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Q: Hello.. I have a problem bc i feel i dont fit anywhere.I want to be that popular kid who knows everybody hangs out all the time and who ppl love.. Sure i have my firends but sometimes i feel like i have none,most times when i need someone i have noone.I feel worthless.. Why am i doing this? What is my goal? Why am i living this life?

I say that same thing everytime I wake up. Trust me, I get you 100%. But, being popular means that you have a lot of friends. It doesn't mean that you're necessarily close. It's better to have not a lot of friends, but to be a have close relationship with them! Every person wants to be liked by everyone, but it doesn't work that way. There's always going to be at least one person who doesn't like you.
The way you feel like you have no friends and that no one is looking after is just a normal phase that everyone goes through. I think though, that if you looked around, that you would find that there are many people that care about you. You just have to talk to them and tell them how you feel!
You are doing this because it's a normal phase of life that usually can be brushed off. As for your goals, you tell me! If you want more friend get some! You could join a club and meet people who have similar interests!
You are living this life because you are a special person and because you are here to help this world become a better place! Don't let yourself down, because you are worth it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!

Q: 23/F

Hello, I want to start by saying that I grew up in a house hold that everything got discussed and everything had a solution. Two parents that loved each other and did everything together. Even after 25+ years of marriage they would still grab the car and go places almost every Sunday. Unfortunately it all came to an end when she passed away recently.

But that's not why I'm here. I have been in a relationship for almost 3 years with a guy I've known for over 8 years. Started dating after talking for a good 6-7 months. Everything was great. We could talk for hours, hangout all day, we both love to dance even though I'm more of a dancer than he is. I could literally see him everyday and at the end of the day when he went home I already missed him.

Lately, a couple things have been happening. From me finding out that he has hungout with other girls with telling me to constant arguments about petty things. I hate arguing I think its such waste of time and energy.

Hes always going out of state with his boys for the weekend but the moment I decide to go out with a girl friend or even my older sister its suddenly an issue. And I honestly stopped going out because I didn't want to make him upset. Up until recently. I started going out again and I'm not much of a drinker so I am always conscious of what I'm doing and who I'm around. I go, have a couple drinks, see people I haven't seen in a while and that's it I come home. I feel like he thinks I go out and dance on all these guys and get sloppy drunk and flirt. But I don't.

I started to notice little things that in the past wouldn't have annoyed me but now I do. He always needs someone asking if he needs help 50 times before he finally accepts. Or if he's upset at me I have to ask 3 days in a row before I get an answer. Or the way he ignores me when hes around his boys for hours. I think its safe to say my feelings aren't what they used to be.

Thing is mom has gotten sick and even though I want to call things off and venture out I feel like I cant because of that. I love his mom and I think me leaving him it would probably drive him insane. I feel like this is such a sick relationship and I want to get out but idk if I should stay for the time being. Please help

You should leave him! Your boyfriend sounds like he wants to be dominant over you and tries to act like he doesn't need you. Not only that but, he feeds off of all the attention he gets. He wants people to need him.
One thing that bothers me is that when you are around other people besides him, he tends to get jealous. Relationships are not a one way street! It doesn't make any sense that it is acceptable for him to hang out with his buddies, but it isn't acceptable for you to do the same. If you really want out of the relationship, get out of it! Be selfish and think about your self! Think, what's going to make me happy! It's sad that his mother is sick, but life is tough sometimes! You have to do what is the best for you and then worry about others!
I hope you make the right decision and that you put yourself first! :)

Q: My friends did the challenge but we didn't know we had to say charlie charlie can we stop? before we could stop playing! Are we all going to be haunted until we die or just the person who first asked to summon the demon?

SCARED PLEASE HELP!

No the challenge was made to make people scared. Don't worry. :)

Q: Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself

I totally understand what you're going through. My suggestion is to put yourself out there. There has to be somebody out there that could be your future bff! Don't try to be friends with somebody that you don't want to hang around. If you don't find anybody at school, you can always get into after school activities! I met a lot of my friends there and they have similar interests to mine! Hey, if you do end up "lonely" you can always talk to me :). Also being a loner is not necessarily a bad thing. Put yourself out there and bring out your inner kid! I certainly do. :)

Q: I am a little embarrassed to ask my mum I'm 12 years old a male but how do I ask my mum to buy me new underpants?

