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How to reconnect with somebody you dated once?
So long story short, about two years ago I went on 3 dates with the man of my dreams.
Unfortunately it was a little bit of an LDR and I also wound up losing my job and fell into a bit of a depression and we just drifted apart. Not in a bad way, just like we stopped communicating. Funnily enough, I drove past him about three months ago on the interstate, he looked at me and I looked back at him and and I didn't know what to do, so I just kept driving. I think about the missed connection all the time and what could have been.
Tonight I logged onto the site I met him at and to my surprise he was online! Unfortunately I couldn't message him right away because it takes 48 hours for your profile to be approved but I have butterflies just thinking about it.
I really really liked the guy and had a lot of fun on our dates and things have totally changed for me since then. I'm in college now (I'm only 20) and working and I'm about to be on a two week break so it would be the perfect time to see him again.
My biggest worry is he won't be interested in seeing me again.
How can I ask him to see me again after what happened?
Should I tell him the truth and just say I want to see him again? That I've got my life all figured out now and tell him how much fun I had on our dates and hope he feels the same?
Also things get more complicated from here:
He's quite a bit older than me (though I like older men) and he's also much wealthier (I liked him for his personality though) I feel like I don't have much to offer him besides my youth and beauty until I graduate with my degree and get a really good job.
I don't want him to mistake me for a gold digger trying to get back with him to use him.
He was so handsome, funny and educated. When he met me I was only 19 and I feel like I've grown a lot more mature since then and I'm afraid he's going to remember the bad things about me. Like for instance I bragged on our first date about how good I was at wearing heels and then I fell right on my face in front of him.
I talked about stupid stuff and had really strong opinions back then on some things that I expressed with him. I was too scared to drive all the way to him so I made him drive to me all three times.
Aaaaah what do I do?
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Yes, I agree, start small, ask how he is and that sort of thing and wehn he asks you, or if he doesn't you can just say Alot has changed for me too since we last talked. If in talking about himself he hasn't mentioned a relationship at all then at some point you'll need to ask.
Here's an example of how you could word it:
so, i wonder jeff, if you currently attached or single. I ask because I don't want to be intruding if there is someone and I'd like to meet you over a cup of coffee. It would be fun to go over old times. I did enjoy your friendship back then and still consider yuou the type of person worth having as a friend in my life.
the best marriages start with being each others best friend.
Once meeting as friends, it is easier to then confess you are curious to whether it could be more than friendship and that you are willing to give it a good try if he's willing.
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hi there,
maybe just start small just a little message like hi how have you been or how are you, i wouldn't jump right in and as for the him not liking you, if he didn't like you would he of really took you on a second and third date?
hope everything goes fantastic for you and i would love to hear how it turned out, you can find me on facebook nikki helper ive just started out.
good luck :)
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