I'm Kyler, and I'm genderqueer (both male and female). I support LGBT rights very strongly, particularly transgender rights.
I am a Buddhist Pagan, and I practice many things such as meditation and witchcraft. I enjoy helping people with spirituality-related issues.
I'm also vegan, and I love animals. When I'm older, I'm probably going to be an undercover investigator at a factory farm.
I also have a very complicated love life, so I can help with that too. :P
I love giving advice, and I'll answer any questions you have.
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I really don't like my life, I know my life is better than some others, but I am just sick and tired of it. I don't want to die, I just want to lucid dream forever. I need help! I cry almost every night about the little mistakes i have had that day. Please help me, I don't want to live in the real world anymore! I just want a little excitement, compassion, and magic if you will. BTW I am 13. (link)
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Hey there,
I feel the same way as you do, so you are not alone. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. You can contact me at demonboi5060@gmail.com
I have done multiple things to cope with this feeling, so I'll share a couple with you.
The first thing is meditation. I have a lot of trouble with the "clear your mind and focus on your breathing" kind, but I really like guided imagery meditation and astral projection. Astral projection is really cool - it feels like you are leaving your body and traveling somewhere else. (You can find several astral projection guided meditations on YouTube.)
I also like communicating with my Spirit Guides. I usually like to use a Spellboard (that's a little bit like a Ouija board but it's designed for talking to Spirit Guides) but I also communicate with them through meditation. (You can find these on YouTube as well.)
If you have any questions or need any more advice, you can email me at demonboi5060@gmail.com or inbox me on Advicenators.
I hope things go okay for you,
Kyler
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ive been pretty depressed for a while... i got my first bf in feb. 2014 and we broke up last week. also my frinds started fighting and hating eachother. i lost my only 5 frinds that i had made since 1rst grade. i started getting bad grades on my report cards and im getting made fun of for it. im just 10 years old but i cut myself and hav suicidal thoughts... please give me advice. (link)
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Hey there,
I am struggling with depression, too, and it's hard. But just remember that it's not going to be like this forever. Things are going to change, and it does get better.
I have cut myself for two years, and I struggle with suicidal thoughts every day, so I know what it is like. If you need anyone to talk to, you can always contact me at demonboi5060@gmail.com
Here are a few links you might find helpful:
http://www.suicide.org
http://suicide.com
http://www.metanoia.org
Stay strong,
Kyler ♡
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So I had been a Wiccan for months, and my dad had the bad idea of it. That every Wiccan was a witch. That witches are evil. That the Horned God is associated with Satan because he has horns/antlers. I have never felt comfortable in Christianity, but felt comfortable in Wicca, like I was 100% safe and nothing would ever hurt me. I'll be turning 18 in a few months. Should I just light candles in my room, try to tell the Horned God that I'm sorry and that I'll move in with my friend when I turn 18 and become a Wiccan again? (link)
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Hi there. I'm actually in a similar situation, but it's my girlfriend who doesn't want me to be Pagan rather than my father.
I don't know whether your father firmly opposes Wicca and won't change his opinion on it, or if he is simply misinformed about it and could change his opinion if he looked at it from a different perspective. If you don't think it will make him more angry, you could try talking to him and explain that he is misinformed about what Wicca really is. (Although, of course, depending on the situation, bringing it up to him could make things worse.)
If you want, I think you could communicate with the Horned God alone and light candles in your room, but I don't think you have anything to apologise for. I think he will understand. :)
If you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me anytime. I'm happy to help and I hope everything goes well for you.
Blessed be!
~ Kyler ♡
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last few day me and my girlfriend doing sex but i did not us condoms because i fuck only her back hole so not pussy and do oral sex so she get pregnent or not (link)
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No, your girlfriend cannot get pregnant from anal or oral sex.
Teenagers today most often do not have proper sex education, which many girls -- and boys -- need very badly. I found a couple websites that I think you would find helpful and I encourage you to check them out:
http://sexetc.org/sex-ed/info-center/stories/
http://m.kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/
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I'm 14, soon to be 15, and I've been aware of my diagnosis for around 2 years now. I'm accepting and perfectly fine with having Aspergers, but I'm having a problem connecting with others like me. Barely any groups exist (as far as I know) especially for girls (which I am). If you know of any groups or something similar to that (including groups online where we can chat and connect) then please let me know. Thanks for reading (and answering, if you did)!! (link)
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Hey! I have Asperger's syndrome as well, and I have been going to a group for a while now that is for kids and teens on the autism spectrum. The place I go to is called C.A.S.E. (Comprehensive Autism Services and Education). The group is called Friends' Club, and it's supposed to help young people with Asperger's to connect with others like them, which I think you might find helpful. :) There are separate groups for girls and boys as well.
