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There is a guy who went to school with me until last semester (he graduated early) who's a year older than I am, and we started talking in school alot at the end of last year. Since then, he'd come up to say hi, give me hugs on occasion, and try to scare me by coming up behind me in the hall while I wasn't paying attention. He'd also ask me to sit with him at lunch when we had an altered schedule and we happened to have the same shift, and (sorry this part is misplaced) we' talked quite a bit at his locker and on the way to our different classes. Since he graduated early, I hadn't seen him since first semester until he came a few days ago for a senior awards assembly. I didn't even see him because I was worried about being late to class, but he saw me and said hi, and opened his arms for a hug. He was still hanging around at lunch and asked me to sit with him, but while I sat and ate, he only talked to me once to ask how I was, and then, without ever lookong at me he talked to the underclassmen boys at the table with us. Maybe he was just a little nervous , I don't know.. So from what I've been able to tell you, do you think he likes me? He's a real sweet guy, and I really do like him, but I don't ever have much luck, and I don't want to jump to conclusions so I need another opinion... Thankyou! :). *Also, sorry for any typos* (link)
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i know its scary, but you have to ask him, you have to be brave and figure out what he wants. Ask him if he wants to hangout soon, ask him for his number just to stay in touch. If he likes you, he will give you his number, he will say yes lets figure out when to hang out.
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Long story short, I've been dating a guy for two months. He puts on this persona like he's this really funny and awesome to be around guy. Everybody thinks he's a rising star and he's pretty much the "cool guy" on campus. He also pretends like he's very religious and sweet.
We're both 21 and live on campus at a University. I started dating him under the same pretense and for the first month things were great. Then he got very manipulative, dark, and controlling. He started telling me who I can and can't be friends with. He approached them and told them to stay away from me. He made me quit a club I was going to and also stop going to bible studies. Anytime I go out with my off campus friends he gets very angry with me and tells me my friends are losers and whores when he's never even met them. He's even waited in front of the dorm building for me to get back to see who I was with.
When we were on spring break and he had to go back home to another state he was constantly asking me who I was with and what I was doing. Even when I was with my mom he wanted me to constantly be answering him and got mad if I didn't do so promptly.
I also just got a new job and he's always heckling me to quit even though I need the money.
Another thing was when we first started dating he told me he wanted to wait until engagement to have sex. Then I found out he wasn't a virgin and then he started wanting sex from me. Now every time I'm with him he wants sexual favors and gets mad when I don't give in.
I've have a kidney infection for two days and I've been in a lot of pain from it. He knows this, but he refuses to believe it even though I'm on two prescriptions and he claims that the doctor is wrong. My doctor told me not to have sex until it goes away so I refused last night, and he started guilt tripping me and told me that our relationship isn't healthy when I refuse to have sex with him. I got upset of course and told him that it's my right to say no and then he replied with "You know I've ruined all of my ex girlfriends lives" and went into detail about it including a story about he convinced an ex's family that she commit suicide.
When things like this happen he always tries to smooth things over, by layering on compliments and telling me how much he cares about me. He's always asking me if I have faith in us and our relationship and telling me he does. If I try to tell him that I feel like his behavior is wrong he pretends to get really sad and says that I'm just misinterpreting his intentions and that he really cares about me and can see us together for the rest of our lives and then I get confused.
I'm so lost. I don't know what to do! I feel like I'm stuck and like hes blackmailing me into staying in the relationship. Nobody on campus would ever believe me if I reported him because he acts so nice and sweet to all of them. I don't want him to ruin my life and I know if I broke up with him he would. I'm scared that the only way for me to get away from him is to stick it out until summer vacation and then transfer colleges.
Please help!!! I don't know what to think or what to do!
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I don't know why you stayed in this relationship as long as you have. And I don't understand why it's even a thought of what you should. Why do you have faith in the relationship? what is there to have faith in? He mistreats you, he controls you, how are you happy in a relationship like that?
