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Hi. So in the fall, I'll be going into 7th grade. But this will also be at a new school. So there are 2 middle schools in my town, and all of my friends are at the smaller one, and I'll be moving to the bigger one. Technically this will be my first year of real middle school though, because last year in 6th grade, I was actually homeschooled. This will not change my level of work at school this year, because I am a very extraordinary student anyway, although I am worried about middle school itself. I'm a newbie, AND it's my first year of middle school when everyone else started last year. I won't know my way around, I'll be late for classes, I don't even know how their systems work and everything. I'll be the new clueless yet smart girl that everyone pities. I'm smaller and an easy target for bullies, but I can come back with extremely witty comebacks that makes them want to wish they were dead in a ditch, if that helps. But I need to know some important things that will help me. I already know how to unlock lockers and stuff, so yeah. Thanks for your time. (link)
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Hello,
well to start off you say you're an extraordinary student and that is amazing to hear, focusing on your school work will benefit you in the long run. you seem to know the basics, so i wont get into detail about how school is important.
secondly, if you do not know your way around or you're afraid of being late, make sure to come to school earlier. this is because starting a new school seems very intimidating and it is a little confusing to adjust to a new environment. come early and try to find where all your classes are. With an extraordinary student like you, you will be able to make friends very easily. Just be yourself and people will love who you are.
Also, i want to advice you to be aware of the people who make try to take advantage of you based on your achievements in class. try to find friends who make you happy and treat you right.
Honestly, i believe everyone gets bullied, even the bullies themselves. The best thing to do in that situation is to completely ignore them or try to talk to a family or friend about it. Do not instigate it further because that will cause more problems.
Just try to focus on your school work and make sure that you are prepared for what this school has to offer you. again you seem like you know what you want, but just take it easy and enjoy your middle school days.
Hope this helps,
-Sandy
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How do I make my dad understand how much he's mentally hurting me by taking away my iPod permanently until he can block chat sites? When he takes it away and blocks the chat sites, I can't talk to my friends or my girlfriend anymore, and it's really hurting me. I try to talk to him, but all he does in response is not listen and make fun of me. I really need someone's help right now... v.v
I am a 13/F (link)
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Hello,
TO me it seems like your dad is not acting like a parent and more of a child when he is making fun of you. Also, i know this is not my place to say, but have you talked to him? he may be just trying to look out for you and does not want you to get hurt. It could be his way of protecting you.
Something you can do is go to a public library or a friends house to talk to your friends/ if he is too strict maybe you can talk to a female figure such as an aunt or cousin to try to talk to him and convince him that it is normal to be talking to other people. He should not be expecting you to be a hermit all your life and rather to go out and be social.
Also, do you have siblings or anyone your age you can talk to about this that can try to get your dad to once again understand your point of you.
if you want to take the initiative and show that you are all grown up, you should have this talk with him and tell him that you will be careful or set time during the day to use your ipod. Also, im pretty sure if you have a computer you can also use it.
I Hope this helps,
-Sandy
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What does it mean if you cry over a boy every night while he has a girlfriend but he isn't happy with the girlfriend because every night he cries at night because he misses you? (link)
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Hello,
First off learning from experience, don't ever cry for a person unless they're hurt or dying. Some people are not worth your tears. Plus i heard it gives you wrinkles. i don't know how old you both are, but i'm assuming that you both are very young of age and that there will be plenty of boys later on in life.
Secondly, f he has a girlfriend, whether he is happy or not, should not be a reason for you to continue a relationship with him if there is a relationship, unless its a friendship. If he is in a relationship and he is unhappy, he should be man enough to leave. Also, please don't be the side chick because what happens and again through experience, a guy can tell you he likes you and misses you, but the girlfriend will always be a priority. this means that you will always be there for him whenever he fights with his girlfriend or when he gets lonely. TRUST ME HUN, no one wants to be that booty call.
Thirdly, a close friend of mine always told me to question everything. This does not make you suspicious or overbearing, but rather open to the ideas and opinions of other people. He may say he misses you and he may say he cries over you, but what if that is just a reason for you to stick around. remember you deserve better than that and no man or boy should make you feel like you're worth less than nothing. You are smart enough to realize that you do not need someone in your life who will treat you miserably or make you cry at night.
