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Should I stay with my boyfriend? I'm 13 and he's 16 but he lives all the way in London. I know some of his friends and that's how I met him. We started back talking a few days ago. I found out that he signed up for the army and he has three years of training. He did it so he wouldn't have to be with me anymore but he wont break up with me and he says that he wants to be with me.
I'm so confused and I need to know if I should break up with him. (link)
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Has he told you that he joined the army so he doesn't have to see you?
I don't know where you live in comparison to London, but it sounds like you haven't been with him long.
My advice is; you're young, you don't live near your boyfriend. He's about to leave. Go and have fun! Don't let yourself get tied down.
Hope this helps :) xoxo
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I want sex with my boyfriend but I'm lucky if I get a kiss of him. Im a girl and I only got my first bra today and I'm not finished with puberty I've snogged and my ex showed me how to have sex but he left my school my other ex dumped me for two girls in my class. My boyfriend isn't that serious and I want more but the ex that is still in school won't go back out with me. (link)
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Don't go out with your ex to have sex. Especially if he broke up with you to see two other girls. And he probably knows nothing about sex, just what he's learnt from porn.
If your boyfriend doesn't want to have sex it's because he's not ready and it sounds like you aren't either. Remember as much as you feel ready, you don't want to look back on loosing your virginity and regret it. I'm sure you watched enough chick flicks to know that there are a lot of women who regret loosing their virginity when they realise they weren't ready.
I would suggest taking things with your boyfriend one step at a time and only doing things when your both ready. I know you probably hear this all the time but have fun being young! Sex can be really special as long as you treat it that way.
Hope this helps :) xoxo
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Hello,
My boyfriend and I are 17 and 18 years old. We started a long distance relationship a little over six months ago. Back then, I was still a virgin and he knew that. However, a few months ago I cheated on him and lost my virginity to a guy I honestly had no feelings for. I was completely aware of what I was doing and I did it because I really just wanted to get it over with. I made sure there were no feelings attached. Now, the guy still chases after me, but I want no business with him, or any other guy rather than my boyfriend. I love him to death and really have no trouble remaining faithful. I realized it wasn't worth it and he's truly the only guy I ever want to be with. However, I know that he'll want to break up with me and his heart will be completely shattered if he knows. He keeps talking about how magical he wants my first time to be once we finally see each other again. And I believe it will be magical because it'll be with him. I don't want to lose him, but I do think he needs to know. I also don't think it's any conversation to have via phone/text/video. A close friend told me not to say anything '"cause there's no point". I know if we were in the same time zone it'd be easier to confess and try to win his trust back, but I have a serious disadvantage by not being able to daily demonstrate my true feelings towards him. I've thought of telling him in the far future, once we're living together, but I don't know how he'll feel about it after such a long time...
Also, I'm actually kind of glad I did it only because it was extremely painful, and he wasn't the one who caused that terrible experience. The guy was gentle, so it would've been bad either way. Should I tell him when we finally meet again? If so, should I do it as soon as possible, or do I give it some time? If I do choose to tell him, I know I probably shouldn't have sex with him until he's known, but I'm terribly scared of ruining the possibility of a future with him.
I'd appreciate any thoughts and advice,
Thank you. (link)
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If you can live with yourself never telling him then don't. But if you will always feel guilty about it then you will have to tell him because you will end up sabotaging your relationship anyway.
It's not going to help waiting until you live together to tell him because he will just feel like your whole relationship was built on a lie.
I think you know what the right choice is for you, its just that your scared. You have take a leap sometimes.
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What jobs can gay people get? (link)
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Any job, except perhaps if you're from the US and want to go into some kind of military.
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Hi! i'm a girl and i'm having my Sweet 16 party in several weeks, and i'm starting to send out invitations. most of my friends are girls, but i have a few close guy friends as well. my question is this, should i invite those guy friends even though there will be mostly girls at the party?
i feel like it would be awkward because there would be about 15 girls (maybe) and about 5 or 6 guys. i have more guy friends that i could invite but some of them i don't know all that well. what do you think?
thanks! :) (link)
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Invite who you want there. I'm sure the girls and guys will get along just fine. I wouldn't invite people that I don't know well because in my experience it doesn't make the party any better. Just have the people around that care about you. :)
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I haven't been on this site for literally years but I thought someone here could help me. I can't go to my friend with this because I've told her similar things before and she immediately says the worst, like he is cheating and hiding things from me.