You need to get out of the relationship, you deserve way better than something like that. He doesn't deserve you. You can be friends with whoever you want to and you shouldn't have ego be worried about him not liking something you do, it's your life and he should respect that. There are so many other guys out there who will treat you way better than how he treats you
Respect yourself and get out of that relationship now
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Hi everyone, I am 20 years old. I dated this guy who is much older than I am for about 10-11 months. Him and I lived together, and things fell apart. Even before we lived together him and I would fight. We would argue about my friends texting me late at night, we would argue about me falling asleep on the couch to early, we would fight about dinner, we would fight about my family, we would fight how if I didn't do anything around the house, but when I would do things around the house he would feel bad. He didn't like my family very much, he called my family names, he didn't like my friends very much, and anytime I would se them (which was not often) I would be very anxious, and would always try to be home as early as possible because I knew that if I walked in the door after 9 p.m. him and I were going to get into a fight, because "he's been waiting on me all night" but when he goes out with his friends I let him do his things and when he gets home he gets home. No big deal. Point is, we would fight about everything. And we lived in his house. Him and I did not have anything to special that made us, us. We would laugh sometimes, but he is very controlling and very manipulative, and I was not happy with him. There are dozens of red flags about him, like the fact that I was scared he was going to hit me every time we got into a fight. (He never did, but I was always scared he would.) But why do I Miss him so much? I feel so lonely, and so heart broken, somedays I feel okay, like I am strong enough to handle this, and other days I cry, and feel more alone than ever. Would it be so bad to ask him to get a cup of coffee, no strings attached? He is a great guy, just not a good boyfriend. He wanted me to be completely dependent on him, but I was more defendant on myself than anything and he hated it. The bad times easily out weigh the good times, now what do I do? Its been just over 3 weeks since I have seen him last. I miss him in my life as a person, not as my boyfriend But who knows, maybe if I see him hell steal my heart like he once did before. Do people change? Could he change? Should I move on? Should I reach out? I am mind bogled, and I need outside none bias advice. if you need more information please reach out. Thank you. (link)
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When you first break up with somebody, you remember all the good things and the bad things just seem stupid and you tend to blame yourself for all the fights, but give it time. It seems like he was very controlling and yes, its okay to pretend you need help so it looks like you need him for something, guys like to feel like you need them, gives them some kind of ego boost. Just give it time before reaching out again, I'm sure you will feel different about the situation. When i first broke up with my boyfriend, i just wanted him back and so i stayed friends with him, but as time went on, rebounded and now we barely speak because i realize i made the right choice by breaking up with him.
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First off, we're both adults and we attend the same college where we both dorm. We've only been dating for a month, but unlike the usual "one date a week" relationship we've been seeing each other almost every day and have stayed the night together multiple times so we know one another better than most couples at this point. I've been in a serious long term relationship before so I'm also not new to dating and I know the differences between infatuation and love and when you're just in the honeymoon phase.
Anyways, everything was going really well with us, we were both incredibly happy and I was really starting to believe maybe I found the right one because it was just that amazing (compared to my previous relationships).
Then we got into what I thought was a small argument a few days back. I backed down really quickly and apologized for something I shouldn't have because I wanted to salvage the rest of our night and then we went on about our relationship like nothing happened. He's gone back to being as happy as he was before and I've been trying to act like it too, but I'm not okay. I had let down a lot of my walls with him which I'd never done so quickly with anybody else and I really truly trusted him. During the argument though he made a comment about how if anybody was going to end the relationship it would be him. Maybe I'm being a little dramatic, but something about that hit me really hard. I know at the time he said it that he was upset, but it still hurt a lot. Since then, he's been his usual sweet and loving self, constantly telling me sweet little things, doing things for me, ect...but I can't get what he said out of my mind.
Another issue is that when we get romantic he talks about how much he cares about me and how he can't wait until we're actually intimate (we're waiting until I get on BC and for the moment to be right) and has even begged me once or twice to engage in the act. I took that as obvious signs he wanted to be intimate and the other night I asked him about how he felt about planning a special night for it not too far in the distance (because the way things were going in bed I didn't think he wanted to wait much longer to have sex and neither did I especially being that neither of us are virgins). To my shock, he wound up telling me that he wasn't ready to have sex with me yet and was afraid he'd regret it if we did it this soon. It made me feel incredibly naive and stupid and I can't understand why he kept saying he wanted to if he didn't or why he wanted me to get on birth control. I didn't let how much it hurt me show and told him I'd wait for him however long it took.
Today he pulled up a picture on my computer that said "I love you" but I totally blew it off because I didn't believe it. He's never said it out loud and didn't verify if he meant it or not so I'm assuming that he was just trying to be cute and didn't mean it, but that's just one more thing that confused me.
It seems like he's giving me mixed signals and I'm starting to rapidly build my walls back up and find myself reprimanding myself for trusting him and letting my emotions get in the way of my common sense.
I feel really stuck right now and don't know what to do. I don't want to go on feeling like this, but I also can't bring up how hurt I am because I don't want to put any stress on the relationship. I'm constantly scared that he's going to break up with me at any given moment and that I'm going to have done things with him that I shouldn't have. I'm afraid I'm going to be the stupid naive girl that he's going to talk bad about if we break up and I'm scared that he doesn't care as much for me as I do for him. I don't know what to do. I don't mean to make him sound like a bad person at all either, because other than these instances he's absolutely wonderful. The best guy you can think of which is why I do care so much.
