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I am 13. I have a crush on a boy in my singing group. He is like a brother to me. I have a huge crush on him. he is 17. I understand that I am too young to be with him, but now that he knows I like him it is hard for me to talk to him. I just want it to be easy to hang out again! how do I make it easier for me to talk to him?
Hello gal :)!
Actually it's really easy. Remind yourself that you just have a crush on him. Having a crush on someone means that there is a certain ability on that person that you really admire or you really like. It's not that serious unless you if you feel you are falling in love. If you want to talk to him, trash out the shyness that you have inside. Being shy can lead you to nowhere. Just be chill and start a conversation like, "Do you eat pizza? I eat wasabi." And if he continues the talking then that means that your friendship is still not completely on the dumps.
Remember, be who you are. Some girls change for their crushes to like them back but what they don't know is that they are just wasting their make-ups and dresses because boys like girls who can feel their vibe and just complete chill.
So, what is your personality? I bet you are awesome. And you think that he thinks you are still young for him? Well, nothing's impossible.
From your imaginary friend,
The LittleWoman
People shouldn't get abused .
its not right ... this world is so cruel .
I've been sexually abused all of my life . The thing that kinda kills me the most is that it was my own Father . man I swear I talk way to much . I have such a big mouth for the wrong reason ... I know I need to tell someone .
but im to scared I wish someone could do it for me ... but I know I have to .
and you cant help someone who wont help themselves... man sometimes I feel like just ending it all already and just commit suicide .
I cut myself do everything and cry but I just cant keep myself together . I hate my self my body . it's all my fault .
- just a stupid 14 year old girl who let people touch her because she was to scared to ever say anything .
Hello, beautiful girl.
You're right. The world is so cruel. But you can stop it, and I assure you, you can.
There are many girls nowadays who get abused from their friends, relatives, and even in their own home. And not just any abuse, but sexually abused. I figured that you are very depressed at the moment especially you are cutting yourself because of the guilt inside of you.
Do you cry every night? Do you sometimes ask yourself why do you have to live in this world? Well darling, don't be afraid to admit it to yourself. I know you are brave. And I know you will never commit suicide. Killing yourself is for losers. And you are not one of them.
There are many girls who are also in the same pace as you are. And maybe by now, they already ended their life. I don't want you to be like them. Ending their life without anyone knowing about what they're going through. So you, my dear friend, need to spill it out before everything is too late.
You need to tell this to someone who you really put your trust into. It may be your mother, your best pal, classmate, teacher, or anyone who you really know. Spill it out, show them how those people messed you up. They will never know unless you tell them truth. Tell them all of the horrible things they have done to you. Don't be afraid and don't be shy because it's a very serious situation. And also, call 911 to get further more help on dealing with this kind of people. In the law itself, they must be put to jail immediately especially this is a case that must be justified.
Close your eyes. Breath in, and out. Then think about all of the things they have done to you. Open your eyes widely and make a smile to your face, and tell yourself, "For now on, I am not that stupid girl anymore. I am brave, beautiful, and amazing. I am not just a fourteen year old girl. I'm a matured and a very special girl. And today is a new beginning." Tell this to yourself, with all of your heart. Time will heal all of the bad memories created on you. And, don't forget to pray for your happiness. Don't forget to say "Thank you" to God. Say thank you because you overcome this challenge. He didn't want you to be ruined like this. But I'm sure he is happy for you. Because you are now holding his hand to the right path.
That's all beautiful girl. The next time someone do this to you. You now know what to do.
From your imaginary friend,
The LittleWoman
I im from Texas . my name is well ... that doesn't really matter . I've been sexually touched by 3 family members in my whole life .it all started when I was 2 . my mom even cried when she heard she was having a girl I was the accident child. every close relationship I have with a male gender , I always let them sexual touch me because im to scared to say anything . one of them lives in my house and they sexually touch me . I try myself to sleep . I have cuts all over me . I hate my body . I wish someone knew . I wish I would open my mouth ... but im scared . I don't want to live in a world where kids get abusive . because I was that girl . people might say I deserved it but I didn't . I was only 14 years old and I was only Abby .
Don't do it. Don't do it, please.
At this very moment, there is one girl who killed herself because of the sexual abuse she gets from her male family and friends. Do you still want to continue? Do you want to increase the number of girls who didn't want to see the beauty of life?
Abby, you're scared. You are depressed. And, you need help.
