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I'm not worth it..:(
Hello.. I have a problem bc i feel i dont fit anywhere.I want to be that popular kid who knows everybody hangs out all the time and who ppl love.. Sure i have my firends but sometimes i feel like i have none,most times when i need someone i have noone.I feel worthless.. Why am i doing this? What is my goal? Why am i living this life?
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Think we all feel this way sometimes. How do I quantify my value and worth? Worth what, and to whom? Why do I do what I do and where is it going? What's the meaning of this 'life' thing anyway? As someone who has no religious conviction my thoughts run something like this. All we are given is the rather cold fact of our existence. Our life is our ongoing attempts to impose some meaning, value and order upon our mere existence. The values and meaning we impose are up to us and in many ways, unique to each of us as individuals. We are actually all alone in this. It's a personal search. The very popular and charismatic person may struggle with the idea something like "Who am I exactly, myself? Am I only here to amuse and entertain others?" So the meaning of life is basically that it has no meaning at all, other than that which we impose on it ourselves. ps Can't claim to have arrived at this profound observation myself. Brilliant Swiss psychologist (philosopher, even?) Carl Jung sussed this out. Took until he was 84! Your life is yours to form and forge into any shape mate.
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Ok speaking as someone who was viewed in juinor high and high school as "popular" its really not all its cracked up to be.
Really those people that follow around that popular guy do it because they themselves dont know who they are yet, arent secure with themselves and want someone who IS so badly that they are willing to blindly follow someone who comes off as such so that THEY can seem like their "with the guy that is" and this is perceived as "cool" see? its really a huge front, a mask, and a totally lie. the guys do it and so do the girls.
NOW, that we're past that, the best way to make friends with LOTS of people is to BE EXCEPTING and allow everyone including new people to come hang out with you in your group. Be the leader, say "its ok you can come sit with us!" during lunch or wait in line with you and your friends, and pretty soon your group will grow so big that it WILL get noticed and even the popular people will want to know why! ; )
if someone says they want to kick someone out of the group ask them why, hear them out, and say if you can give us all a good enough explanation then MAYBE youll do it. and then just say, "thats not a good enough reason your being petty and childish" and then never do it unless that person really HAS something unspeakable and then its up to you and your group to say good bye. Ignore that person at least for a while until things blow over and then if they come to you and ask to be let back in.
The other thing you need to remember is that those popular kids are still just as human as you are, they are people too so dont put them up on a pedistole and act like they are a god because they arent and if you talk to them or go up to them for something, you may just find out why they are so popular and it may not even be for the right reasons. They could be totally mean and a bully in which case they should be the opposite of popular and word will usually spread fast that they are mean and not even cool.
alot of the cool people who are "known" later way after that is the people who were very accepting of people, forgave them for things they may have messed up on and remained civil with them even after the mistake was said and done. Remember younger kids always wanna look, and act older, and sometimes they do it by trying to smoke or drink, but what they dont know is that they can also do it by acting MATURE, and like an adult in other ways!
try it and see how you do. stay calm, stay chill, and forgive people when they say something dumb, dont say anything just give a blank stare. you can never say the wrong thing if you dont say anything at all. ; )
hope that helps.
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I say that same thing everytime I wake up. Trust me, I get you 100%. But, being popular means that you have a lot of friends. It doesn't mean that you're necessarily close. It's better to have not a lot of friends, but to be a have close relationship with them! Every person wants to be liked by everyone, but it doesn't work that way. There's always going to be at least one person who doesn't like you.
The way you feel like you have no friends and that no one is looking after is just a normal phase that everyone goes through. I think though, that if you looked around, that you would find that there are many people that care about you. You just have to talk to them and tell them how you feel!
You are doing this because it's a normal phase of life that usually can be brushed off. As for your goals, you tell me! If you want more friend get some! You could join a club and meet people who have similar interests!
You are living this life because you are a special person and because you are here to help this world become a better place! Don't let yourself down, because you are worth it and don't let anyone tell you otherwise!
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Hii,
I'm assuming you're a teenager. Everyone has a goal in life. Never question why or what you're doing in "this" life because again everyone has a purpose. Being the popular kid isn't always has easy as you think. I wasn't exactly popular in school but somehow everyone knew me. I wasn't exactly in one "click" I talked to everyone. The Goths, the jocks, the nerds... I always found I couldn't just hangout with one group of friends because I don't just fit into one group. Maybe you don't have to either. Maybe you just have to step out of your comfort zone a little and make new friends. With popularly comes a lot more than just knowing people. Trust me. Just be yourself and be happy once people see that they'll want to know more about you :) Hope this helped a little
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