Please help?
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I totally get it, i just got out of a relationship like a month ago that was very similar to that. We lived literally half a mile from each other so basically every moment we had, we were doing stuff together from just hanging out at each others houses or taking classes together or getting something to eat. Every day we would text each other nonstop. We were in a relationship for a year and a half. As I look back at my relationship, i did the same thing you did. When we would get in an argument, i would cave in even if i knew it was wrong because i didnt want to fight. I didnt want him to be mad at me. In reality, he should be apologizing to me. Don't do what i did. I should have broke up with him so long ago. I finally stood up for myself, he had gotten me to my breaking point. I'm not saying break up with him, but if you want a healthy relationship, bring it up to him. If the relationship is meant to last, he will understand and you can figure out how to solve the problem, compromise. My ex didnt want to compromise half of the time, he wanted it his way or nothing. I pushed so hard and became so numb to his control issues just so we could have happy moments. It was not worth it, he got use to the power and getting his way. Again, don't do what I did, you will regret it. And don't hang out with each other too much because you will lose sight to reality, I didnt hang out with any of my friends, he became my priority which shouldn't be the case. If you want to talk, email me: theonenonlyandie@aol.com
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Okay, so there is this guy I really like. I've liked him since like October. We never really started talking until like January, but after that we became really close friends. Let's call him Derek. Then around easter time we were talking like all day every day, we never seemed to run out of things to talk about. But then for some reason we just kind of stopped texting. Like we are in the same friend group so we still hung out and stuff but we weren't a "thing" anymore. Then this other guy (let's call him George) started talking to me and stuff so that never helped either. Then in like the end of May Derek just started to completely ignoring and treating me like I never even existed. So I confronted him and we got into this huge argument tearing each other apart for things the other person did that hurt the other. Like we used to tell each other everything. Derek knows things about me that no one else on this earth knows. Anyways, we resolved the problem between us and we started talking again and eventually it became more often and consistent and in more depth. Then around exam time we were "otg" hard core and I really liked him and wee had our first "date" all planned and it was awesome! We talked all the time and everything. But then in July we just randomly stop talking...AGAIN!!! So I didn't know what to do and I was really upset because I really liked him. The whole summer I never liked anyone else, and he didn't move on either. When we went back to school he wouldn't talk to me and he still won't. I've talked to both of our very good friends and he said that Derek was really upset that we stopped talking because he really liked me and he thought that I just did't like him and I stopped talking to him which wasn't the case at all. My friend said that he won't talk to me because he thinks it's too awkward. But the thing is I really want to talk to him again. I didn't stop liking him and I want us to become close again because there are some things that I can only talk to him about and without him in my life there are some things that I just have too keep to my life. And he is just so wonderful and I just want him to so badly see that I still have feelings for him, I have since October, that hasn't changed.
Are my feelings realistic or is he over me? Should I wait until he is ready to talk or do you think I should move one? Please help me:(:( (link)
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I can't tell you if he's over you or not because i do not know him personally but what i can tell you is go talk to him. Figure out the real reason why he keeps breaking that connection with you. Maybe he's scared; maybe its his first real connection with someone, maybe he has had a bad past. Just talk to him and ask why he does it and that if he trusts you, he will tell you why. I know you might not want to hear this, but just keep in mind you're only 16 years old and most likely, this will not be the guy who you grow old with, but you can still go after him, just keep in mind that there are many more fish in the sea :)
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I have been together with my boyfriend of long distance for over a year now. I have no clue in the world why I have stayed with him so long since he has been the reason for my constant anxiety, low self-esteem and being depressed. It's not like he intentionally makes me feel these emotions and feelings; it's just I finally realized we're not compatible. For one, my dream that I have always held close to my heart since I was the littlest thing was building a house on my mother's land in the small town I grew up in. If I stay with my boyfriend, that would never be an option. I would HAVE to live in the BIG city or at least in a suburb for his gaming career. I can't do that for I would be severely unhappy for the rest of my life and he doesn't seem to understand it at all. I don't want to give up my life-long dream just because he wants to live in the city. It's not fair for me. I want to care for his dreams, and in all honesty I do. I truly do, but I can't leave this town. He's also always nagging me about getting a job, which he doesn't understand how hard it is with me having anxiety and how low jobs are around where I live. I tell him I look for jobs every day. I even signed up for "job training for the disabled" (anxiety is my disability; it's so horrifying!)
