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Hello! I'm twenty, female, cashier at a grocery store. The guy is twenty one and a supervisor, but not mine, at the same grocery store. The other day, this guy was at the bar with my brother's girlfriend (they're friends and my brother was out of town at a concert with her brother so they hung out). She texted me and told me that she drunkenly told him that I think he's cute, to which he replied that he thinks I'm "definitely cute" too. She told him that he should talk to me more because I'm shy and he told her that he's pretty shy too.
So, I told my brother the other day that he told his girlfriend that I'm cute and I was joking with him that I hate his mustache. So my brother told me if he shaves his mustache, I have to make a move. Low and behold yesterday at work, I saw his without his mustache.
However, his friend found out that I think he's cute and they went out last night and I was joking with him to tell him that I like his face but I think he might be annoying about it, because that's just who he is, and joke with him that I'm crazy or something.
However, I think I want to write him a note or something like: I think if I don't do something soon, my brother might. Hey here's my number, if you want it, cool, if not, that's cool too.
Is that dumb? We're both shy people and I don't think we'll just go up to each other and say "hey lets date" so I want to write him that note and leave it on his windshield or something since we park right next to each other at work.
Please help, tell me if that's cute or stalkerish, lol. Thanks. (link)
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That's adorable.
You should probably leave him a note saying "I like you. , text me @. Thanks :3"
Or something cutsie like that. Do it.
Take the initiative before it's too late. Guys love that cute stuff, I know cause I'm a guy.
Good luck!
Reply back, I want to see how it went.
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Recently I have noticed some changes in regards to my pet budgie.
1. Puffed up feathers
I'm not sure of it's a sign of sickness or him being cold
2. Loss of balance
He seems to be falling off his perches more often
3. Constantly having his eyes closed
I can't tell if he's sleeping or not
4. Slight rocking back and forth
I think I will try and go to a vet but I wanted some feedback. Also, are there any way I can get cheaper treatment for him? I am a student and don't have much money right now. (link)
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I am not a bird keeper or any sort of maestro in this department, but you should see a vet and see what they can do for your bird.
A budgie that sits with its feathers puffed up is normal when it is healthy.
Do read up on this link as well:
http://www.justanswer.com/pet-bird/2hk3c-budgie-lost-sense-balance-completely-keeps.html
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My boyfriend's mother has become aggressive towards me and has falsely accused me of being the reason as to why he has been missing school but he has not missed a day of school since his Birthday and she doesn't want me around anymore... But I've been the one to help her since she has such a busy work schedule, I have been providing him with rides to and from work, and to and from school when he has missed the bus... But she's been trying to accuse me of making power moves but in reality I've asked for her permission every time I go to get him and she had acted like it was perfectly fine but wants to turn around and act as if I'm trying to act as his mother, which is why she had sent me a nasty text message saying "I'm his mother, I say what goes" but I haven't tried to disrespect her not once. Currently Will has made me stay with him at his house, and I'm not sure if I should just stay here and wait to see what the outcome is because he said he would stick up for me, or if I should flee before it's too late and she shows up... (link)
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You are being an excellent girlfriend for your boyfriend, and his mom has major issues in that she feels you are replacing her. She sounds like she has issues and needs to get over herself.
You should explain to her and sit down with her and discuss one on one, how do you feel about it (picking up your boyfriend) and why?
If she OKs you picking up your boyfriend then she should not patronize you for doing it. Bipolar a bit.
Please reply :D
Best of luck.
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I had a dream where I was in my house alone and when I looked in the backyard, I saw a woman holding her baby boy. She had dark hair and was wearing a long white dress. I couldn't see her face, but I would just see her walk around the backyard then the front yard, then back to the backyard. Does this mean anything? (link)
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The lady in the white dress signifies innocence, as the color white does too.
"To see a baby in your dream signifies innocence, warmth and new beginnings. Babies symbolize something in your own inner nature that is pure, vulnerable, helpless and/or uncorrupted. If you dream that the baby is smiling at you, then it suggests that you are experiencing pure joy. You do not ask for much to make you happy. If you find a baby in your dream, then it suggests that you have acknowledged your hidden potential. If you dream that you forgot you had a baby, then it suggests that you are trying hide your own vulnerabilities; you do not want to let others know of your weaknesses. Alternatively, forgetting about a baby represents an aspect of yourself that you have abandoned or put aside due to life's changing circumstances. The dream may serve as a reminder that it is time for you to pick up that old interest, hobby, or project again. If you dream that you are on your way to the hospital to have a baby, then it signifies your issues of dependency and your desires to be completely care for. Perhaps you are trying to get out of some responsibility. If you are pregnant in real life, then a more direct interpretation may simply mean that you are experiencing some anxieties of making it to the hospital when the time comes." (Dream Moods)
If I interpreted your dream, the baby and the lady signify some purity and some hidden potential you discovered in yourself. And the walking around the house might show that you have secured yourself, like a mother holding a baby shows care and security for the baby. You looking through the window shows security in yourself that you feel safe at home.
