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Q: hi hope you can help me i'm a 15 year old male i'm a devout christian i love god with all my heart and i wanna be a better christian and devote my life to god i want to help people to get closer to god i wantto start to spread god's word i'm a bit nervous not sure where to start but i want to start talkinhg to people about god maybe start with people that i know not sure how do i go about it?
Hi there, I can see how enthusiastic you are about pursuing this goal and before I start I just want to say that there is a high possibility you would get discouraged at your age but you have to still keep the faith. I personally think you should start with close friends telling them your views on how good God is and how they too can experience the joy and love you get from God. It's a small start but it can surely carry you somewhere.

You may come across some people who will judge you but that's all apart of the journey you are willing take. When you get nervous just think about it like this.... Will I allow what others think about me stop God's purpose?

Hope I helped
You will surely be in my prayers.

Latoline ^_^

Q: Today I was walking to my grandmother's house and when I was about 2 minutes away, a guy in a white truck pulled up and said hi. He claimed that he saw me at the store, but I did not recognize him at all. He gave me his card with his cell phone number on it and asked me if i would promise to text him later on in the day. I didn't text him, but my main question is, should I be concerned?
I think you should tell your parents or whoever you live with what happened give them the card to call and warn him not to contact you agian... clearly he's been watching you at the store we shouldn't take stuff like this for granted. Tell your parents please


Hope I helped.

Q: I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me.
First of all you are really young to be thinking about that and at this age you would surely regret it when you get older. If the relationship your in is not serious it doesn't make any sense doing it, you would be left disappointed and for sure not satisfied.
You are still young so please don't take advantage of your body just because it looks exciting we don't always have to listen to what our body's are asking for.

P.S It's better done with someone you love.

Hope I helped in some way.
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Q: im an 18 year old girl!

every time i brush my teeth & tongue it still seems like my breath smells.

everytime my boyfriend comes over i have to put gum in my mouth & sometimes thats 8 in the morning! i dont want to have to do that!

any suggestions?? or comments?? they would be greatly appreciated. thank you:)
Well for bad breath you can use baking soda, just put some on your tooth brush and brush properly, helps a lot with odour. You can also try adding lime or lemon juice (fresh lime I must say)to the baking soda just squeeze the lime juice on it and it would normally just bubble up on its own, just do that once a week and that should help ( dont appy it to yout tongue thou)

Hoped I helped
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Q: First, let me tell you a little about my dream. I found out from my mother that I was pregnant, and that I was going to have an abortion.

I looked it up and it said that it could be a sign that I'm pregnant. I never once have had sex. I am a teenager and have never done such things.. Anyways, I've been really worried lately (I guess I just let my anxiety get the best of me) that I'm pregnant. I can't remember when the last time I got my period was. Even though I've never done any sexual activities, I'm just scared that I'm somehow someway pregnant. Is that why I had this dream? Because I've been thinking about it so much?
Teenage female here as well I too had a dream that I was pregnant and I was never sexually active either Idk why or where that dream came from but it did and I guess your sister's soon to come baby triggered that dream because it makes more sense that way. You shouldn't be worried because you know for a fact that you never had intercourse there's no way you can get pregnant without you having sexual intercourse or a penis may have been rather close to your bare vagina if that never happened then you don't have one thing to worry about.

Q: I'm 19 and he's 27. We've been dating for 4 months, we're in love and I can't picture my future without him. Though, I'm afraid problems will occur regarding our age difference. Not so much what people think and say, more of me worrying if it will cause problems between us.

Whenever we go grocery shopping, he can't buy alcohol with me. I can't go with him to any event that is serving alcohol. It makes me feel utterly indifferent, I have 3 more years until I can drink. That's just one problem that has occurred regarding the age difference.

I would just like know, do any of you fellow Yahoo users know of any cliche and or very real situations that can occur because of a vast age difference in a relationship? I'm not looking for relief, I would just like to know of what could come and prepare for it.
Well I don\'t think your age difference is a problem. The only thing I can see being a problem out of this is that people would judge you despite your age difference between you and your boyfriend. I don\'t think there\'s any other reason you should be worried about unless your parents would have a problem with it.

Hope I helped
Latoline ^__^

Q: your really hot
Well Thank you :D

Q: Okay so I have been with my boyfriend for almost three months and, in my mind, things have seemed to be going okay. I'm 16 he's 15 and this is the first relationship for both of us, we're also both quite shy people so the relationship is moving quite slowly. We see each other most days at school and we've met up a few times at weekends and we don't text an awful lot. People say that we can't really class ourselves as being in a relationship and that we're being pathetic. I can kind of see what they're saying seeing as we don't make any physical contact with each other - we've awkwardly hugged once but that's as far as we've got.

I wouldn't mind moving things on a bit faster and being in contact with him more but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I have social anxiety so I am constantly scared of saying something wrong or annoying him by texting him too much.

Also, my best friend told me the other day that she and this other boy basically forced my boyfriend into asking me out. I had no idea about this now I'm worried that maybe he didn't have any intention of asking me out and he only did it to stop people bothering him.

On the other hand, he has bought me really nice presents for Christmas, Valentines Day and my birthday and always responds very quickly and positively whenever I suggest we meet up. He spends time with me at school rather than his friends and always seems to be happy spending time with me.