Well, my parents have been breaking their backs for months trying to get me to break up with him. And I've finally realized how badly I am with him and I think it's time to actually break up with him for good. But I want to change first. I'm always so depressed and anxious because of the things he does and I just don't feel beautiful and I don't feel good enough because of the way he acts. I want to be finally confident, positive about everything, happy, sweet, enthusiastic and just an overall different, better person.
How should I start and continue on my journey to change?
I'm changing my appearance to which I've already figured out because I don't want to remind myself at all of who I once was. I want to be confident enough to end it with him and hopefully just never speak to him again because of all the anxiety that is included in every conversation we have.
This isn't an emotionally abusive relationship in any way. He's one of the sweetest people I've ever met. It's just he doesn't make me happy at all. (link)
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Look, if you want to change yourself, you need to let him go first. Do not completely change yourself to the point where you lose sight to who you really are. Stay true to yourself. I think that you are not in a place right now to be in a relationship and you need to take time for yourself and find out what you want to do with your life without any distractions.
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I am 20 yo guy... And had been in a relationship with a girl for nearly 14 months. I really loved her a lot and it was a dream, Unfortunately shortlived. Things began souring within the 2nd month itself.Here is how it went
2nd month-She failed in her exams. I called & calmed her down.i happened to say i ll be there for u no matter wat the result. She lost it and did not talk to me fr 2 days.i somehow convinced her i was sorry & i did nt mean it
3rd month-she broke up because i said that if we were ever to break up i ll always keep her in my heart. She broke up saying i din say i ll always love her.again i begged n convinced her.
4th n 5th month had a break up again over something trivial
6th month she got soo angry insulted and humiliated me.i made her a card she asked me throw it. And that i did not deserve any1.i begged again
7th month. A huge fight coz i din ask how she was cz she had been ill.i sd i m sorry. Cheered her up. Then my agony began in the 10th month
She had her exams and so did i. She sd pls support and understand me. I did bt then during my exams i sd i might gt frustrated.plz bear with me. A huge fight broke coz " now that she was with me i was takin her for granted and behave rudely with her" then it was our month anniversary. I had my exams so i sd can we meet tommrw cz it was my bday as well. She got so angry even when we met she was behaving rudely in public to the point i was going to break down in tears. I prepared hand made gifts for her birthday and saved money. She broke up and asked me to never talk to her. And when i did not she sd i really did nt love her coz i din try to win her back. Ultimately we did meet on her bdae after lot of persuasion. Then i had gone out with my parents for some days. On the day i was returning she called up n sd she scored less in exam.i cheered her and said that i wud meet her a day later. She got angry ,accused me of never supporting her coz i did nt say i would meet her tommrw rather i sd
A day after tommrw. I told that i was really tired and would nt b able to spend time properly. Again a break up. I finally lost it when she flushed my ring down the drains and broke up. What followed was a series of tantrums,blackmail. I somehow lied that my parents forced me out of it coz they are against us. We broke up but now she says she wants to be with me. I really never want to see her again. But her friends sometyms call and make me feel guilty. My friends also support me but i desperately need help.i m worried if she harms herself i might get into trouble. Please help & sincere apology for making it long ! Please help
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so from reading this, this sounds like a horrible relationship the whole way through. I don't understand why you stayed with her for as long as you did. You just wasted your own time. She did not appreciate you at all and you still managed to squeeze your way into her life. Don't worry if she hurts herself, most likely she is not going to hurt herself, but it is not your responsibility. She put herself in that situation and you're finally stepping up and standing up for yourself.
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theres this guy, we met at a party but we connected and had a heart to heart we had been texting all week. he started calling me babe and complimenting me. telling me i was the only girl he talked to and that he wants to hang with me again. but when i asked him if were were "talking" he told me he doesnt do relationships. and his reasoning was. (he doesnt like being hurt and he doesnt like drama) should i even try to continue to flirt or should i just consider friends? i honestly started to like him. and ive been hurt so much i know his pain (link)
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This is all up to you. You have to determine if you can handle not being in a relationship with him. Being friends with benefits can be very dangerous emotionally. I would suggest not to go down that road and to either just stay with friends with him or if it's too hard, give up
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I am a sophomore in college, and I am also working full time.
I am the object of taunts in school and at work. The funny thing is that I don't really talk to anyone in both places, so I don't know what their problem is. I don't bother anyone (or maybe I do since they seem to always want to start crap with me).
I could just be walking to class and someone would yell out things. They're usually about my appearance, but the most common thing besides that is "slut". Same thing at work.