Reply please.
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Hey, I'm 15 and a freshman . Well, this guy (he's 20 and he graduated already) have been friends since last summer and him and I are somewhat really close. He's a really sweet guy, he is a Christian and he's never had sex before. He's helped me through when I got dumped, rejected, bullied, depressed, and we've just always been real good friends and never fight. Well, since Valentine's Day is coming up we already made plans to hang with our single friends, and yesterday he asked me if I would go out with him, and I keep saying I'll think about it, but I just don't know how I should respond even though I feel the same way as him. Like, we discussed age gap we had and he said 5 years isn't that huge and I kind of agreed. If him and I go out, I just would feel afraid I would get bullied for it , but I don't know. I want to say yes, but a part of me wants to say no. Advice please? (link)
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Mind the gap? If you want this boy a lot, then you wouldn't mind the bullying and you wouldn't mind the gap.
The difference between really liking him and having feelings for him is that you SHOULD NOT care what others tell you about your relationship (if you chose to be with him). If not, then you will remain friends and you will be sacrificing the chance to be with him romantically.
He obviously likes you and you obviously like him, depending on what state you are in or where you live, by law, it can be illegal because he is considered an adult and you are a child.
Be careful. Do respond.
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I recently had sex with a guy on Jnauary 17th, he came inside me. My period ended on the 9thof Jnauary, not too sure when I ovulated. A week later on the 26th of January I had sex with my ex, he came inside me as well. I took a pregnancy test on Saturday the 7th of February because my period was late & it came out positive & it was one of those clear blue ones that tell you how many weeks since ovulation. It said 1-2 weeks, im working things out with my ex & I really hope it's his! Please give me advice on WHOS baby you think it is? (link)
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First grounds, never let a guy cum inside you, especially if you aren't using contraceptives.
I believe that it probably might be the guy on January 17. Logically speaking the egg takes time to fertilize and your ex's cum cannot compete with something that was already there a week ago.
I wish you the best of luck, and do come clean with your ex.
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I want to hang out with a different group for a bit but I don't want to offend or hurt my current group because I've been with them for almost three years. (link)
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Inform them that you want to meet new people and if they are really your friends they would not mind, other than that, they are being stubborn if they do not appreciate you.
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My wife and I have been married for 47 years. Admittedly shew has made some good financial decisions over the years but now I am concerned about something very serious. We have approximately 95,000.00 in nth stock amrket. ait goes up and down, most.y down lately. I want it all sold and the money put into the bank where it never goes down. She refuses and I hate confrontation. She will simply not talk about it. I asked her one question that I thought would seal the sell it all deal. "Is there more of a chance of it getting to 100,000 or going to 80,000.00"? we've all seen the crashes and we're to old to go through another one. What do you suggest? (link)
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I believe that you should confront her after having a meal of some sort and tell her that you think it's in both of your best interests to pull out of the stock.
This is very sensitive because it can go up in the later future, and she seems to be stubborn and selfish about keeping the stock as it is (probably to get the lost finances and possibly make more).
You seem to have an interesting view on it and you want to play it safe and take what you have and move along.
How are the patterns and how are the companies doing? Do research on them to predict future trends and bring evidence to your wife that it will or will not do better in the (near) future. Google can help.
Good luck.
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I love my bf a lot and he loves me to but I want to take our relationship further and make out with me....... Problum is he is shy and not that romantic me have only ever hugged before.
BTW I am 11 (bf is 2) And I'm a girl
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Your grammar is quite horrible.
Do not make out with your boyfriend. You are only 11 years old AND YOU ARE TOO YOUNG. Go play dress up and make some tea for your pet pony or something. Program an application and solve math problems.
What do your parents think about this?