For a 14 year old girl like you who is sexually abused by your blood related folks, is already common in the society. People who tend to do this immaturity must be put to jail immediately. Why? Because if they continue doing things like this to you, what if they will do this to your child. Would you like to see her cry every night and day because she can't tell you about this? Would you still let her be abused by your family members? NO!
Don't hate your body because you have a great body. Don't tell yourself that everything you have is ugly because there's nothing ugly about it. Stop cutting yourself because you are also the one who is harming and destroying it. Accident child? You are not an accident. If you are, she aborted you a long time ago. I know she loves you. She's very precious to you I'll tell you that. Because if she doesn't, she doesn't deserve to have an amazing, brave, teenage girl like you.
Do you want to stop this misery? I do also.
Don't be scared to tell someone what you are suffering right now. If it's your best friend, your teacher, or someone who you think can help you, then spill it out. If you don't tell them what you feel, this feeling can hunt you forever. It's best that you call 911 for help.
And it's not only them who needs help, dear. You also.
You need to seek help. Ask yourself, "Why do I let this men touch me?" and "Why am I wasting my time crying and being silent with my situation instead of living happily with my mother and friends?"
You said that you don't want to live in a world where kids get abused, but why are you letting them touch you?
I know you are brave. And I'm sure you will do all of the things I'll say. But no matter what I advice to you, you are still the one who is going to help with your life. It's up to you if you tell and stop being quiet about it, or still let them continue this devilish acts that they are doing to you.
Abby, everyone loves you. And there's this particular person who wants to help you and be with you. By the end of the day, I know that you will never let this bad things happen to your life. If they still hunt you, pray everyday to Jesus. I'm sure that he will help you with all of your problems. Make sure that you tell him all of the things that's bothering you and that you need his help. Tell it with all of your heart.
Don't waste your time thinking how to kill yourself, Abby. Because nobody wants to be put in to hell.
From your imaginary friend,
The LittleWoman
I'm tired of everything. I'm tired of everyone in my life. My family is mean to me. People at school are mean to me, especially the stereotypical high school girls that dress all provocative say mean things about me. Don't get me wrong, I'm no where near ugly. I actually think I'm quite attractive yet I can't find any guy that likes me for me.I feel like I'm such an annoying person. I'm a burden to everybody that enters my life and nobody even likes me. I've talked to the guidance counselor in my school but she hasn't help me at all at feeling better. It seems as if she thinks I deserve all of this mistreatment. I'm a nice person. I care about people and listen to their problems. Yet when I begin to talk about my feelings or problems two people that I trust always say 'here we go again' or they judge me. I don't know what's wrong with me that people see fit to treat me this way. I guess it's because I'm shy and kept to myself. I don't really even know. I want to end it all already. Everybody will be happier if I am. All of these people that say they care are probably just saying that just to try to make me happy but lying to me will just make me even sadder. I practically drove away my best friend. I sent her a mean message and I wasn't exactly thinking about it but once it was sent I regretted it. She said she understood that I just wanted some space but I think I've lost the only person that actually wanted to be around me. I've lost everybody that I either cared about or loved. I'm not depressed. I'm not sad. I just feel empty and worthless. Nobodies ever cared. Nobody has cared and nobody ever will care about the quiet loner that rarely shows emotion but is going through a whirlwind of feelings crashing inside of them. I want to die. The person that I needed the most will probably be the most happy if I'm gone. After all I seems to bother him all the time and doubt his intentions and feelings. I can't trust anyone anymore. When I turned to god I felt like he wasn't listening or being there for me. I know that god only gives me what he knows I can handle but I'm breaking more and more day in and day out each day. I'm no suicidal just lonely and without a purpose. I can't make people happy. All I do is annoy then and push them away. Nobody loves me or likes me or cares. I'm done with everybody and their mean remarks. Hopefully once I die I'll be in a better place. I want to die now that is. I'm exhausted of it all. I want to find that special someone that can make me happy already because I don't think that I can do it anymore.
Hello beautiful girl :)
Do you really think you are annoying? Do you really think nobody loves you? Do you really think those stupid questions around your head?
Why do you want to end a life that is so great? Why do you always have to think about other's feelings about you than thinking about your happiness and enjoyment? I can sense that you are confused about the things happening to you right now.
