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New school help
Hi. So in the fall, I'll be going into 7th grade. But this will also be at a new school. So there are 2 middle schools in my town, and all of my friends are at the smaller one, and I'll be moving to the bigger one. Technically this will be my first year of real middle school though, because last year in 6th grade, I was actually homeschooled. This will not change my level of work at school this year, because I am a very extraordinary student anyway, although I am worried about middle school itself. I'm a newbie, AND it's my first year of middle school when everyone else started last year. I won't know my way around, I'll be late for classes, I don't even know how their systems work and everything. I'll be the new clueless yet smart girl that everyone pities. I'm smaller and an easy target for bullies, but I can come back with extremely witty comebacks that makes them want to wish they were dead in a ditch, if that helps. But I need to know some important things that will help me. I already know how to unlock lockers and stuff, so yeah. Thanks for your time.
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Aright, I've been to a new school starting at my junior year. From my exprience with moving to a new school is that its a lot easier starting off younger grade level such as yourself. Try to be nice to everyone and try your best to make friends, common interests and what not. Don't get too upset if people are bullied at first they usually pick on new kids but your smart remarks will help to make them stop. They mostly do that to fine out what kind of person you are. I hope the best at your new school good luck hunt.
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Well first off if you need any help finding classes I am sure the teachers will be glad to help you find them. I am sure there will be a dress code I am not sure if it is requred to be in uniform or not but they will tell you what all the requirements and regulations are on the first day of school. If you are bullied do not be afraid to report it to a staff of teacher.
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Everything will be ok trust me dude. I'm 13 going into high school I know. Be the silent type to get work done listen to the teacher get your work done. I advise this because I didn't do this and I paid more attention to my social life instead of educational and fell under. Don't do what I did. Also If you don't want to get bullied don't stand out much socially. But excel in school find good friends and if you want find a special somebody for your self. But take it slow. 😊 if you need anything else just message me.
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Your mother might want to take you by the school a few days before it opens and talk to principal and staff. they need to know you've been home schooled to this point and are clueless as to what its like attending a public school, and what is expected. They should be assigning someone to help escort you around until you get familiar, likely a couple girls your age.
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Anytime we start something new, for adults like me it may be a new job or moving and for kids like you it is frequently a new school, it can be a little scary. But perhaps the key is to look at it from a different perspective.
Instead of worrying about things, take it as an opportunity to experience something new and exciting.
Sure you may have a little trouble finding your way around at first but this could be your chance to socialize with other kids at the school. To learn the easiest ways to get from class to class would be a good conversation starter.
Everybody is the new kid at some point and even though there will always be some jerks out there, I bet a lot of the other kids will remember that "new kid" feeling and be nice, not out of pity but out of basic human decency.
As far as the bullies go, don't bother with them. The easiest way to get them to leave you alone is just to show them that they don't bother you (even if they do). If they don't feel like they are having an impact on you, they'll move on to someone else. After all, bullies are often bullies because of their own self-esteem issues.
Good luck.
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Hey! No worries girly.
Listen, although I have never been home-schooled myself, most of us experience new environments that at first may make us feel nervous, uncomfortable and completely clueless at first but growing up for me I got use to changing schools a lot & moving to different states meaning new schools.
I was always the shy, "mute" girl through school. Simply shy & I hated going up to people and asking questions. But don't be nervous about not knowing what the school lay-out looks like or not knowing in what wing of the school your classes are... Teachers & staff ARE there to help you with that stuff.
All you have to say or do is tell any teacher "listen I'm new to this school (you don't even have to say that you've been home schooled but you definately can) and I don't know where my classes are, can you help me with that?"
Acctually, you won't be the only new student I'm sure. Lots of kids don't know where their classes will be located or what they'll be like in the beginning but in about a week or so you'll catch up! Trust me. This even goes for the students who are in 8th grade or that have already been attending the school you're about to attend.
Like I said, as a person I was always just a shy humble being. I had a few select friends but I was never loud & outgoing. As far as being the new face every 2 years at a new school I got use to it and I became unbothered.