Finally, if he does end up calling things off in his relationship, do not be quick to assume he wants to be with you or that you guys can be together, because again if you do end up with him after the break up, you become what society calls the rebound and similarly to the booty call, no girl OR guy wants to be the rebound. Either way it both hurts.
Like i said, you're a smart girl, please make the right decision.
Hope this Helps
-Sandy
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18/F Am I crazy to be in a long distance relationship for about 6 months? We were close friends first but somehow it moved to another level. I feel happy and wanted when am talking to him and I guess he feels the same the thing is I feel like am being suffocated sometimes like I need a lil space but we are already that far how much more space do I want? He makes me happy yes but I don't see it going anywhere because we are not at the same place. I don't mind being by myself because I've never been in a relationship before. I wonder if its best to end what I have with him and just live my life until something good comes around. Am I throwing away something good or should I just move on? Please help... (link)
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Hello,
I have been in the same situation, where the guy and i were friends for 3 years and decided to take the next step. Needless to say, it didnt work out because long distance is hard to maintain and if you do not see each other more than once a year, it can be hard to work it out. Don't get me wrong, if you both love each other, do what makes you happy, but you stated that you need space from him even though he is far away and that you do not mind being alone. These are clear signs that you want to stay just friends and not date. there's nothing wrong with being friends and if you feel that you want to end things, then you can. do what makes you happy and comfortable. Also, if it is meant to be, then things will work out for the better later on in life. You're a beautiful girl, you should enjoy your life and your teenage years. when you get older you're going to wish you had them back.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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So a few months ago, I met this amazing girl. She wasn't like the previous dates, we didn't jump into things too quickly. I got to know her deeply, and I loved every part of her. We both knew everything about each other, even things we couldn't tell others. We understood each other in a deep emotional level, and had a strong love connection. We started dating after a few months of knowing each other, but one day she just went A-wall. She disconnected from society, all her accounts were still up like Instagram and Kik, but she stopped posting and chatting to everyone. A few weeks later I was blocked from her Instagram, and blocked from her Kik about a week after. Then she begins to post on Instagram again. I don't know what to do because even after all this I still have a deep love for her, and I don't know why this happened, I've been down for months about this. even with my current girlfriend, I know in my heart that she was the one. Can anyone help me? PS: I'm 14 (link)
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Hello,
Can i be honest, you're still young hun and i know that at this age you think you have figured everything out, but in reality you have so much ahead of you. It's hard to really understand women, just like it is still difficult to understand men. If she has pus herself away from you, just remember it is not your fault. Yes, im pretty sure she is different from the other girls you have seen, but you will grow up and you will find someone who will make you just as happy. If things are meant to be they will find a way to work out.
Also, you have to remember that at the age of 14, both you and her are going through a lot. what i mean by that is you both are going through puberty and your hormones are not acting right. you'll both want different things or she might get emotional for no reason. do not take how she's reacting as a necessarily bad thing, but more of her going through some changes.
If you really care for her, id say give it time but to be honest, you might change how you feel later on. Also, there's nothing wrong with being friends and seeing how things go. If you are down, i recommend you going out with friends or trying to keep your mind occupied. Just do what makes you happy.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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Well...i have two pairs of shoes i can only make three outfits with the cloth i have,i only have one hoodie that actually FITS!i ended up wearing it for a whole year.My teacher told the whole class to wear fresh and clean cloth i felt so embarrassed,everybody knew why she had said that my ex dad gives my mom 400$ every month he says he loves me but it sure doesn't seem like it..why?well he only bought me a pair of shoes 2 years ago and doesn't buy me cloth at all my mom mostly spends it on other shit...i end up asking her every week and the same excuse."We'll go shopping this month."it seems like she doesn't realize i need school supplies and clothes,its rare for her to me shopping,im 11 should i really deal with this shit?well anyways once we went shopping she always makes me shop at FUCKING P.S KIDS!even though she knows how much i hate it,but sometimes i actually find shit that's my style,she barely takes me to old navy it has shit that's my style,she always convinces me to buy cloth that i hate because shes like"Buy this one it matches these shorts." and shit,i once had to wear a hoodie that smelt bad and was dirty as faq to school just cause mom didn't want to spend a hour waiting it for it to wash,all the kids in my classroom could smell me,OH! and guess what my parents are to lazy to fix the boiler for hot water FUCKING FUCKTASTIC!right now i'm in my grandmas house :D BETTER THEN MY HELLHOLE I SO CALL HOME! ITS FREAKING BETTER HERE THERE'S A SHOWER THAT ACTUALLY WORKS AND THEY WASH MY CLOTH!OH WAIT!i have three jeans 2 shirts that fit one flannel shirt 2 tank tops 1 bra and the dirty HOODIE!I FEEL LIKE CRYING SO MUCH!THEY FREAKING FEED ME MORE THEN IN MY HOUSE!I SRSLY NEED HELP!WHAT DO I TELL MY PARENTS ABOUT THE SHIT IT I HAVE TO GO THROUGH!I REALLY WANT TO FUCKING MOVE OUT ALREADY!let's get back to topic now..So guys what do you think i should do? I REALLY NEED HELP! (link)
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Hello,
I can understand where you're coming from. If your parents were in a tight situation with money it would make sense for them to not be able to afford clothes. However, you claim that they do not buy you clothes or fix the hot water, which is usually a basic necessity. Like you said you're 11 hun. if you want to be treated like an adult show your parents that you're willing to go that extra mile. Also, i know that some parents are not into fashion, especially when it comes to clothes, but to be fair you also have to ask why they dont like the outfit.
