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im girl 17,i told my classmate(boy) who is also my crush in the concrete i gave him a note, saying i like him..two days later, i asked him to talk about it bc he didnt give any respond and i wanted to how he feels ,during school,i asked him if we could go and talk somewhere private , he said it is nice that i told him about my feelings for him,he also told me that he know how hard it must´ve been for me to hide my feelings from him.then he said he doesnt have time for relationship bc he has activites besides school (he plays guitar, he dances)and also he told me he firstly wants to develop more spiritually..(if that makes sense) bc we go to catholic church ,and then he hugged me saying that we should continue to be friends and then i deleted him from my friends on fb during summer holidays bc i was always checking if he is online.now is new school year and he found out i removed him from my friends on fb, and he texted me why i did that, and if he did something wrong he is sorry , i told him i did it bc it hurts me and that i dont want to be friends, and he said it´s ok, i thought it would hurt less, but it hurts me more ,now i ignore him bc i dont know how to act to him..he sent me friend request on fb but i didnt accept it yet..he was good friend to me before i told him about my feelings..please help me should i be his friend again or not? if yes what should i tell him,why i suddenly accepted his friend request on fb,and also today is his birthday, should i wish him happy birthday even i removed him from my friends??..thanks for help :) (link)
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I think you should continue to be his friend, tell him that you got scared and that the feeling aren't going to go away, so he going to have to deal with it. Maybe someday you guys will end up together so you shouldn't cut out that possibility. His birthday is the perfect time to come back into his life even showing some tears will show him that you care.
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My alcoholic mother neglected my education from age 5 by "unschooling" me (it's code for lazy parents who are too prideful to admit their failure in homeschooling) I'm going to be 18 next year and I've never been so depressed and hopeless.
I tried to motivate myself to catch up academically years ago, but it just made me too upset to even open a text book.
I have no idea what to do. I feel like I have no future. (link)
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It's hard to find motivation, I've struggled with it myself.
When you are eighteen you can enroll yourself in public school if want, but I think your best bet for your depression is try online schooling, especially if you feel really self conscious about your grade and age. Most importantly don't blame yourself, it's not your fault, you couldn't have the opportunities you should have. Every child should have the right to an education, but sometimes that's obviously not the case. I'm not saying blame your mother either. I know what's it's like to have alcoholic parents and although it may seem easy to blame them for the pain they are causing you, you shouldn't. They are also struggling in some way and maybe you try to talk to your mother about how you are feeling about school. If you have tried talking to her and she's doesn't take it well, then that ok because no one can admit bad habits and they usually hide their emotions, which doesn't mean you should do the same.
Think about what you want to do when you get older. What's your dreams? Goals? Have you looked at jobs? Careers? Colleges? It's hard to get where you want in life without an education. And trust me it'll be worth all the studying. Prove everyone wrong, that even though you had a hard time with your education, due to formalities, it never stopped you from getting where you wanted to in life. I'm sure once you find your motivation everything will work out perfectly and fall into place for you. The one thing you should never do is blame yourself for any of this, push through it. You can do anything you set you mind to. You will become an amazing woman. Just believe in yourself and know you are loved beautiful smart and worth it. Don't let anyone bring you down even if they are you family. Nothing you been through defines you. So go ahead pick of a textbook, because you are going somewhere in your life! :)
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My life kind of started to end on July 15 2014. My wife of 52 years and I were sitting on our deck when we looked at each other and said, You know something we got it made. That was because I had finally retired and we had moved into our new house in the mountains. That was around one pm when we spoke those words.
That night around seven we got a call from one of our daughters (Barb). She told us that she had just left the doctors and they had told her she had stage four ovarian cancer, and that she had 1 to 5 years to live.
This as you can imagine floored us. The next morning my wife (Elaine) and I packed her suitcase. We decided that my wife would move in with Barb to help her as much as possible. Barb lives three hours away, so we thought I would drive down on weekends and bring our dog with me.