I don't dress slutty or anything, and I've been with my current boyfriend for three years.
What should I do? Is there something wrong with me?
There was even one time at work where it got so bad I went to management, and the girl got fired.
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This is a tough situation. There isn't much you CAN do. I have been in many situations where people start saying things to me or get people to turn on me when i didn't even say or do anything. Just put on a good face. Do not feed the fire, ignore it and hope for the best
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I need to die to get out of my current situation. I need to do it fast and it has to be efficient. I tried to hang myself but after hanging there a moment I couldn't go through with it. I do not own a gun and I don't have pills just laying around so I need something household and efficient.
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Suicide is never the answer. I would love to know why you want to kill yourself so badly. Suicide shouldn't even exist in your vocabulary. It's devastating and also quite selfish. It is selfish because you are not thinking about the people you would be hurting. You may not think anybody cares, but there is many people out there who do. You are loved no matter what and you deserve the right to live in this world. I can't give you much advice because I don't know the exact situation, but give me more info if you want.
Good luck!
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years now. I'm 25 and hes 22. We've had an amazing relationship together. We don't live together yet but have talked about buying a house plenty of times we are just saving up. His parents are divorced, they went through a bad divorce (which maybe this is all stemming from). About three months ago we had a bad fight. He said he just didnt think we were good together anymore and he wasn't happy with some things I was doing. I cried and cried. I asked him what I could do to change this or make things better. Well I did everything he asked, and its everything that bettered me as a person. I thought things were going really well. I haven't been happier. Well two nights ago he said that he just doesnt feel the same as he did when we first started dating. He lost the feelings. He said he needs time to see if breaking up is what he really wants. So right now we are on no contact. Ive cried every night I cant eat because im just sick to my stomach. he said its not me its him. That i have done nothing but support him, love him and do everything right. I said am I not pretty enough? Is it because I gained weight? And he said no your beautiful. I asked if there was someone else and he said absolutely not that hes always been faithful to me and if we were to break up he couldnt even think of being in another relationship for a long time. And he said if he has any doubts of not being together that he would not for one second hesitate to show up at my door step and ask for me back. He also cried the whole time he was telling me all of this. He said he felt sick to his stomach.
Im just heartbroken. I dont know what to do, where we stand. He said he needs a couple weeks to think. Hes the guy I can see forever with and every time I look at him I think of how in love I am with him. I cant picture my life without him. And he knows it. (link)
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As i read this, i put myself in your shoes, I try to think how i would feel if my current boyfriend said something like that to me, how hurt I would be. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months, but it feels way longer. Being with somebody that long and finding out that it can all be taken away from you is scary. All you can do is wait. You can show up at his house and ask him and talk to him, but if he no longer wants to be with you, I'm sorry. It's hard to lose so much of yourself, your other half. If he breaks up with you, it would take you some time to heal, thats just how life will go, something better will come alone, good luck!
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I'm Kayla and I'm 23 years old. I have been battling with depression for a year and a half now. My life is pretty great actually. I have my very own beautiful house that I pay for, with the help of my 2 best friends, I have a wonderful boyfriend that loves me more than life itself, I have a college degree, a stable job, a car, a dog, everything people typically strive for. But somehow, I am just not satisfied. I think I hate myself and will never give myself the credit for my accomplishments. I hate my face. My nose is way too big, bigger than any nose I've seen on anyone. It's not little and cute like every other nose. It's long, pointy, with a huge hump. My hair is too dry, I can't do anything with it. My toes are all the same size and look ridiculous in sandals. I can't find any clothes I like to wear because I feel so ugly 100% of the time and no crop top or accessories can make me feel sexy. My boyfriend wants to have sex ALL the time but I never want to. I used to be 100 pounds like 6 months ago. I had a flat stomach, abs, bathing suit body to a T. Now I'm 130, my stomach pokes out, sometimes I look pregnant. I know most people think "oh poor you." but it's really messing with my head. I think about suicide on a daily basis. Everytime I drive, I think "If i just turn the wheel and close my eyes, I won't feel a thing". Everytime I walk into my garage, I think "All I have to do is leave that door closed and turn the car on and just sit here and breathe." Every time I'm at home and my roommates are gone (like this week, they're in New York; We live in Texas) I think "I'm sure I can guess the code on Caitlyns safe and get her gun. One second, boom, don't feel a thing". These are thoughts that bombard me every single day. And leave me with whatifs. I have never made an attempt. But I think that's only because I'm scared to feel pain. I would never drown myself, or set myself on fire, or jump off a bridge. Is this doctor worthy? Can I just get assurance that I'm not the only one who feels like this? Why am I not satisfied with my life? I know it could be alot worse. Please help me :(
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You could talk to a doctor about this, but I completely understand if you don't want to. People don't want to talk to a stranger, all their emotions and all the many thoughts circling around in their head. It's hard for a lot of women to accept their bodies and how they look, that's just how we are made. You have to focus on yourself and nobody else. Maybe you need a day or a weekend to go camping in the woods with your friends and your boyfriend and see how much they care about you, how much they accept the way you are and the way you look. Look at what you have; you have all these incredible things, but maybe you need to take a step back and get away from that life for a few days to really see what you have. I, myself, have had body issues and feeling like nobody likes me, sometimes I still feel that way, but in the long run, that shouldn't affect the way you live your life. You shouldn't let that get in the way of being happy because there is so much more to life than looks and looking a certain way.
