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Ok so I am close to having my very first period. I am 11 and I don't know what I should use first: pads or tampons. I know that this might be a stupid question but I need to know. Any advice would help. Thanks to anyone who can answer this! (link)
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I'm with you on this. I'm in your situation bring a period kit .
Tampons probably aren't the best option so I'd go pads
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I'm afard to have my first period at school HELP!
What should I do ?
I will be inbrssed if I have it at school and it bleeds throo my pants HELP ME PLE.AS (link)
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take pads,tampons, panty liners,ect. Keep them in a pouch or period kit,locker,ect. I'll talk about the kit later.
I know you may not have access to them now ( mums tend to underestimate the need for a pretty period kit). But you can make do with one made of cloth or toilet paper and a bandage for wing
The toilet paper one is for emergencies and first time only
Take a large amount of toilet paper fold add bandages to the side bamm a crappy pad.
As for kits
Add hand sanitizer in case of discharge stink, sanitary rreasns,ect.
Lotion and pads bring some sort of protection and good scented lotion
Chocolates and many more.
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I'm 12. My boyfriend is 16. He was my first time. Is that a form of stuatory rape? Could legal action be taken? My principal asked me if I've had my first time because I got in trouble. Could they get him in trouble? I don't want to get him in trouble.. :( HELP!! (link)
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Ok this is a very serious matter and a lot of people make up these things. First questions are,
Did you say no? Or did you willingly have sex with him? If you willingly did this and. Knew the risks it's your fault. I know people who always want to make something out of there own doings. Next do you even know what a first time is? First time refers to sexual intercourse or sometime as maybe a bj or something sexual and completely wrong at your age. If you knew it is your own fault. If not tell your parents. Next I wouldn't have sex at my age 12 also neither should you, 17 is a young age. Because if your known for sleeping with guys even if know one knew. Lots of time they'll find out attitude change,ect. You don't want to be known as a whore. I know puberty and shiz but still , and don't pull that love crap on me. Also you come off to me as a slut or trashyor someone who isn't educated on basic sex. If your a slut sorry but grow the heck up your 12 sex is for love and your not physically or emotionally ready either. If you aren't educated you don't need to have sex
Ok sex is for love but at least be educated looks like you don't care about age
STDs first off learn! Of course there is a greater chance of you getting one which may take years to show symptoms. If someone has had sex at this age they mayvbe have done it before. Get a condomn! I know they may not be available at such a young age. But take one from mom if your going be sleeping out with guys while being a pretty pubescent tween. I know harsh only one guy but the reputation. Or use a Friken Walmart bag if you dont want the ole herps. Herpes I mean ya they probably suck. If you dont use one and use a bag or something just think of it as hood sex sorry not sorry. So offensive advice
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I've cut my daily calorie intake from 4000 to 1500, I'm drinking lots of water and green tea every day (they're the only beverages I drink now), I've cut out crisps, chocolate, cakes, and all forms of junk food. I exercise for 30 minutes a day. I've been doing this for 10 days so why haven't I lost any weight? (link)
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First off time. You can't expect to go from a larger woman to a super model in a day. First 1500 is a quite generous amount but you can make do with it? First if you drink tea no sugar. No extra toppings on healthy foods. Eat fruits and vegetables more. You can't starve just eat right. Just exercise a bit more. I know they advertise exercise less but maybe 10 minutes here 10 there and measure it out a bit .
I don't believe 30 bloody minutes is e enough for change
Done
BTW not British just say bloody
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I woke up Saturday morning after a night of drinking with a friend and i blacked out. and when i woke up i was in my friend's daughter's bed and my friends 11 year old daughter was sleeping right next to me completely naked. and I was too. i knew that she had a crush on me because her dad said that he read it in her diary but i never knew it would go this far. and here is the ****** part about it I'm 25 year old guy so i don't even know what too do i was able too wake her up and we were able to get dressed before her dad woke up and other than me taking the virginity of my best friends daughter i didn't wear a condom so she may get pregnant and I'm that case i guess I'm completely ******. i feel like a complete asshole knowing that i did this with her. and then about a day later she asked me if i wanted to do it again. i don't really know what to say. i don't know if we should do it again. or just tell her that we cant ever again but she might tell her dad that this happened if i don't and if we do i know that we could get away with it because i do watch her sometimes for my friend when he has to work late at night. i don't know what to do should i break it off with and getting pissed at me and telling her dad or should i have some sort of strange relationship with her Because i dont want to hurt her feelings. (link)
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Ok I'm going to be honest may come off rude. You were drunk and you basically raped a child. Even though she was willing , it probably gonna end up bad on your end because she's a child. You maybe have been drunk, however it won't change the fact that you had *** with an 11 year old.
