell) and feel raw? thanks so much :) (link)
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Completely normal, this happens to me every time after sex, or fingering, you have nothing to worry about.
It will go away.
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there is this girl i have a huge crush and i cant stop thinking about her even if i try i think im in love with her. im 13 and shes 14. my issue is my parents wont allow me to date and i think she has a boy friend what do i do (link)
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Alright man, I hate to tell you this, but you need to slow down. Listen to what you just said, you're 13, she's 14, love should not even be in your vocabulary.
I understand you might really like this girl, but you just need to be honest with her, and tell her how you feel.
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At school theres this girl and she always talkes to him and she dated him too before me and she always walks with him I don't wanna tell him that I don't like it or her because they will say there just best friends but this girl is a hoe she dates everyone what should I do (link)
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First of all sweetheart, even if this girl is a harlot, you aren't the one to judge or determine that. Dating many people does not necessarily make someone a "hoe", having multiple sex partners would be considered a harlot. Or "hoe".
Honestly, if you don't like how she's acting, and you like this guy, then tell him that you don't like that he's hanging out with a girl he used to date. To me, that still does not seem very appropriate, if you two are not dating.
I hope you really think about what I said.
Hope all goes well darling. xoxo
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Hi. I cheated on a guy whom i love. I pretended to be somebody. How can i get him back? (link)
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Hi honey, being cheated on can hurt someone in many ways, it affects their self esteem, trust, and they feel as if the person they loved doesn't care for them anymore. Depending on how far you went with the other guy, just a kiss or all the way, will be part of determining whether he will chose to forgive you or not. Keep in mind, if this is a serious relationship, meaning you've been together more than a year, this will also affect how things will turn out. You can't do much, to make him forgive you, because ultimately it is his decision. You can never really take something like that back. It can be forgiven, but not forgotten. Just make sure to let him know that you love him very much, and it won't happen again, if that IS the truth. The only thing you can do from here is be completely honest with him, and reassure him.
Hope all goes well sweetheart. xox
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I am 13 and have a problem with asking this guy out because i really like him.But he already has a
girlfriend! I don't know how to solve this problem
P.S THANKS FOR YOUR HELP
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Hi sweetie! If a guy you like is already in a relationship, you really need to respect that he is in a relationship, and not try to lure him away from his girlfriend, you wouldn't want someone to do that to you, so try to be respectful that they're in a relationship, and even if he could possibly have feelings for you, even though he's in a relationship, he needs to break up with his girlfriend before starting another relationship. He could also still have feelings once he breaks up with her, because it's hard to forget about someone after you've been with them a while.
Either wait for him, or try to find someone else!
Hope all goes well darling. xx
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I'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend and I have been dating more than 8 months but less than a year. I'm a naturally shy girl and he is very outgoing, he's the talkative one in this relationship. He gets mad at me for being so shy around him, I'm starting to feel pressured. I tried talking to him about this but he said " you wouldn't feel pressured if you'd just loosen up."If he really cared about me he would be helping me be less shy around him, right? (link)
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I remember being in 6th-7th grade, and having a 9 month relationship with this one boy, although we had been together so long, we weren't close at all, honestly. We hardly talked, and it was like we weren't even together. I had never kissed him, and when we were together we had nothing really in common. I was extremely shy around him! That's all I knew, but he was a little bit too, but what I understand now, is that if you're going to be together with someone that long, it's important that you feel comfortable around them, so I don't think that this is his problem that you're shy around him, you need to loosen up, and realize you've been with this guy 8 months, you shouldn't be shy. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I'm honestly so comfortable, it's weird. He will come over and I'll have no makeup on, hair all a mess, and in pj's. I pee in front of him, fart, burp, everything. It's gross, but I know that he won't care. He does the same thing around me. I mean of course I'll doll up for him, to look nice and act like a lady most the time, but I know that he won't care if I act like that. So what I'm saying is, at this point in the relationship, you shouldn't be shy, you should be comfortable with him, that he won't care if you're a slob sometimes, and laugh about it with you when you are!
Hope all goes well sweetheart. xx
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Why won't my mom let me get my ears pierced? I am 17 YEARS OLD AND I DON'T HAVE MY EARS PIERCED! she said it will make me look older but i AM older! and she says she got them pierced at 13 but she regrets it. WHAT????? i see earrings every where and all my friends have at least one piercing. i have been asking since i was 6 but she still says "ask me later" Help! (link)
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My oh my, I'm only 15, and have about 10 piercings. You just need to make it clear to your mom that you are going to be 18 soon anyway, and she needs to give you a LOT more lead way. Honestly, if she isn't letting you get your ears pierced, it makes me wonder what other crazy things she isn't letting you do.
Hope all goes well. xx
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A few years ago one of my friends asked me if I would go out with his friend. I ignored him but then I saw the guy at lunch. When I saw him it felt like everything slowed down. My friend asked me again later that day. Then he said something to another friend that he didn't want to get punched. Do I love him or does he like me? I'm so confused (link)
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Woah woah woah honey, you don't know this boy very well, so don't get to the conclusion that you love him. It sounds to me that you are in middle school or high school?
Well whatever the case may be, you would KNOW if you loved this boy, and if you hardly even know him then I don't think you love him.
Hope all goes well. xx
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Hi :)... well ive been adopted since i was a baby and my birth mom was a druggie and i guess my dad was never in the picture but i do live with my biological half sister but she has a lot of problems herself and theres also with 7 other adopted kids in this family and i love them all a lot and am very blessed but i also know tht we have other sblings somewhere else. not only do i think about it a lot but whenever im down i always think about why i have to be where i am and why my birthmother couldnt have changed for me and it really hurts me. it would really help me to find out a lot more about my birthmom and my other siblings and maybe even meet them. but idk how to bring this up with my adoptive parents i am now 15 and i feel like i deserve to know more. i really would lve some advice bc i really dont know what to do i hae been stuck on this for awhile now...thanks :)
P.S. sorry its soo long!:) (link)
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Hi sweetie!! My name is Sierra, and I'm adopted as well, I ALSO live with my biological half sister! AND my mom was a druggie. My father died a while ago, when I was about 9 years old, I never got to meet him, but I did get to meet my biological aunt and uncle. My half sister and I were VERY close, and always took care of each other when we were young, however lately she has gone down a bad road with drugs. She has developed schizophrenia, and she is not the same person anymore. I feel like I've lost her, and my mom to drugs now. Everyone that has ever been in my life has left me. And I really understand how that can be hard. However, I do have a wonderful relationship with my adoptive mother, and I couldn't be happier in the home I was placed in (when I was 3 years old)
What I really think is important, is you need to talk to your parents about how you want to meet your family members. I have met my two older brothers when I was very young because my parents wanted me to know them. What I'm saying is it's really important to have communication with your parents about this, and let them know how important it is to you, keep in mind, you want them to know that you love them and are happy to live with them, it's just you feel like there is a big gap, because you don't know your real family.
Hope all goes well darling. xx
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I'm 10 and I don't have any friends can you help me and how do I get a girl to like me (link)
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Hi sweetie! Sometimes making friends can be hard. The biggest piece of advice I can give you is just BE YOURSELF. Don't try to be something that you're not.
Hope all goes well. xx
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