Are my feelings towards him something that can turn into a relationship?
Question Posted Sunday September 27 2015, 6:22 pm
Okay, so there is this guy I really like. I've liked him since like October. We never really started talking until like January, but after that we became really close friends. Let's call him Derek. Then around easter time we were talking like all day every day, we never seemed to run out of things to talk about. But then for some reason we just kind of stopped texting. Like we are in the same friend group so we still hung out and stuff but we weren't a "thing" anymore. Then this other guy (let's call him George) started talking to me and stuff so that never helped either. Then in like the end of May Derek just started to completely ignoring and treating me like I never even existed. So I confronted him and we got into this huge argument tearing each other apart for things the other person did that hurt the other. Like we used to tell each other everything. Derek knows things about me that no one else on this earth knows. Anyways, we resolved the problem between us and we started talking again and eventually it became more often and consistent and in more depth. Then around exam time we were "otg" hard core and I really liked him and wee had our first "date" all planned and it was awesome! We talked all the time and everything. But then in July we just randomly stop talking...AGAIN!!! So I didn't know what to do and I was really upset because I really liked him. The whole summer I never liked anyone else, and he didn't move on either. When we went back to school he wouldn't talk to me and he still won't. I've talked to both of our very good friends and he said that Derek was really upset that we stopped talking because he really liked me and he thought that I just did't like him and I stopped talking to him which wasn't the case at all. My friend said that he won't talk to me because he thinks it's too awkward. But the thing is I really want to talk to him again. I didn't stop liking him and I want us to become close again because there are some things that I can only talk to him about and without him in my life there are some things that I just have too keep to my life. And he is just so wonderful and I just want him to so badly see that I still have feelings for him, I have since October, that hasn't changed.
Are my feelings realistic or is he over me? Should I wait until he is ready to talk or do you think I should move one? Please help me:(:(
Additional info, added Sunday September 27 2015, 6:27 pm: Oh by the way I'm a 16 year old girl. Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? gummybear18 answered Monday March 21 2016, 3:44 pm: I can't tell you if he's over you or not because i do not know him personally but what i can tell you is go talk to him. Figure out the real reason why he keeps breaking that connection with you. Maybe he's scared; maybe its his first real connection with someone, maybe he has had a bad past. Just talk to him and ask why he does it and that if he trusts you, he will tell you why. I know you might not want to hear this, but just keep in mind you're only 16 years old and most likely, this will not be the guy who you grow old with, but you can still go after him, just keep in mind that there are many more fish in the sea :) [ gummybear18's advice column | Ask gummybear18 A Question ]
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