I'd tell her parents which I know you won't. But I'd atleast explain to her what beer or alcohol can do to you and that you didn't have full knowledge of this and it was wrong. Please don't talk her out of telling somebody it will only make it worse if someone else finds out which is 99.9% likely of what will happen?
Should you do it again? No! Just cause her feelings doesn't wannabe hurt its ssexualized abuse. Abuse is abuse. Rape is rape. A strange relationship indeed 25- 11.
You took her virginity not purposely but you did. She could suffer emotional damage years later. Also yes love can have no limits of age. First this isn't love. Second even if it was sex isn't appropriate at 11.
I have to say if I knew you I'd turn you in.
Do your self a favor
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My brother is 35 years-old, and for a VERY long time, has fallen into the pattern of dating girls who are superficial and manipulative. He also has a problem where he gets serious VERY quickly and basically allows who he dates to take advantage of him. The excitement of being in a relationship blinds him to the red flags that I see all to clearly. That said, he has been dating a girl for about 2.5 months, she is 26, already divorced, and has already brought some of her things to his apartment and had my brother pay $400 to have someone organize his entire place (not to mention she put up decorations, etc)... obviously it seems a plot to infiltrate his life. When we went out a couple times, her behavior struck me as bizarre- overly high energy, and attention seeking. When we were all in a cab, at one point she put her hand on my brother's mouth and said ,"no one cares what you think." The entire ride, she was spastic, overly high energy, etc. I can see she is superficial, manipulative, and attention seeking. Worst of all, she has my brother convinced that she is not. He likes her a lot, they are very into each other, and it worries me. I need to have a talk with him but do not know how to approach the topic or what I should say. Any advice? (link)
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Before I tell you how I'd respond to it let me say, As what you described with all the apartment décor, Items, ect.
It comes off as she's rushing Into things. Not taking time to know him, Maybe even greedy. If she's already making him pay for things now he could be paying for everything she needs( wants) later down the road. Which is a major set back. Your brother may be in sorry but a stage where he believes every other girl is the one. But we all do stupid things and sometimes can't realize how idiotic they are. But back to her you said she didn't care what he thought. You have to care about one another in a relationship, friendship,whatever! WWhich once again is a set back. Her being divorced is also a set back for me. Possibly for you. Its possible the marriage just wasn't right. But it could've been just like it's going with your brother then after time went on he got tired of it.
Along with many more red flags. I believe you are afraid they'll get married or become very very serious. Which I hope won't happen. One red flag should mean no marriage several is a definite no.
Now how to approach this. It will be hard especially since he is happy with her. But you need to be very calm and try to be serious. Maybe take another family member out ( one he is close too) let them see the way she acts then you can both address the issue . If you come off very harsh he might just overreact and push you away. But if things to become heated it may be necessary.
Hope it helped I'm 11 so I don't know much about marriage
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I have a HUGE crush on this guy at my school. He asked out my best friend and he asked her out twice. I really want him to ask me out instead even though she is my besty. what should I do? Thanks for your help! (link)
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you seem like my age (11) sorry if I'm wrong. I wouldn't ask him out now. Though he might say yes cause of being frustrated with her saying no, it may not be because he really likes you. Plus if he says no it won't help your chances later. I'd talk with your friend and maybe convince her not to date him ( be sure to mention you have a crush on him). Then after the whole friend being asked out is overwith, you can get to know him. After you get to iknow him you can ask him and you'll have a better shot.
Hope that helped somewhat.