There's really nothing to be worried about. You'll get accustomed and as far as the other kids...don't even worry about it hunny :) Kids are kids...you'll probably meet a few kind people, a few mean people, some class-clowns, a few loud people, some quiet... you know! :) But you will be okay! Be yourself and keep doing good in school!
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Going to a new school can be stressful, but it's also a chance to make some new friends! Don't be embaressed about not knowing your way around the school, or being late to classes, just ask one of the students, or teachers. I'm sure they will understand your confusion. You might wanna join some after school activities to make friends. You can also sit with other people at lunch to make friends. I would recommend to just ignore the bullies, and don't give them any attention. I'm sure you'll find some friends eventually. I hope my advice helped! :)
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I would say ask your friends that are already in middle school to have them teach you how it works so you don't stand out. or ask anyone else slightly older than you how the system works. I was in 8th grade more than 20 years ago, so things are probably different.
One important thing is to fit in. Standing out makes you an easier target for bullying. I doubt it'll be much trouble for you since you're a girl. But I know it does happen. Standing out (even by bragging how smart you are or becoming the teacher's pet) can make you stand out and become a target for haters. A lot of young people's mentality is like a "follow the leader" or "mob" mentality. Meaning, they want to fit in, so they will say and do things that might be wrong or mean (even if they know its mean) so they don't stand out and become the target themselves.
This does not mean you should be phony and try to act differently so other people like you. Because in the end, if people don't like you for who you are, there's really no reason to be friends with them. There are boundaries on behavior that is socially acceptable and what is not. You'll learn as you go along. You're a smart kid, so I'm sure you'll easily adjust. You might not need to adjust at all.
Another note on standing out, feeling like you don't belong or fit in or are clueless and wanting to be secluded is also standing out. Those people make easy targets for bullying. Since you're a girl, you're probably safer from bullying than boys. But if a bully does come along, its very important to stand up for yourself. When I was growing up, I started 8th grade not in another school, but in another country! So my situation was way worse than yours and as a skinny clueless boy who barely spoke English, I was easy pickings for bullies. My biggest regret is being too scared to stand up for myself. Even if I got in a fight and got beat up, that would have been better than what not standing up for myself did for my self esteem.
So learn from you can from friends/family/relatives/neighbors your age about the system. (especially from someone that is already attending that school you're going to) Maybe you can even call the school and tell them you'll be attending and ask them to give you a rundown of what to expect on your first days and how it all works. Try to fit in as best you can (at least until you get the hang of it). Be confident but not cocky. Treat others how you would want to be treated and stand up for yourself if need be.
Hope this helps.
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I know how you feel a little. Just ask for a map of the school and study the routs to your classes. Dont worry about friends too much, just focus on getting around. I'm sure if you ask a teacher, they will help you figure out how to get to your class. This is gonna be my first year in high school and its a really big school. I'm totally scared but I know its gonna be alright. Keep your head up and be the good student you always will be.
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Hello,
well to start off you say you're an extraordinary student and that is amazing to hear, focusing on your school work will benefit you in the long run. you seem to know the basics, so i wont get into detail about how school is important.
secondly, if you do not know your way around or you're afraid of being late, make sure to come to school earlier. this is because starting a new school seems very intimidating and it is a little confusing to adjust to a new environment. come early and try to find where all your classes are. With an extraordinary student like you, you will be able to make friends very easily. Just be yourself and people will love who you are.
Also, i want to advice you to be aware of the people who make try to take advantage of you based on your achievements in class. try to find friends who make you happy and treat you right.
Honestly, i believe everyone gets bullied, even the bullies themselves. The best thing to do in that situation is to completely ignore them or try to talk to a family or friend about it. Do not instigate it further because that will cause more problems.
Just try to focus on your school work and make sure that you are prepared for what this school has to offer you. again you seem like you know what you want, but just take it easy and enjoy your middle school days.
Hope this helps,
-Sandy
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