I'd really like someone else's opinion, please.
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now, and he is 21 and I am 20. I basically live with him and I'm with him pretty much all the time. BUT I can never touch his phone. He literally fights me over it if I get ahold of it. He also has two phones. He says one is for games and the other is for calling and texting. I've been on the games one before freely with his permission. The other one I have only been on when I snuck around when he was sleeping, and I did find horrible heart-crushing things on it. He was talking to multiple girls, and even in sexual ways. He told one girl that he was going to have sex with her when he visited another state and she was agreeing to it.
Talking to him about it, he denied everything I said and said he was never actually going to have sex with her.
(This wasn't the first time I saw him talking to other people. A couple months before he was talking to his ex, who we went through terrible things with. She is psycho and I don't know why he'd even think about talking to her. I guess she was hard to let go.)
I've accused him before of continuing to talk to other girls, calling them beautiful, deleting the messages after, etc. He gets extremely mad, yells at me, and leaves the room. I can recall this happening 3 times where I'm seriously crying and scared of him.
It seems like every day I see on his phone a pop-up saying a girl accepted his friend request. I ask him and he says its someone he knew from where he lived before, and he had a lot of friends who were girls. But all of them are like... Beautiful, have lots of likes on their pictures(from him too), and.. ya know? Like, they don't seem like real girls. But their location sure enough says where he is from. BUT who even has that many friends? He adds a LOT of girls. "That request is from a long time ago." Yeah, okay.
He also used to take his phone in the shower with him. I say USED TO because he doesn't shower when I'm there anymore, I'm assuming because I confronted him about it.
One last thing, I was on his games phone and went on his Facebook to see him telling another girl she's "so beautiful" and then later, it was gone. He doesn't remember it all at. So, I know he deletes everything. And, of course, denies it.
I'm sorry this is so long. If someone can give their opinion on this, like how I can help the situation or help fix these problems we have, I'd be very appreciative. I really do love him. Taking away all of these things I mentioned above, he does NOT seem like someone who would cheat. I know him really well. But all of this is beyond my mind. (link)
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So your saying you've found these messages, he said it wasn't real and you went along with it. You don't sound like you trust him at all. It's hardly a foundation for a strong relationship. From what you've mentioned above he does seem like someone who would cheat because he's spoken to girls about having sex when he's in a relationship with you. The only thing you have is that he denied it.
I'd suggest you perhaps don't know him as well as you think. All I can say if I was in this position with my boyfriend I'd be giving him one last chance before I move onto someone who doesn't act so shady.
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This guy likes me and keeps talking to me and I want to make sure I'm not accidently flirting with him. Can you tell what not to do? Thanks (link)
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You have to make sure you don't say anything that is open to be interpretation be blunt. And if the "I really like you" conversation happens you must be entirely honest, there's no point giving him false hope because he'll just get more hurt later on.
Just make sure you don't flirt and just be natural, if your friends then be how you normally are to your friends. Don't get worked up about it some people can't take a subtle hint. If he's getting to deep, tell him how you feel.
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So I am in the 8th grade- going into 9th. I'm pretty sure this all started in 5th grade btw... but I think I have a depression/ anxiety/ bipolar disorder. I've taken A LOT of these quizzes and screenings online for them and it states that I have a high case of it and I should get some help just in case... I also had one of my friends take it and she got a high ish score too but her mom found it and she took her to get help and she has been getting help from medications because she was diagnosed with quite a few disorders like depression and anxiety. I've told her about my scores and she has told me many times to ask my mom but I'm afraid to. I mean I don't cry every night or day about my life but I do a lot and when i do it's horrible and i have no one to talk to about it. If i tell my mom, she'll either think i'm crazy or she won't believe me. And what if I am actually diagnosed with those disorders? I'm going to have to talk to a therapist (she does) and get on medication.. and that's going to cost a lot of money... and nows not the time to make my mom worried and have to pay money. she and my dad have been stressed lately and it's just too much money and i don't think we could afford it with all this shiz going on. I want help but I don't want my parents to have to go through all this... (link)
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It really sounds like you don't have bipolar. If you had bipolar the chances of you calmly writing and contemplating it are very slim. Your mum will not believe you because its a wild step from feeling a bit down. Think how she might feel if you say it because if she has therapy she probably has her own issues an might be insecure, so be careful how you approach these subjects.