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my life wasn't necessarily better. but i was never depressed, though sometimes i got a bit sad. and i always had straight As. things changed around the time i turned 13 or 14. i don't get how it could be puberty, when i had my period at like.. 10. and school wasn't necessarily super difficult. and yet i had a horrible time in high school. i started college and had to take a break because i still couldn't overcome my past to focus on my future. i have dreams and everything i want to chase, but while in the past, i'd be that one kid who always went OVERBOARD on a school project, and was able to get myself to do it on time and everything, now the most difficult part is getting the motivation to go all the way through and not get distracted by the internet. it's not that i wasn't frequently on the internet at a young age, i was, but it was easier for me to switch that off and do the work. now it's like.. i have so much hatred for myself that i won't even let myself do the great work i'm capable of to get into my dream school or get that A+ due to the essay being given in on time, and etc. i mean.. i feel a lot of my depression happened because my social life was pretty much dead in high school, but i didn't have much more of a social life when i was younger and i was still optimistic for the future. i used to even read all the time, and now, i haven't read a book for fun in months. i have a goodreads account with hundreds of books but i feel now i dont even have the time to get into that because i have other responsibilities i'm neglecting. i mean.. i don't think it's just laziness because with other things i go beyond normal. at work, although i'm working on my tardiness, i always go extra. i'm normally one of the earliest to arrive and one of the latest to leave. and when i say i'm early and late i mean like i could come even earlier than necessary, to get extra pay, cause my hours are flexible. but once a counselor just said it was laziness and i found it offensive because that is not my situation. i can't turn in an assignment that's crap. i'm that one who takes the group project by the reigns when i feel others aren't doing enough work for our shared grade. it's ironic, because i'm actually better at committing to things like group projects and work because they involve other people, and even if they're not my friends, i don't want responsibility for failing others. with me however.. it's so difficult for me to write college application essays. excuse my grammar here, i'm actually a good, detailed writer, but i'm just letting my thoughts flow out naturally, here. i've had bad experiences with therapists so i thought maybe some peers here would be more helpful, as i don't really have friends to confide such info to, who could really help me. anyways, i feel like self-promotion is a bit vain so it's so hard to write about myself, when i have to. i just hate how inefficient as a person i've become. i used to be so strong and now like i don't even understand why i sabotage myself. if i want friends i'm not helping matters if i'm not in college. if i want my dream job i'm not helping matters if i'm not doing well at college. etc. how do i commit to doing good things in the long run, instead of maybe trying it one day and giving up the next? it's not right that i feel i'd have been a better college student at 12 than now at 19. mentally, i think that it's fine i dont have a boyfriend or anything now, it's totally not important right now, but dumb things do get to me unfortunately, as i'm human. but being human isn't just about being weak. it's also about being strong. so i should be able to not let such things get in my way or make me feel bad about myself to self-sabotage just because i have made mistakes in the past, and have some regrets. i can't change the past, so regrets are useless. and nobody's perfect, and i don't seek perfection, but i seek being the best i can be, and i know now that i'm currently not at my best.. sorry for the repetition. but yeah. i really hope you can help, i'll read any genuine help (link)
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From what i've read in analysing your tone, it seems to me that you have two main issues. You are extremely scared of failure so you decide to avoid all work you used to do in substitution for other work. You have succeeded in the past, but with new responsibilities, you neglect your previous ones to make room. Bluntly put, you're plain irresponsible.
I believe you shouldn't juggle too much on your plate because that is what it seems to me, you're tackling too many tasks like work and school and you need balance, therefore a reason why you do not have a boyfriend either. Too much responsibility can feel overwhelming because in the high school years to the college years, responsibilities are tripled.
Also, it sounds like your objectives and goals are completely jumbled, whether to pursue work or college for the long run. Only you know the answer to this question. College to get a degree or BA and have side money from a job? Job to help from college?
Reply back on what you think.
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I'm 16/f. I have a boyfriend and I really do love him but I wouldn't go as far as sex for a long time because I want to be super mature about it and make sure he's the one I wanna lose my virginity to. Although, I want to go as far as third base with him. But I'm just wondering if it'll be awkward? What does it feel like? Will I reach an orgasm? I just want to be very educated! (link)
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You want to be "super mature about it" and make sure "he's the one to lose your virginity to"?
If you ask these sorts of questions, it probably means that he might not be the one - HOWEVER it depends entirely on how you feel about him and whether or not hes the right guy for you and that you can see him with your kids as a family man.
It won't be awkward if you just let it happen and get into it LIKE YOU WANT IT. Nature will take it's course.
What it will feel like, nobody can tell you exactly, but it almost always feels really great.
Will you orgasm may depend on how your female body works.
Do some more self-research on sex or take Sex Education online for free.
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I love animals very much and I would do anything to save them as best I can. But I can't help but think that I may like animals more that people. Is this normal for a person? (link)
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Technically, humans are indeed animals, rather, an advanced type of animals. Liking animals more than humans may be a result of some psychological conflict in your past that I will not evaluate.
You will always love what you love, just no animalistic stuff please.