The only way I can explain this is that if you need new underpants you shouldn't be embarrassed. Underpants are underpants! Everyone wears them :) . Just act mature about the situation and everything will be alright. I used to get embarrassed about it too, but if you tell your mom in a mature way I'm sure that your mom will get some for you and that you won't walk out of the house underpantsless. :) (trying to cheer you up with a joke and failing.) :)

Q: It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it.

I think it might have to do with the fact that people want to brag about it. For the most part I agree with you, PDA can be annoying, especially in front of children. The best thing is to ignore it. I wish I could really help you further, but I can't control the actions of others. :) I didn't know that they banned it in some countries though, interesting......

Q: ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice.

Being 10 years old and depressed is not a good thing. This is my advice for you.
1. If you are getting bad grades you need to bring them up. This may mean that you need to get a tutor. If you do this first however, I guarantee people will stop making fun of you or at least about your grades. Show them who is wrong! (ALSO IF THEY CONTINUE, STAND UP FOR YOURSELF. JUST DONT FIGHT THEM)
2. Get new friends. I know this might seem hard to believe, but there is more people out there! You can easily get better friends that will make you feel good about yourself.
3. Forget about boys! I know that dating may seem really cool right now, but it isn't. If you have someone at this age that you want to date, it is much better to be close friends with them.

If you do all of these things, most likely you won't be having suicidal thoughts anymore. Also, if you really want to kill yourself, think about it, not only will you hurt yourself, but the people who love you. IS IT REALLY WORTH IT?

Q: Personally, I have been very miserable all of my life. I have suffered from OCD as long as I can remember. I moved from New York to Florida when I was five years old. It was very traumatic for me. I have tried to commit suicide, but I just ended up in a mental institution. I do see a psychiatrist, but she does not help me. In fact, I only see her for the medication. I am absolutely miserable right now, especially with my job. I decided that I will no longer give any types of hints about suicide because I don't want to end up in a mental institution again. That did nothing to help me. I am going through preparations (getting my house ready, cleaning, trying to pay off bills).

Think about this; is killing yourself going to make everything better? I know how you feel. I have OCD as well and I moved from England to America when I was five. It wasn't easy, but I had to think about the positive things in life. A quote I have always used to get me through the day is "the sun will always rise and set no matter what". The quote means that even if you are having a bad day, the world isn't going to stop just for you. You have to keep on going. Besides, if you feel like your in a ditch right now, the only way you can go is up! Honestly, if you kill yourself, you are going to cause more harm to the people that love you than to yourself. Is that really worth it?

Q: I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me.

You shouldn't need to have sex at nine years old. You want to have it because you have racing hormones and you think it's "cool". Once you lose your virginity you could possibly get pregnant even your first time! You would be giving up your future just so you could have sex with some boy. Sex should be something you do with the person you love at a legal age. You may thinks it cool, but if people found out about it they would absolutely treat you differently and probably be judging. Your not even through puberty yet so you probably don't have your period. Sex is something you should not be doing. Your education is way more important.

Q: I am a 21 year old female. Every year around this time, I get extremely depressed. I suppose it's maybe "seasonal depression" but I don't know much about that. I just know that I am very morose and I don't know why. I love the winter months and enjoy the holidays, so I don't know why this always happens. I just lay in bed all day and have a hard time making myself go to class. I even quit taking care of myself like I should. It's such a struggle to shower, brush my teeth, put makeup on.

I've been dealing with this current bout of depression for about 2 months now. Then, 2 weeks ago, my father passed away. It's all I think about. I can't go see a therapist because I can't afford one. I just need to know ways in which I can help myself a little, and hopefully come out of this. Thanks.