Do you feel depressed? If so think about why.
Do you feel anxious? If so think about why.
Talk to your mum about how you feel.
These quizzes cannot tell you if you have any of these problems, they are not written by a doctor or psychiatrist. Go and talk to your doctor about your thoughts if you are that worried.
There are free helplines that you can call. I don't know what country you are in but there is sure to be a help line if you need to talk to someone.
Hope this helps :)
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I was on Instagram and came across a comment. It read:
"If you stop reading this your going to die. I am teresa fidalgo if you don't repost this on 20 photos I will sleep with you forever. This girl ignored an her mom died 29 days later and its true. You can search me on google". I posted that on 20 photos because I was so scared. I still am. I'm so scared and I don't know why. I searched the girl's name and saw a picture and immediently clicked out. I didn't read the story because I was so frightened... What should I do?? Is this normal? Please oh please help me. (link)
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You or your family members will not die, if they did it would be pure coincidence. It's lies. Don't panic and you will see your life will continue just the way it did.
I even checked online the real teresa fidalgo died in 1983, so presumably way before you were born. Goggle teresa fidalgo fake, you will see.
Hope this helps :)
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I've been in a relationship with a girl from overseas for almost two years. I'm a 26 y/o guy, and she's 24. She came with me here about a year and a half ago. I treat her well, romance her, buy her roses, bake her cakes, take her out when I have time, tell her that she's beautiful, help her look for work, and a lot with English.
Last year she started acting funny and talking about a guy, and I found out she cheated on me by looking at her phone, and reading her emails (Not saying this was right, just that I did it). I confronted her, but I never really felt she thought what she did was wrong. I promised not to look at her stuff again.
For the half year since then she's been using her phone a ton, and hiding it from me. Lately she has been getting calls and messages from the guy she cheated with on me again, so often that even though she doesn't want me to know, it's inevitable that I would see at some point. She gets pissed off over trivial things, she's stuck to her phone 24/7, we hardly ever have sex anymore, and sometimes I don't feel like she even wants to be here.
So I gave her time, and everything just felt kind of wrong. I broke my promise and checked up on her. She's still cheating on me, and things never really stopped. She tells me she's faithful, nothing has happened, and she loves me, but I know she's lying.
Recently she got offered her dream job in my country, and the contract process is happening fairly quickly. She's staying here on a Partner visa with me, and we live together. If I break up with her, she either has to leave within a month, or become illegal. Apart from that, it will obviously make my life more hellish for that month than it already is living with a person who you know is lying to you with a straight face, while making out with another guy. I know that she is planning to stay with me for the two years it will take for her to gain permanent residence, and then leave me for the guy she is cheating on me with.
In my country, you can only ever sponsor two people to be partners, and if your first partner is granted PR, the length your second one has to wait grows to 5 years, rather than just 2.
I don't know how to handle breaking up with her, and what to say to who, when. I don't want to be taken advantage of, or have my name smeared by this. Breaking up with her before she gets PR will pretty much destroy her whole life as she knows it. She quit her job to come here with me, which is kind of a black spot on her employment history in her home country. I feel angry and upset about what she has done to our relationship, but I'm still battling feelings of love for her, and I don't want to see her broken. I wish everything I know about what's happened could be a lie, but I know it's not, so I have to deal with it.
To complicate things, accepting the job involves costly medical and security checks for her, and may mean we consider moving. I'm at university, and I only just found this out, right before the exam period. I really don't want to think about this before exams, and I definitely don't want to break up with her just before my first exam, so I am putting it off, but I feel so guilty for "supporting" her through the process of getting checks and references for this job that I know will be difficult if not impossible for her to keep.
What would you do?
What should I tell her? The truth? Or that I've fallen out of love, but don't know why? Or that one of her friends told me the truth?
How do I deal with the stress of living together with this oblivious lying girl who tells me she loves me?
What should I do to handle the resistance that I'm likely to have to breaking up with her? She won't want to break up with me, because she wants PR.
Can you tell me some steps and the order in which I might do them?
Any other general advice about the situation that I haven't asked a specific question about is more than welcome.
Thanks in advance.
-Troubled (link)
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You sound like you are doing a lot in this relationship. Realistically, within six months of living with you she started cheating on you and hasn't stopped. You are not having a sexual relationship (this is obviously not the most important thing but it is a big part of a relationship.)
You may not like this; she is cheating on you with someone else. She has a VISA because of you and seeing someone else. Did she really move her for you?
