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My best friend has started dating a guy who used to chase ME...
My best friend has started dating a guy from my work who used to heavily pursue me. This went on for years, the guy bought me a necklace and everything. I feel very weird about her dating him now so is it just me or is that strange for her to do that?
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I'm assuming that your friend knows that this guy was heavily pursuing you. So with that being said, yes i do find it a little strange for all three of you. Here's why:
-This guy could possibly be dating him just so that he can have an excuse to get closer to you.
-Your friend knows that things are awkward between the two of you, so now she's kind of the cream of the oreo because, she's your bff and his gf.
As to what you should do about it, I can't say personally. It's obviously awkward for you but, I don't think that it would be your place to try and break them up. However, if you're having strong feelings about this, I think you need to express them to your best friend if it makes you uncomfortable. However, make sure you're not doing it in an offensive way. Hoped that I could help.
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agree with Dragonfly here but i also wanna add that he sounds like a horn dog and a lady chaser and once you didnt go for him and he saw your friend, he bit the bullet and went for her instead and it worked. thats all.
if they are together for the right reasons, it could work. If not, then dont feel weird or expect it to last long.
You dont have to feel weird about it unless she ends up marrying the guy or something like that. You didnt like him anyway so whats the problem?? you got him off your back now and hes with someone else, that person just happens to be a friend of yours thats all. *shrugs* theres not much you can do there but just try to be happy for your friend and see how things play out.
dont try to influence anything between them because later down the road one of them might try to blame you and it could effect your friendship with your friend in a bad way. (((unless she comes to you for advice))) say nothing and just let the chips fall where they will and time will tell what happens.
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Yes, it is one of those life situations that can feel really weird and awkward. I know that it happens often when it doesnt work out for a couple that one ends up breaking up and going for a friend of the one they are leaving.
It can tend to break up long standing friendships if you were to take it personally. But you can't blame her for takin g him away. Only a person who isn't totally right for you and you for him, or a guy who just wasn't totally in love with you...can be taken away. Some day, you'll find the one who is right for you and there will be nothing can could make him ever leave you, not any girlfriends or women he works with, etc...because u r unique and just right for him. Keep up hope, there is someone for you.
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