I have never heard a word about "seasonal depression", but I know how you are feeling because my dad went through it. He wouldn't do anything and he would just lie in bed the whole time. Then, he realized that he had responsibilities and that he needed to support and help out with the family. Do you have any other family members that you can talk about this with? Sometimes it's good to here that your not the only one that has been through it and how that stopped depression. In my opinion, I would say that depression is more of a disease than anything else. My dad overcame it by seeing a therapist and since I know that you cannot afford it, maybe just try friends. Your friends may know somebody that can give you a discount. In my belief, it takes only about one appointment, but I guess everyone is different. It's strange to also hear that you get it during the winter. Do you know how you overcame it through the previous years? maybe a break or an inexpensive vacation may cheer you up. All I know is that you definitely need to overcome because school and happiness are precious and have to be earned! I really do hope that you will get through this and stop it from happening in the future!

Q: Hi, I'm 15 and started taking dance lessons a year ago as a school activity. I'm often told I'm good at it and I'm one of the most flexible in the class, but the teacher often gives me very basic and background parts if any at all, usually as I'm short and inexperienced. i get seriously frustrated when even the very bad dancers get more challenging parts. Most of the girls in my grade are the stereotypical "princesses" and make the rest of us have really cruddy parts or skip performances whenever they got the chance. They'd bully or have their parents intimidate the seniors into singling out and scolding anyone that doesn't agree with them in front of everyone, which happened to me.
Can anyone give some advice on how to deal with the drama? or how to improve on skills like balance or do things like turns etc.? sorry about the length, i really need help. Thanks for reading, i really appreciate it

I don't know how to dance, but I can give you advice on dealing with the drama. I would say if you are having fun keep on going. It doesn't matter what part you get, it matters how well your performance is. If you are not having fun and dancing is your passion, go somewhere else. A change of environment and people may benefit you. If you are not having fun and dancing is not your passion, just quit and find something else that you will love to do and that will make you happy. Any jerk that gets in your way isn't worth your time. You shouldn't care what they think and their mean actions and words should motivate you to keep going. I hope you continue to dance and have fun doing it!

Q: Me and my fwb have been seeing each other for 5 months now and things are pretty good between us. Lately he's been asking what I feel about us being in a relationship. He's asked a few times and each time I say I want to be but then he won't say what he wants or how he feels. There has also been a few times when he says maybe we'll be serious or be official but he won't say for sure. I'm not sure why he keeps bringing it up if he won't really do anything about it or is he waiting for me to say something? But I've already told him yes more than once so I'm not sure what to do. What do you think?

I feel as if he's stuck on what to do. Maybe he is scared of what everyone's reaction will be. I don't think he is waiting for your response, I think he is waiting for his own. He might be asking over and over because he might feel like he needs your definite reasurrance. It really depends on what type of guy he is. Since I don't really know, here is some questions you should ask yourself.
1. Is he an open book meaning like he likes to show off and be social and show his honest opinions or beliefs? Or he is the shy person that spends most of his spare time at home?
2. Does he always say he loves you and does he do little things to show that he cares for you and your relationship?
3. Are there any little, unoticeable things that could tell you that he is into somebody else or is secretly dating somebody else?

I hope that this helped you and I hope that everything goes well with your relationship!

Q: Hi. I am from India. 22/f. I recently brokeup with my boyfriend.actually i do not talk with him for a week. Because he always questioned and argued with me with my past. I do not told him about my all details about my ex boyfriend,because i was tortured mentally and physically by him. I current boyfriend do not ask me about all minute details,so i donot told him everything.now he heared some false rumour about me from my ex boyfriend's friend and he became mad.he always doubted me,treated me poorly and became verbally abusive.He thought i deceived him and i destroyed his life. What to do? Do i again call him and say sorry again?(i do it for 100times) i love him very much,wants to marry him. I know he love me but i cannot understand why he doing all this staff. He always rebuked me and considered me good for nothing!he doesnot think i hold any good virtues in me. What to do please suggest me.