Here's a link:
http://www.casefamily.com
You did mention that you wanted to find some online groups too. I know of a couple online forums that you could check out as well:
http://www.wrongplanet.net
http://www.aspergersteenchat.com/?m=1
Hope this helps! :)
~ Kyler ♡
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I have been friends with my bff.(femail &so am i) for about 8 years but just recently she asked me to touch her"down there" i did it and she said it felt good. But then she asked me if she could do it to me and i let her and it felt good. Am i gay!?!?!? (link)
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No, exploring your sexuality does not make you gay! A lot of people have some sort of same-sex experience at some point in their lives; it's a perfectly natural part of exploring one's sexuality.
Are you attracted to girls? If you are, then yes, you could be gay. But if you're not attracted to girls and just had this one experience, that would make you straight but curious at worst. :)
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Is there any way to unabort a baby after it was just aborted, I changed my mind! (link)
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I know many people feel bad after having an abortion and wish they could change what happened. Sadly, that is impossible. When you had the abortion, you ended the pregnancy -- and your baby's life.
I am so sorry you had to go through this. If you feel guilty or depressed because of the abortion, I would recommend seeing a therapist. They can help you deal with your emotions and move on. And remember, you will be able to have a baby someday, when you're old enough and ready to care for a child. :)
I hope everything goes well for you.
~ Kyler ♡
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Well am a 15 year old boy with not much of a social life. When i get lonely which is most of the time, i tend to watch porn. Recently, i decided to try watching gay porn and i liked it very much. I even cum faster when i watch Gay Porn than when i watch Straight Porn. Could it mean that am gay?
Please help me. (link)
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Hey! First off, I would like to say that what type of porn you watch doesn't determine your sexuality. I have a straight female friend who prefers watching lesbian porn, but she's not lesbian and is not attracted to women. If you like gay porn but are not attracted to other boys, then you're not gay. At worst, that would make you a straight boy who is bi-curious.
Now, if you are attracted to other boys, then that's different. There wouldn't be anything wrong with that though! I'm a boy, but I've liked other boys since I was five years old (I am attracted to girls as well though, and I have a girlfriend, so I consider myself to be bisexual).
Whatever your sexuality is and whatever type of porn you like to watch, remember that you are actually perfectly normal. Many straight people watch gay porn and have bi-curious feelings at some point in their lives.
I hope that helps. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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I know this is a weird question, but I'm going to try.
How do you tell the difference between just acting like another gender and actually wanting to BE another gender? I'm a bit confused with my gender myself and am hoping to know how to tell the difference.
Thank you! (link)
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Gender Identity and Gender Expression are two different things. While gender identity is your internal sense of being male, female, both, or neither, gender expression is how you express your gender.
I always felt that I had a gender identity that didn't match perfectly with my physical sex. While I was born female and enjoy doing feminine things, I don't identify as a girl. Then I learned that you didn't have to be either a boy or girl -- you can be both, or a mix of the two, or neither. After living as another gender for a while and exploring my gender identity more, I realised that I was genderfluid. That means I don't identify with any one gender, but sometimes I feel more male, and sometimes more on the feminine side, or maybe just androgynous or in between.
Mostly, I do see myself as a feminine male. That means my internal gender is usually mostly male -- but then again my gender is still fluid -- although my gender expression is more feminine.
Here are a couple questions to ask yourself:
- What gender or genders do you feel you are on the inside? Are you a boy or girl, or are you both or neither, or genderfluid like I am?
- How do you express your gender? Do you express yourself in a feminine, masculine, or androgynous way?
I hope you find out who you are eventually, good luck and I hope this helped you. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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I know for a fact that Vampires are not supposed to be dating werewolves, but is it ok if the other is rogue? Would the person in charge of the colony/pack kill the two lovers? I would like your help as soon as possible. IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IN VAMPIRES/WEREWOLVES DO NOT ANSWER!!!
Thanks (link)
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Hey! I'm in a situation like that now. I am a vampire, and my girlfriend is a werewolf. We didn't tell each other about our kintypes until after we started dating though, so things got complicated. . .
Her pack mates didn't like that she was with me, and she left her pack to join my Clan. The leader of my Clan is a hybrid (part werewolf part vampire) and she doesn't mind us being together.
I know in general vampires don't usually date werewolves, but if the love is real and it works out then who cares? My Clan is mostly accepting of all kintypes, and we don't care much about the old rules.