After three months of Elaine staying there and me coming down on weekends, the stress got so bad between my wife and I. You see, Elaine is 71 years old and she was taking care of Barbs whole house. There are four in the family, Barb, her husband (Jeff) daughter (Kristin age 21) and son (Jeffery age 17). She looked like she was 90 years old. This was killing my wife. Well after three months had gone by, Barb went back to work, so Elaine decided to come home and we would go down on weekends. This lasted till 1/10/16 when Barb passed away.
When my wife came home, I was relieved that she could rest and try to get back to somewhat of a normal life. Well that did not happen. From the minute and I mean minute Elaine walked in the door I was accused of having an affair. I could not believe my ears. Her reasoning was she found Cialis in my bureau drawer. After her throwing this at me I showed her that it was a sample with my name written on it. The funny part of it was, Elaine was the one that picked it up at the doctors office. By the way our doctor not only wrote my name on the box but the date 1/16/2012. Four years before we moved to the mountains.
That was the end of that session. But two weeks later she told me my girlfriend stole five pair of her jeans from the closet. I could go on an on about the accusations but to name just a few. Cigarette butts found in the street meant my girlfriend was standing there watching the house. I was told while we where both out shopping together that there was blood on our mattress pad. When we got home the blood had disappeared. Now remember we never left each others side.
I won’t bore you with more details because there is over 50 accusations made. None of which were true.
Anyway last week a new neighbor moved in and you guessed it I was having an affair with her.
Well two days ago she left me, drained our bank accounts of over $125,000. Leaving me not only with my wife of 52 years but without a penny.
I can’t do this anymore. As much as I love her I want it all to end. I can’t stand the pain. I sit here and look at a bottle of pills the doctor gave us for depression and can’t stop thinking this would end my pain. I was a strong willed man all my life, a rough and tumble construction worker. Well I am a broken man now. She broke me and took my will to live.
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Don't kill yourself I hope you went to the doctor after taking them!!! Your wife may already know that you have been unfaithful and may only want a friend around during this difficult time. You should be straight forward with her instead of ending your life.
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I am a girl, currently in Grade 12, and I have had a crush on this one guy in my grade since halfway through first semester grade 9.
He is really cute, and he loves singing and history. He is really funny, but can also be quite serious. He tends to be quite loud in class(he is in no way shy), but he is so sweet and kind and honest that the teachers rarely get mad at him.
I am quite(extremely...) shy when in a group setting, but one on one I tend to open up a bit. However, I only ever see this guy in class, in choir, and when our two friend groups (occasionally) hang out together.
He is always hanging around with this one group of girls, but he would never date any of them, so I know that's not an issue. The problem is that he's always with them. I get along well with all of them, a couple are even sort of my friends, but it would be awkward for me to just join their group when they are talking or whatever. I have in the past, like if they are in my class and my regular friends aren't but its just a little awkward...anyways yeah I feel too awkward to get closer to him that way.
He jokes around a lot, and when we are in a small group of people together, he sometimes/often teases me more than the other people in the group. In class the other day, he came over to talk to me, and he asked me about why I had been late for class that morning. He has done similar things a number of times in the past.
Also, just to point out, he is straight. I know this for sure. The girls he hangs out with have been his friends for years, they are like sisters to him...
Another problem- I am scared to tell my friends I like him. I told them a couple years ago, but they laughed and told me we would make a really awkward couple (probably because I'm 5'9", and at the time he was super skinny and like 5'3", but he's grown since then). I would love to have their support, but we don't really talk about guys much, and I feel like I've been lying to them for years about this guy..not that I ever lied...I just didn't speak up...
Also, casual out-of-school meetings are difficult because he lives in a different city than I do, although we go to the same school (it's a private school). I can't just casually invite him to do something with me like randomly on a Saturday because he lives like a 45 minute drive away..
I guess what I want to know is: do I have any chance with him? and how do I got about getting that chance? (link)
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I can see that you really like him, but you don't know for sure that he likes you back, he may only think of you as a friend but there's no harm in asking about it. Maybe you should try to get him alone and hangout just the two of you, I think that your best bet at the moment. Try not to be too straight forward but don't be too shy about it either, not all guys are smart enough to take a hint. Go easy on him though. I'm not sure if he is worth the time though, I say hangout alone with him and see where it goes.
