Member Since: October 19, 2012
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My leavers dance is in a month and i really want to take a date. I've already asked four different guys, the first one, his girlfriend said no, the second and third are already going and the fourth was unbelievably rude to me. I've given up hope because i don't really knw any other guys as im quite shy. It really sucks not having a date as every one else at school is so excited and i just want to take someone so badly. This is my leavers dance, i want to have a blast. i i don't find one maybe i just won't go. I just feel so inadequate not having one (link)
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I think that if you really want a date than dont stop asking. Don't let those guys bring you down, your stronger than that. If you still don't have a date just go alone or with a group of friends. Don't feel like you need a date just because everyone else has one.
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should u wear jeans when working out? (link)
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Jeans aren't good to work out in mostly because they are not comfortable. Shorts or sweats are a better option.
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(Its a bit long but please bare with me) My case is a long distance relationship so i just wanted to see what you can make out from this and give me your opinion & advice on how to make us get together again:
We were in a long distance relationship for 15months, me (22) and him (35). I am a student, I am Indonesia but currently live in Malaysia doing my degree, my ex BF is English, working&living In England. we had a big arguments a week ago and he stopped calling me, I called him why and he texted me with : the arguments got him to think that our relationship isnt a proper one.He doesnt think that he wants a relationship where He only see someone 3-4times a year.Because he said that he's missing out on a normal life during the rest of the year,and he cant do normal things in weekends and cant go on his own holiday(bcoz he thinks that all his days off should spend for me, no other options).And he said that we have fun but dont really have anything in common. We're 13hrs away by flight and he went down to see me 3 times (once he stayed with family) and I flew over there for 3 weeks on my holiday (aug-sept2012)to stay with him and his parents.I really think we are something and distance shouldnt be a problem. I dont want to lose him because I love him so much. I think he's the one. He's great! But he said that he's not happy. It makes me sad but i feel like i do not want to give up. I am having hard times, ive been crying for over a week. and it really bothering my study.I dont like it because exams is coming soon after mid sem break. So, I have an idea,I still have the visa and some savings where I can put all the money (and maybe borrow from some friends) to get a flight tickets to see him in england for my next mid sem break (in 2 weeks time).I really want to see,hug him and have good time with him. I miss him so bad! and hopefully he will change his mind to be with me again after he see me fly over to england for a week just to see him. I want to tell him that we strong enough to make it works! its only 1,5years to go before I complete my study. Then Ill do anything that I could do to get any jobs where I can be close to him (because he is not willing to move to Asia) . He just need to be atience enought.But eventhough if he still not change his mind (still want to break up) then I think Ill be pleased to leave him in a good way (not texting). Im sure Ill feel better after and I can do well for study and exams.I love him so much! and I could tell you that he still loves me.
Do u think its necessary to do my idea? Or shall I just accept the reality to lose him and try another way to be not sad (But I cant figure out how)? I really need advice. I have a week before if I have to book my flight! Pls help me :( (link)
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If you were to fly to see him and surprise him I'm not quite sure on how he would react. I don't know if he would like you surprising him like that since you guys are not on good terms. If you think that this will solve everything than do it but I personally don't think it is a good idea. I think you just need to accept the fact that you guys are probably over. I know it is really hard to take but it will get better. He obviously wasn't worth your time. Maybe you can try calling him or something but flying to see him is a bit drastic.
