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Should I stay or leave
18/F Am I crazy to be in a long distance relationship for about 6 months? We were close friends first but somehow it moved to another level. I feel happy and wanted when am talking to him and I guess he feels the same the thing is I feel like am being suffocated sometimes like I need a lil space but we are already that far how much more space do I want? He makes me happy yes but I don't see it going anywhere because we are not at the same place. I don't mind being by myself because I've never been in a relationship before. I wonder if its best to end what I have with him and just live my life until something good comes around. Am I throwing away something good or should I just move on? Please help...
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Hello,
I have been in the same situation, where the guy and i were friends for 3 years and decided to take the next step. Needless to say, it didnt work out because long distance is hard to maintain and if you do not see each other more than once a year, it can be hard to work it out. Don't get me wrong, if you both love each other, do what makes you happy, but you stated that you need space from him even though he is far away and that you do not mind being alone. These are clear signs that you want to stay just friends and not date. there's nothing wrong with being friends and if you feel that you want to end things, then you can. do what makes you happy and comfortable. Also, if it is meant to be, then things will work out for the better later on in life. You're a beautiful girl, you should enjoy your life and your teenage years. when you get older you're going to wish you had them back.
Hope this helps
-Sandy
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Well all you have to do is know if its going somewhere, are you willing to move to where he is? Or is he willing to move to where you are? If you know you aren't ever going to, and he has no intention to either, then you have your answer already. As for the space, theres nothing wrong with being open about it and just telling him that, hurting someone a bit with honesty is much better than letting it build up until it becomes resentment. Thats how you end up hurting someone the most.
This is advice from a guy who knew a girl for 7 years, dated her at a distance for 3, loved her deeply, and then had her cheat on me creating a huge, messy, painful breakup.
My point is they can be great, they can work out if both people really want it to and commit to it, but if not, it can just be time spent getting close to have it end in a painful mess, so just find out what he really wants out of it, and you can see what you really want based on that. Good luck!
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