I am/enjoy...
~ emo \(*~*)/
~ bisexual & proud
~ drawing
~ bands (any music really, but prefer bands)
~ writing (my wattpad is forever_gone13)
~ gaming
~ animals (my favorite animal is wolves)
~ making my companion happy and feel loved ^-^
~ meeting new people (even though i'm antisocial)
~ helping people
~ making YouTube videos (my YouTube is totalgamergirl1)
Gender: Female
Occupation: bisexual
Age: 13
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Things have been bland for me lately. At my current age and location I'm unable to work, get a license, or attempt to get my GED. For the next six months I'll be sitting all day every day in my home as I've done for the last five years. Even when I'm of legal age, I'll have no means of getting a ride to a job, and my parents say they don't want me working. This means no saving up for anything; even college.
Besides that, there's also the problem of not having anything to do during the day. Every day it's eat, sleep, study or play games. I feel so sheltered and frustrated sometimes, but what can I do? I don't have friends to see, and going places takes money that we don't have. Times like this make me wish I was in public school, just to have somewhere to go, but then I remember I have no confidence.
What else is left to do when all I can do is lose count of the weeks I haven't been outside? (link)
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Well, love, I know what it's like to have nothing to do, but lets start off at number one.
Take some time to question yourself about some favorite hobbies of yours? Perhaps you may want to try new hobbies? Some of my hobbies include:
~ Writing (stories, poems, songs, etc)
~ Gaming
~ Listen to music (music really helps with your mood)
~ Drawing
You said that you feel frustrated sometimes. If you feel like blowing off steam, take your frustration out by drawing, writing, or doing something you love to do. Who knows? Maybe you'll create the world's next favorite thing!
If you want to ask me something else or you'd like to get more info, you can contact me at: mandi.koehl@yahoo.com or totalgamergirl1@yahoo.com
Hopefully I helped in some sort of way c:
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you say it is selfish to commit suicide. you must not have had chronic pain or be so lonely nothing matters. it is people like you that are selfish. you pretend there are no issues and would like a loved one to live in pain or depression just because you do not want to lose them. life with depression is difficult or chronic pain is unbearable. there is no quality of life. you are the selfish one (link)
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You didn't exactly give me an age here, so I don't know if I can relate to it, but I'm an emo 13/F and I normally tend to be depressed, especially now. I always feel like crying, cutting, puking, and etc. I've also thought about committing suicide. I mean, I'm worthless, so who needs me? But then I look at my little sister and my dad. What would it do to them? My sister says she hates me, but she'd probably hurt... and my dad would be destroyed. I may not have friends at school or friends anywhere for that matter, but I have family. The selfish one in the matter is honestly everyone no matter how you put it. They won't understand your pain and depression, but you destroy the people that care about you severely when you take your life. Im not you, so therefore I can't make decisions for you, but don't do suicide. No matter how you look at it, everyone's selfish when it comes to suicide.
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22 year old girl.
Been in a relationship for the past 2 and a half years with a guy that is 24 and is great. Funny, intelligent, ambitious, and caring. And things were wonderful until I found out he was talking to another girl ..Texting, snap chatting, face times.. I talked him he apologized. He then went to the movies with a girl that he went to middle school with that he hadn't seen for years and used to crush on her to "catch up".. He then went out of the country and met up with the girl that he was constantly face timing and texting.. That bothered me... I started to get very fed up and stopped caring as much. recently went out with a friend and met this one guy who is a cop. We kind of have the same history and let me tell you that every time I see this guy my heart starts racing.. I love talking to him and how much of a gentleman he is and I just feel so safe around him.. My feelings for my boyfriend are starting to fade and I just don't know what to do.. Advice greatly appreciated (link)
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Hun, you know that your boyfriend isn't probably remaining loyal, and I think you've found the man your meant to be with. Leave your boyfriend and be with the man that makes your heart race c: Hope I helped
~ Mandi
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I don't know how to tell my dad about my period (link)
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Well, hopefully you didn't start yours like I did XD You must be a teenager, so I can relate because I'm 13. Every girl starts to develop their maturity at some point, and that means wider hips, bigger chest, acne, and every girl's favorite thing in the world... periods. Anyways, all you need to do is say, "Hey, Dad, I started my period and became a woman." More than likely, you're dad will understand and buy you the feminine products you need. I hope I helped c:
~ Mandi