You ask what I would do, I would break up with her. Yes you shouldn't have checked through her phone but she shouldn't be having sex with other people. I'm afraid I can't tell you how to go about this because it's your life. But do you want to risk your career for her to have hers?
I'm sorry I can't be more help, you will have to decide.
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I am a girl,age 23. my father has died in 2009, my mom is alive but she never take care of me. i live with my elder sister,she has 3 kids. she always quarreled with me. if i don't do any household work, she got angry with me. i have boyfriend,who never let me cry,he love me so much.i didn't meet with him for last 3month because my sister never allowed me to meet with him. i stay my room whole day lonely.nobody of my family call me or ask me anything. my study is also hampering day by day. for my condition my boy friend also feeling very bad for me and his study also destroying day by day.i cant tolerate this anymore.it is seem to me that my death is the nice solution for all.my family will get rid of me and my boyfriend will get a better life.i have no way to live.what should i do beyond this?
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Your sister is letting you live with her when she has three children. Do some housework! She doesn't want four children that's why she had three, stop making life more difficult for her. It was her dad as well.
If your twenty three, why is your sister stopping you meet your boyfriend? Maybe you are from a different culture to mine, but it is your life.
Stop staying inside, go and get a job, move out and have your own life. Stop living off other people.
I understand that it must have been awful to loose your dad at such a young age. But if it is stopping you live any kind of life, get some therapy, so you have someone to talk to.
The fact that your dad has died doesn't seem to have any relevance to the other problems. Unless you are depressed, in which case go and see a doctor. Furthermore, your dad probably didn't chose to die. You know how much it affected your family, it's going to hurt a lot more leaving them by choice.
Hope this helps :)
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I am a 22 yr. old female who lives on her own in the US. I rent and live with my boyfriend of three and a half years. The guy I’ve been with has put me through hell in the last three years we have been together but I stuck by his side fearing that I would be alone. He has abandoned me several times even on our anniversary and I know deep down I deserve better. I go to school PT and I work FT. To give you a vague idea of what life has been like for me, I do everything- tend to his needs, clean up after him because he won’t clean up at all, buy all the food, he treats me poorly- has no consideration for my feelings at all, doesn’t acknowledge anything that I do, is jealous that I’ve got a better job than him, refuses to work FT, won’t help out at all around the house without complaining about it, he has no interest completing his college education, and now he’s asking his job to cut back his hours so he can play card games all day. I’ve asked him nicely to pursue counseling, offered to pursue counseling with him as a couple, and he is being stubborn about it. He thinks he doesn’t need it at all. He has been talking lately about quitting his job because he doesn’t want to be work for retail all his life, and recently, dropped the only class he was taking at college. He has Asperger’s so he sees the world a bit differently than you and I, but I’ll be damned, he’s very manipulative and super quick to create conflict if things do not go his way.
That said, I’m in a pickle and I’m growing very unhappy with him. My heart genuinely loves and cares about him and his overall well being but am I in love with him? I don’t think so. We don’t connect like we used to, I am not attracted to him anymore (been over a year since we’ve done anything sexual), and I do a lot of things on my own. I feel like he’s my child literally. Because his name is on the lease, I am reluctant to say how I really feel because I am worried it would create a mess of problems that I do not need at this time. I have been saving up for a down-payment on a house of my own and I’m very close to being able to get one. My goal is to drop him when the lease is up if things do not get better.
As silly as it is going to sound, I think I have found someone who I really enjoy talking to. I met him through eBay of all the places but we immediately clicked. We like almost all of the same things and we can talk non-stop for six hours. We have so much to relate to it isn’t even funny. He is attractive, a bit older, and he happens to live in Arkansas, which is very far away from New York, but I guess it could be worse. We are discussing meeting sometime this year presumably if all goes well. He seems like my other half and I get very giddy when I hear from him (sometimes anyway). Although I don’t know him as well as I would like to, I do have a strong gravitation towards this person and I’m not fully sure why exactly. Maybe it is because we are so alike. He is a college graduate and has been a dept manager at a retail store for five years. He was studying graphic design and has even done a few book covers for local authors. I find it impressive that he has done so much at his age. If you believe in Astrology, his sign is Gemini (air) and I am Leo (fire), it says we are highly compatible. He is highly skilled in many areas including photography and art. I could go on and on about how wonderful this guy is but I’ll stop it right there.