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21/f, 28/m
Let me first say that I am the type of person who likes it when people fall through with what they say. I try to live up to my values, morals, and I try my best to be dependable, and I try my best to fall through with what I say. I don't ever cancel on someone unless I'm terribly sick. I would even show up late instead of not show up at all. So, this might be one of the reasons why this problem bothers me.
I've been dating this guy for almost a year. This sounds terrible for me to say, but when it comes to him falling through with what he says, I can turn him into a gambling game. There are times when he says that he'll show up to something, he'll call, etc. But then plans change and he cancels.
For example, a couple of days for Thanksgiving, I wanted him to go to the ranch for dinner, meet some of my family members, etc. He said that he will and that he was planning to... An hour before leaving, he cancels. For Thanksgiving, he actually does come over to my house and he got to know my parents and my sister. For Christmas, he finally did go to the ranch and met my other family members. There are many/multiple times where he does tell me that he will come and see me or he wants to see me, he doesn't fall through with it... Sometimes letting me know when it gets too late.
It gets to the point where I try to have low expectations and not expect him to come at all... I thought it would be better that if he did show up, then it would be a nice surprise instead of getting disappointed every time he doesn't fall through with what he says. And it's not that he doesn't have a valid reason to not show up or anything, I understand why he can't go or why he can't do something. It's just hard to not be at least a little bit disappointed because I was looking forward to it, preparing to see him, etc.
How can I stop getting disappointed when things don't go as planned or if he doesn't fall through with what he says? (link)
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By the looks of it, this depends on what valid reasons he has.
It sounds that he is invested in this relationship well, and if he has work or some other sort of important stuff, I believe that you need to understand that his reasons are completely valid.
A lot of this depends on his reasons.
Other things to consider include that he is scared to commit to you, and there are not enough details in your relationship to evaluate that.
Do not lower your expectations. Rather understand why he chooses not to show up, and why he decides to back out. Have you ever asked him why he specifically canceled? He can possibly be playing (cheating) on you, depending on how often you see him and what not. This is not too probable, so do not worry, but keep it in the back of your head.
There is also a lack of communication. Have you spoken about this to him directly?
It sounds odd, and you should speak to him about why he decides to cancel early.
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I'm 19, I work full time during the week. I'm starting to do things I would have never thought of doing a year ago. About two months after my girlfriend and I broke up, I went online to find an escort, I met her and payed $140 for it. It was right after work at her hotel room. I felt so horrible afterwards, what a way to lose my virginity. Then I started going to parties at my friend's house, nothing crazy, a little drinking, making new friends etc. I meet this cute girl, we talk and text a bit for a few days. At the next party she's very seductive, then she tells me that she does services and has clients. It was so tempting so I did it, I snuck her into my house and it was $110. This time felt even worse because I kinda got to know her a little bit before. I don't know what I'm doing. Last week I drank so much I blacked out and threw up everywhere. Is it normal for guys my age to pay for sex? I feel like it's a thing that older married men do. And to know that to society I would be considered a "John" I feel superficial and shallow. There's one side of me that feels so wrong, and another side tries to justify it. I'm starting to question so many things. It's starting to feel like there really is no right and wrong, and that we're too scared to face it. It's like the only reason I think it's wrong is because I know the people around me look down upon it, and we're raised to think that way. If there were nobody around to say it's wrong, would it still be wrong. I just don't feel like the same person anymore. My family and my job would never guess that I'm doing this. What do I do man? I was going to parties to kind of avoid that ironically. I freaking run into a prostitute in person. And she was like my age. I remember like if I were in high school I would like girls and talk to them, now I have no idea if they're a prostitute or doing drugs and stuff. It makes me question what normal is. And it's like you can't win. If you're too sexual, you're a pervert, but if you're not sexual enough, you're a pussy. One person says I'm too emotional and sensitive, another person says I'm cold and have no feelings. It's really confusing and I'm starting to doubt and hate myself. (link)
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The issue with the way you feel is that it comes from other people and what other people think. You are allowing these other people to impose certain qualities that you clearly do not uphold any longer.
You should let go of these worries and do not restrain yourself to what is "normal" and just be yourself. Whether or not you like to have sex with hookers is up to you, and you obviously like it because you did it twice.
Life changes and things change and people change, it won't always be cutsie relationships where you get to talk and go out to a movie and kiss afterwards. The going to parties is normal, the sex is normal, it sounds like you need to apply yourself and keep yourself focused on how you feel about your self confidence and not what others feel. Remember, what makes those other people so important that you aren't? Nothing. They're just monkeys following a band of rules society imposes on us.
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