Woah. This guy sounds horrible!
I feel as though you are in that stage where you feel like you are worthless and that you imagine that he actually cares for you. This a perfect example of a verbal abussive guy. Let me tell you this.
You are better off without him! Whatever he tells you is complete rubbish and if he beieves a bunch of baloney rumors than he is totally nieve and ignorant. You deserve better and he obviously has no common sense if he cannot see what is right in front of him. I would say forget about him and just start a new chapter in yout life. Leave all the pieces behind and whatever you do, do not get suckered back into him because that would symbolize that you are weak and to me, I think you are and could be a strong and independent young woman if you just let go and leave him and everything else behind.

Q: Please help. I love this girl, and I know "love" is used in many ways, but I just feel it, that once in a life time love. I truly love her! She said she liked me but she needed time to decide. Over the past few months, we've gone on a few I guess you could say dates, but still no answer. Then tonight, after I left her house she left her Instagram on my iPod. I didn't know at the time, so when I opened it up I realized it was her account. She sent a direct to a guy saying " you are my one and only forever" and calls him bae, vise versa. Please help! I love her so much!!! Please...

I would say she already likes somebody. If she wants to date you as well as him it's not worth it. Also, there is probably more than one person out there for you and you really need to think is she the one?
Here are some things to think about....
1. How old are you? Love can come at any time, but if you are young you have your whole life ahead of you.
2.Do you like her personality? Have you ever seen her when she was mad, stressed, or upset? If you haven't, do you really know her?
3. Is she really worth waiting for? If you could, would you wait a millenium for her?
4. Are you sure this isn't some sort of temporary crush you imaginined just so that you could have some drama in your life? Sometimes we all need a little drama to feel somewhat normal.

If you are pretty much like yes i love her and everything about her then just wait till she realizes that you are her match.

If you are like I don't know, maybe not then you should find somebody else or keep an out out for someone.

Q: Hi,
I met this girl on omegle. she gave me her kik id and asked me to chat with her....now she is threatning me to go to police. what should i do?

my advice is to...
1. Never go on omegle. That's how these problems start.
2. Ignore her. She probably doesn't mean it. Especially, don't reply to anything and block her.
3. What did you talk about or do? Make sure it wasn't inappropriate.
4. Stay calm. Whatever you do, do not reply to anything and do not let your emotions control you when it comes to the situation.

Q: I hope some of you will read this.

The thing is, I've been in a long distance relationship with my ex for 3 and a half years, and he broke up with me 2 months ago.
We have been broken up before for the obvious reason, the distance, but have gotten back together again cause we couldn't let go.

but when it happened 2 months ago, we made a promise that we would still be friends and have contact and be there for each other, just not that often. And this week he texted me for the first time since, saying that he had felt really bad lately due to some trouble that is going on in his life and asked me if we could talk one day, only if I wanted to of course.

And even though I still need more time to forget about our past and because that I miss him, I accepted. Since I know he would do the same for me.

We talked this night, and it was allright. He explained to me what was going on in his life that bothered him a lot. Family, work, ect. And of course I listened to him and gave feedback.

Other than that, I asked him how his birthday was in October where he turned 24, how I was doing, and about my next birthday in april where I'll turn 20. He even said that he would definitely like to see me on my birthday. I said he didn't have to, but he insisted. That made me happy regardless.

But the thing is, there were many times in the conversation where as soon as I was about to talk about something that had to do with us (which I wasn't even trying to do), he didn't want to talk about it and tried to change the subject. I have 3 examples from the top of my head:

1) When I told him how weird I felt with him writing to me, he immediately joked with it (not in a mean way) by asking if I thought it was because he wanted us back together? and I firmly said no, because it was still kind of a rude thing to say and because he didn't let me finish. Of course afterwards he said he was joking and continued to listen. I explained to him it was because I still needed more time to myself to forget, as he has agreed on when we texted, and because I kind of felt like he didn't deserve it for what happened. But that of course I would still be there for him, as he would to me. But now I'm sitting here thinking if he really thought that about me, or if it really only was a joke?.. Because I really felt looked down at from hearing that from him.

the 2nd thing is) When I talked about that, and after I had explained how I felt when reading it, he said that we shouln't talk about that and wanted to change the subject.

the 3rd thing) is after our "Allright"- conversation, and we were in the middle of saying goodbye, I said "well, see you next time I guess" and he responded with something like "Well, maybe, I don't know when but yeah", but then again told me that he wanted to see me on my birthday. After that we hung up.