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18/F I'm a greeter at Wal-Mart, so I interact with a loooot of different people on a daily basis. Well this one time later at night, this guy who looked to be about 30 and frankly, like a wannabe gangster pot-smoker, came in. I turned around when I heard the automatic door opening and kindly greeted him. He gave me a slight smile and walked past me, but he turned around and said, "You know, you have REALLY pretty eyes. Just thought I'd tell you that." Stunned, I said "Haha, thank you very much! Have a good night." and he walked away. He comes in about 2 or 3 times a week, and ever since he said that, I'd always smile at him when I walked past him, or greet him all friendly-like when he walked in. I just thought he was a nice guy, and I greeted him just like I greet the old people that come in. WELL, tonight I was returning some garlic bread back to where it belongs, when I saw him. So I smile and give a nod as I walk past. Well, I put the bread back, turn around and there he is. He says "Hey, do you have a number I could have so we could get to know each other?" I've never been asked for my number before, and he was so outright, I didn't know what to do. So I said, "Uuuummm... I don't know... How about YOU give me YOUR number?" So he asked if I had a pen and some paper, I said I didn't, but that we might have some up front. I start walking, and he follows me across the whole store to the front. I give him some paper, he rips it in half, writes his number down, and says "Give me your number too." I panicked. I've never dated anyone, let alone been asked out before. He seemed like the type that would call me a ton. SO, I wrote down my dad's old cell phone number which doesn't work anymore. He then asked me if I liked cage fighting. I said "Uh no, not really." and he goes "Well I'm fighting at the arena downtown next week, maybe you can watch one of my fights." and I said "Um, maybe!" then he asked what time I got out of work, to which I said I didn't know. I DEFINITELY didn't want him seeing the car I drive, or possibly have him following me home. He lives in the area, and comes in all the time, and what's worse is I'm a GREETER, so I'd HAVE to talk to him again. I thought about it, and I feel really bad... I probably shouldn't have done that, but I didn't know what else to do! I couldn't just flat out reject him, I see him all the time. After thinking about it, I feel terrible. So I tried to call the number so I could say something like, "Oh sorry, I accidentally gave you the wrong number! Things are complicated, and I'm really not looking for a relationship right now..." or something like that, but his writing's REALLY messy, I can hardly read the numbers they're so squished together, and when I attempted, I got some lady's voice mail. I really wasn't trying to be mean at all. I don't know what to do, or if what I did is right or not... Please help me! Thank you for your time. (link)
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I don't think what you did was wrong. Giving a disconnected cell phone number to someone you don't want to talk to is a good thing. You honestly shouldn't feel bad about this whole situation. You did nothing wrong. You were doing your job so you were obligated to talk to him. It does suck that you have to see him everytime he walks into the store but just keep being nice to him. If he gets any more creepy I would tell somebody so they can watch out for him.
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I need you guys to help me.I have a boyfriend who I love very much;he's my baby and the reason I'm happy everyday. Then,why do I feel attracted to other men as well?Since me and my boyfriend have very good sex.Last week,I was at my best friend's house and when he approached me to hug me,I felt sexually aroused when he pressed his body against mine:( This isn't correct.I know it,but I just don't know how to make it stop.Help?Thanks!! (link)
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Is the only reason your with your boyfriend now is because you guys have good sex together? I really hope not, I hope that you are with him because you have genuine feelings for him. It is common for girls to get sexually aroused by other men, but it shouldn't happen all the time. This only happened to you once which isn't a big deal, but if it happends continously than I would break up with your boyfriend and be single.
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18/F
There is a boy I went to school with that I have had a crush on for awhile now so we finally started texting about 4 months ago, and we Finally hungout one day. We went to this beach and smoked and had a really good time, it seemed like we had lots of chemistry. We kissed at the end of the night. The problem is that he is always busy. He goes to college and has a job and puts his friends before everything so he never has time to hangout or even talk. I text him first probably 90% of the time. So we hungout again about a month ago and we ended up having sex. That was a month ago and we haven't talked since. I haven't texted him and he hasn't texted me.
So basically i'm thinking he used me? He just wanted to have sex? When we hungout it really seemed like we had a connection and he liked me but am I wrong, should I just give up?
I really liked him though. (link)
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To me it is clear that he did use you. I would text him again just saying hey. If he doesn't reply than he did use you. Guys are pigs and will do anything they need to do just to have sex. They will even act like you guys had something just to get what they really want. I know that you still like him but you need to let him go. There are plenty of other guys out there that won't use you. You deserve a nice guy!
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A want a cute name for my boyfriend what would be a cute one his name is dany? (link)
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hmmmmm.....I think the name dany is cute already but I like to call my boyfriends my boo.
