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I get a lot of negative attention from random people.
I am a sophomore in college, and I am also working full time.
I am the object of taunts in school and at work. The funny thing is that I don't really talk to anyone in both places, so I don't know what their problem is. I don't bother anyone (or maybe I do since they seem to always want to start crap with me).
I could just be walking to class and someone would yell out things. They're usually about my appearance, but the most common thing besides that is "slut". Same thing at work.
I don't dress slutty or anything, and I've been with my current boyfriend for three years.
What should I do? Is there something wrong with me?
There was even one time at work where it got so bad I went to management, and the girl got fired.
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This is a tough situation. There isn't much you CAN do. I have been in many situations where people start saying things to me or get people to turn on me when i didn't even say or do anything. Just put on a good face. Do not feed the fire, ignore it and hope for the best
Good Luck!
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There's nothing wrong with you because nobody is perfect. If the people around you are negative and will give you comments which are very unpleasant for your ears, get away from them. You said that you done nothing wrong and you and your boyfriend are now in the third year of your relationship, then there's nothing to worry about.
If they think you're slutty, then let them think you're slutty? Why? Because it's not you who they are referring to. It's themselves. Don't let them get over you because if you do, they will probably hunt you forever.
I believe that you are a very smart and matured gal because you didn't let them bring you in tears. And I know you can be more brave. Try ignoring all of the people who are just bringing bad energy to you. Surround yourself with things that you will enjoy, that will bring you happiness.
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I find it odd that you are experiencing middle school and HS behavior at college and at work.
Let me guess, the people doing so are all near your age, not older like 40's and older, right?
I also wonder how many guys are actually calling you slut. See, it goes against the male objective if he is physically attracted to you. Calling you names won't earn him a chance to date you or if he has ulterior motives, to find a new sex partner.
Now I can somewhat believe just young women doing this, not ones with boyfriends, but the single ones who may be very jealous of your looks. We never think of ourselves as being extremely beautiful, hot, sexy, or such but if others see you as such then this could be a likely reason why they act this way. A pretty girl, one who even tho she doesnt think so, and is quite a lot prettier than the other girls, will earn the jealousy, envy of the immature females. What they don't realize yet is that carrying self confidence will put them in the same level as the model type girl with no personality so they actually do really have a chance with guys. But until they figure that out if they ever do, they will always view certain females as competition, yes, even tho you have a boyfriend, or at least until they get quite a bit older and more mature.
There is one more thing I can think of, since you mentioned you do not dress like you're advertising, and that would be something like self confidence, a thing that isn't tangible but other people can pick up on the presence of. That would be an air of sensuality, sexuality that radiates out from you, even tho you are not purposely trying to flirt, or entice men. I should know. I am a Scorpio and we're are known to have that as a trait. Its always there even tho I am not aware of it, not even trying. Its been there all my life. No, I do not look like a model, but this air of sexuality, even as a teen, when I was a virgin, was there like a beckoning light to guys and they were so attracted they'd do things to let me know they were attracted, slap my bottom, trail fingers across my shoulders and down an arm as they passed me, and such. I am now in my 50s, half my long hair is silver, I have wrinkles, dress cute, but average and yet I still exude that sexuality. And though happily married, I still attract the looks and attention of men and I am not even trying to. At my age, other women no longer care or see my as competition. But even if not Scorpio, you may exude that air of sexuality whether you know it or not, and I'm afraid theres no way to turn if off, none I've ever come to know of. This could be another reason this is happening. So I would also say, knowing this, you know likely it has nothing to do with you as person, your character or personality but more to do with female jealousy. Even if most men still aren't aware of you in that way...if this is the cause of it, it should hit them hard by time you reach your early 30's, as when it finally became very obvious to me. So ignore the most of it. Only if it is extreme, do not hesitate to mention to school official if it interferes with your ability to concentrate in class or boss if it interferes with your ability to do your work. Good luck dear.
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The only thing I can think of without more detail. You may have inadvertently crossed paths with a popular person, male or female, at school and in someway insulted them. Think back to when all this started and then think about what may have happened immediately prior to this starting an d you may come up with the reason for all this.
I'll be frank with you if in all other ways you are happy then I would forget about it. If you don't let it show that it bothers you then they will tire of taunting you and move on to someone else. Some of these kids that are doing this may not return for their junior year. For the ones that do this, which is very high school in nature, probably were on academic probation.
My advise is to ignore them and just go about your business with your boyfriend. If it gets too bad talk to the administration about those you believe are the ring leaders. Calling you a slut is close to sexual harassment and the school should have a policy against it.
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