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my boyfriend is not being supportive of me.
I'm a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend and I have been dating more than 8 months but less than a year. I'm a naturally shy girl and he is very outgoing, he's the talkative one in this relationship. He gets mad at me for being so shy around him, I'm starting to feel pressured. I tried talking to him about this but he said " you wouldn't feel pressured if you'd just loosen up."If he really cared about me he would be helping me be less shy around him, right?
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I was in a relationship like that when I was 14. It seemed like we weren't even together. We normally just sat next to each other and that was it. I've always been a shy person but honestly, it's up to you to change.
Maybe he could be a little nicer about it. He shouldn't get mad over it but obviously if you two switched it around and you were the outgoing one and he was shy, you might get a little irritated if you two have been together for over 8 months and hardly talking.
Just work on yourself and see if you can try talking a little more. If he gets mad, you need to talk to him about that.
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I remember being in 6th-7th grade, and having a 9 month relationship with this one boy, although we had been together so long, we weren't close at all, honestly. We hardly talked, and it was like we weren't even together. I had never kissed him, and when we were together we had nothing really in common. I was extremely shy around him! That's all I knew, but he was a little bit too, but what I understand now, is that if you're going to be together with someone that long, it's important that you feel comfortable around them, so I don't think that this is his problem that you're shy around him, you need to loosen up, and realize you've been with this guy 8 months, you shouldn't be shy. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and I'm honestly so comfortable, it's weird. He will come over and I'll have no makeup on, hair all a mess, and in pj's. I pee in front of him, fart, burp, everything. It's gross, but I know that he won't care. He does the same thing around me. I mean of course I'll doll up for him, to look nice and act like a lady most the time, but I know that he won't care if I act like that. So what I'm saying is, at this point in the relationship, you shouldn't be shy, you should be comfortable with him, that he won't care if you're a slob sometimes, and laugh about it with you when you are!
Hope all goes well sweetheart. xx
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Nope. Just because someone really cares for you, doesn't mean they will know the best way to care FOR you. Sure, he wants you to be comfortable and less shy, but that doesn't mean he is going to know the right way to help you get there or even that he'll agree with what you think is the best way for him to help.
People who really care for you can make mistakes, loose their patience, disagree with you and even just not get it.
If you two just can't connect and come to balance that works, then it might be a situation where no matter how much you both genuinely care for one another, you just aren't a good match for one another.
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