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Now I'd like to start off that I have depression, for a few years now, I am 17/female. I don't know how this plays into this well enough or has little.
Anyways, for thepast month my depression has gotten hard on me, all the whileI've slowly detached myself from my boyfriend, and with trying to converse with him during those weeks has made him irritated from my lethargy and dealing with me, and soon I called myself off from him and became distant to him. My feelings just started to fade, feelings for him and also I couldn't very well identify my own emotions. It's gotten worse between us and before any of this problem I had made a new (male) friend. I had no intentions to have feelings for him but now they're starting to form little by little. It's all a bit too confusing. Now getting out of the hard hit of depression I had gotten now I'm trying to work it out, but I feel like I'm rejecting a bunch of things out of fear of what'll happen. My boyfriend is sweet, caring, and I'm completely comfortable with but then, sometimes he is just so messy and disrespectful to his parents, embarrassing and boring at times. And then with this other guy, through out my worst days, has managed to make me laugh, talking almost non-stop. While my boyfriend has made me feel pushed away, like what went on inside didn't matter, now all I can explain is "I don't know what's going on inside, I'm sorry" and its tearing me apart if its just depression dampening my emotions or if its legitimate, any of them. Thank you if you read all of this. (link)
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I think maybe you should give him a break figure out ur feelings for this other guy, but remember your depression at this point means the most if one guy isn't being very supportive and the other guy is than maybe your boyfriend is causing some of you depression. Do what you think is right.
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I've been going through a recent complicated break-up. The thing is I kinda rejected him because I want to get my life back together first before being in a committed relationship. I wasn't able to offer my heart back in return to this guy who loved me so purely because I got scared that the moment I say 'yes' we'd be in a really serious relationship. And the thought of being in a serious relationship scared me. I got scared and I made a stupid mistake by talking to it with another guy friend. And it almost felt like I cheated on him, he felt like I cheated. And now he's not in love with me anymore and that it's impossible for us to be together again. Which hurt so bad.
I know all of that's kinda convoluted, but long story short, I'm hurt because I hurt the one guy who's never done anything but love me so purely and see the best in me by being a stupid and weak girl. What if he's the one for me, what if I blew the chance to be with my soulmate? What if I never meet anyone who will love me as much as he did? I can't get over the pain and the loneliness no matter what I do.
I know I've made a mistake too. But I'm not aiming to get back together with him, because he's already said it's impossible. Now he just wants to be friends with me because he knows we're really close and he doesn't want to lose that and he said that I don't deserve to be abandoned completely. What should I do to get over him and forgive myself? I'm really sorry it was really long. Thank you to anyone who will help. (link)
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Well I know what it's like to end a relationship with someone you believe is your soulmate I've had it happen to me. It took me a year and a half to get over him, I realized he wasn't my soulmate after all, he didn't want to be friends with me after n definitely took advantage of me while I was deep in depression. You were right to not get into a relationship while you have depression. I've done a lot of relying on a guy to help me through my depression and the one thing I've learned is you can only fix urself. He seems like a good guy, but he may only meant to be a friend to you and he could help you out of depression, always surround urself with friends and have goals. Also getting over guys isn't getting into another but it's also keeping your option open for the right guy to come along...hang out with friend girls guys and even invite the guy along....he seems like a good friend for youso don't try to bring the relationship into the friendship because you don't want to lose him as a friend...he could still be in love with you and is just waiting for you to fix urself he could still be upset about it...also don't worry about him being your soulmate he could be and he could not be but if it's meant to be it'll be maybe not right now maybe it's later in life...try not to dwell on things n focus on being happy n your goals in life...good luck n I hope that I have helped you in some way 😊
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I have invited another woman to have sex with my husband while I watch. She and I have meet and I like her, she is just the type I wanted for this experience.