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Today has been a really big mess. My dad's mistress sent a text to my mom, it was a picture of my dad naked. He has been having an affair for a year. She wants him to leave us and move in with her. he says he's trying to end it with her and that she's been blackmailing him for months. I'm 19 but I still live at home, it is REALLY breaking my heart. My dad is my hero, the kindest most giving person ever. Finding out he has done this is just....devastating. I feel so bad for my mom. She doesn't know if she's going to leave him or not, and that's beside the point. I don't know how to think of him now? I feel so hurt whenever I look at him. He keeps saying when you lov esomeone you forgive them. It was a YEAR it wasn't a one time thing. He also gave her thousands of dollars, which we didn't have to give. There are a lot of other horrible details as well. I don't know what to do. How can I trust him again? He didn't even hang out with my little brother as much during the time because she would get mad. I know he didn't cheat on me but it sure feels like it. My heart hurts. He doesn't even seem like the same person. I don't know what to do. She also keeps messaging me trying to upset me. She has threatened to show up at our house. My head is throbbing I have cried so much. (link)
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Let me start off by saying I am so, so, so very sorry that you're having to go through this. I've been through this same thing when I was 1-3 years old. My dad knew my mom was cheating on him with the neighborhood, but he wanted my sister and I to grow up with a mom, so he allowed. It's horrible situation, no matter what age you are. You're father needs to understand that an year affair has much more of an impact than what a one night stand or one time thing would, so "when you love someone, you should forgive them" isn't really the best thing for him to be saying to try and help his case. If he was a loyal man, he never would have cheated on your mother in the first place. Block his mistress or tell the police. It might take you a few years to trust your dad again... things like this tend to ruin multiple relationships, not just one. The best thing to do is try your best to talk to him, but give yourself time when you need it... it'll be hard. I hope this at least helped a little.
~ Mandi
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Hello, I'm 21 years old and I have noticed that since I can remember most likely sophomore year in high school that I check out a lot of girls. I look more at girls than guys. I have only had boyfriends my entire life and I was always attracted towards them. However, I have kissed a couple girls and again, same attraction. Could I possibly be bi? I'm not sure if this is a phase.. Please advice. Thank you (link)
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If you have the same attraction to women as you do men, then yes, you're most likely bisexual. Also, I know a lot of people don't accept the idea of same sex couples, but don't let that bring you down. No matter who you like, embrace it.
I hope I helped, milady,
~ Mandi
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I have not HEARD from him since 28 of June wtf.?i asked u ever liked me and he said duh yea. we can try . next day he ask me you wanna come see me I got mad cause we 38 miles away and he should of asked it nicer and my RESPONSE was na no. he said playing games is gay and stop texting me and I was like no more.
I miss and I ain't texting him
what is happening
I wish so bad he could text me does he have any idea
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He sounds like...
1) He has no respect for men/women (you didn't mention your gender which makes it a little difficult)
2) He's a player
3) He's only trying to use you for something to do
Even though you miss him, you deserve way better. The best thing to do is find someone who's worthy of your time, maybe closer, and definitely more polite. I wish you luck c:
~Mandi
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I'm a sixteen year old female, and the guy I will be mentioning is a seventeen year old male.
I met him online, and we've been talking a lot ever since we met. I like said guy, and he likes me too.
Here's the problem: I live in the United States and he lives in Russia. We're both a little hesitant about the distance, and neither of us know what to do. Any advice? (link)
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I'm a 13/F and I tend to do long distance relationships. The best and most important thing to do first is to make sure he's truly who he says he is. Try these:
~ Skype
~ Facetime
~ Oovoo
~ An app that tells you if the picture was taken right then, such as kik
~ Talking on the phone
Even though trolling may/can be fun, it can hurt the person/peoples it's happening to awfully. Next, find something to do that relaxes you, such as a warm shower or a favorite hobby, so you can ask yourself questions and answer them honestly. Some questions to consider:
~ Do I truly love this man?
~ Do I want to one day meet this boy?
~ Am I going to be both loyal and faithful in this relationship?
Long distance relationships are challenging, and they require patience. I'm sure you're an amazing, intelligent, beautiful, sweet young woman that doesn't want her heart toyed with, so I will warn you, you never know if the other person is cheating on you or being unfaithful, so make sure that you trust your heart to him. I hope I helped, and I wish you both the best of luck and that it works out.
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Okay so I asked a question about losing my best friend because of my depression. I'm writing her a letter to say I'm sorry this is what I've writeen so far: Okay so like I'm really sorry. For everything. Like for being so down and whatever. Like I realzie it was stupid to get mad at you for saying its hard to be my best friend, because it is, and I know that. I can't blame you for not wanting to be best friends anymore. And I know it must be hard to be with someone who's down all the time, especially best friends with them. I understand if you'd rather be best friends with tristynn, because she has like no problems and she's always happy. I really miss you.. I'll try not be so down and stuff, I'll do anything to keep you as a best friend and not lose you,even though I already have.. To be honest, I was jealous that you and tris are better friends than me and you. I've like not been able to sleep lately because I'm so upset about all of this.