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i want to have sex with my best friend but he doesn't know (link)
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Do you think that it would ruin your relationship if you guys were to have sex? If you don't think that it will than I don't see why you shouldn't tell him. Do you want something more than just friends from this? If your only looking for him to hook up with than I don't know if that would be a good idea. If you want to start a relationship than I would tell your best friend that.
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17/m
My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 7 months now. She is 16. The last couple of days I feel like I am not interested in her anymore. I am not sure if it is some sort of "hump" I am going through. Sometimes I feel like i see her too much, we have been hanging out a lot as of late. Sometimes things she does makes me feel annoyed or bugs me. Things that use to never do that to me. She has put me through a lot this past summer and that is when my feelings seemed to have changed some what, i kind of got "numb" to her but when she got back from her vacation (which is when she treated me terribly and stuff) i regained some of my feelings, she lied to me though about some stuff and hid things. I forgave her and stuff. This past week or two some days I wish i wasn't with her.
I thought I loved her, lately i'm not sure. I don't get the same feeling of happiness when she calls or texts me or anything like I use to. Maybe that just goes away after some time? I question if I want to be with her but I don't know how to even bring that up with her cause it would crush her. She has lost a lot of friends and I am almost all she has. I don't know what to do. Sorry if this is confusing just trying to keep it short :p
Thank you for your help (link)
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Well I think that you did love her but those feelings are slowly going away. I give you props for forgiving her after she lied to you and treated you bad. But if your second guessing your relationship I would end it as soon as possible. I know that you don't want to hurt her feelings but you don't want to stay in a relationship that you are miserable in.
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So I have naturally brown hair but I get it highlighted blonde at a salon, but each time it's $150 and that's a lot for every month! So I really want a cheaper way to color my hair and I hate my natural hair, I love being blonde. But my hair is already so damaged, It;s pretty long right now but it constantly breaks off and I have so many split ends so I know it's bad to color it! But I really want to just buy one of those boxes of color from the store and try that but if it totally messes it up than i'm skrewed. Right now it is lots of different colors of blonde and it's really pretty but I hate having dark roots, but if I dye it with a box will it make it all the same color? I'm honestly just desperate to get rid of my roots, and I have tried the root touch up stuff but it's just so hard! What should I do?? (link)
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I think that you should continue going to the salon but find a cheaper place if possible. If your used to getting it done professionaly than it's going to be an eye opener when you try to do it yourself from a box. I'm not saying the hair dye from the boxes are a bad idea but they probably wont turn out the color your used too.
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I hooked up with a guy a like a month ago and we haven't talked since. NOTHING went wrong at all we just haven't talked.
I want to text him but I don't know what to say!
Should I be mean like Why haven't you called??
Or be nice?? Or not say anything... (link)
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If you have an interest in this guy than I would text him. I would just say hey haven't talked to you in awhile just seeing how you were. Or something along those lines. If he replies and is being nice than ask to hang out again. If he doesn't reply or is being rude about it than he obviously isn't the right guy for you and you can move on and stop worrying about him!
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I'm a girl and i am 16 yrs. old , and me and my guy friend will be dating very shortly and he has asked me for a kiss but it just never happened yet. I am 5'4 and he is really tall he is 5'11 , i never dated someone soo much taller then me but anyways i am soo nervous to kiss him i do not know what to do , i kinda want to make the first move so the pressure can be over but i don't know how to,i get a little nervous around him and he is drastically taller then me.... please help ! (link)
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You shouldn't be nervous around your guy. There is nothing wrong with making the first move but don't just kiss him out of no where. Make sure the time is right. Ask him to go out to dinner and start telling him how much he means to you. Than when the time is right (trust me you will know when it is) lean over the table and kiss him. It will be very sweet and romantic. Once you get the first kiss out of the way it won't be awkward when you guys kiss again this time standing up.
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Hey! 19/f
So my boyfriend and I are doing the whole (kind of) long distance relationship thing. It's not bad because he goes to school an hour and a half away and I see him every two or three weeks. It's been working out really well and I'm so proud of him.
