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alcoholic coworker thats not a team player
I work with a guy that comes to work drinking starts complaining and making facial expression at me no matter what I do or don't do....I do what I am suppose to do he has his own work to do but feels if we are not helping him....we are goofing off....we are only obliged to help him if nothing else is on the table....I also have other duties now which he seems to resent and complains about me and rolls his eyes....from what I understand it is a form of bullying should I come right out and ask him what his problem is? I do my fair share he would like everyone else to do his work....he only likes you if you do he is very childish and when hes not there everyone comments on how nice the employee morale is.
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If he is making you uncomfortable, say something. Do something. Even pull him to the side and call him out on his sh*t. It's hard to find a job now adays and if he isn't even working or even wants his job, remind him he could lose it and someone who will work and want it will take it. But the reason why I think you should pull him to the side is he might be going through something. I use to be a heavy drinker. I worked at Walmart and I thought instead of letting the stress of the job and some other things, I could just drink before and after work and I'd be "okay". Result I had a breakdown and quit.
So what i'm saying is talk to your coworker try to be there for them.
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Your boss likely knows that this is his personality and that he has a drinking (and or other) problems. But you are right in the fact you don't have to take the abuse, comments, anything that creeps you out.
Approach your boss or human resources person and illustrate how this person behaves around you and that you are uncomfortable and it affecting your job. Let them handle the situation.
It's 100% the wrong thing to do in talking to him yourself and especially asking him "what's your problem?" If you do that it becomes a pissing contest and a nasty one as now he has reason to tell others you went after him.
Your superiors can handle the situation and no doubt other people are or will complain about what he has done on their own or as a group. Hang in there it will work out but not usually not instantly. That's the trouble with human resource decisions. Try distancing yourself if you can as much as possible at work also.
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This sounds like something that needs to be taken up with your boss, the people who hired him. Perhaps the manager or boss is not on location enough and active enough in the goings on of his company or department and that can cause problems. Find out if others have issues with him too that are affecting their ability to do their work or at least affect everyones morale. And a group of you should approach the manager/supervisor together. It carries more weight than just one complaining.
For the most part, I would say to learn to develop a tough hide and just ignore his facial gestures and his comments. If I were you, I wouldn't be worried about such a person liking me or not.
Does he pester other coworkers the same as you? When complaining about you, is he just griping to you about how you treat him or to other co workers,or is he going to speak to the boss about it? If he is doing so while drunk complaining to the boss to try to put you in a bad light now it's personal, he's is trying on purpose to make you look bad. What we don't know is if the boss is ignoring what he says, just as he/she is ignoring that the employee is coming in drunk every day. If your boss doesnt care one way or the other, thats where your problem really is and the only thing that may get the boss to take things seriously and do his/her job is to have to whole lot of you make your specific complaints together. I feel this is better than trying to talk to someone to find out "what their problem is", all companies have policies that you don't bring problems from 'home or personal life' to work because it can and will affect your ability to work. There is nothing you or your co workers can say to such a person unless you have to have degree's in counseling or mental health or such and even then, this is not the setting where he should be undergoing therapy or counseling for his issues, that should be done on his own time outside of work. It is not the bosses job to become his counselor and fix him either, only restate the rules and warn him. If he can't comply and get a grip on his life, then he's out the door with them having all legal rights to do so.
I have seen a previous boss having to go through firing an employee (female) who wasn't carrying her load. None of us approached her, just went to the boss with our suspicions. She did minimal work and spent her time surfing the net all day. Everytime someone approached her desk, they noticed her switching screens quickly. The boss did a check on how many files she completed per day and saw it fell far below what the others did. When she had left for the day, the boss checked her trash can of her computer...the old days when there wasn't any 'tracking' software yet, and found lots of sites that she had visited that were obviously not work related.
It is best to go through the channels and approach ones boss. Although, I do know of one supervisor (male) of a department whom all employees had caught glimpses of his on dating or porn sites instead of active in the goings on of his department. In this case, employees having a boss who was the problem, banded together as a group to approach the president and owner of the company which resulted in that manager being fired shortly after. I can't say what your situation is exactly as far as sexuall harassment but there is definitely the slacking issue of not carrying his weight and that most certainly can be brought up as well as suspicions that he is very drunk every day. It would be good to have the employee go through drug and alcohol testing. It could be that he has some medical problem other than being drunk that causes him to appear that way. I believe I have heard of such things, people appearing to be drunk and not behaving quite normally due to a disease they have that causes these symptoms and behaviors. If such a person were still able to do their fair share of work despite erratic behaviors, then it shouldnt be a problem, and everyone comes to know that this is just a part of who they are and they can't help it. However, that is not the case here, is it? He is not doing the work. And all of you have a right to complain about it.
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