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So me and my bf have been dating for 3 years. In the beginning it was all good . you know fun . but there comes a time we're you gatta be serious like work or school he doesn't do any of that all he does is smoke weed and sometime drink most of the weekend also hang out . I tell him to go to school or start working .he said he will but I don't see any of that happening just the same thing. No progress.. I feel like he won't change I want a better life for him . we talk about moving together finding a place starting a family but feel like that will never happen. I love him but I don't know what to do . HELP (link)
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First off I'm lm proud that his actions aren't influencing yours. But I know id leave him
Here's why
1. Acholism and Drugs can kill or shorten your life span
You don't want a husband who is going to die, when you want kids
2. It may influence you to do the same
3. He hasn't made any progress
4. Kids and achol isn't a healthy environment
5. He isn't ready for kids
If he cannot maintain himself maintaining kids is a no
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22/f, 28/m
My boyfriend has proven himself disloyal and dishonest. We have been trying to rebuild trust and have been trying to make things work.
He has fixed what he has done wrong before: he got deleted his dating apps/websites, removed random girls he has randomly added in the past, etc. And he has been giving me a lot of reassurance telling me that he's all mine, he's not seeing, dating, or talking to anyone else, he only wants me, and for the past two months he has not done anything that I would not approve of.
For those who doesn't know what snapchat is: I don't have it, but from what I have heard. It's where people can follow you and when that person is being followed posts a picture, it can send it to a list of people/everyone that is following you on snapchat. But the thing is, it's a picture app and you only have about 5-10 seconds to see it before the picture disappears.
I went through my boyfriend's phone (please don't judge me on that), and one of the apps that were opened was snapchat, and his ex-girlfriend's name was on it. Obviously, the picture was gone but I became suspicious on why he was looking at her picture or why she would even send one.
So, I asked if he used snapchat. He says that he hardly uses it, but he does use it to follow people on it. He said he has never received or sent any nudes and that the only time he uses it is when he would like to post pictures that he wouldn't on facebook such as food, travel pictures, etc. For some reason, I'm having a hard time believing him. He told me that he has not spoken to his ex-girlfriend since December (the last time we argued over him lying to me about telling her that he missed her) and that he has been completely over his ex since early January.
Do I have anything to worry about? Should I just let it go? How can I trust him again? How should I approach this situation if I should talk to him about this? (link)
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Of course you have something to worry about. I feel as if once a man proves his disloyalty " even if changed " that constant should I search his phone? Will he do so again stays? Which is deserved male or female.
I feel as if without trust you can't have a healthy relationship. You will most likely continue to stay this way. Unless you lay down the law. Which in most cases works but still a chance so keep an eye out.
But when you confront him don't let him hug you or say oh Im so sorry or let him avoid it or he won't be serious.
Now how to confront him
Whether he likes it or not be rude or he'll be laughing at you inside and do it again. Has a little kid when you were a teen ever yelled at you or threatened you? If so Im sure you weren't threatened or scared. Don't let your bf feel the same
How can you trust him?
Two answers you can't or time
It may take years of loyalty proving or maybe he isn't the right one
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Lots of times people your age aren't exactly depressed. Or for the right reasons. ( you can be). I'm sure you don't want to hear you aren't really depressed but it may be the case.
Losing a bf at 10 and a few friends isn't well " depressing" I know I don't know what your going through but I'm 11 and the worst thing you can do is exaggerate your problems. If you exaggerate the little problems now and it makes you cut. What happens when you get a serious boyfriend? Or a lifelong friend? Lose a job and can't pay bills? If losing a bed now makes you cut what happens when something really serious happens? Tell someone. When you do don't say I lost my best friends and my serious bf then go into the cuts and thoughts. Tell them that you have a problem. The problem isn't that you lost a friend because you know you can make new ones. Or at this age get them back. That isn't the problem anymore because you know the solution. Neither is the bf get him back or find a new one. It isn't a problem if the solution is clear. The problem is that Things effect you more than they should. Cutting isn't about depression because no form of depression can cutting be appropriate for. So not this.
And as far as suicide talk to someone or a therapist your parents keep in mind to tell them that little things bother you a lot.
All problems are temporarily there. No problem is without a solution. Its inevitable to have problems. But suicide is a permanent solution for a temporary problem.
