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long distance love
hey, so I met this girl a few months ago, and we've been dating. the only problem is, we live about 2 hours away. I love making her happy, so I was wondering something I could text her to make her day, that would make us love each other even more (kind of impossible though) I'm 14 and I'm a guy, so i would mind a girl around my age's advice please :)
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I'm 17. I think that you should just tell her how much you love her. Send her cute pictures, and poems, best if you are the creating them but any will work. To be honest, you are fourteen and you met this girl a few months ago and even though you may think that she is your soul mate, if she breaks up with you don't take it so hard because there will be plenty of heartbreaks to come, I think the best thing, with a guy your age is to keep the girl as a friend and maybe you can rekindle the relationship later down the road. I know this was more than you asked for but I hope that I have made some sort of a difference in your life, Good luck with you girlfriend and I hope that you guys will stay together through all of the rough times!
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Hey there!
Dragonflymagic is a favorite columnist of mine. She answered your question in detail. She rocks pretty much!
I am 19, is that still "around your age?" Haha. Well, I can tell you this, waking up to a text from a favorite person, whether it's a close friend, especially a boyfriend/girlfriend, well to wake up and see that text will literally make your whole day sometimes. So try texting her at a time that she will get it when she wakes up. You can just say "good morning! I hope you have a fantastic day. Thinking of you..."
Also, this goes out to ALL guys "texting your girl is important!" Girls like when you are texting them first.
When we aren't with people we love, it's always nice to get a text from that person that says "I miss you!"
One of my closest friends just moved away which is super hard for me, but I still remember him texting me "I MISS YOUUU!!!!" the first time we texted after he left. It was in all caps and I still remember it.
Also, when we aren't with people we love, well texting is great, a text first thing in the morning... um... amazing!! but I think Skype is ten million times better most of the time. Texts too! I just know that Skype helps immensely.
I like when you added (kind of impossible though) about loving each other more. You can always make her happier though! Love always grows deeper even when we think that is not possible to love a person more than we already do.
To make her day? Pretty much this will do it:
* Texts in the morning.
* Unexpected texts that say I miss you at random times when you really really miss her.
That's what I know totally makes my day, or makes a bad day better and it makes me smile for a long time.
Also, everything that Dragonflymagic said.
You also seem like a very nice boyfriend and you love to make her happy, so tell her that you love to make her happy, tell her all the good things you feel for her, and what you admire in her. And I know that some people think that saying "I love you" too many times will make it less special. But if we love someone, we should tell it to them, and it's nice to end a conversation like that too. When has a person saying I love you not made you feel fantastic, ya know?
BUT NEVER EVER SAY I LOVE YOU TO SOMEONE IF YOU DONT TRULY TRULY TRULY MEAN IT!!
So only say it if you know that you really love her. You said you love each other, so if you know you love her, always let her know she is loved, and you don't always necessarily have to say it, but also find ways to show it.
Good luck!
xoxo
~alexisgirlie
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This isn't very long distance so you could schedule a meet up. I know this isn't the question or what you want to here.
Online dating isn't meant to be taken literal.
Finding someone online is fine as long as it isn't permanently online
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Granted, it's hard for any relationship that's long distance, the things I share work for any relationship whether in person or long distance. I am not 14 but I'm female and the same things that applied when I was 14 still apply to women no matter how old they get.
A female is happiest when: the male compliments her often, pays attention to her, is supportive of the things she has interest in or talents in, encourages her, is a good listener when she just needs to talk (and asks if she wants a problem solved before offering help) is willing to talk and good at communicating, You do special things for her that she could've done herself to show you care, he never raises his voice to her, makes sure to learn what her favorite anything is, fav. color, foods, collectibles, hobbies. You may not be able to afford to send gifts but you can sure send her websites that have something you know she'd like.(ie. she collects anything having to do with fairys and you came across a website or facebook page all about fairys, or went looking for them to please her) I am sure I am leaving some things out just trying to write it out all at once...but that should help. When a female is happy, it's easy for her to fall in love with that man who is all these things for her.
For what it's worth, here's an anonymous writers quote I came upon some years back that somes it all up.
"Touch a woman’s mind-you get her interest. Touch a woman’s heart—you get her love.
Touch a woman’s soul; you get passion beyond your wildest dreams. Touch all three, you have a lover for eternity. (anonymous)
In explanation, the things I share will not only catch her interest but if you go the extra step to support something that is important to her, thats how you 'touch her heart'. The rest comes automatically when the 1st two are always being taken care of. its not something you do in the beginning to 'catch' her and stop later. When you stop being that kind of guy, you may lose her love, or you may not lose that but lose her respect and the relationship becomes nothing more than a dysfunctional pain in the butt thing.
First marriage, the guy did all the wrong things and yet I hung in for too many years. My love for him grew weaker and weaker til it dissappeared totally when he not only didn't do these things but went out of his way to be mean, disrespectful and abusive. The 2nd marriage, I have the total opposite, he's everything I mentioned that makes a woman happy and in love. And that part in the quote about a lover for eternity? well, I can say that when I am happy and in love, I want to be all that and more for him so he is mightily repaid for devoting himself to me in ways you can't imagine til you experience it. We love each other so much that we promise each other that if theres a way to be together as two souls on the other side once we pass on, we want to do that...thats how deeply we love each other...and all because we treat each other very special and with love. Good luck!
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Tell her how much she means to you. Tell her little things that no one would normally talk about that you love about her. Make sure it is all from the heart. If it's one thing you never want to do, is copy something else someone said. I realize that other people in the world say things that you say like "I love you" and all that, but unless you're quoting something to her where she knows you didn't write it, I don't suggest it. Tell her something like how you can see galaxies in her eyes. You could even make her a poem if she's into that. Talking about y'all's future might make her happy, if she is into that as well. See what compliments she likes the most, and try doing those a lot.
Hope this helps~
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