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I am a junior in college, 20 years old. The guy this is about is 23 years old and a senior in college but is staying an extra semester in college.
My sophomore year of college:
I met this guy through a mutual friend of ours. I got his number one night, we had talked everything will day the person who even fell asleep first during the night would be the person to respond to the last text sent from the night before so the conversation would never end. He has a very flirty sense of humor and I really enjoy his company and talking to him all the time. His friend was turning 21 One night and they were all going out to the bar to celebrate, he asked me if I could pick him up and bring him back to his place because he knew that he would be drunk to which I was happy that he would be smart about that to ask me to do that so I told him yes. So he texted me around 2 o'clock in the morning when the bar closed, that he and his friends are ready to leave. So I left my place to go get them and when I went back to their place and we all hung out and talked for little bit, he pulled me in his room to tell me that he did not want to be with his friends that night because they were all much more drunk than he was so I offered for him to stay at my place. He said yes and after he left his room, he told his friend goodbye and we left to go back to my place. Now, I work for housing so I had a early desk shifts around 6 o'clock in the morning, we got back to my placeat around 230 in the morning and we had talked until about five, I fell asleep for about 45 minutes and when I woke up from my desk shift and got out of my bed, he woke up too. I told him to go back to bed. After my desk shift, I went back to my room and he was awake watching tv, saying he couldn't fall asleep with me and then fall back asleep without me so I went back to bed and we fell back asleep. When we woke back up, we stayed there for a few more hours just talking and then we decided we qere hungry. I got up to go to the dining hall and he pulled me back down to my bed and kissed me and then said thanks for taking care of him and being there.
Fast forward to junior year:
He and I talked all through the summer and everything but at the start of school he started talking about a girl he works with at home and how she will be attending our university. When his texts started getting more sparce a month into school, I saw on Twitter that he was dating the girl he told me about. I wasn't mad they were and I wasn't even mad he stopped talking to me.
About a month ago, he texted me and asked if I knew this girl and sent me a picture. I knew her so I told him yea and he started grilling me asking me how and all of these things trying to set up a time we could all hang out but he wouldn't tell me why he was asking me these things so I got mad and stopped answering him
About two weeks ago, he texted me and asked if I remembered the argument we had about the girl he wanted to get to know. I said that yes, I did remember and he told me he wanted to clear the air that it was his girlfriend that texted me and wanted to know because she had a weird girl crush on that girl and wanted to be friends with her. He apologized a lot and told me he knew it upset me how rude she was being and he wanted me to know that he would never intentionally upset me like that and he wanted me to know that it wasn't him.
This past Saturday he texted me and asked me what I was doing. I told him I was playig with my friend's pet duck. He told me he had a cat before with his girlfriend. I told him I know and that I rmemeber that, he had to return the cat because they felt after his attitude hasn't changed in the couple weeks they had him that a college campus wasn't a suitable environment for that cat so they took him back to his owner. When I told him that I remember, he then told me that it was a different cat and that his girlfriend took this one home because they broke up and he left her have the cat but she couldn't keep it on campus since she lives in a dorm. I told him I was sorry for the break up and he said "Why do you think I told you it was her texting you that night and not me? I didn't want you to be mad at me."
Since then, it's been like before. We haven't stopped talking. We talk and reminisce about the night he stayed with me after drinking with his friends, we talk about how much fun we used to have hanging out, we talk about his best friend's deployment, everything. He's since asked me to hang out too and the one night I was sick of caring for my drunk friends, he told me to drop them all off at their respective places and if I needed anywhere to stay, his door was always open.