You said that your family is mean to you. Well, how well do you really know your family? Are you very open with them everyday? Do you try to make a conversation with them? Because if you don't, then you don't have the right to say so. If your family is mean to you, don't give up. They are the reason why you are in here. They are the very first people to make you feel loved and contented. Try to open up with them. It may not sound good, but it's the best way for them to understand what you are feeling right now. Don't fidget or stutter whenever you talk to them. Tell them all the things bothering you, with all of your heart. Don't be afraid. At least, be happy that you still have a family to be with.
You said that you think you are an attractive person. For me, you are. If those guys don't like you, then they are not worth it. Or think them as junk, so you will never bother thinking about them. And those mean girls who try to insult you? They need medical attention. Why are they insulting you? Does that mean that they are insecure with you? I never knew that girls like them survived in this kind of world.
The guidance counselor you asked for help? she needs to visit the Psychologist for a check-up. She's not very helpful in helping people like you. She doesn't deserve being on that spot if she doesn't help you out.
To all of the people who are judging you? Don't ever think about them AGAIN.
You are a very beautiful and nice person. You said it. Don't give up just because they want you to give up. Does that mean you're weak? NO! And never will you be! Be happy for all of the blessings you receive everyday. Be contented with the people who are always in your side. You don't deserve this kind of treatment, dear. And don't ever think that people are happy without you. What if there is someone who really likes you but is afraid to say it? What if a family member is just completely faking their mean side because they are shy to show that they love you? And many more 'what ifs.'
That best friend of yours who gave you time and space must be very brave to understand your situation. It's not too late to say "sorry." Nobody is the same as you. You are unique, like everyone of us. Do you really think you are annoying? In what kind of way? Maybe not that much because you said you're nice. I believe in all you have said how amazing you are. But you are very depressed at the moment.
Stop thinking about other people. Stop trying to impress them. For now, think of the things you have that they haven't got. You are unique and great. If you need help and someone to talk to, try to join forums on the internet or in your neighborhood. It may sound a little weird but it's for your benefit too. If it's still not enough, try to mingle with new people. They are not the only people who live in this world, right? Being socially active can bring you enjoyment and a smile on your face. You don't have to find the special someone who is giving you smile to your face. They are the ones who are going to find you.
Cry all the things that makes you weak. Accepting your weakness is they key to being stronger. Once you're done, try making a lifetime commitment with yourself. Try telling yourself, "I will never be a weak person anymore in my whole life." Encourage yourself to be the best. After all, it is only you who can help yourself throughout your life.
There are still many happenings to come to your life. If you don't survive this situation, you will be lonely forever. So if they don't care, you don't care about them either. Build yourself. Break the walls and start making a new you. Fix your hair, fix your style, be beautiful inside and outside. Mingle with others. Make new friends and company. Think about what will they look and say if they saw you change for the better. Their eyes will look three times bigger than an Iphone. Life isn't cruel, dear. It's only us who think that way.
And God? He is always there for all of us. Speak to him everyday. Be very open with all of your thoughts, dreams, and feelings. And make sure, you tell it with all of your heart. You have to feel him every time you pray. Start making a relationship with him. Because if you do, your life will totally begin like how you always wanted.
That's all, dear. And good luck.
P.S. You are beautiful.
From you imaginary friend,
The LittleWoman
I am a sophomore in college, and I am also working full time.
I am the object of taunts in school and at work. The funny thing is that I don't really talk to anyone in both places, so I don't know what their problem is. I don't bother anyone (or maybe I do since they seem to always want to start crap with me).
I could just be walking to class and someone would yell out things. They're usually about my appearance, but the most common thing besides that is "slut". Same thing at work.
I don't dress slutty or anything, and I've been with my current boyfriend for three years.
What should I do? Is there something wrong with me?
There was even one time at work where it got so bad I went to management, and the girl got fired.
There's nothing wrong with you because nobody is perfect. If the people around you are negative and will give you comments which are very unpleasant for your ears, get away from them. You said that you done nothing wrong and you and your boyfriend are now in the third year of your relationship, then there's nothing to worry about.
If they think you're slutty, then let them think you're slutty? Why? Because it's not you who they are referring to. It's themselves. Don't let them get over you because if you do, they will probably hunt you forever.
I believe that you are a very smart and matured gal because you didn't let them bring you in tears. And I know you can be more brave. Try ignoring all of the people who are just bringing bad energy to you. Surround yourself with things that you will enjoy, that will bring you happiness.