It probably doesn't sound like all that much, but I guess you had to be there.

But I just really felt like from the way he was talking from these examples, he tried to show that he didn't care at all, and even tried to make me look desperate in a way.

He is a really good guy so it's not his style, and I think that's why all that stuff got to me..I don't know if it's because he didn't want to look stupid since he was the one who wanted me to talk to him about his problems or if it's cause he's "hiding" his emotions or if he simply doens't care at all.

I hope my question makes sence and I'm really grateful for you reading this.

I hope I can get some helpful advice from you.

My advice from what I have heard is that it's probably uncomfortable to talk about it. Your in that phase where you don't want to let go of what you had. You may never be really close friends because of everything you both have been through, but I hope for the best that the phase will pass and the awkwardness of talking about it disappears. Whatever you do, just make sure you stay positive and handle the situation appropriately.

Q: Hey im 18 and my bf is 19. Weve been dating for a year and 3 months now. And during this time ive never met any of his friends. He was home schooled so i know he doesnt have many friends but id like to meet the few he does hang with. I always invite him along when my friends and i go out or get together but he doesnt even invite me with when he goes out with his friends. Why does he do that ? Is he embarresed of me...?

Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable showing you his friends. He might not be embarrassed, he might just be scared what his friends will think of you. If his friends are home schooled then that could mean that they maybe wouldn't be able to handle the situation.Try to confront him about it and see how he feels about it. He may not feel ready to show you his friends yet. If he is embarrassed that could mean he's not really into you and that he doesn't deserve you. But, try to confront him first in a calm manner.

Q: Well at church I have this friend (friend A) and shes an okay friend but whenever her and my other friend (friend B) get together it's like I'm not there. It could be because I don't talk much but I talk when I'm being talked to. We also don't have much in common. But what really makes me mad is that a couple months ago friend A told me she was mad at friend B because she called friend A fake but the next week they acted as if nothing happened ( and she never even told friend B she was mad). I don't know maybe I shouldn't be bothered by it but I don't know. But all I know is that we used to be best friends going to each others house and stuff but now we barely talk.

I think it's time that you come out of the shell. Try to be more out there and start conversations. Friend a and Friend b don't seem to sound like your friends at all. If they start to ignore you then that means they don't care about you. If that's otherwise then maybe start to become closer. But if you don't have really anything in common maybe it's time to move on and make new friends.

Q: So recently me and my mom were talking, and the subject of me not being honest to her came up. now my mom is very big about lying and hates it and i know that so i dont lie to her very often. she think that im lying to her about something but i have no idea what. i kept asking her what i did wrong and she kept telling me to go to bed ( since it was like 11 o'clock) and talk to her once i tell her the truth but i have no idea what i did wrong. i also feel like shes just trying to get me to confess about a lie. whats a tip so that i can get out of this mess?

Maybe you should fess up to your previous mistakes. Say that you have lied in the past and you feel guilty and that this time you have not lied. Maybe do something nice for her so that she feels better about the situation.If you really did not lie don't pretend you did because that will be another lie.

Q: Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and I don't really feel normal. For starters my breasts are too small and I'm short, so I'm physically falling behind all of my peers. I know that I'll catch up though, so that only hurts my self esteem, but I'll be ok. What I'm really concerned with is mental development. I feel like I'm too "hormonal". I Masturabate once every two days or so and I have sex fantasies and things like that (although I'm not going to actually have sex for a long time). It just concerns me because most of the kids at my school seem so innocent, like they don't have hormones, or fantasies, or anything. So an I the only one? Am I "normal"?

Trust me. It's normal. It's all part of the puberty process. Most people act like they are innocent but they're really not. They are just too embarrassed to admit it. Being insecure is also part of the hormones or puberty process. Your not through puberty yet so you still have time to prosper and grow and learn to become comfortable with who you are. Don't let anyone bring you down because you are beautiful inside and out!