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Hello.. I have a problem bc i feel i dont fit anywhere.I want to be that popular kid who knows everybody hangs out all the time and who ppl love.. Sure i have my firends but sometimes i feel like i have none,most times when i need someone i have noone.I feel worthless.. Why am i doing this? What is my goal? Why am i living this life? (link)
Hii,

I'm assuming you're a teenager. Everyone has a goal in life. Never question why or what you're doing in "this" life because again everyone has a purpose. Being the popular kid isn't always has easy as you think. I wasn't exactly popular in school but somehow everyone knew me. I wasn't exactly in one "click" I talked to everyone. The Goths, the jocks, the nerds... I always found I couldn't just hangout with one group of friends because I don't just fit into one group. Maybe you don't have to either. Maybe you just have to step out of your comfort zone a little and make new friends. With popularly comes a lot more than just knowing people. Trust me. Just be yourself and be happy once people see that they'll want to know more about you :) Hope this helped a little


I am going to be a 6th grader soon, any tips or advice? (link)
Hii :),

Only one thing you can do, be yourself. And never be ashamed of that. No one can take that from you. Never limit yourself to only hangout with one person unless you really want to (haha). One more thing, do the best you can academically. I'm sure your parents will appreciate that. Hope you have a wonderful year


I have a friend who i've known for a couple of years. He has been a great help to me when I needed it the most and when I needed someone to talk to. Unfortunately, he's also crossed boundaries with me many times. Coming onto me sexually, asking me lots of questions as if he's keeping tabs on me, etc. In the past i've told him how I felt and he's backed off a bit but before long the questions come again. I feel like I can't get rid of him because he knows intimate details about my past. I'm worried that even if I attempt to end our friendship directly by telling him, that he will try to use something against me. This person no longer feels like a friend. It feels like someone who just wants to intrude upon my life by asking me about my whereabouts and just other personal things. He wants to hang out but i'm not really interested. I've done away with my text messaging and he no longer has my number but he does have my email. He still pops up at least once a week and when I get a message from him, I feel honestly sick to my stomach.

I've done my best to distance myself from him without being mean or telling him directly to leave me alone. I just wish I could word an email somehow that let him know that I care for him but that I just think we both need to go our separate ways. I'm scared though.

For the info, i'm a gay male and he is too.

Any advice would be helpful. At this rate, the only safe thing I feel I can do is just be very slow to reply to his emails and make it short n sweet.

Please help.

~B (link)
Hello B,

Sounds like he has a crush on you and although it sounds like he's coming off to strong you can stop this. I would ask to meet with him. In a public place with a lot of people just in case things get a little weird. And tell him that you appreciate the friendship you guys have had but feel like its getting out of hand and you need it to end because its making you uncomfortable. If he cares about you that's the last thing he wants you to feel. Honesty is always the best option. Just need to chose your words so that you don't hurt his feelings either. Hope it works out


I'm a 24 year old woman who is not used to asking for anything but now that i need help, how do i put away my pride and ask my boyfriend for money. Please help me out#Anonymous (link)
Hello,

Best thing you can is be very honest. Just openly tell him why you need the money and ask if he can help out, if he cant don't get upset with him. Most likely mid way into the convo he will offer to help. That's what boyfriends are for (not to give you money) to help you when you need them the most which honestly, it sounds like you do. I know I can't put my pride away and I know I would only ask for something if I truly need it. Hope it works out


Scenario: My girlfriend says I'm exactly like a younger version of her because we have a lot in common, and it scares her because she thinks I'm going to leave her. She almost left me because she doesn't want to lose me from me leaving her. It's hard to show her that I really care and am loyal to her because
1. She lives 3 hours away from me.
2. My dad's trying to take away my iPod permanently, so I can't text her at the moment, and it's hard to get anyone to understand me.
I just want her to know that I'm devoted to her and that she means everything to me.

Question: How do I make sure my girlfriend knows I love her and don't plan on leaving her? (link)
Hello,

Well for starters I'm not sure of how old you are so this makes it a little complicated but I'm assuming you're a teenager since you didn't mention anything about driving to her. You start off simple, write her a letter about how you feel about her since your IPod is going to be taken away. You can type it or simply grab a pen and paper and write away. I'm sure she will appreciate that and best of all when ever she's in doubt of your feelings for her she can just go back and reread the letter. I know for me, since I'm a girl, I would totally love that. It's sorta romantic too. Hope it works out for you two




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