I'm a 24 year old woman who is not used to asking for anything but now that i need help, how do i put away my pride and ask my boyfriend for money. Please help me out#Anonymous
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Dragonflymagic answered Thursday July 16 2015, 9:57 pm: Just be honest. Telling a fancy fib just to protect your pride will bite you in the end. When the boyfriend discovers you lied about the real reason which may not have been a big deal to him...the real thing that will hurt him is that you could not trust him to be honest with your request. So its really simple. Don't just say hey I need 500 bucks by friday, but give him the real need, the story behind it. While he may be short on cash himself, one thing males do love is being able to help their lady solve a problem. So if not able to help with cash, he just may have some good suggestions of what you could do, other options you may not have thought of. thats why the more who know the exact reasons and needs, the more other viewpoints and maybe solutions to your problem you may have. But if means swallowing your pride. Asking for help and not being able to help that person back in some way is what most people get hung up on. Ever hear of the movie 'Pass it forward'. When a good deed is done to you, almost never is it able to be returned to the one who did the kind act or favor or gave help. Instead, wait until the day you're in a stable place and see another in need and then do the same kind thing for them that was done for you, passing on help, or acts of kindness. thats how it really works in the world and may help you to deal better with the pride issue. [ Dragonflymagic's advice column | Ask Dragonflymagic A Question ]
MISSCOCA answered Wednesday July 15 2015, 2:03 pm: Hello,
Best thing you can is be very honest. Just openly tell him why you need the money and ask if he can help out, if he cant don't get upset with him. Most likely mid way into the convo he will offer to help. That's what boyfriends are for (not to give you money) to help you when you need them the most which honestly, it sounds like you do. I know I can't put my pride away and I know I would only ask for something if I truly need it. Hope it works out <3 [ MISSCOCA's advice column | Ask MISSCOCA A Question ]
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