She and my husband have not meet and won't until the night of the event. She is coming to our home where we will enjoy drinks and conversation first.
I'm looking for ideas on how to make the transition between conversation and sexy time smooth and less awkward. She and I have talked about bondage and restraint being part of the evening.
Ideas? Suggestions?
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Well candlelight and music usually helps put people in the mood I guess try them. Cracking sexual jokes is another way to do that. U can try to start getting sexual with the other female to get him turned on. Be sure that your husband is going to understand what it is that is going on because you don't want to risk something bad happening. I hope this helps even a little bit sorry I couldn't be more help good luck
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No one is giving me the support I want n it been so hard 2 me because I haven't tell anyone how I fell (link)
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The first step is finding someone you can trust, that you will be able to talk to, that maybe a friend, a family member, or even just some sort of adult. If people pester you for how you feel then just simply tell them you can't tell them but when you are to share that you will just when you are ready. You seem like you have a lot of built up anger and you don't know who to trust. Finding someone that you feel you can trust is the first step is recovery. I wish you luck in finding someone to talk to about how you feel ☺️
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My boyfriend asked me tonight if I was a virgin because he is and has never done anything at all. We've been dating on a couple weeks and I didn't know how to answer it though. This is why:
I've gave a few guys head
I've been fingered A LOT
I had anal twice
I masturbate like once a day
I never had like...sex sex, you know? Like the making babies kind LOL. You know what I mean. Does that mean I'm a virgin? (link)
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U r still a virgin
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i am 13, and i live with my adoptive parents. my real mom had me at 16 and got me token away when i was very young. i have always said that i would not be a teen mom, that i would wait for after marriage. but yesterday i found out that i am pregnant. how do i tell my parents? and i will not get an abortion and i don't want to give my baby away. so how will i tell my mom( that is 6 months pregnant) and dad that their 13 year old daughter is pregnant and wants to keep her baby? (link)
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I think that being honest with them is the first thing you should do. They may be disappointed in you at first but if they love the way they should they will come around. They should take in consideration what you want but considering your so young it may be harder than you realize to keep you baby. Good Luck and whatever you do just know that your worth it.
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So basically I'll start off with I was with my boyfriend for 5 years and when we broke up in June I felt so sad i have always had depression and self harmed myself but no one knew Fourth of July weekend I felt the saddest I have ever felt and looked at my medicine cabinet and said what am I going to take to kill myself I thought about death every day and thought it was normal. I talked to my doctor and she put me on zoloft. I have never felt better until yesterday. I met this new guy and I finally moved on to my ex we had sex twice both with condoms. The only skin on skin action was us in the shower but we never physically did it until after with a condom. The next day I had an outrageous yeast infection and I found out yesterday I have Herpes. I have only been with 2 people and this is what happens...the guy I slept with is in denial and said he doesn't have anything but maybe he does now because I gave it to him! He was with his ex for 2 years and he said they are both fine. I just don't understand how this happened to me and now I am back in my hole where I don't want to live anymore. I feel broken and sad and nobody is going to want me. (link)
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Well I don't know why you would have herpes, maybe it was the condom you used, or maybe the symptoms weren't there when you first got it and this was from the first guy. I don't know because I'm not really a doctor but I do know about depression, and self harm its hard but I think the best thing you can do right now is stop beating yourself up for this because it isn't your fault. There is so much to live for and even though you may not see it now you will meet someone that isn't going to care and will love you unconditionally. It takes time for a good guy to come along even if you have to suffer a few heartbreaks to get mr perfect, meanwhile focus on the things that make you happy friend family school look at where you want to be in your future and try your best to achieve your goals. Good luck and just know you are so much more worth it than you may believe.
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So, I finally got my crush, like I always thought it would be crush, but turns out he is into me, and just woo ! But, we going on a date, having Chinese, just any tips, for if it goes quiet, because I'm one of those people that get so nervous I can't talk, anytips, any good subjects to talk about? (link)
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Fine at least one common interest, and go from there. Try your best not to talk too much or too less. Be completely honest with him and just try to hang out with him without calling it a date. FocDayton being best friends and in sure that the relationship should work out the way its supposed to. Good luck hun and relax.