I mean let's say you poisoned yourself and it took 5 hours to " work" as in kill you. Would you have regrets? Yea you probably would. So if you have regrets it shouldn't happen which you do.
And do you have something to live for? If not find something. YouTube, Club, Heck even school.
Hope that helped honest. But it may not be what you want to hear but what you need to hear
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Of course I hate false rumors. This isn't exactly a rumor.
But anyway have you ever seen someone fake being goth or sad or something for attention? Well most of my school is doing that. I'd like to say first I support homosexuals just not fake ones.
Ok so there was this girl in my elementary school and she was Emo And A Bisexual she finally was excepted.
Then after she turned Bi people who hated homos said they were. Then more and more. Then more people claimed to be Emo. Just because its a stupid craze. I know youll say I don't know them but if you were in my position. Don't tell me I don't know its fake because 99 percent of a school doesn't turn homo in a day. Its not homosexuals I disapprove of its the fakeness.
So I just have to listen to everyone say how sad or depressed they are.
I don't know if I should or how I'll tell them That your fake and stuff.
Which is unusual because anyone who knows me can tell you I don't sugarcoat things or care do call you out in something or call out a faker.
Any advice? (link)
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Calling someone out on something isn't being an asshole sorry to tell you. Its being honest. People have real issues with depression and I refuse to let a million are kid with everything and not one problem have people hurdling over them cause there " depressed "
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I just called my boyfriend and he's moving! I know I'm only 11 but I really like him. I've known him for a while and we just started going out a few months ago. We're not breaking up but I don't know. Will the relationship work out? He's got my # and he said he'd call me that way I can get his number when he moves. I know I could write him and maybe, if my parents would let me, visit him in the summer. But what do you guys think? (link)
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I can tell you. I'm 11 and my bf said he was moving then he didn'tbbecause his parents didn't divorce.
But Maybe try and the go from there
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hey, so I met this girl a few months ago, and we've been dating. the only problem is, we live about 2 hours away. I love making her happy, so I was wondering something I could text her to make her day, that would make us love each other even more (kind of impossible though) I'm 14 and I'm a guy, so i would mind a girl around my age's advice please :) (link)
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This isn't very long distance so you could schedule a meet up. I know this isn't the question or what you want to here.
Online dating isn't meant to be taken literal.
Finding someone online is fine as long as it isn't permanently online
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hi! im 19 years of age and i am a girl.I truly love my boyfriend more than anything else in this world.i love spending time with him.i spend most of my time everyday with him.we are always together.is it healthy to spend too much time with your boyfriend making love and etc? should I give him some space? (link)
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It depends if you are basically hovering over him, Being protective and he doesn't seem to appreciate the attention then it may be a bad thing
But if he actually appreciated it it is healthy.
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I'm a 45yo F. I met a new group of friends last year, and was immediately attracted to "Tee" (40yo F). Tee's best friend, "Vee", had hit on me the year before, but I wasn't interested, at all. Vee is, however, a business owner in my field. When I started dating Tee, Vee offered me a job to keep me in town (I was planning a move). It turned out to be a great job, and I'm learning a lot and making good money. At first Tee was good with it, but her jealousy has gradually gotten to the point where she hates Vee. Vee and I have NEVER done anything... the paranoia is ALL in Tee's head, but it's making my life miserable. I've offered to quit, but she knows I love the job. At this point, I don't even want to be in a relationship with her anymore, though, because this thing has broken up their friendship, their circle of friends, and I can't help but feel responsible, even though I've done absolutely nothing wrong. What would you do? (link)
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You are stuck definitely in the middle.
I personally think trust should factor into a relationship.
