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I'm starting to like him but I don't want to
I know it sounds weird 😔 btw I'm a 16 year old girl. the story is that this guy starting texting me a couple months ago and asked me out only like a week after we basically just met. I declined because I just got out of a relationship and I didny really know him. After I said no we still talked a lot and now we talk basically everyday. So recently I've found myself thinking about him a lot but I try to stop myself from catching feelings. My friends know that we talk but they always say rude stuff about him and now I'm scared to tell them how I feel because they think he's weird. But a lot of people also say that this guy and I would be cute together. So I guess the question is what do I do? Should I let myself like him or move on. Also should I tell my friends how I feel? Please help! Sorry it's long but it's hard to explain lol
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hi there im not a professional at this but i do have some experience,
my best advice would be follow your heart take the leap,
if your friends are true friends they will be there for you no matter what, if they make you feel bad about yourself or your choices then maybe you don't need that.
you need to make decisions for you and not what your friends will think about you,
if you genuinely think hhmmm maybe this could work out then just try it,
what have you got to lose if it doesn't work out maybe try a friendship,
always remember you only live once and you don't want to keep thinking what if.
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Lets say your favorite color is red, and you like wearing pumps instead of sneakers with pants or jeans, so you do it. Most people are saying Red doesnt look good on you, or wearing pumps makes you look weird. Would you stop wearing what you want to wear because some have negative comments. Remember, they are sharing out of what they themselves like and are comfortable with.
Think hard now. If you were influenced for whatever reason to listen to them, you are doing what even some adults still do, change what they like or do, or never even try because of a fear of how others are going to react. I understand wanting to be liked and accepted. But if a person were not to accept you because of something you chose, a color shoes, a person, then their friendship is very shallow to non existant and conditional. A true friend will allow you to be yourself, to have your own likes and differences and still like you and accept you just as you are. Unfortunately during teen and early 20s even, people can be quite immature in their reasoning. So....you will have to learn to ignore them.
Now, on the other hand, you have some people telling you that they think the two of you would look cute together. Lets go back to the example of a pair of red pumps. These people think red shoes like that on you are very cute. YOu look cute. Nothing wrong with that. But shoes are a thing, an item, a human being is not. So really, what comes into play that you must ask yourself, is this: Do I really care about him as a person, enjoy his friendship and want to spend time with him, or would I rather consider him as something to add to my wardrobe, so I can LOOK CUTE, and gain admiration of some out there, gain status, feel like I am socially part of the 'in crowd'.
In that, you would be using him as a tool to gain the love and acceptance among people rather than wanting him for himself. I hope you understand I am not saying you are that shallow. You just hadn't thought of how subtlely something like this can be picked up by the boy. Perhaps he would not feel special enough to you and feel more like he is being shown off, like a new garment. And I am sure you dont want to hurt him that way. It is the feelings and reasons in your heart when you take any action in life, not just choosing a boyfriend that will speak as loudly as spoken words. Humans have the ability to pick up on the invisible, the intent, your true feelings, all carry negative or positive energies and that is what people will respond to.
So if you like the guy, like him for the right reasons. If you need help sorting out things in your mind, just write to me from my column and be as specific about what is going on, just in case I totally missed your intent with this question.
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