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hes my sir and im not sure what his intentions are
im 18 and his 30. hes married and soon going to be a father too. hes my college teacher. 2 months ago we started talking. and we talk like best best friends. recently he started saying i loveyou. even i say it.but for me its in a best friend manner. i like him. every girl in college does. we flirt too but its just for fun. he has dropped me home twice. yesterday we went for a long drive and while coming he held my hand for about 3-4 mins as he was driving. he dropped me home. and later he texted me saying that "i wanted to hug u". and his next message was im not sure whether its right or not. then later while coming back home we were quiet fr sumtym. so he texted me sayn that "i think we were quiet because we both wanted to come close to each other. i may be wrong also" i replied saying i dnt think that this is the reason for the silence.he then was like im eally sorry for that msg. im feeling bad. im feeling akward and so on. i dont know wether i shud trust him or not.i dont know whats goin on in his head. please help
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I don't think you should trust him, because most likely he doesn't have any actual feelings for you. I feel that he may be scared on what is coming and he doesn't know how to face it. I may also be wrong, haha, I'm only human. I think that you should be more of a helping hand to where he should or wants to be in his new family. You should also get to know his a little bit more to find out what his intentinos are in his new family and friendship with you. He could be cheating on his wife and maybe he just wishes he was single because he doesn't want responsablity. Tell him to be careful If his wife catches him cheating he might lose her and his baby, also he might be turned into the police for being a petaphile if people get the wrong idea, unless that is his intention to begin with, then maybe you should stay away from him. Please consider my advice and good luck!
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First thing i must say: EW
Why would you put yourself in that situation. He's going to be a father and HES MARRIED. that should be a given and you need to back off from him. This is not a safe scenario. Think smart
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Well, well. This is easy to solve. He is horny and you are confused? He probably is having issues at home. Could be sexual, financial, etc. It really doesn't matter. He is flattering you as you are his student and he your teacher. This is the "teachers pet syndrome". Your special. I see only heartache and problems if you continue, but your 18 and you may see it at what do I have to lose. He of course has much more to lose. Ok, now you have to chose. Good luck.
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This is not a good situation to be in. For one thing he is in a position of authority over you. For another he is married and I doubt you want to be his mistress. Last he is 12 years older than you and very much more experienced in matters of the heart and sex.
My advice is to keep your relationship with him entirely professional; student/teacher and no further than that. You should tell him you are uncomfortable with where your relationship is going and that you feel it is best that from here forward you return to a student/teacher relationship.
Should he in any manner try to convince you to do otherwise or impart that academically you could suffer by ending your relationship with him. Then you go right to the Dean of students and report his behavior to the Dean.
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His intention is to cheat on his wife with you.
I mean, duh. He is grooming you to be his mistress, using his power as your teacher to enforce that, and to have you help him betray his pregnant wife. He's actively driving the situation towards that.
All of the hand-holding, touching, saying "I love you.", he is ALREADY betraying his wife. He's also doing something he likely knows is against the rules at your college, and perhaps even against the law. Are you willing to be blind to his cheating and lying to others just because it makes you feel good? That's not okay.
Stay away. Seriously. If he has gone silent, good. He was massively misbehaving. Set up some boundaries and have some respect, not just for his wife, but for yourself. You are not just someone he can pick up when he is bored or disappointed at home. You are a person, not just something he can use.
You don't need to know what he is thinking. You already know how he is acting. How he is acting is disrespectful of you, it's manipulative of you, and it's betraying his wife. You can't trust a person who is behaving that way.
If he wont back off, you should talk about this with someone at your school. He is abusing his power over you. If you are feeling threatened by that, you deserve the support of your school.
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Hey there!
Well honestly what I would do, and probably the best thing to do is always be up front and honest. Tell him what you wrote on here.
Ask him what's going on in his head. You don't know. We don't know. It's what I do. I confront people in a kind way, and ask them about their actions and words that are confusing me. That way I have answers.
It's hard for a lot of people to do that. But it works and you deserve to know what he meant. I have had similar experiences and I always ask what that person meant, either when they said "I love you," or actions that confuse me. I might feel like I'm being unfair sometimes because they might feel self conscious about explaining this stuff to me, but I know that that is the ONLY way to know, and stop asking myself what they possibly meant. Certain things are just not fair to be left unexplained. Then I hug it out.
Good luck!
xoxo
~alexisgirlie
(oh I sign off that way, if you are confused heehee)
Seriously, good luck!
Let him know why you are asking. It's not to make him self conscious. Then you can give him a hug so he knows that you love him, but also understands very well in what way you love him.
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