Anyways, recently this girl has been giving him a lot of really obnixious attention, hinting that she likes him... to the point where it's driving me insane. I'll give you a few examples.
The first thing that happened was when she admitted to him being funny and charming... which is fine. I get it, my boyfriend is amazing, I know i'm not the only one who thinks that. Is it weird she said it? Yes. But he ignored it and then when I came up a week later, he went to introduce me and she cut him off and said "HI." to me really nasty and walked away. Later on apparently she put on a really slutty outfit and all this makeup and was looking for me.
A few things happened here and there... she came into his room hysterical crying one night and tried to get him to comfort her, she always tries to touch his hair, she left him notes on microsoft word and hacked his facebook when he let her use his laptop for homework,... etc.
Then one night he was telling a story about us and she was there, and when he said "My girlfriend" She made a face and went "Oh.... You have a girlfriend." And he told me that he makes a point to bring me up as much as he can, so she definatley knew... not to mention when I came up to visit.
Then she said "Come here and rub my neck for me, I think you should do things for me more." He said that all night she had been laughing really loud at his jokes, but he always just ignored her or said no and walked away.
This is when I got really pissed. Who the hell does this girl think she is? I trust my boyfriend with all my heart, but that doesn't mean that stupid things like this won't infuriate me.
Then last weekend... I kind of gave him a hickey on his neck unintentionally, and when he went back to school I guess she saw. She said "Oh do you want another one?", now she walks around calling him handsome and saying really weird things to him.
This is the part where I need help...
During all of this, I didn't hide the fact that I was upset and told him how i felt. I feel that if this progresses he should say something to her... but he feels that the only time he should do that would be if she ever cornered him and tried to pull something. I think that even if she's not throwing herself at him, her talking to him like that is unacceptable and it makes me really uncomfortable. I mean, something new happens every day. If it's not a big deal I dont usually get worked up about it, but I can only let so much slide before I explode... It's so frustrating! I friended her on facebook, a sort of indirect way of saying "back off"- but it didn't really do anything. I'm not the type of girl to start drama or anything, but this is seriously ticking me off! It's like this is never going to end.
I'm really upset and he doesn't see this as a big deal because he says that nothing will ever get in the way of us, and i know that. But honestly, i am so unbelievably uncomfortable knowing that she is always around him because they have the same friends. He says that he's just been giving her the cold shoulder and being kind of a jerk- but i need to know-
How should I react when something else happens?
Do you think he should say something if this continues/progresses? or would it just draw attention?
Advice? I need second opinions, thankyou so much! (link)
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You have every right to be upset about this situation. Your man needs to stick up for you guys. He is doing a pretty good job at giving her the cold shoulder but he really does need to say something to make sure he gets his point across. I think that you need to tell your boyfriend how you really feel about the whole situation. It is not good to keep your feelings inside, you need to get them out. He needs to know how bad this is hurting you. I think that if you show him how upset you are about the whole thing than he will definately say something to this girl to get her to back off. She is already showing a huge interest in him why let it get any worse? He needs to step up. Also, she is acting like she is coming after you. You don't want that. Get away from this girl. A possibility is that you and your boyfriend can both talk to her, maybe that will get the point across that he is YOUR man not hers.
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Is it normal for a 45 year old same sex female friend to want to share a bed and spoon? I am not sure if I am missing signals or reading more into the situation. Do friends climb into bed with you and then drape their legs over yours wearing just underwear and tell you if you were a man I would marry you? I don't know what to think here. (link)
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Do you know if she is lesbian or bisexual? I think she was trying to give you a sign. I mean girls are sometimes touchy around eachother but not to an excessive amount. We might like push eachother or joke around about cuddling in bed, but they normally don't say that if you were a man I would marry you. I think you should confront your friend about this and tell her your not comfortable with her acting that way around you even if she is just joking.
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I'm 13 about a month ago I saw little red dots in my underwear and now I see them again I don't want to tell my mom unless it's my period?? Help?????
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More than likely that is your period so there is nothing wrong asking your mom about it. I was nervous to ask my mom too but she was very cool about it and helped me out. Nothing to worry about!
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