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Im 15 and want to be pregnant...
So I'm 15 and I want to be pregnant... I don't know what to do...btw I'm single. For the past couple months I've wanted to have a baby... I need some advice! Please help!!!
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Sweetie there is no need for you to have a baby. your extremely young and have no need for a baby right now. Why do you want a baby so bad?
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U are vry hornumy to hav sex right ??? K if any 1 is ready will u become pregnent
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you're way to young to have a baby. You can even stand on your own legs. Probably you should have a baby when you're physically, mentally and emotionally mature enough.
You are seeking for pleasure. Well not an option is to have a baby. You can babysit if you want to.
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Well you're 15, your hormones are the cause of this feeling.
You're also living under the care of your parents. You can't afford to take care of yourself. You won't be able to afford to take care of a child. Your parents would be the one paying for it.
I mean most people will wait to have children till they are older because then they will have their own place, a car and a job. Even then, it's hard to just take care of yourself.
So babies are expensive. Food, clothes, medical issues, diapers, furniture, clothes, ect. And it's going to be for the next 18+ years.
So obviously, you don't want to go through with it. Just wait until you're older, you'll be happy you did.
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My sister is 17 and she got pregnant at 16 at first it was all joy and happiness when she was going through the *im pregnant* stage but when she had the baby it really took a toll on her waking up nearly every 2 hours making bottles , nappy changing cleaning its all very much hard work plus its hard for her to go to college to acieve what she wanted all im saying is baby's are not just a toy and need 24 hour care and even when they are 16-18 you will still be looking after them then e.g. Feeding and clothing so if you consider having a baby at an early age you must put your future and freedom on hold
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I'm not going to throw out all of the logistical issues with having a baby at 15 because I think you already understand that logically it is a bad idea.
The problem is that your body is not thinking logically and your hormones are going to make you have these urges pretty much until you go through menopause. It is just a fact of life and there's nothing you can do to stop it.
I am 23, and I go through those urges too. I have not had children and I don't plan to until I am more stable in life.
Like I said, there's nothing you can do to stop it, but there is something you can do to mitigate it without giving into it (which I think we both know would be a bad plan).
What helped me was my dogs. Having something to care for I think helps to satisfy my nurturing instincts, and it definitely keeps the need to have a baby at bay.
I adopted my older dog (I have 2 now) at 15, so your age. My dad who did not really care since it was MY dog and I paid for her adoption fees and everything, but I don't know what your situation is or if getting a pet is possible for you. I'm not a cat person but I think a cat might have a similar effect for some people if you like them.
If you don't like animals then this is probably bad advice haha but it is what worked for me.
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No, You don't want to be pregnant.
At 15, You are legally still a minor. Babies cost a fortune, They are massively expensive.
Babies need diapers, crib, clothes, toys, medical, food, formula etc.
Do you have your own place? Have a full time job? Do you have a car that you pay for yourself? If these are "No" then obviously you are not ready for a baby.
You are still in school, You live with you parents and you do not have a full time job. This means not only are you legally a minor, You are dependent upon your parents and are not able to take care of yourself.
On the other hand, The average cost for an apartment nowadays is about $900 a month, Then add electricity which can be about $150-$200 a month and even more in the summer with the AC. Food is about $200 a month, Then that isn't including cable, phone and all your living accessories that you need for yourself.
Now add the baby
Diapers, Formula, Clothes, Crib, Car seat, etc. so by the time you are done you are up about $2200 a month maybe more.
Wait until you are older, Out of high school and have a steady job, car, and your own place. Trust me
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I don't think you will find anyone who will support your desire or give you advice on having a baby at your present age. I also think we all understand your desire as a normal hormonal desire of a young girls your age. Fact is while your hormones may be screaming at you one thing. Reality is telling you just the opposite.
There was a time when a woman 15 was having babies and considered a spinster if not married by 16. At that time 15 years of age is todays 30 or 40 years of age. Modern medicine keeps us healthy and alive much longer than our ancestors lived and those times where very much different than today.
At your present age you have not finished high school and college is still a distant dream. Today a high school diploma might get you a job at a fast food restaurant or waiting tables at some greasy spoon restaurant. You would be hard pressed to support yourself let alone you and a child working those kinds of jobs.
Actuarially speaking, which is your statistical life span, you should live well into your eighties or early nineties. Women today are able to conceive children well into their forties and some into their fifties. Meaning you have many years to have a child.
Having a baby is truly a bundle of joy. Though that bundle of joy is totally dependent on you for all of its needs and those needs grow expediently as grows from infant to child to teenager and finally to an adult.
Think about what your parent provide for you and what you demand of your parents. Yes demand for children unknowingly make many demands on their parents that are the parents responsibility to provide them. Think about this long and hard; then ask yourself is it right for you to bring a child into this world just because you want to be pregnant and for no other reason than that?
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Part of the fun of being a woman is that you can get pretty broody at times. That's because your body WANTS you to reproduce. You're 15, so you're at a stage where your hormones are flying around and kicking you right in the ovaries and that is normal. In times of old girls your age did have babies, they also didn't tend to live past 40.
These days, there isn't a rush to have a baby. The likelihood is that you're going to live until AT LEAST 80. That's another 65 years. Do you really want to look back in 65 years time and realise you only had 15 years to yourself?
Yes, people have kids young and often do a great job. I'm not about to judge anyone's decisions. But 15 is young. You can't even drive, or vote, pay taxes, get anything more than a part time job...Do you see where I'm going with this one?
It's okay to want a baby. Hell, I'm 22 and I am SO broody. Even if my boyfriend was on board with the idea, which he definitely is not, then our combined salaries barely stretch to feed, clothe and house the two of us, let alone a demanding infant.
Wait it out. Get a pet if necessary. One day you'll probably make an excellent parent, but not right now.
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I am a mom of two wonderful little boys, and although I love them with all of my heart they are a handful and can drive me absolutely insane. I am 27 right now and had my first at 23. Believe me when I say you are by no means ready for a baby. You may feel like you are, you may want one with all of your heart, but you are not ready. Trust me. Once you have a baby any freedom you have is out the window. Hanging out with your friends at night to watch a movie or go out for dinner...you can't. Baby has to be home early for bedtime. Then there's all the expenses: food, clothes, DIAPERS! They go through A LOT of diapers, and they are not cheap.
I dreamt of having kids from 9th grade, but I am so thankful I never had any before I did. Some days I wish I waited and I was 23!!!
So please, wait until you are at least out of high school, preferably out of college, and in a serious committed relationship. Having children is wonderful, but it is also filled with screaming, yelling, poopy clothes, catching throw up with your bare hands, and never having a free minute to catch your breath (and that's while being in a committed relationship). It's a 24/7 job so think long and hard about whether you are ready to give almost everything up.
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I can honestly say that I have been in this situation before and honestly, I am so happy I decided not to get pregnant. I am currently about to turn 17 and if I had a child two years ago, I would not be where I am today. One of my closest friends is about to have a baby and even though she is excited, she wishes she would have waited because she is so young and is not going to be able to support the baby all by herself without help. She works all the time trying to make enough money to give her baby everything she will need. Your teenage years will be over when the responsibility kicks in. Waking up at 2 in the morning having to nurture a screaming baby is not something to look forward to. You might just want a baby because you want someone of your own that will love you as much as you love them and being depended on knowing that baby will need you to live? I'm not sure but I do know, your life will be very much so stressful.
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