What else could I say? It feels like I'm losing her to these two girls chloe and silky, and then our other friend tristynn. She knows about my cutting and bulimia. (link)
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For situations like this, the best thing to do is to write down what you truly feel and what comes to both heart and mind. Depression is something everyone has at times, but don't let it defeat you. Your letter is really good.
~Mandi
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My boyfriend has had trust issues with me. He believes I violated him multiple times with the same issue, which I have, in a way, with another guy. You see, I'm in a little local band within my community and one of the members and I were close friends. I went through some problems with the "boyfriend" I have now and the other guy was just trying to be a good friend to get me through it. He eventually started to develop feelings for me. I told him I didn't like him like that or would ever see myself with him. At first he was upset. (He wasn't too fond of my boyfriend, though we're all in the same group together) But he eventually got over it and told me he'll be there when he needs me. My boyfriend was furious that I even let the other guy into my life to try to turn my mind away from him. We had lots of issues, my boyfriend and I, and he was being really neglectful. He left the state for months to get away from me at the start of our relationship, when I thought things were getting better. When he came back permanently, I welcomed him back with open arms but he told me that I had to give up talking to the other guy completely. Tell me if it makes sense that for someone who I have to see all the time, I should stop talking to him completely? For someone who's done nothing but be there for me, I had to stop talking to him. His only mistake he ever made was falling for me. And he knew it. But my boyfriends hatred for him never went away. I did speak to the other guy on occasion behind my boyfriends back, because I knew I was doing something wrong but neglecting him. My boyfriend doesn't see it that way. He threatened to leave every time he found out we've been talking. Some drama happened within the band lately and it was sparked by me unintentionally (lesson learned) and I carried some news to the other guy. My boyfriend learned of it and hates me now, says I never stopped talking. Thing is, he said he doesn't love me anymore but doesn't want me to leave him. Says I have to try to gain his love again but he doesn't expect it will happen. He curses and me, calls me names, taunts me, tells him I'm worse than dirt but he doesn't want me to leave him. My boyfriend isn't perfect, he has a LOT of faults in himself, many which have been pointed out by other people that I've seen for myself and yet I still love him. Even with him being nasty and rude to me, I still love him. I know you will say I shouldn't stand for it but I want him to love and trust me again. It will take time. Am I wrong for still having faith? He will make me suffer for it but I think I deserve it. I left the band and so did he and others for drama reasons. I don't know what to do. I hate myself so much for what I did and my bf has even supported my hatred in myself. What do I do? (link)
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I understand that you have feelings for this guy, but he honestly isn't worth your time. Women are not to be considered "property" like they were back in the older days, and he's breaking this rule by treating you like he owns you and you belong to him. It'll only get worse if you stay with him. A woman deserves to be respected, and he apparently doesn't get that because he's too immature for relationships. You're an amazing, intelligent, beautiful young lady her deserves to be treated with respect. He's trying to play a game that he knows he'll never let you win at, and he's only playing it so he doesn't have to give you up.
~Mandi
P.S. No one should hate themselves... especially because of the guy they're with.
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Why won t he text me?
I met this guy about a month ago at work, when I first started my job. We began hanging out outside of work and I thought it went really well. This has been going on for about a week. There was one point we hung out FOUR days in a row. Not pushed by me... It just happened. He would text me all day, even at work, sending me sweet texts. We went on our first official date Friday. He planned everything. We went to a really nice restaurant and held hands at dinner. Went back to his house and cuddled and watched a movie and told me how pretty I was. Toward the end of the night he started acting weird. I tried to come on to him, and he just gave me a few kisses then I left. He's been MIA since. I gave in and texted him first Saturday and he seemed so disinterested. I didn't want to appear desperate so if he didn't reply, I didn't text him. It's now Sunday and I haven't heard from him. I'm just confused how he could act so interested and then drop off after a seemingly great date. And we have sooo much in common, so I'm confused. Maybe it's because we work together? Should I reach out to him and ask what's up? (link)
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Perhaps he received bad news. Maybe he began to feel guilty because he's a player and he knows he'll only hurt you, but he really likes you, so he doesn't want to. Just give him a little time and maybe he'll come around.
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It's like that the curvy part. does anyone know how to do that? please explain on steps thank you (link)
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Salons normally have books with hair styles in it that you can show the person cutting your hair. You could also bring in a saved picture on your phone or in a magazine. More than likely, they'll know how to style your hair like Taylor's.
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What does it mean if you cry over a boy every night while he has a girlfriend but he isn't happy with the girlfriend because every night he cries at night because he misses you? (link)
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It probably means that he still has feelings for you, but if he's an ex, make sure you consider the thoughts of who left who and why. Make sure he actually LEAVES his girlfriend before trying to make moves and hit on you also. It wouldn't really be fair to you or her if he didn't.
