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I don't have clothes or supplies for school!
Well...i have two pairs of shoes i can only make three outfits with the cloth i have,i only have one hoodie that actually FITS!i ended up wearing it for a whole year.My teacher told the whole class to wear fresh and clean cloth i felt so embarrassed,everybody knew why she had said that my ex dad gives my mom 400$ every month he says he loves me but it sure doesn't seem like it..why?well he only bought me a pair of shoes 2 years ago and doesn't buy me cloth at all my mom mostly spends it on other shit...i end up asking her every week and the same excuse."We'll go shopping this month."it seems like she doesn't realize i need school supplies and clothes,its rare for her to me shopping,im 11 should i really deal with this shit?well anyways once we went shopping she always makes me shop at FUCKING P.S KIDS!even though she knows how much i hate it,but sometimes i actually find shit that's my style,she barely takes me to old navy it has shit that's my style,she always convinces me to buy cloth that i hate because shes like"Buy this one it matches these shorts." and shit,i once had to wear a hoodie that smelt bad and was dirty as faq to school just cause mom didn't want to spend a hour waiting it for it to wash,all the kids in my classroom could smell me,OH! and guess what my parents are to lazy to fix the boiler for hot water FUCKING FUCKTASTIC!right now i'm in my grandmas house :D BETTER THEN MY HELLHOLE I SO CALL HOME! ITS FREAKING BETTER HERE THERE'S A SHOWER THAT ACTUALLY WORKS AND THEY WASH MY CLOTH!OH WAIT!i have three jeans 2 shirts that fit one flannel shirt 2 tank tops 1 bra and the dirty HOODIE!I FEEL LIKE CRYING SO MUCH!THEY FREAKING FEED ME MORE THEN IN MY HOUSE!I SRSLY NEED HELP!WHAT DO I TELL MY PARENTS ABOUT THE SHIT IT I HAVE TO GO THROUGH!I REALLY WANT TO FUCKING MOVE OUT ALREADY!let's get back to topic now..So guys what do you think i should do? I REALLY NEED HELP!
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Hey, this is seriously not okay or fair to you. Now, I don't know what your mother spends this money on or what she is dealing with financially, but I don't understand why she can't at least buy you a few pieces of clothing every now and then. You don't need luxury or high-brand clothes but clothes in general is simply a must and clean ones at that. Go directly to the source and talk to her and your father about it. If nothing changes then talk to your family about it and see if they can communicate this issue to your parents. If no changes happen or nothing gets done about it then I would definately suggest to talk to your teachers, school councelor or principal about it. Perhaps any other staff member. I know it may seem embarrasing for you to mention to others, but do not think like that because they may be able to help with your situation.
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I've been answering questions on this site for a long time. I have learned that for questions like yours there is more to the story than you are able to provide. An example would be the $400 you father gives your mother. This would be considered child support, do you know if this is court ordered or just an amount your father has chosen to give your mother.
IF the money your father gives your mother each month is court ordered, it means this is all your father can afford based on his income. If it is not court ordered then your father may be able to afford more and there is something you can do about this, the fact that the boiler isn't fixed and you do not have clean serviceable cloths to go to school with.
In fact to an extent it does not matter what is affordable but what buy law a parent must provide. Within the law clean serviceable clothes, not fashionable, are a must. A safe home with a functioning heating and hot water system and a well stocked kitchen. Also your medical needs must be met. Your parents are also responsible to see to it you are schooled. These are the primary needs a parent must meet for their children.
You need school supplies, I'm not convinced clean serviceable cloths are being provided, the boiler is not working and you haven't mentioned meals mom supplies. By law your parents are not meeting their obligation to you.
What can you do about it. There are three things you can do to get the help you need. The help comes from Child Protective Services (CPS). Your school principal is in the school year round and if your school is close enough to walk to then what I suggest is this. Go to the school and meet with your school principal. Tell him or her what your home life is like. Basically you tell him or her what you told us just leave out the cuss words. Once a student informs a teacher of principal of something like this they are obligated by law to contact CPS.
If you cannot get to school go to the nearest Police or fire station. These places are safe havens for children. Tell the officer or firefighter on duty what I told you to tell your principal. The police or firefighters will keep you safe while CPS is contacted.
As a last resort you can look up CPS on the web for your City, County or State and contact them yourself. I believe one of the first two are the best options for you.
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Hello,
I can understand where you're coming from. If your parents were in a tight situation with money it would make sense for them to not be able to afford clothes. However, you claim that they do not buy you clothes or fix the hot water, which is usually a basic necessity. Like you said you're 11 hun. if you want to be treated like an adult show your parents that you're willing to go that extra mile. Also, i know that some parents are not into fashion, especially when it comes to clothes, but to be fair you also have to ask why they dont like the outfit.
As for the smelling problem, try getting deodorant or spray on to conceal the smell or try to get rid of it.I dont think you can move out officially, since you are not considered a legal adult. Also do you not ave siblings or an aunt or uncle that you can talk to.
you just have to be aware of what your parents interests are. trust m at this age you think you want it all, but once a person grows up, they'll understand where their parents are coming from.
My best advice would be to talk to them and see how you can settle this. for example, lets say you do chores around the house for $20 or so. that way you can save money while cleaning and you can end up buying your own clothes. Also you. Also, i know this isn't ideal, but some thrift shops have amazing clothes and you can get them for a cheaper price.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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