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My mom thinks i'm lying to her!
So recently me and my mom were talking, and the subject of me not being honest to her came up. now my mom is very big about lying and hates it and i know that so i dont lie to her very often. she think that im lying to her about something but i have no idea what. i kept asking her what i did wrong and she kept telling me to go to bed ( since it was like 11 o'clock) and talk to her once i tell her the truth but i have no idea what i did wrong. i also feel like shes just trying to get me to confess about a lie. whats a tip so that i can get out of this mess?
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Oh gosh, my mom was like this. She somehow always knew exactly what was going on in my life. She'd accuse me of something and it would almost always be true. I hated her for her scary level of psychic perception. There were a few times, though, when she was wrong and it was very frustrating. She was convinced that I was having all kinds of wild sex with my boyfriend, but we'd agreed to wait until we got married. She would not believe me and was very concerned that I was going to get pregnant. Dealing with her in this circumstance was awful.
There were other times when she would hear something from someone else and want me to fess up about it. Sometimes it wasn't even anything that bad and I couldn't think of anything that I'd done even remotely wrong. It sounds like this is what's happening with you. She probably heard something from someone. It could be completely true, possibly exaggerated, or just plain wrong. I can say that I totally feel your pain on this one.
The only thing that you can really do is talk to her about it. But you have to be 1 million percent calm, relaxed, and logical. This can be so difficult under the circumstances, but it's the only thing that works. Come up with exactly what you're going to say to her and how you will respond to what she might say. Will yourself with all of your energy to not get frustrated, mad, or anything else. If you can do this, she should be willing to open up to you about whatever it is that's bugging her. I wish you tons of willpower and luck and I hope that it's just something silly.
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Pardon me if I'm MR. Obvious here; it seems to me if you know you have lied to her about something(s). The quickest and easiest way to deal with this problem would be to fess up to what you know you have lied her about. Accept any punishment she gives you for what you may have done and lied about without and argument. Then hug and kiss your mom and tell her you love her.
If mom still thinks you’re not being totally truth full with her then you have a problem if she will not tell you what it is she thinks you lied to her about. You see this is the problem with lying. You tell one lie and peoples trust in you disappears. While I'm sure your mom loves you and always will. While her love is something you may never lose; trust is a different story. Trust is earned even as children you have to earn a parents trust.
That trust comes in stages, such as learning to cross the street by yourself. Walking to a friend’s house, going to the mall and when you are allowed to drive the car. Belief in what you say is another trust that is earned and like the rest of what I said it can be lost and needs to be earned back. It is also the hardest of the trusts to earn back.
If dad is in the picture maybe you can go to him and ask him to intervene. Don't be surprised though if he says this is between you and mom. When it comes to certain issues parents are usually united and trust is generally one of those issue they unite on.
You will have to go back and figure out when it was you lost moms trust. Then try to remember what things you may have lied to her about or what she may think you lied to her about. Fess up to what you know you lied about as I said you should. Then try and discuss those things you may thing she believes you lied about.
There is an old saying; "The truth shall set you free." In your case the truth will help you repair the damage between you and mom.
Good luck.
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Maybe you should fess up to your previous mistakes. Say that you have lied in the past and you feel guilty and that this time you have not lied. Maybe do something nice for her so that she feels better about the situation.If you really did not lie don't pretend you did because that will be another lie.
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