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Lately my husband has been picking fights with me over anything and everything. No matter how small, it turns in to a knock down drag out ending with him telling me I should just go to my moms or telling me I should probably leave. It seems like he is always tip toeing around things while he waits for me to actually say them so I can be the bad guy. He may say "You just need to get your stuff and go to your moms, its not working out" and I'll say something along the lines of "fine if that's what you want ill get my things" and he will follow up with something like "you always leave". Then thirty minutes later he just acts like nothing ever happened..It makes me feel crazy. I don't feel like I should have to beg him for forgiveness over petty fights that turn in to him telling me to leave. It feels so immature and its hurting me. How do we get over this or can we? (link)
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Arguing in relationships is both normal and healthy, but if its happening every single day/multiple times a day, there's something wrong. Has he been leaving for no reason lately or texting much? Maybe he's trying to get you to leave because he's feeling guilty for having an affair on you or something? Then, he's just trying to turn it around on you so he doesn't feel as bad? Most likely, the best way to do this is try to tell him your feelings, no matter if it's a text, written down on paper, or talked about face to face. You need to make sure he knows that it's hurting you severely. Perhaps, leaving to your mother's for a few days would help him understand that he needs you and that he's acting childish.
~Mandi
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I've been seeming this guy for 1 year now. and he has always liked me since day 1. Now. He has a friend who is a girl. I asked him how he met her and he said that theyve talked dating while we broke up (almost 4 months then got together again). He hooked up her SNF my friend together. We went on double dates together. And I've noticed how much they talk to each other. And the way he looks st her.The way he looks at her, the way he talks to her. I don't read their messages but he always texts her. He doesn't talk to bestfrined as much as her.and i know he likes her becsuse she told me. His ex use to text him all the time and he didn't let me read the texts. She use to send him hearts too. I told him to delete her off his Snapchat, she was back on there. He won't even let me touch his phone. But I believe when he tells me he loves me. He knows how I feel about these virls. Yet he just doesn't seem to stop.and its makes me feel like someplete shit. What does this mean ugh (link)
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It probably means that you have a feeling he's cheating on you (which is most likely the case), but you're heart has feelings for him, so you're trying to dispose of the idea. You're probably an amazing, intelligent, beautiful young woman and you deserve better. I know it might hurt to hear this (well, read this), but you'd be better off dumping him and finding a much more respectful person to be with. He's nowhere near being worth your time, milady.
~Mandi
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Hi. My friend is in a position. Ok so this girl she knows recently got a broken ankle and that really sucks for her. And another friend of mine is jealous that she has a cast. She's never had a broken bone before. And this friend also does gymnastics. She's trying to get herself a broken bone do she can get herself a cast. I want to give her advice but I got nothin. I went through a stage like this myself, but never broke anything. And my friend is not insane. I assure you. She doesn't want hate or reasons why she shouldn't (I already went through them with her). She just wants to know how to break a bone. (Foot, leg, wrist, or arm). Thx. Again SHE AND I ARENT CRAZY. Just a way to break it without making it look like its on purpose. (link)
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Breaking a bone can permanently damage it or ruin her career in gymnastics. Most likely, it won't be permanent, but there's always the chance. Make sure she thinks about what she's doing.
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I've always thought that I was straight. I'm a sixteen year old female. I've been watching this show and I began to realize that I had feelings for one of the female characters. Some scenes where she's kissing other girls really turns me on. I've also realized very recently that I have feelings for a girl a year older than me who just graduated from my high school. I've just lost interest in the boy I'd been crushing on for a few months and have been texting and chatting with this graduate instead. I don't know if I'm making all this up in my head or if I'm really bisexual. I don't want to make a move on this girl because I'm reasonably sure she's straight, plus what if I kiss her and it turns out I'm not bisexual after all? (link)
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I know what you mean. Im only a 13/F and I used to think I was straight, but I had always had an interest in girls since kindergarten. Anyways, if you want to find out if you're truly into girls or not, you need to be with one, or at least kiss one. You can kiss girls in role play (if you use that like me), but that doesn't really answer your question. The kiss needs to be physical, but only when you're ready. After that kiss, you can determine your preferences. For example, maybe you're straight after all, or perhaps you're a lesbian. Most likely, you'll be bisexual, but prefer one gender over the other, like me. I'm bi, but highly prefer girls over boys. As I was saying, you need to physically kiss another girl to truly determine whether or not you like women, and get to know the graduate's orientation before you assume that she's just into men. Many people are straight, but perhaps she has feelings about you and is willing to try something.
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