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suspect my dad of abusing my sister
I'm 11 year old female my sister is 4 year old female
OK, my dad verbally abuses me, my mom, my (autistic) brother, my sister especially, and my grandma. He even did it to her when SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER!!!! HE DIDN'T SHED A TEAR HE ONLY BITCHED ABOUT HOW SHE WAS SLEEPING SO MUCH AND HOW SHE IS BEING OVER DRAMATIC ABOUT HER PAIN SHE HAD FUCKING CANCER! CANCER! And even though she's been cured she's still tired from it and he says she doesn't want us. My mom knows but she just says that we have to deal with it. One day he took us to breakfast down the street and we were walking home my sister was running in flip flops so she fell and scrapped her leg, so he called her a fucking bastard so I told my grandma and I was crying and she helped me, but I still think about suicide a lot. My dad says he's nice because he takes us places and buys us stuff and he doesn't insult anybody. But he promised to be nicer and he did improve. But I still don't like or trust him. So one night my mom had to practice court reporting and my sister wanted to be with her but she couldn't. So my dad brought her in his bed and she started screaming. I was trying to go to sleep so I came in there to complain (I know,I know) anyway so he was kind of holding her down and I was gonna go get my phone and take pictures to see if he's doing anything bad, but I was already talking by the time so he stopped. A women accused false rape on him when I was 3, and even planted that thought in my head but we did a test on my private and she even admitted to lying. My grandad asked me if it was true and I told him no. I've been really stressed about this I don't know what to do
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Hello I'm 11 also. Parents can say hurtful things and can often be misinterpreted as abuse. This however is abuse , Saying stuff like this shouldn't be tolerated. I would tell someone which probably isn't easy because my friend or old friend was little and she got abused. She told someone and they called to talk to the parents and it just resulted in her suffering. You are getting emotionally abused, you can't succeed in life with a family or father who always discourages you. I'd tell st school and refuse to go home too him
I'm not sure he abuses your sisters but it would be likely he says hurtful things to you. I'm sure your sister is younger more mischievous and could provoke him not on purpose and get his temper up and he could hit her. I'd make sure first maybe offer to give her a bath and if he declines or if he says ok make sure they're no scrapes or bruises.
Also as far as him saying she's being lazy when she had CANCER. That should not be tolerated either.
Please take this all into consideration
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First of all you need to find someone to talk to, it dont hurt to have your mom to record him talking to you all with him knowing it, because the police needs to know this, talk to your guidance counselor tell her about your problem, tell her her everything, She can help you. Sometome talikng to a police officer about your problem , and tell him how you need protection , even ask if he would sit and observe your property listen with window down this way he can call back up and get.your father out of the home, will even get him jail time. Because your father needs to be exposed for the things he is doing, message me in my inbox, and you tell me where you live, i can help ypu,because sound like you need tobe rescued from the monster you call Dad.
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Mental abuse is hard to prove, physical abuse is a bit easier to prove.
There is a fine line between abuse and discipline. Dad is allowed to smack you but not on the face or head. Preferably a swift smack to your bottom if correction is needed, anywhere else is could be abuse. Sexual abuse is if dad touches you anywhere on your body without your permission and given your age you can't give permission except for first aid if needed. If dad was to spank you, and given your age if he was to take your panties down to spank you, that would not be discipline that would be sexual abuse because you are no longer a child. That is how fine the line is between the two.
Your 4 year old sister is too young to protect herself or to call the police. You on the other hand are old enough that if abused or suspect your sister is being abused that you can call the police. Simply pick up a phone and dial 911.
One suggestion if you do find the need to call the police or follow my next suggestion. When telling your reason why you suspect your dad of abuse leave out the curse words. You will be far more believable if you speak calmly and without cursing.
My other suggestion is for when you return to school. If you have no reason to call the police for any physical abuse. The mental abuse you speak of can be reported to a trusted teacher or your school principal. Once you tell them what you are suffering at home they are required to make a report to child services and the police if needed.
So you have two avenues to go to for protection. Just make sure in your mind that what you are about to accuse your dad of is true and not fantasy based on your dislike for your dad. For what you are accusing him of is very serious and can send him to prison.
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I had a dad like yours once so I might be able to help you out a but here. If he'll hit you or anything don't try to talk to him about it alone or at all. If you get a moment by yourself you can call police or find a child protective services number. If your grandma/mom will help you that would be good. You have to do something honey. Tell the cops or whoever what you just told us before it's too late.
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