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all my friends have boyfriends & i feel so alone & i wanna boyfriend.
pretty much all my friends have boyfriends & i feel so alone & i wanna boyfriend. i've had things with guys but never actually had a boyfriend. what should i do?
my friend might sleepver friday & i wanna look for guys or somethin
melissa (17 female)
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Melissa , you want a boyfriend right now , so do I. I can maybe solve your problem, play anime dating games. They aren't real people... , but it's a stimulation.
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so you can't just set out and expect to find your perfect half. It has to come naturally, not forced. Just because you don't have a boyfriend it doesn't mean that you should be lonely. You can always go out and have girl's night out with your friends. Stay busy and have fun, your prince charming will come for you.
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You can't just look for guys, it's not that simple. You have to find a guy whom you are attracted to and create a relationship with him. And I cant tell you from experience that being needy like this will not get you a boyfriend, at least a good one. Guys hate needy girls, there favorite part of a relationship is the chase, and when they finally have you they feel accomplished. If you make it easy he wont want you.
I know being alone seems terrible right now but no one cares and it doesn't matter. I know from experience that you don't need a man to complete you, and there is no reason for being needy.
Just wait for the right time when you can actually find someone worth your time and develop a relationship with him, don't force it.
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You shouldn't try to get a boyfriend just because you want to have a guy on your arm. You need to make sure that if you do get involved with a guy that it is because you actually like him not because you want to show him off to your friends like a toy. We may not show it all the time but guys do have feelings and emotions to so be aware of that.
Basically what I'm saying is that it's ok to date and look for a boyfriend, just make sure it's for the right reasons.
I hope this helps.
~Andrew~
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While you might think hooking up with a random guy on Saturday is alright it may not be. Will you feel good afterward for doing it? Won't you be back to lonely and longing for something lasting the day after?
The problem is you want a trophy in a sense that you want a guy because well everyone else seems to have one. That's the wrong approach and why you aren't succeeding. Guys can sense the desperation even if it's not a vibe you think you are projecting.
The best thing to do is become friends with guys who are mature, not up to mind games, and someone you genuinely want to be around all the time. If you know some guys already see if they would like to get to know you better on a no-pressure date and see what happens.
Also, you could tell your friend I appreciate what you're trying to do about hooking me up but that's not for me. I want someone I connect with and that will always be around. Ask her if she knows anyone who would be a good match but tell her if that person just wants a random fling one night that you're not interested.
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