As for the smelling problem, try getting deodorant or spray on to conceal the smell or try to get rid of it.I dont think you can move out officially, since you are not considered a legal adult. Also do you not ave siblings or an aunt or uncle that you can talk to.
you just have to be aware of what your parents interests are. trust m at this age you think you want it all, but once a person grows up, they'll understand where their parents are coming from.
My best advice would be to talk to them and see how you can settle this. for example, lets say you do chores around the house for $20 or so. that way you can save money while cleaning and you can end up buying your own clothes. Also you. Also, i know this isn't ideal, but some thrift shops have amazing clothes and you can get them for a cheaper price.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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Hey I'm still single so that's why I picked the name and I'm also 19 years old and white and a girl.
I really want a boyfriend but nobody has wanted to date me.
I would prefer a white male and I rally don't care what age he is as long as they care about me and who I am. (link)
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Hello,
I would say that it is not bad that you're 19 and still not dating someone. In order yo date someone you have to put yourself out there, get hurt and try again. Im almost 21 and i still dont have a boyfriend, but i try to meet people just to see what i like.
this leads me to my second portion of my answer. in order to meet someone you cannot be secluded and only expect a certain type of guy. you have to be open to different people from different cultures to really see what you want. I'm not saying go and date every guy on this planet, but try not to limit yourself to just one group of males.
Also, is there a reason why guys don't want to date you? i mean if you don't try, then they wont notice you. so meet guys at a pub or in school or at work. that way you're open to a variety of people.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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I'm 15 and I still haven't started my period...is this normal? All my friends say I should see a doctor or something but I'm to embarrassed! All I'm asking is if it is normal to not have a period at this age...thanks (link)
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Hello,
I would say that everyone is different. I knew people who got theirs when they were 18 or some of them at 16. I'm no doctor, but if you really feel uneasy you should go to the doctor. It may seem awkward at first, but it is best to make sure that everything is alright. Plus if nothing is wrong, be happy darling, you do not want your period. That thing can hurt a lot. Also, if all your friends have it and you don't, its not necessarily a bad thing.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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Hi there.
I have a crazy problem.
I'm nearly 17, a girl haha and the guy whom I'm going to be dating soon is 31.
Is that too old?
He doesn't have kids and isn't a freak like that, I've known him for a very longn time and we've always had a connection.
Would that make people uneasy?
What should I do??
Coz me and him definitely have a future :)
Anyways,
Thankyou
From:
Ella xoxo
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Hello Ella,
have you ever heard the phrase age is just a number. well this is all relative, but it would be best to try to find someone close to your age. i do not know the situation exactly and even if the person is older, you're young and you have your whole life ahead of you. I just don't want you to jump into this head first and think that he is the only one. You seem like a smart and yet beautiful girl, but you're only 17. you will meet someone else who will make you just as happy and you will both have that same connection. I am not telling you how to live your life, but if he truly cares he will wait and if not, there are so many guys out there. The right guy will come along and this will all be just a memory.
of course seeing you with a much older man can be a little awkward, but from experience it is best to steer clear from that kind of situation. you want to enjoy life and be yourself, but also hang out with the likes of you so you never miss out on the good things in life. trust me the phrase you only live once,is true, you can never get back your teenage years.
Hope this helps!
-Sandy
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