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Me and this go to boarding school together and we started off as rest friends at a point we both liked it each there but neither of us admitted it. thing is i was with someone when he liked me and i kinda liked him too. We became really close friends but thing is he kissed my best friend on the first day of school in the bus when were coming back and then when i asked him about it he got really defensive saying thins like it didn't mean anything and stuff like that. so the whole night we talked then my best fiend came coming to us and flirt with him and as nice as i am i just let it happen but then he kept on brushing her off. then he got a gf.. a year later... so he asked if we could hang out and i said yes but then i forgot and he waited for me which was really sweet and kept on calling me but i was asleep..
in time i woke up and quickly went to meet him then as i was apologizing i started pecking him everywhere like on the cheek on face cause we always do it but then he pecked me on the lip we both looked at each then we started kissing and stuff .
the next day we were in class and he is like i don't regret last night and I'm like umm me too.. so we've been "hanging" but no sex (thank goodness).
since its summer, i thought let me be bold and tell him i like him but sadly that didn't work out as planned
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If you are serious about getting over the guy, the best way to do so is keep yourself busy with your life, flirt with other guys, spend time with your friends, and most importantly don't talk to him, if you are planning to talk to him then don't do it alone. I hope this is helpful to you and good luck hunt.
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Hi. So in the fall, I'll be going into 7th grade. But this will also be at a new school. So there are 2 middle schools in my town, and all of my friends are at the smaller one, and I'll be moving to the bigger one. Technically this will be my first year of real middle school though, because last year in 6th grade, I was actually homeschooled. This will not change my level of work at school this year, because I am a very extraordinary student anyway, although I am worried about middle school itself. I'm a newbie, AND it's my first year of middle school when everyone else started last year. I won't know my way around, I'll be late for classes, I don't even know how their systems work and everything. I'll be the new clueless yet smart girl that everyone pities. I'm smaller and an easy target for bullies, but I can come back with extremely witty comebacks that makes them want to wish they were dead in a ditch, if that helps. But I need to know some important things that will help me. I already know how to unlock lockers and stuff, so yeah. Thanks for your time. (link)
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Aright, I've been to a new school starting at my junior year. From my exprience with moving to a new school is that its a lot easier starting off younger grade level such as yourself. Try to be nice to everyone and try your best to make friends, common interests and what not. Don't get too upset if people are bullied at first they usually pick on new kids but your smart remarks will help to make them stop. They mostly do that to fine out what kind of person you are. I hope the best at your new school good luck hunt.
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How do I get bigger hips and butt (link)
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Hmm that's sort of a hard question, some people will gain a ton of weight and then losing it, but the healthy way to get a bigger butt would be doing plenty of squats.
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Will sex hurt the first time badly ? 😩
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It won't hurt nearly as bad if you are completely relaxed, most people freak out and it ends up hurting a lot more then it should, try taking it easy first. If you are freaking out no matter what you do perhaps you aren't ready yet to have sex or you not doing it with the right guy. It can also hurt the guys penis if you aren't staying calm.
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hey i an from Limpopo.im in a new relationship.me n my bf we a naw datin for 1month n 3days.i love my bf so much n i try to make him happy but dat doesnt hide de fact dat my bf is still inlove wth his ex who has died.wen he need me i go n be wth him.on saturday it was his bdae n i made a suprise party for him n i invited his friends n ada gals.he was very happy n i was happy to see him happy.but dat dae at nyt he said i shuld not leave i shuld sleep ova n i did so.he started talking abt his ex who died n his ex was buried on saturday on his bdae.he told me dat he is over her n he dnt luv her anymore but his actions was telling me another story.he evn cried for his ex infront of me n didnt wt tu du or wat to say.my heart was heavy wen he was kissing me he suddenly stopped n he said he cant.yesterdae he removed de status on watsap he wrote abt me n write dat he love his ex n he change a profile pic n put his ex.i cried alone n my hurt was heavy realising dat im truly,madly n deeply inlove wth him.what do i have to do? (link)
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depending on how long ago she had pass...if she had died a while ago then maybe its time for him to move on you know let go. but if this was pretty recent then is say give his some grieving space. sooner or later he will have togo on with his life without her one way or another. try to help him any way you possibly can. try to make him feel less alone. perhaps he hooked up with you shortly after she had passed maybe he just needed someone to be around someone. honestly you should tell him that he needs to get over her a little bit and start focusing on u more. i think it was wrong for him to change his relationship status over and ex death especially if they broke up a while ago. maybe he'll come to the realization that he is gonna lose you if he doesn't stop this. i think he sboukd have told about this asap instead of trying to hide it from till now. i hope that he will get over this but some relationships are only temporary. i hope for the best and i send all my love towards the two of you and good luck, and stay positive.