However, I don't know how to feel. I mean, I like it that were talking again, I did miss him. But I kind of feel like I'm only good enough for him when he's single. Or that he's got ulterior motives, that he maybe wants me to be his rebound. I haven't hung out with him even though hes asked and I don't know if I should, he misses his ex girlfriend (she broke up with him) and I don't know if he's just talking to me again for him to get over her.
It makes me feel iffy that he isn't using me to get over her because he calls me friend a lot in his texts. He did that before but I think he's doing it a lot more now. But he is asking me to hang out and he went right back to how we used to be as good friends. I even told him one night that they could all go to my friends place to hang out me and then I told him I fast tracked that if he was with his ex, I didn't want them to since I know she didn't like me and I knew she was the reason he stopped talking to me all those months (to which he agreed that she was the reason) and he was quick to text me and tell me that she wasn't with them if I wanted them to go to my friends place to hang out, they could.
So my question is, am I thinking too hard about this? I missed him. I like how we mesh together so well. But could there be ulterior motives? Should I be mad that he stopped talking to me?
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You have to communicate with him, that is the only way you will know how he feels about you. He may be able to say i was scared to tell you how i feel or i don't want to lose the friendship. Be strong and spontaneous and live life. You could be missing out on a great opportunity, but you would never know unless you go grab it
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I've been with my fiance for two years. We met when I was 17, I'm 20 now and he's 23. I love him a lot and he's my bestfriend as well but I don't really see us being together forever. In fact I don't even see us getting married...ever.
I feel like right now we both belong together because we're both still young. I'm in college and working part time. I will graduate in 2-3 years and in my field it will be very easy to find a good-high paying job. He's at the start of what might be an okay career path as an assistant manager of a store ( and he's been told he'll be a manager in a year or so) but that doesn't really impress me.
He's fine with a middle class to upper middle class life but I'm really not. I'm okay with it right now as I'm still young but when I'm 30 I want to be at the start of living an upper-class life and only move up from there. I want the kind of life where I can afford a luxury vehicle like a Tesla, nice house, and be able buy designer labels when and where I'd like. I'm not talking super rich but I'd like to at least be able to afford those things.
I don't really see him ever having those things as he doesn't think they're important (I obviously do). I also want a big beautiful wedding and I know he's never going to be able to provide that for me and I'm not willing to foot the entire cost. I'd rather be with somebody who can at least split the cost, you know. I'm also not willing to have a tiny cheap wedding. I want the disney princess glam wedding dress not something cheap from a thrift store. :( I want a husband who makes as much as I do or more and has more of the same opinions and tastes in life than my current fiance.
We have vastly different points of view on everything from our tastes in food to our major life goals and religious beliefs. Right now I'm okay with putting up with all that but I don't want to be with somebody who will never see eye to eye with me for my whole life.
Is it okay that I'm only with him for right now and I know it?
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I know this is trivial but honestly I also hate my engagement ring. It was like $700 but it's super tiny and I've always dreamed of showing off an engagement ring with a great big diamond in it (even if it's fake). I loved the one I have at first but now a year later I've realized what I really want and it's not this.
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You brought up so many things that doesnt seem right for you to think. It shouldn't matter about the money or the stuff you can but or any of that material crap, it just matters if you actually love that person. You briefly mentioned that you guys don't have anything in common; thats a different story. You should elaborate more on that side of it, not the money and upper class of it. More about lifestyles and morals
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Hey guys. My friend is in a little situation right now.
A month ago,my friend confessed to his crush that he has a crush on her through text. My friend showed me their conversation and the she dont believe it at first. She said that my friend was crazy and blind. But I think that she only said that because of the shock of what my friend told her or she wants to make sure that my friend wasnt bluffing. A week past,and they gotten closer. But right now the girl acts like the confession never happened. And she doesnt consider my friends feelings anymore.
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She may be overwhelmed and i might be a lot to take it. Just be patient and if she doesn't mention anything for a couple of days, then, he should mention it and bring it up again.
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Today I find out my ex girlfriend is 10 weeks pregnant with my child. We have one child together already but we broke up. It wasn't working out. I was confused on how it even happened because we only had sex when she was on the depo. shot. She is considering having an abortion but I don't know how to reply to it. I am just lost on what to do. It's hard to really type all of this but it's the best I could do to sum things up. (link)
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I need to know how old you are too. It's overall her decision what happens with the baby. She's carrying the baby. You have to do the best you can to support because this can be a hard decision, this is a human being forming inside of her. She might become stressed on what to do, but don't push her to make a specific decision, just be there.
