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Entering Middle School
I am going to be a 6th grader soon, any tips or advice?
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Hii :),
Only one thing you can do, be yourself. And never be ashamed of that. No one can take that from you. Never limit yourself to only hangout with one person unless you really want to (haha). One more thing, do the best you can academically. I'm sure your parents will appreciate that. Hope you have a wonderful year <3
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It was quite a while ago that I was your age but I have a pretty good memory for the experiences in my life. And now, as an older, and hopefully wiser person, I hope some of my insight might be helpful.
First off, as cliche as it is, you really should just be yourself. Some people will like you for you, others won't like you know matter what. Don't concern yourself with them.
The friends you make may last for years to come, the people who aren't so friendly only need be in your life for a couple of years, tops. So, don't invest too much time and effort in the "haters" if you will.
Good luck and try to enjoy the experience. After all, you only get to have your youth once.
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Sure, I'd be glad to share what was most important to me at that age and hope it gives you some things to think about.
I was shy, or had severe social anxiety as its called today. If you do, and many teens have that, it would be a good thing to start working on right away to get past it, get over it and become more outgoing. Some personality types are more quiet and introverted but getting rid of the fear to talk to others, share your ideas, feelings, stories without worry about what others think will pave the way for a much more happy experience during your middle school days. So hun, if you do have a problem with that, or with at least talking to guys, let me know by contacting me from my column, let me know you want the instructions on overcoming shyness and I will share that.
Another important thing to keep in mind, is that the hormones of puberty are raging through both girls and boys alike and since i don't know which you are, I'll cover both examples. If a girl, girls emotions get altered greatly at this stage by hormones and stabilize by late teens. What this means is that for no good reason at all, girls can become extremely sad and weepy, to the extreme of depressed and suicidal. this is the time when many girls begin cutting themselves. the sad/crying part is normal, the depression not and usually a sign that your hormones are way out of balance and causing you to feel and become that way. the other changes are girls getting easily angry or irritated or acting hateful, usually toward other close females, mother, sister, friend, even female teachers. It is important to know this, because of this emotional response changes, and guys can get them too, too much or not enough testosterone, that some middle schoolers will not be acting like themselves, or get mad at you, it helps to know its not something you;ve personally done wrong but their hormones out of whack. On the male side, the hormones make them horny all the time and wanting so badly to have sex. Guys in general tend to have a different emotional makeup at this stage of life, able to have sex because of lust, not love.
Girls on the other hand want the whole relationship, the friendship first or at the same time with sexual attraction, and its more often the girl wants love, not lust and being used for sex only. though I recommend waiting until out of middle school, the fact is many decide to have sex but are not emotionally mature, not lack any information, are not knowledgeable on anything regarding sex, both the functions of female and male organs, the differences in periods at this age, whats normal and whats not, how to prevent becoming pregnant, discovering what ones sexuality/gender is, etc. It isn't taught in schools anymore or very little taught at all. So I have something to share with you, a you tube blog site of a girl who started as a teen self teaching and learning all she could about the actual true facts regarding sex, gender id, dating and relationships. She is now in her 20's and even tho I am in my 50s, I find what she has to share, right to the point, entertaining, short video with real helpful info. I highly recommend you bookmark her, watch all the clips as often as you need and tell all your friends of both sexes about her as I wish I had something like that when I was your age. We didn't even have internet and computers yet back then. So you have wonderful tools if you realize they are there and easy to reach. Heres the website:
www.youtube.com/user/lacigreen
Another thing to keep in mind is that peer pressure begins to get strong at this age. Teens generally have a low self confidence or low self image, are always comparing themselves to others, worried about being liked or accepted and therefore willing to jump through all sorts of hoops to gain friends, and be accepted and have a good self confidence. Another things added into the mix that cause teens to make a lot of dumb mistakes at this age (hey I remember this age) is that while the bodys are maturing so they feel grown up, their minds are scientifically proven to be farther behind and will not be totally mature and done growing until ones mid twenties. This means, how a person reasons things, acts towards and treats others and their decision making are greatly affected to the point that basically mostly immature things are said or done or tried and it hurts the person and many others. If you can understand that others are going through this, its easier to not take things personally and hold things against them and also cause you to do more of what you already have, asking for advice. Your parents are a good source of information. Any issues you have, problems with friends, or even dating and understanding the opposite sex, or idea you want to do cus friends asked, are all good things to bounce off an adult you trust. So if the parents dont have time or care, find an aunt or uncle or grandparent or even a parent of a best friend of yours who knows you well and you like. Have frank talks with them.
Why do I share all this stuff when you were only asking for tips on being a 6th grader? Because all these things WILL affect how you do in school, in your grades, how you make friends, all the things that are part of these early teen years.
If you have any specific questions or something you're wondering about, contact me from my column and I'd be glad to help with them.
good luck and enjoy your middle school years.
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