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spending too much time with my boyfriend
hi! im 19 years of age and i am a girl.I truly love my boyfriend more than anything else in this world.i love spending time with him.i spend most of my time everyday with him.we are always together.is it healthy to spend too much time with your boyfriend making love and etc? should I give him some space?
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I think that you should ask him what he thinks about how much time you spend together. I have a similar relationship, we live together, I'm 17 while he is 19. I'm a very independent person while he is extremely dependent on me, we both understand that in each other. We find things we enjoy and have some time a part every day. You have to ask yourself if you feel like spending too much time with your boyfriend is a problem for you. Just remember during your relationship don't ignore your friends and family spend time with them just as well as your boyfriend. Also I do thing spending every waking moment with someone can make a person sick of being around them and they end up getting in lots of fights and they end up breaking up. I don't knowe how long you guys have been together but we have been together for over 6 months. Give him a little bit of space and hang out with some friends it'll be good for the both of you. Good luck!
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If he doesn't make excuses to not see it, don't worry about it, The only thing that you may want to worry about is it might cause you to distance yourself away from your friends which is not good. I'm always with my boyfriend because we go to the same school and we live so close to each other, but I feel like he is all I have which is really sad. So, don't worry about what he's thinking about, just think about the separation between you and your friends.
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Hey there!
I very much agree with the two previous answers. But also, you should have a life outside of the relationship. It sounds like this is a new relationship, so it's normal for two new lovers to always want to spend time together. But I honestly don't think it's healthy to always be together. For now, it's fine, but it doesn't last. Eventually you will both need to spend some hours of the day apart, living your own lives. Make sure to surround yourself with friends! Friends are important. To me they are actually more important than romantic relationships. That's just me. It's also cool to be able to talk about your relationship with your friends. Girlfriends are important. So if you have girlfriends, make sure to hang out with them! Have a girls night out and talk about your guys. You can brag and have fun! Make sure you surround yourselves with friends. I'm also 19. I'm an adult and I have a lot of responsibilities now like school and my career. If you have an amazing relationship, that is the best addition to your life. But it shouldn't be your entire life. You need space too. Your need your own life too, just like he needs his. From what I've gathered, he is the BEST thing that has happened to you. He enhances your life. But he shouldn't BE YOUR LIFE.
I know from experience that after a while, even if it's not right now, and it might really be months and months, but you might start feeling suffocated. So I don't think it's healthy in the long run to spend all your time together AT ALL!
Should you give him some space? Talk to him about it. How much space he needs, and also how he feels about you two always being together.
To sum it up: you really need to have a life outside of the relationship if it's gonna last. If this is a new relationship, it's completely normal to ALWAYS wanna be together. You two should definitely talk about it! I think you'll feel better and have your answers.
Good luck! I wish you all the best always!
xoxo
~alexisgirlie
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It depends if you are basically hovering over him, Being protective and he doesn't seem to appreciate the attention then it may be a bad thing
But if he actually appreciated it it is healthy.
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Everyone is different in how much private space they need. Some need very little. Example, where one person wants their own 'cave' room to go be by themselves for hours on end, another finds private time be reading a book or being on the computer while still in the same room with you. This works for some as their mind is no longer focused on their partner but on what they are doing and suffices for 'self' time.
If I were you, I would ask him how he feels about you both being together so much without time to himself. Check if he doesnt mind or feels he doesnt need time to himself. When you love someone, you of course want to be around them as much as possible. I am older, in love for real for the first time in my life with 2nd husband. I realize what I felt with my ex was more like caring for a friend with no sexual compatibility.
Being in love, we both are very social people and love to be with each other and getting closer to retirement age when some couples find being around each other 24/7 puts stress on them. For us, we love it, the more time together, the happier we are, but then again, we are such a perfect match and have an incredible lot in common while still having our different likes. We also love the sexual part of our relationship and have no intention of stopping just cus we're getting older. This is normal and healthy for us but may not work for two independant people with totally different lifestyles and goals in life and different beliefs and morals, etc..... The differences will begin to irritate each person after a certain amount of time spent together.
So truly, you need to bring it up in conversation and it is a valid thing to ask and he won't find it odd for you to ask if you explain why. Good luck.
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