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My bestfriend's been acting weird
Infos first:
We're both boys
We're both 16
We've been friends since day 1
Now my bestfriend just got his girlfriend and I was happy at first. But normally, as we all expect, I was left out. When we went out, he always talked and texted on the phone and everything he told me was about his girl. I was pretty annoyed, but I was also very jealous. We've always been great friends, but when she came, that was kinda lost. Now here's the funny part
After two months, another girl showed up and my bestfriend kinda liked her. Now he told me all about her this time, how she was nice and such, and that she was his new bestfriend. Now I thought the same way you did. I was shocked and I ran away like a chicken XD Then I told his girlfriend, who is now my close friend, about the girl and how she replaced me. His girlfriend was not happy, she got mad and everything.
Now I told my bestfriend that I cant take it anymore, and that I wanted to leave him because I only get ignored and underappreciated. He explained to me that the girl didnt replace me. By saying "new", it means that there are two of us. Now here's the weird part.
After that day, he became sooo affectionate. Every morning, he asked me if I've eaten breakfast, then greeted me with good mornings. He also says he loves me (which is normal for us) everytime he says good bye. Is he pretending for the sake of our friendship? I mean, he just acted this way all of a sudden.
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He might have realized the friendship he had with you is special and he doesn't want to lose that with you. When he heard you were upset, he may have wanted to find a way to keep you, to show you that he cares. It may just require time for him to do this just so you get in your head that he really cares about you and wants to keep the friendship going.
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If a person really realizes that they've taken someone for granted slowly over the years and no longer treat them as a best friend or what ever, then yes, it may seem drastic change and not seem real. But it can be a sincere want to fix things immediately and he's doing it the only way he knows how. If the conversation seems forced or faked, it may be that awkward simply cus he got out of the habit of having normal chat with you over a girlfriend. It takes a month of consistent new behavior to get rid of an old bad habit. So if it seems stiff and fake at first, give it time, and by time a month has gone by, he should be back to being your old best friend.
I am sure you know it's possible to have many very close friends, but a best friend is the one you confide in the most, understands you best, really cares about you and you feel safe baring your heart to. In the beginning, it's most natural to have a best friend who is the same sex, however many enjoy a best friend of the opposite sex and tho not as common is still very natural to occur. This does change a bit when a guy gets to dating age and thinking of the future from a far off way. If you choose carefully, the woman who ends up your life long mate will become your female best friend. For someone so close to you in a mate relationship this is also natural but will never replace a man having a male best friend. My husband considers me his best friend as a female. However he still has one male from teen years (now in 50s) who is still his male best friend. Friendship like that is very possible to remain strong forever. So don't worry right now. give him the benefit of the doubt and go with it. In a couple months in should become obvious if there is something wrong.
I mention a couple months because all relationships in the beginning have with is called NRE new relationship energy, and this is that extra extra excited special feeling you get like anticipating a Christmas toy. Then once you have it, only in the beginning do you spend time with it like its the most special thing in the world but eventually this energy fades and you're left over time with the actual energy and chemistry attraction to a person, usually a couple months time or more, even 6 months can be normal but usually less common to last so long. Sometimes in young teens this NRE lasts only a couple weeks and once it begins to fade, interest is still there but not at that exxagerrated level so thats when a person begins to focus again on other people. Just wait, your time is coming, and even tho you know about this, you'll find it very hard to focus on your best friend and others when a special girl comes into your life. We all do this, a human response I suppose.
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