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Hi,
I'm usually pretty good at giving advice, but this I can't help myself with. I'm 13 and I just got transferred to a new place. I've been here for two months now. As many people here are teens they love to act all grown up and I'm not comfortable with the kind of things they do and the language they use, so I'm not friends with anyone, I tried to adjust and get used to them but without a friend I just can't manage. I'm kind of shy but I can make friends easily, but no one is like me (a little kiddish and crazy) everyone loves to act all grown up. I'm having a tough time making friends, please give me some advice on how I can adjust or I'll end up a lonely girl who talks to herself (link)
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I can understand this I moved from a small country town to a ghetto city. I wasn't used to things and there were tons of people who act more grown up than they were. I did find people that were like me, I just had to stop paying so much attention to the people that I didn't particularly like or would get along with. I found that if I talked to the people that didn't seemed to have many friends or just generally nice people. I found that I was able to find people that were a lot like me I just had to stop judging everyone and got to know people. The people I became friends with weren't exactly like me but very close, and even though they were a little bit grown up than I was used to they became one of the best friends I ever had. I think that because you are younger than I was that it may be harder to make friends. What I've noticed is that when you are younger you tried to act like grown up but as you grow older you actually grow up and they start to realize by trying to act grown up they were acting pretty immature. Making friend should become a little bit easier once people actually grow up, but until then you should try your best on finding the people that don't have many friends and just try to be friendly to the people around you and friends should start coming into your life. Also sharing a tiny little bit about yourself and finding common interests. I hope this is some use to you on helping you make some new friends. I know how it is to be in a whole new place and starting fresh. Don't stop talking to your old friend just because you don't see them everyday. Stay strong and just know that you aren't alone, and good luck. :)
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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I think people do it to show that they are both taken and they are madly in love. some people chose only to make some people jealous, either to get someone else they are eying (cheating), or to prove to others that what other people say or do to split them up aren't working and that they are still together going strong. I think if it makes you uncomfortable than I think you should tell them that it does. Also they shouldn't be going that kind of stuff while children are around, because they don't need to be exposed to that kind of stuff while they are young like that. Another idea is to go to the manager of the food place and mention it to them and they will probably talk to the couple, most likely saying something along the lines of "You guys can't be doing that kind of stuff in this place. It make other costumers uncomfortable and I don't want to lose business because you two don't want to keep it PG, especially in front of the young children." I remember when I was little my mom almost sued the place because someone was showing PDA in a kid friendly place. I honestly don't think that food place wants to be sued of something silly. Good Luck! :)
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hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it? (link)
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I'd say start talking about it within your group of friends, the ones the aren't Christians. Then talk to you classmates and teachers. If you are a very observant person then try to find people that you know are struggling, maybe they are going to lose their home, or they come from a broken home, or don't have enough money for food. Tell them about God and give them some hope and strength to make it through the storm. Even if they don't end up believing in him and deny his existence, the point of trying is enough. It may also not seem like it will get through to them at the time but may at another time. You can also do some community service and incorporate the Word into what your doing. Start off doing something small and work your way up. Remember to God nothing is too hard to accomplish, and never deny the lord or use his name in vain. I hope this helped you and Good Luck.
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