Anyways, I told him my disposition with my boyfriend a few months back and recently told him how I started feeling about him. I was scared to bring the topic up mainly because I wasn’t sure if he felt the same way but I also did not want there to be a relationship between him & I- at least not until I have successfully ended the relationship I am currently in and after he and I have met in person first. The more I have talked to him, the more I feel like I am falling for this person, but I will say this feeling comes and goes and fades away when he isn’t talking to me as much. I think I take it personal or something, assuming it’ll never happen and that he is not interested anymore. It sucks having a pessimistic mind. There have been spouts where this person just disappears for days and I grow concerned, I don’t understand why it happens and when I try to reach out, I don’t get any response back. He tells me there is something there for me but has forgotten the feeling of love. If you are genuinely interested in someone, you don’t do that to the person who has feelings for you.
Maybe my thinking is off or I’m taking way too much to heart so soon when I hardly even know this person. It has been a while since he has been in a relationship and while he has forgotten the feeling, what do you think this feeling could be? Did he just say that because he did not know what to say? Anyways, I can understand being busy but at least tell the person you are interested in or who is interested in you what is going on in your life so they know you are OK. If I stop talking to him, he does try to initiate conversations which confuse me. It seems the more attention I give him the more he runs away but the less I give, the more he comes back for more. He will on occasion send me text messages in the morning or call randomly to chat. And no matter how much that guy is on my mind or not, I do dream of meeting him when I am asleep even if he hasn’t been on my mind at all. I sometimes smile myself to sleep when I’ve talked to him and had a great conversation. But in these dreams, I am subconsciously trying to hide it away from my current relationship. I guess the conscious is playing a part. I’ve had maybe 2 or 3 dreams where I’ve come close to telling the person I am with now about this guy. I don’t believe in cheating and that is why I am stuck, I can’t move on until the relationship I am with is done entirely, but it seems I’ve felt alone for so long my heart is ready to love again. I’m worried of the situation altogether backfiring. I don’t know what to do. Do I have genuine feelings for this guy? Is this just a crush? Will it subside? Am I a complete nut-case? Am I putting things in my head that should not be there? Should I just stop talking to this person or view him more as a friend? What would you do in my shoes?
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Firstly I would like to apologise for not replying sooner I have had some computer troubles and I would like to let you know that although I will try and give good advice I do not know a lot about Asperger's.
You are young and you have your whole life ahead of you. And you shouldn't fear being alone, it can be a good thing. I always say a relationship shouldn't make you happy it should make you happier, because you should already be happy.
However, you should keep in mind that you are very busy and he might sometimes feel like you don't have time for him, or that you don't care.
If he keeps leaving you, is he reliable?
IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO BE HIS MOTHER! Yes cleaning, cooking etc is important but it needs to be give and take. If your at work all day and he has the day off it is his responsibility to take care of the house, just as much as it is yours.
It is not your problem that he doesn't like that you have a better job. If he wants a better job he is free to go and get one. It doesn't sound like anyone is preventing him from doing this: Aspergers or no Aspergers.
All you can do is try to support him. Look into the laws and rules of what you are renting now, unless you are a guarantor there is a chance that he would have to move out if he is making no money as long as you can prove you can afford the place alone. But like I say; find out the facts before saying anything, it is not worth making more trouble.
Sexual attraction is a very important part of a relationship. Is it everything? Of course not, but you need to be sexually attracted to the person you are with.
In reference to this ebay gentleman, I'm sure you've heard of the show Catfish. Be careful. You don't know who they are, he could be lovely. Or an axe murderer. You simply don't know.
I can't tell you if you have genuine feelings for this person, I have never met anyone online and it is not something I trust or would use. But that is just me and many people have successful relationships by meeting online.
What would I do in your shoes?
I would find out about the rules about someone on the lease with no income and see if I could get him to leave. If I couldn't I would wait until I could pay for my house move and get rid of him. If possible I would leave straight away and stay at a friend or family members until I could move if it wasn't too long.
That's just me, it's your decision and your life.
There's obviously a reason you haven't left yet.
Hope this helps :)
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Someone is blackmailing on kik. I sent him nude photo of mine, he want me to send again if I will not he said that he will post it online website wherein all country can see it. I dont know what to do. He said that he will spread it and all my friends can see it. Im afraid Im fron Hungary. Need help (link)
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If you send him another photo, he will just keep doing this. Are you young enough for it to be illegal for him to post the pictures up? If so you can stop this from happening via the police. Check the law first.
