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Am I a "normal" teenager
Hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and I don't really feel normal. For starters my breasts are too small and I'm short, so I'm physically falling behind all of my peers. I know that I'll catch up though, so that only hurts my self esteem, but I'll be ok. What I'm really concerned with is mental development. I feel like I'm too "hormonal". I Masturabate once every two days or so and I have sex fantasies and things like that (although I'm not going to actually have sex for a long time). It just concerns me because most of the kids at my school seem so innocent, like they don't have hormones, or fantasies, or anything. So an I the only one? Am I "normal"?
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Yes you are a normal teenager. First of all, girls grow and develop at different rates. I’m sure you will catch up when you have a growth spurt. Don’t worry about your breasts because they still have time to grow. Breasts don’t stop growing until your late teens and they can sometimes grow into your 20’s.
It is normal to feel hormonal when you are a teenager and that is completely normal. Believe me, you’re not the only teen who feels that way. A lot of girls and boys feel that way when they are growing up and going through puberty. When you go through puberty you will experience many changes in your body and your emotions. Most of it you can’t control because it’s your hormones that are in charge a lot of the time. During this time you can have mood changes, start to think about relationships and have feelings for the opposite sex. Feeling hormonal and having sex fantasies is normal. You may not think the kids at school have sex fantasies but they probably do. Masturbating is also normal, again both girls and boys masturbate although some may not admit to doing it.
You are perfectly fine, there is no need to worry =)
Here are some websites you can check out that give you more information about growing up and about puberty:
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You sound pretty normal to me. Your figure will get more femine, but you might never be full figured and very busty. Some women are slender (and very attractive they look too!), some more voluptuous. As far as fantasing and masturbating, well do you tell your friends all the details and frequency? You can be sure they DO pleasure themselves and enjoy sexy fantasies too. They probably think YOU (and the other girls) don't! So enjoy them. And masturbating every day or two is by no means excessive. It's for you to enjoy. Whenever you feel horny and want to relieve the tension a bit. I'm not sure 'too hormonal' is a valid concept. And the 'sex addict' stuff you hear about is not really about hormones and natural urges. It's psychological and all about craving attention, gratifcation and reassurance. You're an absolutely normal, healthy young woman. I promise you. X
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Trust me. It's normal. It's all part of the puberty process. Most people act like they are innocent but they're really not. They are just too embarrassed to admit it. Being insecure is also part of the hormones or puberty process. Your not through puberty yet so you still have time to prosper and grow and learn to become comfortable with who you are. Don't let anyone bring you down because you are beautiful inside and out!
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Relax your normal. Masturbation is something most people, including teenagers don't talk about. In your case masturbating once every two days puts you at the low end of the scale.
Most teenagers, especially boy, need to masturbate at least once a day to deal with all the new hormones being released into their body. Masturbation is not only normal it is the best way for a young teenager to deal with the sexual energy now floating through them as they go through puberty. Sexual fantasies and masturbation go hand in hand so this too is normal.
Masturbation is, according to a recent survey, something 85% of the population does. This means in a 3.4 out of every 4 people masturbate. If you are in a family of 4 this means that you and your parents masturbate. For your parents it usually means they do so as part of foreplay before sex and would include, fingering, oral sex and hand jobs.
Masturbation is not a sin, it is just not something the church, Rabbi's or Imams condone. The why of it is because it is felt the pleasure derived from masturbation will lead young people to the real thing. As an adult I don't believe this.
Masturbation allows you to get in touch with your sexuality in a safe and comfortable way. So you are normal. Relax and allow yourself to enjoy getting to know your body and sexuality. Just do so in the privacy of your bedroom with your door closed.
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