Basically I'm confused - I want a relationship that people don't class as pathetic but I don't know if that's what he wants.
First of all you shouldn\'t feel your relationship is pathetic because of the hypocritical opinion of others. It all depends on you and how you feel about the situation. Don\'t let people define your relationship.
Secondly this is all new to both of you so you wouldn\'t know exactly things that would spice up the relationship. I personally think that you should talk to him and indicate to him that your ready to go to the next level in your relationship. He probably is just waiting for you to say your ready to get a little more serious and probably don\'t want to be the one pushing the relationship into a direction you don\'t want it to go. If talking to him doesn\'t work out try making the first move.
Furthermore, FIND THINGS TO TALK ABOUT there must be something you both have in common that you can relate to, talk about anything that happened to you today ANYTHING one little conversation can end up being interesting.
On the other hand about the friends forcing him into asking you out. He probably was too shy to ask you and was running from the fact that he might be rejected. Lots of boys are like that, It happened to me once, his best friend told me he likes me but was afraid to approach me. So the friends forcing him can be a push that he might have needed. If you still feel insecure about it ask him and don\'t be afraid to ask him.
Overall he seems like a sweet guy just talk to him and tell him whats on your mind and don\'t feel like your annoying him he\'s there for a reason and that is to listen to what you have to say on how you feel about your relationship with him and anything else that may be bothering you.

Hope I helped, Good Luck
Latoline ^__^

Q: Hi! Is there a way to make complex fractions simple enough that even *I* can understand them? LOL! You may have guessed math isn't my strong suit, yet I have to pass this class. Can anyone explain the process?
Complex fractions are pretty easy. First if the problem looks too complicated break it down into a simpler form in order to understand how you go about answering the question. If you have two fractions divided by each other u separate them first to get a clearer picture at what your doing. Am not sure what grade you are in but I hope this link helps.
http://www.regentsprep.org/Regents/math/algtrig/ATV2/simpcomplex.htm

Hope I helped in some way.
Latoline ^__^

Q: I'm a girl the age of 15. If a guy use to have feelings for you and now he wont talk you no matter what you say but he says he doesn't hate you. What do you do, especially when you still have feeling for him.
He clearly still have feelings for you and wants you to show some kind of interest instead of him doing all the work. or maybe he's just going through something

Q: 13/female
Hi my boobs are already a size 36 D and all the boys in my skwl
Its just a feeling you get at that age cause trust i use to feel the same way when i was your age. when you get older u'll get over it an thank god you have at least sum boobs, there are many women out there takin plastic surgeries cause they want their boobs to look big. Its just a normal teenage girl thin we go through.
no needs to worry, it will be ok :)
And for your benefit dont let any guy touch your boobs its disrespectful and their just taking advantage of you. PLEASE dont let anymore guys do that to you! If you catch them staring 4 long just tell them back off!! and wear appropriate clothing that wouldn't attract them to your boobs

hope i helped
Good luck!

Q: 14/f

This year, our band at school has had problems with many people quitting. We were lucky to have one specific member of our section stay. He is really talented and he brings a lot of fun to our section. Earlier, he found out that his last main friend in band has quit so now he's really depressed. I really want to cheer him up because I hate seeing him so sad. Some friends of mine and I are planning a surprise party for him on Saturday. Does anybody have any ideas for that or anything else we could do cheer him up. I really appreciate all answers
first of all i think she is talking about a student.
You should first of all tell him how talented he is and mostly tell him what a big difference he brings to the group and without him it wouldn't be the same just be straight up to him. If u do he would feel wanted and appreciated. If needed u should throw the surprise party

Q: erm well what does it mean when someone says 'The best thing we ever had, we took it for granted' ? pleaseee need to know what he meant.. thanku !
Well basically u both had something special but unfortunately u guys slightly took advantage of it

Q: this is so true. well last night i went to the new guy's house and he started making out with me and trying to touch me. he kept telling me he doesn't want to use me. i believe him a little bit but then i don't know. he tells me he wants me to go out with him, he even asked me out and i said not yet, but then again he tried to touch me and lick me. I don't get this.
first of all does this new guy knows you are in a relationship with someone? if so he is not giving you any time to finalize anything with your current bf or maybe desperate to have you in his life.
if he does not know i think you should tell him and that might be why he is acting like that.
before you make any decision of who you would be with, have a short conversation with the new guy ask him questions like what about you inspires him etc...
then ask yourself if that's the kind of attention you like from a guy.
now ask you current bf if he loves you and why(not too suspicious that he has to be wondering why you ask such question)
and i think from here you should know which one of these guys you should be with.

best wishes.

Q: Ok, I been with my boyfriend basically for 4 years. we broke up because he went to the Dominican republic and cheated on me with someone else. we were off for 1 yrs and 2 months then When he came back he apologized and now we're back together. I still believe we have 4 years even though we weren't together the 4 full years. my boyfriend is 18 and so am I. There is this guy he is 23, I meat him 3 weeks ago, he is cute, and nice to be around with. He likes me and last night we ended up kissing. I really don't know what to do. I'm sure if i tell my boyfriend he's going to break up with me. there is no doubt about that. But I also like the other guy. I'm so confused right now. I know that i have to stay with only one but i don't know with which one :( can someone bare with me here and try to help me out. I will really appreciate it. thanks in advanced
well i think you should be treated better than how your boyfriend is treating you.if he really love you he would not of cheated. it may be true that you don't want your/his heart broken but look at it this way if you stay with him forever will you feel happy?
on the other hand i understand you like this guy u just meet i think u should know more about him if you haven't already done that, and make sure if you choose him their will be no regrets of your decision.

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