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Is This Normal Or Am I MIssing Something?
Is it normal for a 45 year old same sex female friend to want to share a bed and spoon? I am not sure if I am missing signals or reading more into the situation. Do friends climb into bed with you and then drape their legs over yours wearing just underwear and tell you if you were a man I would marry you? I don't know what to think here.
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Do you know if she is lesbian or bisexual? I think she was trying to give you a sign. I mean girls are sometimes touchy around eachother but not to an excessive amount. We might like push eachother or joke around about cuddling in bed, but they normally don't say that if you were a man I would marry you. I think you should confront your friend about this and tell her your not comfortable with her acting that way around you even if she is just joking.
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I've got a couple of female mates of 23 and 25. (I'm a fair bit older and male by the way.) They're always cuddling up together in bed in pj's or undies and watching movies, chatting, eating hot toast etc. One (the closer and older friend of the two) quite often jokes about her mate being her 'husband' as it happens and says why can't blokes be like that? They're both very feminine, very attractive and like guys (which is certainly reciprocated too...kind of wish I was younger!) Now neither consider themselves gay or even bisexual, I know this for sure, we talk a lot and no subject is off-limits. Don't know what feelings you two have, but I can say in at least one case it doesn't worry the women involved one bit. Neither are considering it a lifestyle choice in preference to a male-female relationship and children when they're ready. Hope this might help.
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In today's world there has come to be a fine line line between acceptable and unacceptable; as opposed to normal vs abnormal. Being gay or bi is not or no longer considered abnormal. On the other hand it may be an unacceptable behavior or lifestyle for you.
Was you friend trying to send you a signal? Probably; if so by doing nothing or giving off any feeling of revulsion you sent back to her that what she was asking or offering was just not you.
My thoughts about what happened is not so much was this normal for her to do. In her world it might be, in your world it is not. The lines between the two possible worlds, if she is gay or bi or bicurious, have become very blurred.
The facts are she did it. By what you have written you were repulsed by it and that should be then end of it. Should she try again simply ask her to go back to her own bed as you are not comfortable sharing your bed with another women.
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