I don't know what else I can recommend to be perfectly honest, its a lot harder because you are from a country that I do not know a lot about.
Make sure you never send people naked photos, it gives people a chance to exploit you. This is all I can say, sorry I can't be more useful or helpful
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Can somebody please tell me what to do! I'm only 13yrs old and I'm having a lot of white hair! I know it's because I always keep my hair up when it's wet, but now, I don't know what to do to get it back. I don't want to dye my hair, because it'll kill the hair cells. Someone help please! (link)
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Just so you know if you choose to dye it when it grows out. It will always be the first hair that you notice because it is so hard to dye as it probably has no pigment.
Your hair doesn\'t change colour because its up when its wet. I get how you feel though I have random bits of white hair and people used to laugh at me when I was your age. And now people I meet are like \"wow that\'s so cool, seriously you\'ve had this naturally since you were a baby?\"
If you don\'t want to dye your hair there is not much you can do but embrace it! Also its supposed to be lucky to have white streaks. :)
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I feel really good when I laugh and I love laughing. The problem is that I find almost nothing funny. A lot of people laugh when other people get hurt which is what most "funny videos" on youtube are about. And I honestly don't think they're funny ._. I also don't like most "funny" movies. Can anyone give me some ideas what I can watch? The only person I can think of that makes me laugh is ellen degeneres ._. (link)
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I don\'t find them funny either, and I freaking hate mister bean. Seriously he just makes stupid noises! What the hell!
Umm what I would recommend is youtubing ellen degeneres comedy because she did a lot of stand up, and you will most likely get suggestions of people who like her and have the same kind of humour and then you can find other comedians funny.
I\'m afraid she\'s not that big in England so I don\'t know much about her. But I gave it a little google looking through similar comedians and comedians that do observational humour and got a huge list:
George Carlin, Jerry Seinfeld, Larry Li, Craig Ferguson, Larry David, Bill Cosby, Reginald D Hunter, Mitch Hedberg, Billy Connolly, Russell Howard, Cedric the Entertainer, Steve Harvey, W. Kamau Bell, Ray Romano, Russell Howard, Chris Rush, Dane Cook, Ricky Gervais, Chris Rock, Jim Gaffigan, Kathy Greenwood, Ellen DeGeneres, Daniel Tosh, Russell Peters
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I mean is it all like "unholy"? I know that black magic is like witchcraft but whats white magic? Will it get you sent to hell? I have been thinking about this since I read "Jays Journal". Also are spells considered witchcraft? (link)
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It depends what you believe in. Personally I\'m not a Christian and I\'m not sure if I believe in hell. You will have to think about your own beliefs and what you think the answer is. I think you need to search into what you believe, because I can\'t tell you that something is unholy.
Black magic is the idea of bad magic and white is the idea of good. If you look on Pagan websites I\'m sure there will be more information.
Spells are part of witchcraft yes there are books on this:
have a look on here
http://voices.yahoo.com/wicca-101-best-beginner-witchcraft-books-2711053.html
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So, I'm a 14 year old girl and I honestly can't cope with the way my parents tell me to live, I feel like I am trapped in my home and I can't do anything!
They have these rules that I cannot go on my iPad/phone until 8pm every night, even at weekends I'm not aloud to use them. They say I'm to antisocial and I need to get out more, I go almost everywhere with them! I do go to town with friends aswell. They won't let me out of my town, I live in Barnstaple, devon and I'm not even aloud to Exeter or Bristol to go on a shopping trip with friends which is only about 2 hours away. Also I'm not aloud to be friends with a few people I know, one of them because there is a rumour going around that her mum is a prostitute and the other one who is my best friend and I still hang out with her secretly because she said something rude on Facebook like 2 years ago! It annoys me how I can't be friends with who I want to be friends with. My parents won't let me go out after school and I always have to be back home at 4pm if I go anywhere, which means I can't go out in the evening or at night and have a laugh :(
They also won't let me use social networks other than Facebook and Twitter, I want to be able to use snapchat, Instagram and tumblr but I'm not aloud to have it on my phone, another thing is that my dad still reads my texts and my messages with friends online!!! I'm 14 and I literally have no privacy! It's really annoying I want to just tell him "no, I won't give you my phone" or just not tell him the lock to my phone but he always makes me! :(
This is really annoying me now how I feel like I am stuck with nothing to do and no privacy at all :(
Anyone know what I could do? (link)
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It sounds to me like they are worried about you. BUT, they are pushing their worries too far onto you.
