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Sigh, one over year ago against the advice from the people here, I married my girlfriend. That was the beginning of hell. I have taken a loan of $40000 from her to sustain my ongoing business since our marriage. But ever since then, she has been hounding me for the money. Also, I notice she start nit picking on me cos I lied to her ob many occasions. Why did I lie? Well, basically my spouse is not exactly a easy person to talk to. When I tell her the truth and it is something she doesn't like to hear or expect to hear, she will physically kuck me, slap me or beat me. I always walk away cos as a guy if I were to retaliate, I WILL HURT HER. So, I chose to lie. But then, she will chack on my phone, on me, call my customers and frds etc. She is distrusting towards me. She keep complaining how she use to lead a good life and ever since she married a good for nothing like me, she suffered a lot as she has never been poor before etc....mind you, I am the sole breadwinner of the family as she refuses to work and expects me to provide with everything and better still, a luxurious life. Last year alone, I spend more than a hundred thousand on her and the family. She just can't live thriftly. Now that I'm down and out, she is pressing me for her loan, threatening to take our son away and chase me and my daughter away. Constantly, I have to bear with her temper and the words that come out of her mouth?? Not for the ears....not to mention the constant physical beatings and kickings I have to take from her weekly. Everyday its the grumbling and stuff. When I ask her to get a job to help the family, I will be berated and insulted for a being a useless man who can't even afford to support his wife with nasty words and phrases coming out of her eg. Its my biggest mistake to marry u....u r the worse man I ever come across....all my previous bfs have never treated me like this and they all treat me better than u..u can die for all I care...take your useless bastard of a daughter away...if your daughter die ask her not to die at home...so on n forth..
Now I really need to know, should I walk away from tis marriage?? What should I do?? I suggested counselling but she refused saying counselling is stupid n she is right n do not need counselling. Pls help....wat should I do?? I'm really tired of her abuse. I love her a lot but she is never happy ir satisfied. She nitpicks on everything from shaving to the clothes I wear. I can't even choose wat shoes I like n if I ever go against her, whoo boy,all hell breaks loose. Tell me, should I leave her? I still owe her $60000 (she charges interest)
hi there you really are in a tough situation here, im no expert at this but my advice would be yes you need to get out of this marriage, i would advise to go and see a lawyer to see where you stand if she beats you again take proof of what she is doing like the bruises etc, then she will not be able to take your son from you if she is a violent woman.
i hate situations like this because if it was the other way round it would be totally different.
please definitely seek some advice and if you would like to speak further you can find me on facebook nikki helper.
i hope everything works out for you.
So long story short, about two years ago I went on 3 dates with the man of my dreams.
Unfortunately it was a little bit of an LDR and I also wound up losing my job and fell into a bit of a depression and we just drifted apart. Not in a bad way, just like we stopped communicating. Funnily enough, I drove past him about three months ago on the interstate, he looked at me and I looked back at him and and I didn't know what to do, so I just kept driving. I think about the missed connection all the time and what could have been.
Tonight I logged onto the site I met him at and to my surprise he was online! Unfortunately I couldn't message him right away because it takes 48 hours for your profile to be approved but I have butterflies just thinking about it.
I really really liked the guy and had a lot of fun on our dates and things have totally changed for me since then. I'm in college now (I'm only 20) and working and I'm about to be on a two week break so it would be the perfect time to see him again.
My biggest worry is he won't be interested in seeing me again.
How can I ask him to see me again after what happened?
Should I tell him the truth and just say I want to see him again? That I've got my life all figured out now and tell him how much fun I had on our dates and hope he feels the same?
Also things get more complicated from here:
He's quite a bit older than me (though I like older men) and he's also much wealthier (I liked him for his personality though) I feel like I don't have much to offer him besides my youth and beauty until I graduate with my degree and get a really good job.
I don't want him to mistake me for a gold digger trying to get back with him to use him.
He was so handsome, funny and educated. When he met me I was only 19 and I feel like I've grown a lot more mature since then and I'm afraid he's going to remember the bad things about me. Like for instance I bragged on our first date about how good I was at wearing heels and then I fell right on my face in front of him.
I talked about stupid stuff and had really strong opinions back then on some things that I expressed with him. I was too scared to drive all the way to him so I made him drive to me all three times.
Aaaaah what do I do?
hi there,
maybe just start small just a little message like hi how have you been or how are you, i wouldn't jump right in and as for the him not liking you, if he didn't like you would he of really took you on a second and third date?
hope everything goes fantastic for you and i would love to hear how it turned out, you can find me on facebook nikki helper ive just started out.
good luck :)
When I was a baby my mom used to run my chest to put me to sleep. When I was around two, I rubbed my chest to have comfort for sleep. My sister always teased me about it when I was younger.
I'm 15 now, almost 16. My parents have been fighting a lot.. but I've been waking up with my hand clasped over my breast.. is this a comfort thing?
i believe it could be has it only started since your parents arguing?
Suicide was not for me. Tomorrow could be the best day of my life! I just know that I don't want this. Please tell me how to die painlessly.
hi im not a professional on this site,
im just wondering why do you think suicide is the best option, is there no way to solve your problems if it is just a case of needing someone to talk to please find me on facebook (nikki helper) and i will try to help the very best i can . or if you have more problems we can speak and see how we can resolve them,
I know it sounds weird 😔 btw I'm a 16 year old girl. the story is that this guy starting texting me a couple months ago and asked me out only like a week after we basically just met. I declined because I just got out of a relationship and I didny really know him. After I said no we still talked a lot and now we talk basically everyday. So recently I've found myself thinking about him a lot but I try to stop myself from catching feelings. My friends know that we talk but they always say rude stuff about him and now I'm scared to tell them how I feel because they think he's weird. But a lot of people also say that this guy and I would be cute together. So I guess the question is what do I do? Should I let myself like him or move on. Also should I tell my friends how I feel? Please help! Sorry it's long but it's hard to explain lol
hi there im not a professional at this but i do have some experience,
my best advice would be follow your heart take the leap,
if your friends are true friends they will be there for you no matter what, if they make you feel bad about yourself or your choices then maybe you don't need that.
you need to make decisions for you and not what your friends will think about you,
if you genuinely think hhmmm maybe this could work out then just try it,
what have you got to lose if it doesn't work out maybe try a friendship,
always remember you only live once and you don't want to keep thinking what if.
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