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Infos first:
We're both boys
We're both 16
We've been friends since day 1
Now my bestfriend just got his girlfriend and I was happy at first. But normally, as we all expect, I was left out. When we went out, he always talked and texted on the phone and everything he told me was about his girl. I was pretty annoyed, but I was also very jealous. We've always been great friends, but when she came, that was kinda lost. Now here's the funny part
After two months, another girl showed up and my bestfriend kinda liked her. Now he told me all about her this time, how she was nice and such, and that she was his new bestfriend. Now I thought the same way you did. I was shocked and I ran away like a chicken XD Then I told his girlfriend, who is now my close friend, about the girl and how she replaced me. His girlfriend was not happy, she got mad and everything.
Now I told my bestfriend that I cant take it anymore, and that I wanted to leave him because I only get ignored and underappreciated. He explained to me that the girl didnt replace me. By saying "new", it means that there are two of us. Now here's the weird part.
After that day, he became sooo affectionate. Every morning, he asked me if I've eaten breakfast, then greeted me with good mornings. He also says he loves me (which is normal for us) everytime he says good bye. Is he pretending for the sake of our friendship? I mean, he just acted this way all of a sudden.
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He might have realized the friendship he had with you is special and he doesn't want to lose that with you. When he heard you were upset, he may have wanted to find a way to keep you, to show you that he cares. It may just require time for him to do this just so you get in your head that he really cares about you and wants to keep the friendship going.
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im 18 and his 30. hes married and soon going to be a father too. hes my college teacher. 2 months ago we started talking. and we talk like best best friends. recently he started saying i loveyou. even i say it.but for me its in a best friend manner. i like him. every girl in college does. we flirt too but its just for fun. he has dropped me home twice. yesterday we went for a long drive and while coming he held my hand for about 3-4 mins as he was driving. he dropped me home. and later he texted me saying that "i wanted to hug u". and his next message was im not sure whether its right or not. then later while coming back home we were quiet fr sumtym. so he texted me sayn that "i think we were quiet because we both wanted to come close to each other. i may be wrong also" i replied saying i dnt think that this is the reason for the silence.he then was like im eally sorry for that msg. im feeling bad. im feeling akward and so on. i dont know wether i shud trust him or not.i dont know whats goin on in his head. please help (link)
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First thing i must say: EW
Why would you put yourself in that situation. He's going to be a father and HES MARRIED. that should be a given and you need to back off from him. This is not a safe scenario. Think smart
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My boyfriend and I have been on and off but lately things have been well for us and I couldn't be ever more thankful that we have stopped arguing and tried to get to some common ground. Although, deep down, I can feel another fight coming, though I definitely don't want it to happen. The last time we talked to each other about our feelings and confronted each other on our problems, he told me something that just resonated and wouldn't leave my mind. When we first started becoming serious, and even when I was for sure serious about him, I remember that there was time where on social media, he would try to follow almost every girl he knew and would constantly like their pictures. I knew through people telling me and things I saw for myself. All of that hurt deep down knowing he was telling me one thing but was trying to get attention from other girls. Today, he doesn't really do it but I remember from our night's discussion that he told me whenever he was with his ex, he would think about being with other girls physically. He told me this because he was trying to say that he never feels that way with me. Of course after he mentioned it, I remember those times we were talking when I saw that same behavior from him. Now, I guess we are more serious but my question is, why does it bother me so much? I do trust him now but I'm scared if things go bad, what if he turns back to this behavior. It would hurt so much.
It also bothers me that he's had about 5 girlfriends in the past and he told me about some of the hookups he had too. I know its not a competition but I've had only one boyfriend in the past so... I don't know, it makes me a little insecure. How do I get over this? (link)
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The most important part of a relationship is communication. If you don't communicate, you have nothing. Maybe you have a difficult past, maybe you come from a broken home. Theres so many possibilities. Ive at moments felt that way for the reason you said, the amount of partners they have had. But for me, theres more to it. Ive never really seen a stable relationship in my family growing up and my first relationship was so rocky and unstable, its hard to accept the fact that something good can happen. I don't know what its like to have someone who tells me the truth, who actually cares about me sincerely. Maybe its the same with you. Let me know
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hi! im 19 years of age and i am a girl.I truly love my boyfriend more than anything else in this world.i love spending time with him.i spend most of my time everyday with him.we are always together.is it healthy to spend too much time with your boyfriend making love and etc? should I give him some space? (link)
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If he doesn't make excuses to not see it, don't worry about it, The only thing that you may want to worry about is it might cause you to distance yourself away from your friends which is not good. I'm always with my boyfriend because we go to the same school and we live so close to each other, but I feel like he is all I have which is really sad. So, don't worry about what he's thinking about, just think about the separation between you and your friends.
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