I think you will have to talk to them about this. Or if you know that you will all end up in an argument; write a letter saying that you know that they worry about you and don\'t want you to make huge mistakes. But you need to make some to learn from them otherwise you won\'t know what is good or bad to do when you are 18 living at uni with no parents.
Also if the rumour about your friends mum is just a rumour, surely they know it could be a huge lie? I don\'t think its fair to teach that. I\'ve had loads of rumours about me while I was in school and it hurt enough that people were talking about me let alone if I had children and it was affecting their friends.
Maybe you should let them know the people who have found to be the safest online, making their profiles more private are our generation. We know the risks! If you do write a letter, tell them what you know about being safe online. Because it\'s probably more that they are worried about bullying and adults who prey on girls your age. I presume your a girl but I cannot be sure .
The summer is coming up so instead of somewhere like Bristol, try and gain their trust, by perhaps going to Woolacombe beach or somewhere close with a lifeguard so you will be supervised. If you want more independence I think in this case you will have to prove you can be trusted- sadly.
In reference to your messages: delete them! That way nobody can see them. Explain that you need some privacy. You are a fourteen year old girl. If nobody understands this get one of your friends to have an in depth conversation about your periods through text; because it might make him think twice about why you need privacy.
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I have diff. Color eyebrows than my hair. I have dirty blonde hair and brown eyebrows. It makes my face look weird and my nose long which by the way is almost as big as my forehead!!!!!!!!!! Idek makeup looks weird on me and I just want to feel pretty for once. Ideas??!?!?!? (link)
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I naturally have mousy/dirty blonde hair with really blonde eyebrows, so I know how it feels. You could get your eyebrows lightened or you could get lowlights in your hair, which would be a bit darker so it would appear that your natural hair that was left would look like highlights and might match better to you.
If your worried about your make up: in a lot of department stores they do free makeovers. Ask them to talk through with you about colours and contouring the right shape your face.
I doubt your face looks weird and you most likely are pretty. Remember it doesn\'t matter how great you look on the outside. If you don\'t feel pretty on the inside it won\'t make a difference.
Hope this helps :)
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for the last week i have noticed a lot more discharge than normal for no reason i can think of. is there any reason that it just starts increasing or do i need to see a doctor? (link)
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Vaginal discharge that suddenly differs in colour, odour, or consistency, or significantly increases or decreases in amount, may indicate an underlying problem like an infection. It does not necessarily mean you do but there could be a possibility, particularly if you have had unprotected sex. Although you can get small infections that are easily treatable which may not be to do with any sexual contact.
Furthermore you can get an increase of discharge if you are going through emotional stress, ovulation, pregnancy, or frequent sexual excitement. Keep an eye on it (so to speak). You can always see a doctor to be on the safe side, as it is a very delicate area that you need to be super careful with.
Hope this helps :)
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I'm a 13 year old girl and I just moved from Pennsylvania to New Jersey. I had to switch schools obviously big I hate my new school. I don't fit in, I have no friends because no one wants to talk to the weird new girl, and it's just not my home. I've gone here for a few days and everyday after school I do my homework, eat dinner, and cry myself to sleep. It's an endless cycle. I'm really depressed and I just can't do it anymore. To top it all off, my family moves every two years usually so it's not really worth making friends, but I want to go back to Pennsylvania because we ended up staying there for 4 yrs and I made some amazing friends. We can't go back because the reason we came up here is my dad's job. What do I do????? I'm so depressed!!!! (link)
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Speak to your parents about how you feel, if you cannot say it face to face you can write it down in a letter and that way you can\'t end up in a shouting match because everything you feel is written clearly and calmly.
Now, remember you have only been there for a few days. So maybe people are just trying to suss you out. You could try and find a common interest: perhaps some kind of sport team or club that you are interested in. Whatever you like doing there are others that do too. Is it scary? Yes, of course! But you could make some friends through common interests.
You say there is no point making friends but you might stay in New Jersey for 4 years like you did in Pennsylvania. You might make some friends for a life time and having friends in different places is great; you get more chance to travel and see what different people are like.
Give your school another chance and I definitely think you should try a school activity that your interested in.
Hope this helps :)
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