I'd somehow show tell her you didn't do anything and that you won't tolerate this lack of trust
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OK Firstly i would like to apologize for the length of this. To begin with i am 15 yrs of age and i have realized that since i was 14 years i had been attracted to older guys. i mean older guys like 3 years older and more. i am really embarrassed by that fact but i this just me.
so i dated this guy who is 23 years .he was perfect mature enough and never made me do anything i didnt want to do.he was really sweet and he took my age into consideration.He was never rude to me and was quite honest.the problem was that my mum knew about him. she thought we just spoke and were friends. so i decided to break up with me and i regret it dearly. i want him back although he said we are not meant to be.i have tried dating other guys but i dont have any feelings for them and they have a lot for me. i dont want to break any hearts. Every time i try to tell him ( my ex) how i feel he says he dont believe me and that i was only being nice because that is the way i am.now i am depressed and horny about him .i have never felt sexually attracted to anyone and i cant.help!!! (link)
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I have a few possibilities . It may be just natural to be attracted to older guys but it seems as if its permanently asin yyou'll always like them.
Maybe he doesn't want it to dramatic. Having relationship problems with a 15 YO isn't very well taken seriously
Maybe he doesn't want to believe that your serious and was just playing along because you didn't want to be rude
Hope it helped
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Lately I've been feeling really gloomy. I've asked lots of people online for advice, and they suggest I might be depressed. I'm kinda swapping back and forth with the idea, and I've taken test online and they say Im depressed. The thing is, even when I feel well, I just about always prefer depressing stories, movies, songs, anything depressing. I' even seem to enjoy it after I experience pain. My mom was even speaking to me a few months ago how that wasn't normal. I know I've had depression in the past for personal reasons, and I know it was severe then, and I know what I'm feeling now isn't nothing like what is was then. I haven't experienced any kind of tragic event, and this has been going on all week. Is there some way I could find out for sure if I have depression without some multiple test or going off to see a professional? I try too keep this kind of thing from my parents too. Anything I can do besides that? (link)
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Maybe answer a doctors survey online.
But here's my thoughts.
A week? Maybe its a faze or Just a bad week. I know people say this but 90% of the time its true.
You seem to possibly have actual depression which can lead to suicide. Or not having a stable mind. Robin Williamsccommitted suicide and no one knew he had depression.
I wouldn't keep hiding it I'd go to a therapist and talk it out
This is important because suicide can't be taken away
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I'm 11 year old female my sister is 4 year old female
OK, my dad verbally abuses me, my mom, my (autistic) brother, my sister especially, and my grandma. He even did it to her when SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER!!!! HE DIDN'T SHED A TEAR HE ONLY BITCHED ABOUT HOW SHE WAS SLEEPING SO MUCH AND HOW SHE IS BEING OVER DRAMATIC ABOUT HER PAIN SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER! CANCER! And even though she's been cured she's still tired from it and he says she doesn't want us. My mom knows but she just says that we have to deal with it. One day he took us to breakfast down the street and we were walking home my sister was running in flip flops so she fell and scrapped her leg, so he called her a fucking bastard so I told my grandma and I was crying and she helped me, but I still think about suicide a lot. My dad says he's nice because he takes us places and buys us stuff and he doesn't insult anybody. But he promised to be nicer and he did improve. But I still don't like or trust him. So one night my mom had to practice court reporting and my sister wanted to be with her but she couldn't. So my dad brought her in his bed and she started screaming. I was trying to go to sleep so I came in there to complain (I know,I know) anyway so he was kind of holding her down and I was gonna go get my phone and take pictures to see if he's doing anything bad, but I was already talking by the time so he stopped. A women accused false rape on him when I was 3, and even planted that thought in my head but we did a test on my private and she even admitted to lying. My grandad asked me if it was true and I told him no. I've been really stressed about this I don't know what to do (link)
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Hello I'm 11 also. Parents can say hurtful things and can often be misinterpreted as abuse. This however is abuse , Saying stuff like this shouldn't be tolerated. I would tell someone which probably isn't easy because my friend or old friend was little and she got abused. She told someone and they called to talk to the parents and it just resulted in her suffering. You are getting emotionally abused, you can't succeed in life with a family or father who always discourages you. I'd tell st school and refuse to go home too him
I'm not sure he abuses your sisters but it would be likely he says hurtful things to you. I'm sure your sister is younger more mischievous and could provoke him not on purpose and get his temper up and he could hit her. I'd make sure first maybe offer to give her a bath and if he declines or if he says ok make sure they're no scrapes or bruises.
Also as far as him saying she's being lazy when she had CANCER. That should not be tolerated either.
Please take this all into consideration
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