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Now please don't criticize too harshly, I'm already insecure enough. But I feel like I was meant to be born a guy. And that being born a girl was a mistake. I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual, but I want to be who I think I was meant to be. Am I sane...? :\
(Sorry, didn't know what other category to ask this.) (link)
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Hi! Based on what you've said, I think you might be transgender. There's nothing wrong with being transgender; in fact, I'm transgender myself. :)
In case you don't know what transgender means, I'll do a quick overview of what transgender means as well as similar terms:
- Transgender: an umbrella term for anyone with an internal gender identity that does not match up with one's biological sex.
- Transsexual: a person who is born in the wrong body and wishes to undergo hormone replacement therapy and/or surgery to match their physical gender with their internal gender.
- Genderqueer: an umbrella term for anyone with a gender identity other than male or female.
- Bigender: identifying as both male and female.
- Androgyne: one who identifies as a mix of male and female.
- Genderfluid: having a fluid gender identity.
- Trans woman: a woman who is born male, but identifies as female.
- Trans man: a man who is born female, but identifies as male.
You see, gender is a spectrum. Although the majority of people have gender identities that match their biological sex, that's not everyone!
Here are a few things to ask yourself:
- Do you feel that your internal gender identity and biological sex do not match?
- Which gender would you prefer to be perceived and treated as?
- Which gender would you be more comfortable living as?
- Do you plan on altering your physical appearance so your gender identity and physical gender match? (Note: this doesn't necessarily mean undergoing hormone therapy or surgery, as some transgender people are comfortable simply wearing their gender's clothing and either cutting or growing out their hair.)
- Remember that, like I mentioned before, gender is a spectrum. You can be male, female, both, neither, a mix of the two, genderfluid. . . Whichever you feel you are on the inside. Gender is not a binary -- not everyone fits into the "boy" category or the "girl" category.
Here are a few links that you may find helpful:
http://m.wikihow.com/Know-if-You-Are-Transsexual
http://m.wikihow.com/Transition-from-a-Female-to-a-Male-(Transgender)
http://www.hemingways.org/GIDinfo/sage/
The last link is not an article but a helpful test. It takes a while to complete, but it is very accurate. It is called the Sex And Gender Explorer or S.A.G.E Test and covers many aspects of gender identity and expression, biological sex, and brain gender patterns.
If you have any questions or need advice about how to come out to your parents or how to transition, feel free to inbox me anytime.
I hope this helped. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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hi im 14 and im physically a female but i want to be a male i like the clothes and everything with it in school i act and sometimes talk like a boy. my best friend when we are out of school refers to me as a boy
i need help i really do think im transgender???????????????
and how do i tell my parents?? (link)
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Hey! I'm fourteen and transgender as well. :)
If you feel like you are a boy in a girl's body, then you're a trans boy just like I am. Keep in mind, though, that gender identity (the gender you are on the inside) and gender expression (how you express your gender) are two separate things. In itself, acting and talking like a boy may make a person masculine, but not necessarily male; similarly, acting like a girl may make someone feminine but not necessarily female.
What I'm trying to say is whether or not you are transgender is about what gender you feel you are on the inside. How you act and talk has NOTHING to do with your internal gender identity. I consider myself to be rather feminine, but that doesn't make me any less of a boy. :)
Here are a few things to ask yourself:
- Do you feel that your internal gender identity and biological sex do not match?
- Would you prefer to be perceived and treated as a male rather than a female?
- Would you be more comfortable living as a male than as a female?
- Think about the person you will be in the future. Do you see yourself living the rest of your life as a man?
- Do you plan on altering your physical appearance so your gender identity and physical gender match? (Note: this doesn't necessarily mean undergoing hormone therapy or surgery, as some trans men are comfortable with simply wearing men's clothes and wearing a chest binder to make their chest appear more masculine.)
- Remember that gender is a spectrum. You can be male, female, both, neither, a mix of the two, genderfluid. . . Whichever you feel you are on the inside. Gender is not a binary -- not everyone fits into the "boy" category or the "girl" category.
Here are a few links that you may find helpful:
http://m.wikihow.com/Know-if-You-Are-Transsexual
http://m.wikihow.com/Transition-from-a-Female-to-a-Male-(Transgender)
http://www.hemingways.org/GIDinfo/sage/
The last link is not an article but a helpful test. It takes a while to complete, but it is very accurate. It is called the Sex And Gender Explorer or S.A.G.E Test and covers many aspects of gender identity and expression, biological sex, and brain gender patterns.
I hope this helped. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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15, female, USA, Christian
Okay, let me explain a little...
I have met gay people. I had a friend who was gay, I don't hate gay people and I don't like it when people are hateful to homosexuals.
But.
I don't agree with it. I'm not sure exactly why though...it just rub's me the wrong way.
