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I am 24 and my boyfriend turns 26 in July. He is weird about having kids. For example, when we seriously thought I was pregnant the only reason why he wanted me to have an abortion was because he didn't think that we were financially stable enough for a child.
After we found out that I wasn't, I asked him whether or not having a baby with me would be that bad, if he had a full-time job and could support all of us. He said, "No, not at all." Just before mother's day this year, he joked, "You might be celebrating mother's day this time next year." Other times, he says he's never having kids.
While having a baby is out of the question for us right now because we cannot financially afford one, I would love to have his baby one day. Probably sooner than later, after we are more financially able to support ourselves.
The problem is that my mother is not a particularly loving mother. She is the type who wants to be the center of attention. I never had a cut or bruise on me from her, but she did hit me, and do things that I swear were done to hurt me. Over the years she has made up lies in an attempt to alienate me from other members of my family. When I call her out on them, it's as though they actually happened, and she gets angry at me for telling her that they are lies. Every time she had to do something for me, it was a complaint, and she is unhappy that I am a full-time student who hasn't held a job in over a year.
He really had no example of a good father either. Up until he was 9 years old, his grandfather alive and he would play sports with him. That's one of the reasons why my boyfriend loves to watch baseball, football and basketball so much.
His biological father was a heroin addict, who left him when he was two years old. For the next few years, up until he was 15, when his dad finally passed away, he saw him four times in his life.
Can we still be good parents, without a good example? (link)
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The fact that you are able to explain why both of your parents may not have been the best proves that you already know what would and would not make a good parent. You have seen the 'wrong' way of doing things and can therefore learn from this and be great parents yourselves.
Whether or not you are financially or for any other reason in the position to have children now is a different matter and something that should be thought of and discussed as a separate issue to you questioning your ability to be good parents.
You have the ability to be great parents for sure and once you find the means to do so will be.
Good Luck x
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Hi,
Im that case wich was worry about why my shy friend didnt ask me for a relationship
But now its more than 4months that we are friends and everybody are talking about us.
He wanted to emigrate before but now because hes graduated hes thinking about EMIGRATION more serious. I think I'M NOT IMPORTANT at all .
I can not tell him that im thinking about our friendship as a thing more than this. It s so hard!:(
U said i should be patient but everything goes worse...:( (link)
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I didn't read your previous question so I don't know what happened but what I do know is that you can't blame this boy for leaving and not asking you for a relationship if he doesn't know how you feel!
If this is important enough to you tell him and see how he reacts. Don't let him leave and always wonder if something could have happened.
I promise you being turned down or having you hear broken are both better outcomes than living your life with regrets.
Good Luck x
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