I suppose it has something to do with the Bible(considering I am a Christian). But I know the Bible also says "Love your neighbor as yourself" and also not to judge others unless you are in a position to do so, such as being a judge or jury in court. So for that reason (among others like just being a decent person) I try not to judge them, and basically just have the mentality of 'let them take it up with God'.
Plus the fact that, a male and female can reproduce, yet two of the same sex can't. Species reproduction is nature, and homosexuality somewhat counters that. I understand adoption or not wanting to have kids, but in adoptions case they're still not reproducing, just raising a kid without a home.
But before you call me homophobic or something of the sort, please understand I do not hate homosexuals. I simply don't agree with their way of living (I guess you could say) for a multitude of reasons, most of which I'm unsure of.
And in the case of them being born that way, I do believe I heard somewhere that it has something to do with a hormonal imbalance that can be corrected with a shot or something, though I am unsure if that is factual.
Basically, I'm a little worried I will be judged throughout my life for not agreeing with homosexuality completely. Even though I'm not completely sure why.
Plus I just wanted to vent out my thoughts a bit. Though understand I am not trying to change anyone's opinions or beliefs. Believe what you will, I am simply stating what I believe, and I want to hear/read other peoples responses.
Any thoughts (or anything you want to correct me on) you have on this matter I would greatly appreciate reading. (Though do try to be polite)
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Hi! Despite being gay myself, I can understand where you're coming from. I think what you said is very reasonable and I respect your right to your own opinion.
Although some people have said differently, I don't think having a different opinion on homosexuality makes you homophobic -- I don't like calling people names like "homophobe" and "bigot" simply because it's rude and would make me no better than them.
I usually only refer to someone as homophobic if they are bullying gay people, and you don't seem like someone who would do that at all -- in fact, I think you are a very kind, open-minded person.
You are right that the Bible has some passages that may speak against homosexuality. Some people abandon the true teachings of the Bible and Jesus to follow an anti-gay extremist agenda, but you're not doing that at all! You are right that the Bible's core teachings are about loving your neighbour as yourself and not judging others. :)
I see your point where you said two people of the same sex cannot reproduce on their own, whereas a male and female can. Do keep in mind, though, that gay and lesbian couples can have surrogates or sperm donors and then reproduce that way. And yes, there are many gay couples who are willing to adopt children who need a loving family and home. :)
You did also mention that you heard being gay could have something to do with hormonal factors, which many doctors believe is true. I'm not sure it is something that can be corrected with a shot, though.
Some people do say that conversion therapy can help make gay people straight, but it only forces gays to suppress their homosexual feelings, which ends up doing more harm than good. I have heard of people killing themselves or being killed as a result of failed gay conversion therapy.
About being judged for having a different opinion than others, I can relate to that. I'm vegan (meaning I don't eatb or use animal based products) and I have been judged for being "anti-human" and "hating meat-eaters" -- even though I don't hate meat-eaters! Most of my friends do eat meat, and while I disagree with them and oppose eating animals very strongly, they're still my friends and I still live them. :)
Sorry for the long response haha. I hope that helps somewhat and that everything goes well for you. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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So, my mother and father are both homophobes, which sucks seeing as though I have the keenest interest in girls. I am 17 years old, and live with both parents. I am unsure of how to come out to them, and would love some advice. Thanks, xx. (link)
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Hey! I'm bisexual and transgender, and my best friend of thirteen years is from a strict Catholic family. I haven't come out to her yet, and I don't know if I will for a long time. . . I can only imagine what it must be like for you, since you're living under the same roof with two homophobic parents.
Do you think it would be safe to come out to them while you're still living with them? If not, I would wait until you can move out before coming out to them. But if you do think it may be safe to come out to them, you could drop hints to them first. Maybe bring up some LGBT issues with them and see how they react, or maybe wear a rainbow bracelet or the like.
When you feel ready, you could sit down with one of them and calmly explain that you have known for a while now that you're gay, and explain that you still love them and did not choose to be this way. If having a face-to-face conversation is too difficult, you can come out to them in a letter -- whichever way is most comfortable for you.
Are your parents homophobic because of their religious beliefs? If so, I think this article will help:
http://m.wikihow.com/Come-Out-to-Strict-Religious-Parents-When-You're-Gay
Would you prefer to write a letter or email to them rather than have a face-to-face conversation? Then check out this article:
http://m.wikihow.com/Come-Out-to-Your-Parents-by-Email-or-Letter
This article has some good tips on how to deal with homophobic parents in general:
http://m.wikihow.com/Deal-With-Homophobic-Parents
I hope everything goes well for you and I hope this helped. :)
~ Kyler ♡
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